Mother's Day Hell

[Guest guest]

My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9

years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best

friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my

NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction.

Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait

until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with

you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a

bad mother " .

Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to

mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my

daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift.

Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the

situation) will do something that day.

The Jersey Girl

>

> How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood

> (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out

> like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was

> always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers.

>

[Guest guest]

good for you...you're growing up :-)

Jackie

Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to

mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my

daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift.

Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the

situation) will do something that day.

The Jersey Girl

[Guest guest]

Jersey Girl,

Enjoy your Mother's Day with your daughter! Once someone

initiates 'evil abusive parents' day, then we will really have

something to worry about!

Sylvia

>

> My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter

(9

> years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her

best

> friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my

> NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction.

>

> Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait

> until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do

with

> you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't

such a

> bad mother " .

>

> Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law

to

> mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my

> daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift.

> Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the

> situation) will do something that day.

>

> The Jersey Girl

>

>.....

[Guest guest]

Jersey Girl,

Enjoy your Mother's Day with your daughter! Once someone

initiates 'evil abusive parents' day, then we will really have

something to worry about!

Sylvia

>

> My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter

(9

> years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her

best

> friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my

> NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction.

>

> Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait

> until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do

with

> you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't

such a

> bad mother " .

>

> Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law

to

> mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my

> daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift.

> Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the

> situation) will do something that day.

>

> The Jersey Girl

>

>.....

[Guest guest]

Jersey Girl,

I feel your pain. I HATE mother's day so much, I begin dreading it as

soon as spring rolls around. No matter what I do, it's not enough.

And I HATE doing anything because it feels so fake. When I was 10

years old, I forgot to get my Mom a card (isn't that the Dad's

responsibility at that age?) and she raged against me in such a way,

it still haunts me. As my sister put it (she was 4 at the time,

standing there and still remembers it), " she smacked the living sh@t

out of you. " What irony, huh???? A few years ago, I couldn't make it

home for Mother's day, so I (feeling guilty) bought her a set of

& Co candle sticks and made SURE they were delivered on time.

She returned the package unopened and sent me an email that just

said " goodbye. " I'm holding my breath to just get through next

weekend.

[Guest guest]

Jersey Girl,

I feel your pain. I HATE mother's day so much, I begin dreading it as

soon as spring rolls around. No matter what I do, it's not enough.

And I HATE doing anything because it feels so fake. When I was 10

years old, I forgot to get my Mom a card (isn't that the Dad's

responsibility at that age?) and she raged against me in such a way,

it still haunts me. As my sister put it (she was 4 at the time,

standing there and still remembers it), " she smacked the living sh@t

out of you. " What irony, huh???? A few years ago, I couldn't make it

home for Mother's day, so I (feeling guilty) bought her a set of

& Co candle sticks and made SURE they were delivered on time.

She returned the package unopened and sent me an email that just

said " goodbye. " I'm holding my breath to just get through next

weekend.

[Guest guest]

That is so awful! You know, you can't bully someone into loving and

respecting you. You have to earn that by loving and respecting them.

Now that my momster sees I'm too old to be physically forced into

being how she wants, she uses passive aggressiveness and tears to

" guilt " me into it.

>

> Jersey Girl,

>

> I feel your pain. I HATE mother's day so much, I begin dreading it as

> soon as spring rolls around. No matter what I do, it's not enough.

> And I HATE doing anything because it feels so fake. When I was 10

> years old, I forgot to get my Mom a card (isn't that the Dad's

> responsibility at that age?) and she raged against me in such a way,

> it still haunts me. As my sister put it (she was 4 at the time,

> standing there and still remembers it), " she smacked the living sh@t

> out of you. " What irony, huh???? A few years ago, I couldn't make it

> home for Mother's day, so I (feeling guilty) bought her a set of

> & Co candle sticks and made SURE they were delivered on time.

> She returned the package unopened and sent me an email that just

> said " goodbye. " I'm holding my breath to just get through next

> weekend.

>

[Guest guest]

That is so awful! You know, you can't bully someone into loving and

respecting you. You have to earn that by loving and respecting them.

Now that my momster sees I'm too old to be physically forced into

being how she wants, she uses passive aggressiveness and tears to

" guilt " me into it.

>

> Jersey Girl,

>

> I feel your pain. I HATE mother's day so much, I begin dreading it as

> soon as spring rolls around. No matter what I do, it's not enough.

> And I HATE doing anything because it feels so fake. When I was 10

> years old, I forgot to get my Mom a card (isn't that the Dad's

> responsibility at that age?) and she raged against me in such a way,

> it still haunts me. As my sister put it (she was 4 at the time,

> standing there and still remembers it), " she smacked the living sh@t

> out of you. " What irony, huh???? A few years ago, I couldn't make it

> home for Mother's day, so I (feeling guilty) bought her a set of

> & Co candle sticks and made SURE they were delivered on time.

> She returned the package unopened and sent me an email that just

> said " goodbye. " I'm holding my breath to just get through next

> weekend.

>

[Guest guest]

same here !! I had been NC since last year...then my dad went into the

hospital, so I called to see how he was, he asked if I wanted to talk to

nada, I said no, I have nothing to say to her...so when I called a day later

to check up on him, she answered and said she feels we aren't

communicating...HELLO, where has she been the last year ?? I said we hadn't

been communication for many years. She asked why, so I told her I was tired

of the abuse, belittling and insults...she said she was only joking ( yeah

right..) so dad has been home for 2 weeks, I haven't heard a thing from

her...she thinks we've " made up " as dad told me he's glad I smoothed things

over (??? what dream land does she live in ??) anyway, she's going into

orbit come mothers day when I don't call her...I did break down and get a

card...it has 3 goldfish in a bowl on the cover and says something like what

have I always told you, and on the inside it says don't play ball in the

house...and there's a fish with a baseball bat looking trough the hole in

the fishbowl that the ball caused, and water is leaking out...that will

probably piss her off

Jackie

That is so awful! You know, you can't bully someone into loving and

respecting you. You have to earn that by loving and respecting them.

Now that my momster sees I'm too old to be physically forced into

being how she wants, she uses passive aggressiveness and tears to

" guilt " me into it.

[Guest guest]

same here !! I had been NC since last year...then my dad went into the

hospital, so I called to see how he was, he asked if I wanted to talk to

nada, I said no, I have nothing to say to her...so when I called a day later

to check up on him, she answered and said she feels we aren't

communicating...HELLO, where has she been the last year ?? I said we hadn't

been communication for many years. She asked why, so I told her I was tired

of the abuse, belittling and insults...she said she was only joking ( yeah

right..) so dad has been home for 2 weeks, I haven't heard a thing from

her...she thinks we've " made up " as dad told me he's glad I smoothed things

over (??? what dream land does she live in ??) anyway, she's going into

orbit come mothers day when I don't call her...I did break down and get a

card...it has 3 goldfish in a bowl on the cover and says something like what

have I always told you, and on the inside it says don't play ball in the

house...and there's a fish with a baseball bat looking trough the hole in

the fishbowl that the ball caused, and water is leaking out...that will

probably piss her off

Jackie

That is so awful! You know, you can't bully someone into loving and

respecting you. You have to earn that by loving and respecting them.

Now that my momster sees I'm too old to be physically forced into

being how she wants, she uses passive aggressiveness and tears to

" guilt " me into it.