Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 What heartbreak! Jackie, I'm so sorry that happened to you. - sleddog wrote: oh, my nada made sure the rest of the family knew *I* was the reason the dog was gone !! she tried it again with the next dog, but dad stopped her... Jackie I am so sorry your mother treated you like that! This is just another example of how twisted and warped their thinking is. I am particularly sensitive to the pet issue. My nada gave away two of our family pets. Neither she nor my father cared to explain to me that my kitten was being given away. And neither said anything after the fact either. What crazy, crazy childhoods we had. Sylvia --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 thanks...when we visit, I never ever leave the dogs alone with her...I did once, and she opened the door and let my dog loose...we live in another state, so the dog had no idea where he was...good thing we came home right at that time, to see my dog walking down the sidewalk ! Naturally she said it was an accident...but she didn't go looking for him..so I don't trust her at all...and she's not allowed to give them anything..no food whatsoever..LOL my current male, Rocky doesn't like her and wont go near her, and that makes her mad...but my female loves everyone...she is not allowed to yell at them either...or hit them... Jackie What heartbreak! Jackie, I'm so sorry that happened to you. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - sleddog wrote: thanks...when we visit, I never ever leave the dogs alone with her...I did once, and she opened the door and let my dog loose...we live in another state, so the dog had no idea where he was...good thing we came home right at that time, to see my dog walking down the sidewalk ! Naturally she said it was an accident...but she didn't go looking for him..so I don't trust her at all...and she's not allowed to give them anything..no food whatsoever..LOL my current male, Rocky doesn't like her and wont go near her, and that makes her mad...but my female loves everyone...she is not allowed to yell at them either...or hit them... Jackie What heartbreak! Jackie, I'm so sorry that happened to you. - --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - sleddog wrote: thanks...when we visit, I never ever leave the dogs alone with her...I did once, and she opened the door and let my dog loose...we live in another state, so the dog had no idea where he was...good thing we came home right at that time, to see my dog walking down the sidewalk ! Naturally she said it was an accident...but she didn't go looking for him..so I don't trust her at all...and she's not allowed to give them anything..no food whatsoever..LOL my current male, Rocky doesn't like her and wont go near her, and that makes her mad...but my female loves everyone...she is not allowed to yell at them either...or hit them... Jackie What heartbreak! Jackie, I'm so sorry that happened to you. - --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - sleddog wrote: thanks...when we visit, I never ever leave the dogs alone with her...I did once, and she opened the door and let my dog loose...we live in another state, so the dog had no idea where he was...good thing we came home right at that time, to see my dog walking down the sidewalk ! Naturally she said it was an accident...but she didn't go looking for him..so I don't trust her at all...and she's not allowed to give them anything..no food whatsoever..LOL my current male, Rocky doesn't like her and wont go near her, and that makes her mad...but my female loves everyone...she is not allowed to yell at them either...or hit them... Jackie What heartbreak! Jackie, I'm so sorry that happened to you. - --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 yup, the dogs either go with me, or my husband stays at the parents house to watch them if I go somewhere when we're there. Jackie Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 yup, the dogs either go with me, or my husband stays at the parents house to watch them if I go somewhere when we're there. Jackie Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 yup, the dogs either go with me, or my husband stays at the parents house to watch them if I go somewhere when we're there. Jackie Good for you. My folks have offered many times to feed and water and walk (depending on the animal) my crew of horses, donkeys, cows,dogs, etc. (never the iguana - LOL -even though he's a vegetarian) so we can " go off on vacation " , but we just say our vacation is right at home (with nearly 100 acres, that's pretty accurate anyhow). Dad's unable and mom would never follow my requests (like don't let the dog get into the road), so - like you - I don't take any chances. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 it's a lot of work, but a lot of fun..naturally nada is not interested in stories of the animals, nor pictures.. Jackie Jackie, that sounds so great!!! Hurray for you! -Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 it's a lot of work, but a lot of fun..naturally nada is not interested in stories of the animals, nor pictures.. Jackie Jackie, that sounds so great!!! Hurray for you! -Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 it's a lot of work, but a lot of fun..naturally nada is not interested in stories of the animals, nor pictures.. Jackie Jackie, that sounds so great!!! Hurray for you! -Deanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Lizzy, Thank you for your insightful and validating response. I love this place and we so get each other. I really like your idea of how you are spending this Mother's Day. Your are inspiring me to start a new tradition this Mother's Day. Blessings, Malinda > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would > allow > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > > > nothing! > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in > the > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card > they > > > > made > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > > > much > > > > of > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > seizures > > > > and > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > > > with > > > > my > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > uncoordinated, > > > I > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches > and > > > hard > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that > I > > > am > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert > and I > > > > can > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > picture > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > display > > my > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it > all > > > > over. > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > > > sand > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > collection > > > was > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest > made > > we > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in > the > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless > pieces > > > or > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and > when I > > > > take > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The > boys > > > > love > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > > > just > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last > > scrape > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > > > throw > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of > course > > > my > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I > > use > > > > my > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun > > looking > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over > the > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > > > reverse > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make > the > > > > future > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a > happy > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Lizzy, Thank you for your insightful and validating response. I love this place and we so get each other. I really like your idea of how you are spending this Mother's Day. Your are inspiring me to start a new tradition this Mother's Day. Blessings, Malinda > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would > allow > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > > > nothing! > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in > the > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card > they > > > > made > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > > > much > > > > of > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > seizures > > > > and > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > > > with > > > > my > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > uncoordinated, > > > I > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches > and > > > hard > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that > I > > > am > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert > and I > > > > can > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > picture > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > display > > my > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it > all > > > > over. > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > > > sand > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > collection > > > was > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest > made > > we > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in > the > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless > pieces > > > or > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and > when I > > > > take > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The > boys > > > > love > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > > > just > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last > > scrape > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > > > throw > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of > course > > > my > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I > > use > > > > my > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun > > looking > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over > the > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > > > reverse > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make > the > > > > future > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a > happy > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Lizzy, Thank you for your insightful and validating response. I love this place and we so get each other. I really like your idea of how you are spending this Mother's Day. Your are inspiring me to start a new tradition this Mother's Day. Blessings, Malinda > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would > allow > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > > > nothing! > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in > the > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card > they > > > > made > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > > > much > > > > of > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > seizures > > > > and > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > > > with > > > > my > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > uncoordinated, > > > I > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches > and > > > hard > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that > I > > > am > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert > and I > > > > can > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > picture > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > display > > my > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it > all > > > > over. > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > > > sand > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > collection > > > was > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest > made > > we > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in > the > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless > pieces > > > or > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and > when I > > > > take > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The > boys > > > > love > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > > > just > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last > > scrape > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > > > throw > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of > course > > > my > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I > > use > > > > my > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun > > looking > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over > the > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > > > reverse > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make > the > > > > future > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a > happy > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Hello Lizzie - I really admire the way you're creating such a happy childhood for your kids. My mother also always used to say that when my kids grew up they would hate me too, that it would serve me right for having been such a terrible daughter. What an awful thing to say to your children. Sara > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would allow > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > nothing! > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in the > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card they > > made > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > much > > of > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my seizures > > and > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > with > > my > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often uncoordinated, > I > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches and > hard > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that I > am > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert and I > > can > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large picture > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always display my > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it all > > over. > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > sand > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our collection > was > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest made we > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in the > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless pieces > or > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and when I > > take > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The boys > > love > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > just > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last scrape > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > throw > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of course > my > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I use > > my > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun looking > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over the > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > reverse > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make the > > future > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a happy > > > future. Love Lizzy > > ...... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Hello Lizzie - I really admire the way you're creating such a happy childhood for your kids. My mother also always used to say that when my kids grew up they would hate me too, that it would serve me right for having been such a terrible daughter. What an awful thing to say to your children. Sara > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would allow > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > nothing! > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in the > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card they > > made > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > much > > of > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my seizures > > and > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > with > > my > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often uncoordinated, > I > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches and > hard > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that I > am > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert and I > > can > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large picture > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always display my > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it all > > over. > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > sand > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our collection > was > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest made we > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in the > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless pieces > or > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and when I > > take > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The boys > > love > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > just > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last scrape > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > throw > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of course > my > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I use > > my > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun looking > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over the > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > reverse > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make the > > future > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a happy > > > future. Love Lizzy > > ...... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2007 Report Share Posted April 29, 2007 Hello Lizzie - I really admire the way you're creating such a happy childhood for your kids. My mother also always used to say that when my kids grew up they would hate me too, that it would serve me right for having been such a terrible daughter. What an awful thing to say to your children. Sara > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER would allow > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or projects > nothing! > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no place in the > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report card they > > made > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't think > much > > of > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my seizures > > and > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed around > with > > my > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often uncoordinated, > I > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many headaches and > hard > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. Now that I > am > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very alert and I > > can > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large picture > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always display my > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and place it all > > over. > > > Some water color for my room some it construction paper and > sand > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our collection > was > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my oldest made we > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack dab in the > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the countless pieces > or > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, and when I > > take > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. The boys > > love > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to time or > just > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every last scrape > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try not to > throw > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything of course > my > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day but I use > > my > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have fun looking > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed over the > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! I cant > > reverse > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to make the > > future > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and a happy > > > future. Love Lizzy > > ...... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Oh I know what you are talking about thanks for explaining it. Now I get it because they did the same thing in the Lutheran churches, and Assemblies and the Evangelical churches to. My mom switched churches a lot so I got around. But I did go to the catholic church with my friend as a kid sometimes and I still sometimes go on occasions. I know what you mean! Love Lizzy > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER > would > > > > allow > > > > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or > projects > > > > > > nothing! > > > > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no > place > > > in > > > > > the > > > > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report > > card > > > > they > > > > > > > made > > > > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't > > > think > > > > > > much > > > > > > > of > > > > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > > > > > seizures > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed > > > around > > > > > > with > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > > > > uncoordinated, > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many > > headaches > > > > and > > > > > > hard > > > > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. > Now > > > that > > > > I > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very > > alert > > > > and > > > > > I > > > > > > > can > > > > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > > > > picture > > > > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > > > > display > > > > > my > > > > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and > place > > it > > > > all > > > > > > > over. > > > > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction > paper > > > and > > > > > > sand > > > > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > > > > collection > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my > oldest > > > > made > > > > > we > > > > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack > dab > > in > > > > the > > > > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the > countless > > > > pieces > > > > > > or > > > > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, > and > > > > when > > > > > I > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. > > The > > > > boys > > > > > > > love > > > > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to > > time > > > or > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every > > last > > > > > scrape > > > > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try > not > > > to > > > > > > throw > > > > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything > of > > > > course > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day > > but > > > I > > > > > use > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have > fun > > > > > looking > > > > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed > > over > > > > the > > > > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! > I > > > cant > > > > > > > reverse > > > > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to > > make > > > > the > > > > > > > future > > > > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and > a > > > > happy > > > > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON > THE GROUP. > > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35- SHELL > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline > Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can > find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! > > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE > and the SWOE Workbook. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Oh I know what you are talking about thanks for explaining it. Now I get it because they did the same thing in the Lutheran churches, and Assemblies and the Evangelical churches to. My mom switched churches a lot so I got around. But I did go to the catholic church with my friend as a kid sometimes and I still sometimes go on occasions. I know what you mean! Love Lizzy > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER > would > > > > allow > > > > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or > projects > > > > > > nothing! > > > > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no > place > > > in > > > > > the > > > > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report > > card > > > > they > > > > > > > made > > > > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't > > > think > > > > > > much > > > > > > > of > > > > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > > > > > seizures > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed > > > around > > > > > > with > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > > > > uncoordinated, > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many > > headaches > > > > and > > > > > > hard > > > > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. > Now > > > that > > > > I > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very > > alert > > > > and > > > > > I > > > > > > > can > > > > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > > > > picture > > > > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > > > > display > > > > > my > > > > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and > place > > it > > > > all > > > > > > > over. > > > > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction > paper > > > and > > > > > > sand > > > > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > > > > collection > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my > oldest > > > > made > > > > > we > > > > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack > dab > > in > > > > the > > > > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the > countless > > > > pieces > > > > > > or > > > > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, > and > > > > when > > > > > I > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. > > The > > > > boys > > > > > > > love > > > > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to > > time > > > or > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every > > last > > > > > scrape > > > > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try > not > > > to > > > > > > throw > > > > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything > of > > > > course > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day > > but > > > I > > > > > use > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have > fun > > > > > looking > > > > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed > > over > > > > the > > > > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! > I > > > cant > > > > > > > reverse > > > > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to > > make > > > > the > > > > > > > future > > > > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and > a > > > > happy > > > > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON > THE GROUP. > > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35- SHELL > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline > Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can > find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! > > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE > and the SWOE Workbook. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2007 Report Share Posted April 30, 2007 Oh I know what you are talking about thanks for explaining it. Now I get it because they did the same thing in the Lutheran churches, and Assemblies and the Evangelical churches to. My mom switched churches a lot so I got around. But I did go to the catholic church with my friend as a kid sometimes and I still sometimes go on occasions. I know what you mean! Love Lizzy > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My parents actually did the same thing. They NEVER > would > > > > allow > > > > > > > > anything to hang up that I made. Not any art or > projects > > > > > > nothing! > > > > > > > > Not in my room not on my door not on the fridge no > place > > > in > > > > > the > > > > > > > > house. But as soon as I did bad on a test or report > > card > > > > they > > > > > > > made > > > > > > > > sure to display it. I forgot all about that and didn't > > > think > > > > > > much > > > > > > > of > > > > > > > > it until you brought it up. I was on medication for my > > > > > seizures > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > my mom often messed with the dosage. When she screwed > > > around > > > > > > with > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > Phenobarbital, depakot and other meds I was often > > > > > uncoordinated, > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > would fall asleep, be very drowsy and have many > > headaches > > > > and > > > > > > hard > > > > > > > > time concentrating. So no wonder I got bad grades. > Now > > > that > > > > I > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > the one administering my own medication I feel very > > alert > > > > and > > > > > I > > > > > > > can > > > > > > > > concentrate and function quite well. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Now as a mother of 2 small boys I have purchased large > > > > picture > > > > > > > > frames and I have lots of magnets and nails! I always > > > > display > > > > > my > > > > > > > > children's art all over the house. I frame it and > place > > it > > > > all > > > > > > > over. > > > > > > > > Some water color for my room some it construction > paper > > > and > > > > > > sand > > > > > > > > art in the boys room and the latest addition to our > > > > collection > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > just added yesterday, a turquoise colored vase my > oldest > > > > made > > > > > we > > > > > > > > placed a bright orange daisy in it and put it smack > dab > > in > > > > the > > > > > > > > middle of the living room! Not to mention the > countless > > > > pieces > > > > > > or > > > > > > > > art and tests that I place on the fridge every week, > and > > > > when > > > > > I > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > them down I save them in a big plastic filing system. > > The > > > > boys > > > > > > > love > > > > > > > > to take out their work and play with it from time to > > time > > > or > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > look and remember what they made. I don't save every > > last > > > > > scrape > > > > > > > > just the things I know they really cherish but I try > not > > > to > > > > > > throw > > > > > > > > things away in front of them. I cant save everything > of > > > > course > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > oldest comes home with a half a dozen papers every day > > but > > > I > > > > > use > > > > > > > my > > > > > > > > judgment. I hope when they grow older that they have > fun > > > > > looking > > > > > > > > back and seeing what they made and how they developed > > over > > > > the > > > > > > > > years. I hope it will bring them many good memories! > I > > > cant > > > > > > > reverse > > > > > > > > the past or change my mother but I can do my part to > > make > > > > the > > > > > > > future > > > > > > > > better for my children and give them a happy today and > a > > > > happy > > > > > > > > future. Love Lizzy > > > > > > > ...... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Problems? Ask our friendly List Manager for help at > @... SEND HER ANY POSTS THAT CONCERN YOU; DO NOT Respond ON > THE GROUP. > > To order the KO bible " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " call 888-35- SHELL > () for your copy. We also refer to " Understanding the Borderline > Mother " (Lawson) and " Surviving the Borderline Parent, " (Roth) which you can > find at any bookstore. Welcome to the WTO community! > > From Randi Kreger, Owner BPDCentral, WTO Online Community and author SWOE > and the SWOE Workbook. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9 years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction. Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a bad mother " . Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift. Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the situation) will do something that day. The Jersey Girl > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9 years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction. Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a bad mother " . Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift. Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the situation) will do something that day. The Jersey Girl > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9 years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction. Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a bad mother " . Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift. Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the situation) will do something that day. The Jersey Girl > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9 years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction. Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a bad mother " . Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift. Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the situation) will do something that day. The Jersey Girl > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2007 Report Share Posted May 1, 2007 My Mother's Day Hell continues EVERY YEAR. This year, my daughter (9 years old) and I are going to take a baking class with 2 of her best friends and their moms. It's about 100 miles from my home and my NADA is another 100 miles in the opposite direction. Today, I told her I wasn't coming for Mother's Day and I got " Wait until you're old and your daughter doesn't want anything to do with you " - " What did I do to deserve this punishment " & " I wasn't such a bad mother " . Seriously, I'm tired of leading my life running from mother-in-law to mother all the time. I've had it. I'm spending the day with my daughter doing something fun. I'll send Nada a card and a gift. Maybe my sister (who has completely removed herself from the situation) will do something that day. The Jersey Girl > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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