Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Growing up it wasn't ever particularly hellish, but it's become a big PITA as an adult, especially since she usually has a big rage in the weeks leading up to it, which she usually tosses in " and don't bother getting me anything for Mother's Day! " This year, I'll actually accomodate that request. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Growing up it wasn't ever particularly hellish, but it's become a big PITA as an adult, especially since she usually has a big rage in the weeks leading up to it, which she usually tosses in " and don't bother getting me anything for Mother's Day! " This year, I'll actually accomodate that request. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Growing up it wasn't ever particularly hellish, but it's become a big PITA as an adult, especially since she usually has a big rage in the weeks leading up to it, which she usually tosses in " and don't bother getting me anything for Mother's Day! " This year, I'll actually accomodate that request. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD.. but more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare for me...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always...ALWAYS created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided attention on Mother's Day...my grandmother used to live where we live now (next door) so she would always use my grand-mother as a back up plan...we needed to be here at her house in order to honor my mother AND my grandmother. One of the last year's my grandmother was alive my mother feigned a heart attack to drag us all to the hospital...because we were there we missed an outing at my mother-in-laws (major sin there...for some reason in that family when she has an event not attending is not an option). well my husband's grandfather (mother in-law's father) got ahold of my husband and unleashed a fury on him like I had never seen...because he made his mother cry (oh boo-freaking-hoo...she had almost 80 people there). I've never seen anything like it...my husband was actually SOBBING when he hung up. Finally, I put my foot down and we started going out of town that weekend. That first year, I was so desperate I even agreed to camping! (Keep in mind, my idea of roughing it is staying somewhere without a concierge.) Our campsite ended up being about 50 yards from a very active railroad (which came through, horns blaring every 20 minutes...no exceptions). All things being equal it ended up being a magnificent weekend...we had a great time. made sure to make the obligatory phone calls on Sunday...and enjoyed every moment of the weekend. We had a great time, and because we were out of town and didn't spend time with either one of them, neither one of them got mad! (Well...they were probably both mad...but they couldn't express it because we had a legit. excuse) For the life of me, I don't know why we don't do this for ALL of the holidays! Kisses and Nibbles, Bunny -- Mother's Day Hell How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Me too! I hated, hated, hated, HATED Mother's Day!!! First off, I had a lot of trouble wrapping my mind around the idea of celebrating the Oppressor. Second, she demanded so much attention and so many gifts. Even if she got everything she wanted, she still felt slighted. And the worst thing, coincidentally one the main things that got me thinking she might not be all there, was that every year I made a big deal of it to keep out of trouble. I made her breakfast in bed, bought her a dozen rose, a nice gift, most years two, and took her out to her favorite restaurant. Oh, not to mention the cards and notes around the house saying " Happy Mother's Day, I love you " so she'd see it when she made coffee or used the computer etc. I made it the biggest holiday of the year for her. Oddly enough, little sister has never bought her a Mother's Day or a birthday present. She just says some nice things and is done with it. Of course, little sis can't really hold down a job, and didn't work in high school, so she never has the money for gifts. Anyway, on little sis's birthday (June 3), among sis's gifts and attention, she would start complaing about how she didn't get treated as nicely as sister. I would always say that I did a few things for her and she would deny it! To this day, she insists every gift given came from little sis. She even tells nada that those gifts were from me, but nada continues to insist otherwise. She even shows guests favorite gifts I gave her (like a TV tray that matched her living room decor and holds her dinner since she likes to eat while watching TV) and says things like " isn't this nice, my youngest gave it to me " . I can't understand how she does that for gifts I sent after leaving home. Why would little sis, who lives WITH nada, have roses delivered? I mean, forgetting, disassociating, whatever, that's just plain dumb. I was always the bad child though. She even refered to me as that by way of introduction, even to her new employees! " This is my daughter, Jae. She's the bad child. And this, (little sis) is the good one. She's my little angel. " That used to make me SO mad. I really did do everything I was supposed to. I doted on her, waited on her hand and foot, never got in trouble at school, got a job at 16 and still worked for free at her office, graduated with honors, went to a good college and never asked her for money for tuition of books, etc. Sister? Ignored nada, or complained when asked to do something, always in trouble at school, caught with boys in her room, cigarettes, pot, alcohol, never got a job, demanded payment to help nada at the office, never graduated from high school and had nada pay for her to attend community college, which she flunked out of after bankrupting me by running up my credit cards at the mall while I was at work and she was SUPPOSED to be in school. Yet, in nada's eyes, little sis can do no wrong. Even when she had to explain to nada why she has HPV and uterine damage from an abortion, she's the good child. I got yelled at for that, by the way. I was apparently supposed to keep a better eye on her. Sorry, that went on a while. It's just so very frustrating. I don't think it would bug me quite so much if the two of them didn't have the whole extended family convinced that I'm a terrible daughter and all little sis's problems are my fault. If nada/sis can't blame a problem on me, they just don't tell the extended family about it. My NC doesn't help of course. It gives them a great case to claim I abandoned the family. Oh well. I'm set up to have some truly fantastic in-laws and a goddess for a wife. A girl really only needs one family, I guess. Better to have a great one late than have none at all. Jae PS. Anyone remember the Pink Floyd song Mother from The Wall? I've listened to it every Mother's Day since I was 10. It's like a ritual to help me get through it. Even though I'm NC, I still do it. It's comforting, makes me feel like I'm sending her a telepathic message containing all the things I always wanted to say and feared the consequences of. Of course, I used to jump like rabbit if she walked in on me with my headphones on, like she could hear my thought-letter floating on the air or something. I must have looked SO guilty lol. " mr.zarkley " wrote: How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Me too! I hated, hated, hated, HATED Mother's Day!!! First off, I had a lot of trouble wrapping my mind around the idea of celebrating the Oppressor. Second, she demanded so much attention and so many gifts. Even if she got everything she wanted, she still felt slighted. And the worst thing, coincidentally one the main things that got me thinking she might not be all there, was that every year I made a big deal of it to keep out of trouble. I made her breakfast in bed, bought her a dozen rose, a nice gift, most years two, and took her out to her favorite restaurant. Oh, not to mention the cards and notes around the house saying " Happy Mother's Day, I love you " so she'd see it when she made coffee or used the computer etc. I made it the biggest holiday of the year for her. Oddly enough, little sister has never bought her a Mother's Day or a birthday present. She just says some nice things and is done with it. Of course, little sis can't really hold down a job, and didn't work in high school, so she never has the money for gifts. Anyway, on little sis's birthday (June 3), among sis's gifts and attention, she would start complaing about how she didn't get treated as nicely as sister. I would always say that I did a few things for her and she would deny it! To this day, she insists every gift given came from little sis. She even tells nada that those gifts were from me, but nada continues to insist otherwise. She even shows guests favorite gifts I gave her (like a TV tray that matched her living room decor and holds her dinner since she likes to eat while watching TV) and says things like " isn't this nice, my youngest gave it to me " . I can't understand how she does that for gifts I sent after leaving home. Why would little sis, who lives WITH nada, have roses delivered? I mean, forgetting, disassociating, whatever, that's just plain dumb. I was always the bad child though. She even refered to me as that by way of introduction, even to her new employees! " This is my daughter, Jae. She's the bad child. And this, (little sis) is the good one. She's my little angel. " That used to make me SO mad. I really did do everything I was supposed to. I doted on her, waited on her hand and foot, never got in trouble at school, got a job at 16 and still worked for free at her office, graduated with honors, went to a good college and never asked her for money for tuition of books, etc. Sister? Ignored nada, or complained when asked to do something, always in trouble at school, caught with boys in her room, cigarettes, pot, alcohol, never got a job, demanded payment to help nada at the office, never graduated from high school and had nada pay for her to attend community college, which she flunked out of after bankrupting me by running up my credit cards at the mall while I was at work and she was SUPPOSED to be in school. Yet, in nada's eyes, little sis can do no wrong. Even when she had to explain to nada why she has HPV and uterine damage from an abortion, she's the good child. I got yelled at for that, by the way. I was apparently supposed to keep a better eye on her. Sorry, that went on a while. It's just so very frustrating. I don't think it would bug me quite so much if the two of them didn't have the whole extended family convinced that I'm a terrible daughter and all little sis's problems are my fault. If nada/sis can't blame a problem on me, they just don't tell the extended family about it. My NC doesn't help of course. It gives them a great case to claim I abandoned the family. Oh well. I'm set up to have some truly fantastic in-laws and a goddess for a wife. A girl really only needs one family, I guess. Better to have a great one late than have none at all. Jae PS. Anyone remember the Pink Floyd song Mother from The Wall? I've listened to it every Mother's Day since I was 10. It's like a ritual to help me get through it. Even though I'm NC, I still do it. It's comforting, makes me feel like I'm sending her a telepathic message containing all the things I always wanted to say and feared the consequences of. Of course, I used to jump like rabbit if she walked in on me with my headphones on, like she could hear my thought-letter floating on the air or something. I must have looked SO guilty lol. " mr.zarkley " wrote: How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Chugga chugga choo choo! Bunny, you make me laugh. I can see how that camping experience would have been a relaxing alternative. a > > Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD.. > but more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare > for me...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always...ALWAYS > created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided > attention on Mother's Day...my grandmother used to live where we live now > (next door) so she would always use my grand-mother as a back up plan...we > needed to be here at her house in order to honor my mother AND my > grandmother. One of the last year's my grandmother was alive my mother > feigned a heart attack to drag us all to the hospital...because we were > there we missed an outing at my mother-in-laws (major sin there...for some > reason in that family when she has an event not attending is not an option). > well my husband's grandfather (mother in-law's father) got ahold of my > husband and unleashed a fury on him like I had never seen...because he made > his mother cry (oh boo-freaking-hoo...she had almost 80 people there). I've > never seen anything like it...my husband was actually SOBBING when he hung > up. > > Finally, I put my foot down and we started going out of town that weekend. > That first year, I was so desperate I even agreed to camping! (Keep in mind, > my idea of roughing it is staying somewhere without a concierge.) Our > campsite ended up being about 50 yards from a very active railroad (which > came through, horns blaring every 20 minutes...no exceptions). All things > being equal it ended up being a magnificent weekend...we had a great time. > made sure to make the obligatory phone calls on Sunday...and enjoyed every > moment of the weekend. We had a great time, and because we were out of town > and didn't spend time with either one of them, neither one of them got mad! > (Well...they were probably both mad...but they couldn't express it because > we had a legit. excuse) For the life of me, I don't know why we don't do > this for ALL of the holidays! > > Kisses and Nibbles, > Bunny > > > -- Mother's Day Hell > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Chugga chugga choo choo! Bunny, you make me laugh. I can see how that camping experience would have been a relaxing alternative. a > > Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD.. > but more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare > for me...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always...ALWAYS > created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided > attention on Mother's Day...my grandmother used to live where we live now > (next door) so she would always use my grand-mother as a back up plan...we > needed to be here at her house in order to honor my mother AND my > grandmother. One of the last year's my grandmother was alive my mother > feigned a heart attack to drag us all to the hospital...because we were > there we missed an outing at my mother-in-laws (major sin there...for some > reason in that family when she has an event not attending is not an option). > well my husband's grandfather (mother in-law's father) got ahold of my > husband and unleashed a fury on him like I had never seen...because he made > his mother cry (oh boo-freaking-hoo...she had almost 80 people there). I've > never seen anything like it...my husband was actually SOBBING when he hung > up. > > Finally, I put my foot down and we started going out of town that weekend. > That first year, I was so desperate I even agreed to camping! (Keep in mind, > my idea of roughing it is staying somewhere without a concierge.) Our > campsite ended up being about 50 yards from a very active railroad (which > came through, horns blaring every 20 minutes...no exceptions). All things > being equal it ended up being a magnificent weekend...we had a great time. > made sure to make the obligatory phone calls on Sunday...and enjoyed every > moment of the weekend. We had a great time, and because we were out of town > and didn't spend time with either one of them, neither one of them got mad! > (Well...they were probably both mad...but they couldn't express it because > we had a legit. excuse) For the life of me, I don't know why we don't do > this for ALL of the holidays! > > Kisses and Nibbles, > Bunny > > > -- Mother's Day Hell > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Chugga chugga choo choo! Bunny, you make me laugh. I can see how that camping experience would have been a relaxing alternative. a > > Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD.. > but more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare > for me...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always...ALWAYS > created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided > attention on Mother's Day...my grandmother used to live where we live now > (next door) so she would always use my grand-mother as a back up plan...we > needed to be here at her house in order to honor my mother AND my > grandmother. One of the last year's my grandmother was alive my mother > feigned a heart attack to drag us all to the hospital...because we were > there we missed an outing at my mother-in-laws (major sin there...for some > reason in that family when she has an event not attending is not an option). > well my husband's grandfather (mother in-law's father) got ahold of my > husband and unleashed a fury on him like I had never seen...because he made > his mother cry (oh boo-freaking-hoo...she had almost 80 people there). I've > never seen anything like it...my husband was actually SOBBING when he hung > up. > > Finally, I put my foot down and we started going out of town that weekend. > That first year, I was so desperate I even agreed to camping! (Keep in mind, > my idea of roughing it is staying somewhere without a concierge.) Our > campsite ended up being about 50 yards from a very active railroad (which > came through, horns blaring every 20 minutes...no exceptions). All things > being equal it ended up being a magnificent weekend...we had a great time. > made sure to make the obligatory phone calls on Sunday...and enjoyed every > moment of the weekend. We had a great time, and because we were out of town > and didn't spend time with either one of them, neither one of them got mad! > (Well...they were probably both mad...but they couldn't express it because > we had a legit. excuse) For the life of me, I don't know why we don't do > this for ALL of the holidays! > > Kisses and Nibbles, > Bunny > > > -- Mother's Day Hell > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Uncomfortable in childhood, pure yuck in adulthood! Who wants to go through celebrating someone when it's all underhandedly orchestrated and the person feels " entitled " to thanks for all the millions of things they bother to do to " serve " their ungrateful family who really couldn't care less (in the BPD nada opinion), but it's nice you showed up anyway because it's expected! LOL a > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Uncomfortable in childhood, pure yuck in adulthood! Who wants to go through celebrating someone when it's all underhandedly orchestrated and the person feels " entitled " to thanks for all the millions of things they bother to do to " serve " their ungrateful family who really couldn't care less (in the BPD nada opinion), but it's nice you showed up anyway because it's expected! LOL a > > How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Big squeezes to you Jae....wow...what a tool! You know after reading your part about being a good child and always keeping yourself out of trouble...I immediately flashed back to a part in the wizard of oz when Dorothy was told to keep herself out of trouble...to which Dorothy replied " A place where there isn't any trouble....do you think there is such a place Toto? " We all know the answer to that is yeah...but it's the furthest spot from YOU! (Meaning Nada...oh please don't anyone take that one personally...I would never do that to any of you ) The twisting and giving credit to another sibling...that is so classic Nada. ..even to this very day it takes me half way into the next conversation to realize she wasn't kidding...every single time...it just seems to ridiculous to think that people believe her...i mean, in one moment she will go on and on about how my brother can't hold down a job, doens't even have money to put gas in the car, how she's put out thousands and thousands of dollars just in the past couple of days (which in itself is completely ridiculous) buying him coffee and clothes and nonsense items...and in the very next breath say " oh...isn't this grill nice? It was the most expensive one in the store...my son bought it for me for Christmas! " People actually BELIEVE her! It's insane! I'm like...uh...hello...first of all, you just said he hasn't held down a job in 3 years, how did he buy you a $2000 grill...secondly.. the grill is obviously at LEAST a year old and even the biggest idiot on earth knows it is not a really expensive grill...lastly...that grill belongs to my husband and it isn't even in YOUR yard!! Umm...yeah....everyone builds a pool in their neighbors yard on the opposite side of the block...why do people believe her? I just sit and shake my head...no use wasting my breath ...I don't want to converse with people stupid enough to believe her ridiculous stuff anyway. Truth be told, I would trade in my entire Foo for a sister like you any day of the week and twice on Sunday...head up my sister....the cream always rises to the top! Kisses and Nibbles, Bunny -- Re: Mother's Day Hell Me too! I hated, hated, hated, HATED Mother's Day!!! First off, I had a lot of trouble wrapping my mind around the idea of celebrating the Oppressor. Second, she demanded so much attention and so many gifts. Even if she got everything she wanted, she still felt slighted. And the worst thing, coincidentally one the main things that got me thinking she might not be all there, was that every year I made a big deal of it to keep out of trouble. I made her breakfast in bed, bought her a dozen rose, a nice gift, most years two, and took her out to her favorite restaurant. Oh, not to mention the cards and notes around the house saying " Happy Mother's Day, I love you " so she'd see it when she made coffee or used the computer etc. I made it the biggest holiday of the year for her. Oddly enough, little sister has never bought her a Mother's Day or a birthday present. She just says some nice things and is done with it. Of course, little sis can't really hold down a job, and didn't work in high school, so she never has the money for gifts. Anyway, on little sis's birthday (June 3), among sis's gifts and attention, she would start complaing about how she didn't get treated as nicely as sister. I would always say that I did a few things for her and she would deny it! To this day, she insists every gift given came from little sis. She even tells nada that those gifts were from me, but nada continues to insist otherwise. She even shows guests favorite gifts I gave her (like a TV tray that matched her living room decor and holds her dinner since she likes to eat while watching TV) and says things like " isn't this nice, my youngest gave it to me " . I can't understand how she does that for gifts I sent after leaving home. Why would little sis, who lives WITH nada, have roses delivered? I mean, forgetting, disassociating, whatever, that's just plain dumb. I was always the bad child though. She even refered to me as that by way of introduction, even to her new employees! " This is my daughter, Jae. She's the bad child. And this, (little sis) is the good one. She's my little angel " That used to make me SO mad. I really did do everything I was supposed to. I doted on her, waited on her hand and foot, never got in trouble at school, got a job at 16 and still worked for free at her office, graduated with honors, went to a good college and never asked her for money for tuition of books, etc. Sister? Ignored nada, or complained when asked to do something, always in trouble at school, caught with boys in her room, cigarettes, pot, alcohol, never got a job, demanded payment to help nada at the office, never graduated from high school and had nada pay for her to attend community college, which she flunked out of after bankrupting me by running up my credit cards at the mall while I was at work and she was SUPPOSED to be in school. Yet, in nada's eyes, little sis can do no wrong. Even when she had to explain to nada why she has HPV and uterine damage from an abortion, she's the good child. I got yelled at for that, by the way. I was apparently supposed to keep a better eye on her. Sorry, that went on a while. It's just so very frustrating. I don't think it would bug me quite so much if the two of them didn't have the whole extended family convinced that I'm a terrible daughter and all little sis's problems are my fault. If nada/sis can't blame a problem on me, they just don't tell the extended family about it. My NC doesn't help of course. It gives them a great case to claim I abandoned the family. Oh well. I'm set up to have some truly fantastic in-laws and a goddess for a wife. A girl really only needs one family, I guess. Better to have a great one late than have none at all. Jae PS. Anyone remember the Pink Floyd song Mother from The Wall? I've listened to it every Mother's Day since I was 10. It's like a ritual to help me get through it. Even though I'm NC, I still do it. It's comforting, makes me feel like I'm sending her a telepathic message containing all the things I always wanted to say and feared the consequences of. Of course, I used to jump like rabbit if she walked in on me with my headphones on, like she could hear my thought-letter floating on the air or something. I must have looked SO guilty lol. " mr.zarkley " wrote: How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Big squeezes to you Jae....wow...what a tool! You know after reading your part about being a good child and always keeping yourself out of trouble...I immediately flashed back to a part in the wizard of oz when Dorothy was told to keep herself out of trouble...to which Dorothy replied " A place where there isn't any trouble....do you think there is such a place Toto? " We all know the answer to that is yeah...but it's the furthest spot from YOU! (Meaning Nada...oh please don't anyone take that one personally...I would never do that to any of you ) The twisting and giving credit to another sibling...that is so classic Nada. ..even to this very day it takes me half way into the next conversation to realize she wasn't kidding...every single time...it just seems to ridiculous to think that people believe her...i mean, in one moment she will go on and on about how my brother can't hold down a job, doens't even have money to put gas in the car, how she's put out thousands and thousands of dollars just in the past couple of days (which in itself is completely ridiculous) buying him coffee and clothes and nonsense items...and in the very next breath say " oh...isn't this grill nice? It was the most expensive one in the store...my son bought it for me for Christmas! " People actually BELIEVE her! It's insane! I'm like...uh...hello...first of all, you just said he hasn't held down a job in 3 years, how did he buy you a $2000 grill...secondly.. the grill is obviously at LEAST a year old and even the biggest idiot on earth knows it is not a really expensive grill...lastly...that grill belongs to my husband and it isn't even in YOUR yard!! Umm...yeah....everyone builds a pool in their neighbors yard on the opposite side of the block...why do people believe her? I just sit and shake my head...no use wasting my breath ...I don't want to converse with people stupid enough to believe her ridiculous stuff anyway. Truth be told, I would trade in my entire Foo for a sister like you any day of the week and twice on Sunday...head up my sister....the cream always rises to the top! Kisses and Nibbles, Bunny -- Re: Mother's Day Hell Me too! I hated, hated, hated, HATED Mother's Day!!! First off, I had a lot of trouble wrapping my mind around the idea of celebrating the Oppressor. Second, she demanded so much attention and so many gifts. Even if she got everything she wanted, she still felt slighted. And the worst thing, coincidentally one the main things that got me thinking she might not be all there, was that every year I made a big deal of it to keep out of trouble. I made her breakfast in bed, bought her a dozen rose, a nice gift, most years two, and took her out to her favorite restaurant. Oh, not to mention the cards and notes around the house saying " Happy Mother's Day, I love you " so she'd see it when she made coffee or used the computer etc. I made it the biggest holiday of the year for her. Oddly enough, little sister has never bought her a Mother's Day or a birthday present. She just says some nice things and is done with it. Of course, little sis can't really hold down a job, and didn't work in high school, so she never has the money for gifts. Anyway, on little sis's birthday (June 3), among sis's gifts and attention, she would start complaing about how she didn't get treated as nicely as sister. I would always say that I did a few things for her and she would deny it! To this day, she insists every gift given came from little sis. She even tells nada that those gifts were from me, but nada continues to insist otherwise. She even shows guests favorite gifts I gave her (like a TV tray that matched her living room decor and holds her dinner since she likes to eat while watching TV) and says things like " isn't this nice, my youngest gave it to me " . I can't understand how she does that for gifts I sent after leaving home. Why would little sis, who lives WITH nada, have roses delivered? I mean, forgetting, disassociating, whatever, that's just plain dumb. I was always the bad child though. She even refered to me as that by way of introduction, even to her new employees! " This is my daughter, Jae. She's the bad child. And this, (little sis) is the good one. She's my little angel " That used to make me SO mad. I really did do everything I was supposed to. I doted on her, waited on her hand and foot, never got in trouble at school, got a job at 16 and still worked for free at her office, graduated with honors, went to a good college and never asked her for money for tuition of books, etc. Sister? Ignored nada, or complained when asked to do something, always in trouble at school, caught with boys in her room, cigarettes, pot, alcohol, never got a job, demanded payment to help nada at the office, never graduated from high school and had nada pay for her to attend community college, which she flunked out of after bankrupting me by running up my credit cards at the mall while I was at work and she was SUPPOSED to be in school. Yet, in nada's eyes, little sis can do no wrong. Even when she had to explain to nada why she has HPV and uterine damage from an abortion, she's the good child. I got yelled at for that, by the way. I was apparently supposed to keep a better eye on her. Sorry, that went on a while. It's just so very frustrating. I don't think it would bug me quite so much if the two of them didn't have the whole extended family convinced that I'm a terrible daughter and all little sis's problems are my fault. If nada/sis can't blame a problem on me, they just don't tell the extended family about it. My NC doesn't help of course. It gives them a great case to claim I abandoned the family. Oh well. I'm set up to have some truly fantastic in-laws and a goddess for a wife. A girl really only needs one family, I guess. Better to have a great one late than have none at all. Jae PS. Anyone remember the Pink Floyd song Mother from The Wall? I've listened to it every Mother's Day since I was 10. It's like a ritual to help me get through it. Even though I'm NC, I still do it. It's comforting, makes me feel like I'm sending her a telepathic message containing all the things I always wanted to say and feared the consequences of. Of course, I used to jump like rabbit if she walked in on me with my headphones on, like she could hear my thought-letter floating on the air or something. I must have looked SO guilty lol. " mr.zarkley " wrote: How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. --------------------------------- Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Wow, I really do have it easy. I don't see Yeti for her birthday, mother's day, or Christmas. Or any other time. Once I saw her in a shopping mall . and just walked past without saying anything. Didn't look back. What would I have to say to her, and why say it to her? I've had enough drama. _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1355 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Wow, I really do have it easy. I don't see Yeti for her birthday, mother's day, or Christmas. Or any other time. Once I saw her in a shopping mall . and just walked past without saying anything. Didn't look back. What would I have to say to her, and why say it to her? I've had enough drama. _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1355 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Wow, I really do have it easy. I don't see Yeti for her birthday, mother's day, or Christmas. Or any other time. Once I saw her in a shopping mall . and just walked past without saying anything. Didn't look back. What would I have to say to her, and why say it to her? I've had enough drama. _____ << ella for Spam Control >> has removed 1355 Spam messages and set aside 0 Newsletters for me You can use it too - and it's FREE! www.ellaforspam.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 You know I was in the store the other day and looked at mothers day cards as I always have felt I " had " to get her one even just as a token is easier then having her get mad ya know? The last couple years I got her nice ones as we actually got along for the first time in my life and thought things had resolved.. but then she had a breakdown and Im of course bad again according to her. Of which I did nor said a thing to warrant that. In any case I was trying to find a " generic " type card that just said happy mothers day.. It made me literally ill to read all the cards that said I love you , your the best, blah blah blah... Also made me sad I never had that kind of mother. I dont even want to get her a card and may not I may go with an email card. My heart is NOT in it. and I hate being a hypocrite. I want to be true to myself but also keep the peace. She always says I dont have to get her something but have because I wanted to the past couple years but am back to not wanting to. ugh... So any suggestions out there? How many of you out there HATED mother's day during your childhood > (and beyond). It was one of nada's supreme excuses to really act out > like crazy. My sister's birthday is right around MD, so her BD was > always tainted big-time. MD still sends shivers. > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? > Check outnew cars at Yahoo! Autos. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 mothers day was " invented " by Teddy Roosevelt in the early 1900's :-( so yes, I think we can wipe it off the books !! Jackie Let's organize! STAMP OUT MOTHER'S DAY!!! The world will be a better place. We can replace that evil holiday with a variation of HALLOWEEN-- but everyone can wear rabbit costumes. Rabbits procreate, yet they're cute and fuzzy. Rabbits generally do not inflict pain and suffering upon the masses. (If they hate their young, they kill them immediately and eat them...a few moments of physical pain, but no psychological torture). We can call the new day BUNNOBEEN...kind of like a flamboyant follow-up to EASTER. What do you say? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 hmmm I never knew the origin of Mothers day,,,, Guess Teddy loved his mother... But wasnt thinking about the rest of us! > > mothers day was " invented " by Teddy Roosevelt in the early 1900's :-( so > yes, I think we can wipe it off the books !! > > Jackie > > > Let's organize! STAMP OUT MOTHER'S DAY!!! The world will be a better > place. We can replace that evil holiday with a variation of > HALLOWEEN-- but everyone can wear rabbit costumes. Rabbits procreate, > yet they're cute and fuzzy. Rabbits generally do not inflict pain and > suffering upon the masses. (If they hate their young, they kill them > immediately and eat them...a few moments of physical pain, but no > psychological torture). We can call the new day BUNNOBEEN...kind of > like a flamboyant follow-up to EASTER. What do you say? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 LOL guess Teddy had a nice mother... Jackie hmmm I never knew the origin of Mothers day,,,, Guess Teddy loved his mother... But wasnt thinking about the rest of us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 LOL guess Teddy had a nice mother... Jackie hmmm I never knew the origin of Mothers day,,,, Guess Teddy loved his mother... But wasnt thinking about the rest of us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 Bunny, why you should go all out this mothers day. Invite the both of them MIL and your momster out for a (non) mother's day dinner. Arrange for them to " meet " you somewhere. Then cancel out at the last minute. Then they can keep each other company. Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD..but more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare for me ...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always ALWAYS created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided attention on Mother's Day... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 hahahahahah That is a great idea lol!!! Im greatful my nada lives several states away I dont have to worry about seeing her on mothers day just have to worry about the phone call and stupid mothers day card... ugh but better then the in person visit.. hehe -- In WTOAdultChildren1 , " westwindspirit " wrote: > > Bunny, why you should go all out this mothers day. Invite the both of them MIL > and your momster out for a (non) mother's day dinner. Arrange for them > to " meet " you somewhere. Then cancel out at the last minute. Then they can > keep each other company. > > > > Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD..but > more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare for > me ...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always ALWAYS > created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided > attention on Mother's Day... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 hahahahahah That is a great idea lol!!! Im greatful my nada lives several states away I dont have to worry about seeing her on mothers day just have to worry about the phone call and stupid mothers day card... ugh but better then the in person visit.. hehe -- In WTOAdultChildren1 , " westwindspirit " wrote: > > Bunny, why you should go all out this mothers day. Invite the both of them MIL > and your momster out for a (non) mother's day dinner. Arrange for them > to " meet " you somewhere. Then cancel out at the last minute. Then they can > keep each other company. > > > > Oh absolutely! My nada is waif BP and my mother-in-law is borderline BPD..but > more of a queen/witch. Mother's Day has always been a total nightmare for > me ...my MIL is so unbelievable demanding and my nada has always ALWAYS > created a TON of drama around that time to ASSURE that she had our undivided > attention on Mother's Day... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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