Re: I give up......

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Oh my gosh Colton sucks on his tongue too only when he's tired though, but when he gets in his bed he has his favorite blankie then he just sucks on the tag To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:34 PM Subject: Re: I give

up......

Yes and Chase would make this sucking sound but he wasn't sucking on his hand...more like on his own tongue. He would do this alot when he was tired....Sent from my iPhone

YOU WROTE: He would also rub the back of his hand against his lips That is what colton does. And sometimes will have his tongue sticking out so that he's licking the back of his hand. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:18 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My son showed signs of autism almost from birth. He would stare at bright lights, trees moving and anything that spun. He never turned to our voices like his twin sister did from a very early age. I told his Ped that he had autism during a 7/8week well care visit! Yes, things got worse before they got better. Before intensive therapy (25-30 hours each week!)He never moved so much so that he developed a flat back of his head. We had to move him to his side several times in the middle of the night but, he just kept flopping over to his back. Almost had to wear a helmet.He couldn't sit up or do tummy time because he didn't have the strength to lift his head up...he would just scream bloody murder with his head smashed into the

carpet.Anyway...my son

would flip his hand over and suck on the outside of his pinky when he would get upset. He would also rub the back of his hand against his lips. Totally for sensory calming....LoriPlease BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those with autism!

https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism--- Subject: Re: I give up......To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Date: Thursday, April 26, 2012, 12:07 PM

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is

mad and crying. I feel like everyday

he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM Subject: Re: I give

up......

Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so.

And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to do. I am really starting to question if there is anything wrong at all. :-/

P.S. This is my Son Colton http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

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Colton will take a bite every now and then but its rare. like if i hand out something for him to take a bite he just tries to grab it and if i dont let him he has a tantrum. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:36 PM Subject: Re:

I give up......

Chase didn't understand "taking bites" of things until he was 4! I had to cut everything. Couldn't/wouldn't take bites from apples, cookies, sandwiches, anything!!!!Sent from my iPhone

Well I have tried on several occasions to do that but it kinda doesnt matter how many there are he wants them all. He does that with his food too. if you have 3 cookies and only give him 1 he has a tantrum he wants all of them. and he can't just put 1 thing in his mouth at a time it has to be all of it. I'm not sure, I think he understands a little bit but for the most part its like talking to say...... a 8 month old. He doesnt really grasp what your talking about and half the time I don't think he cares. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:20 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Can you have 1 brush just for "real" brushing? He can have all the other brushes but tell him this one is for his hair only and then goes away?I know, might be hard. Not sure what his receptive language is like?LoriPlease BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those with autism!

https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism--- Subject: Re: I give up......To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Date: Thursday, April 26, 2012, 12:15 PM

Colton is obsessed with hair brushes and hair. When he is calm he loves to touch everyones hair. But when he is angry he tries to rip it all out even his own. And his brush is used primarily as a weapon. But when I take it from him he gets completely uncontrollable. And few people have asked well is his brush out of sight out of mind? Absolutely not. It is the first thing he thinks about when he wakes up and the last when he goes to bed. When I get him out of bed in the morning he immediately walk straight to the bathroom and goes for the brush or as many as he can hold. I cant even brush his hair at night because then I have to take the brush away and I dont wanna get him all worked up before bed. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:21 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Yes, both my sons and I are/were like this. My son has been going through therapy on how to appropriately play with toys, but he still takes one toy and uses it for a whole different purpose than what it was intended for, mostly as some sort of weapon. His two favorite toys were the handle to a guitar hero and a homemade baseball bat, both used as weapons where he walks incessently battling whatever it is he's thinking about and making this tsssssss noise. He'll do this for hours. He hasn't ever hit anyone with them, nor made threats to people with them, so It's not been something that I felt the need to try to control in him, as long as he remembers not to smash things when "playing" with them.

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

No Colton doesn't talk. He babbles like a little baby, but no real words. He talks to himself almost constantly. And the rocking is all day and all night. He has scars from rocking, on his back he has like these lesion things from rocking against hard surfaces and it wont ever heal cause he continues to do it so often. I have been trying to get him to point at stuff since before he was a year old. And I wish he played normal with his toys seeing as how he has so many of them. I feel like half the time we just waste our money on toys because he doesn't play with them instead he just carries them around the house in his hand and/or throws them at people.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2012 2:06 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

One more thing. He is darling! And, although in isolation, rocking and spinning can be perfectly normal...if he isn't talking...isn't pointing...doesn't play appropiately with most toys...doesn't reference....etc, etc...he is on the spectrum. Please don't doubt yourself. If I waited, my son would never have learned to talk...NEVER! My son also is "gifted" but has classic autism. And, he is currently mainstreamed in 3rd grade. I may homeschool him next year, though.

Please BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those with autism!

https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism---

Subject: I give up......

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >

Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 10:48 AM

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a

few years if I am told to do so.

And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to do. I am really starting to question if there is anything wrong at all. :-/

P.S. This is my Son Colton http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

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Lol. I keep thinking about how Colton might act as he gets older and its really hard to imagine him being able to actually talk one day..... hopefully. I hope he has nice things to say, i doubt it though as angry as he is. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:38 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Lol! I tell my 10 yr old that. He will say things like " what are you a dummy?". I say " nope but maybe you ate for calling ME that?". He gets it now! LolSent from my iPhone

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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That is exactly how I use to explain Chase to people....angry, mad, unhappy all the time! He isn't like that at 10 but is easily grumpy and emotional.Sent from my iPhone

Lol. I keep thinking about how Colton might act as he gets older and its really hard to imagine him being able to actually talk one day..... hopefully. I hope he has nice things to say, i doubt it though as angry as he is. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:38 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Lol! I tell my 10 yr old that. He will say things like " what are you a dummy?". I say " nope but maybe you ate for calling ME that?". He gets it now! LolSent from my iPhone

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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I was remembering when my son was 1, I took him to the pediatrician and said my son was hitting me. She said it's becase I was a first time Mom. About a year later, and another pediatrician, I was told it was my marriage and the doc wanted me(us)to attend this group he was leading called "understanding yourself and others.."I said I couldn't afford it and of course he asked if my marriage wasn't worth the price. So, I went. It was this cult-like thing. And it helped my son not one bit. It wasn't till years later my son was diagnosed withj Aspergers. I still get very angry when I think about those two doctors. My son stopped hitting a short while later and then the tantrums started. My son is 26 now and still gets very angry. Nothing is his fault. The anger

scares me sometimes. He has never gotten in trouble but it bothers me just the same. Not a morning person doesn't begin to describe that sulliness. He was happy as a child though. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 5:03 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

That is exactly how I use to explain Chase to people....angry, mad, unhappy all the time! He isn't like that at 10 but is easily grumpy and emotional.Sent from my iPhone

Lol. I keep thinking about how Colton might act as he gets older and its really hard to imagine him being able to actually talk one day..... hopefully. I hope he has nice things to say, i doubt it though as angry as he is. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:38 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Lol! I tell my 10 yr old that. He will say things like " what are you a dummy?". I say " nope but maybe you ate for calling ME that?". He gets it now! LolSent from my iPhone

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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Wow, It sounds like the second dr. just made that up so that you would give him money. That is absolutely ridiculous. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Yeah Colton just seems to be getting worse and worse and then for like a week he will be simi normal, well compared to how he is normally and then I'll think omg he's getting better. Then as soon as I start thinking like that he's instantly worse. I hope he gets a new Therapist soon cause the last one didn't do anything at all to help him. And I want to try and get him to a simi good place before he's to big to handle at all. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 5:15 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

I was remembering when my son was 1, I took him to the pediatrician and said my son was hitting me. She said it's becase I was a first time Mom. About a year later, and another pediatrician, I was told it was my marriage and the doc wanted me(us)to attend this group he was leading called "understanding yourself and others.."I said I couldn't afford it and of course he asked if my marriage wasn't worth the price. So, I went. It was this cult-like thing. And it helped my son not one bit. It wasn't till years later my son was diagnosed withj Aspergers. I still get very angry when I think about those two doctors. My son stopped hitting a short while later and then the tantrums started. My son is 26 now and still gets very angry.

Nothing is his fault. The anger

scares me sometimes. He has never gotten in trouble but it bothers me just the same. Not a morning person doesn't begin to describe that sulliness. He was happy as a child though. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 5:03 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

That is exactly how I use to explain Chase to people....angry, mad, unhappy all the time! He isn't like that at 10 but is easily grumpy and emotional.Sent from my iPhone

Lol. I keep thinking about how Colton might act as he gets older and its really hard to imagine him being able to actually talk one day..... hopefully. I hope he has nice things to say, i doubt it though as angry as he is. To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:38 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Lol! I tell my 10 yr old that. He will say things like " what are you a dummy?". I say " nope but maybe you ate for calling ME that?". He gets it now! LolSent from my iPhone

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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I total give up today also-I totally believe that Aspergers runs in families because my father who is 84 years old has Aspergers, it been raining and he cannot go outside. He is putting in a new flower garden in the front yard and it too cold and wet to go outside. If he taps, bangs or make other noises I am going to scream. He like he is caged up, making noise, walking back and forth, messing ( microwaved an apple to see what would happen). My nephew when he was little used to ask if there was grandpa Ritalin, when he took his. Is there old man Ritalin? I will trade for the day one old man for one kid.You be here in less than a minutes to trade back. He needs his tablet recharged, and pick up the many paper airplanes he been making and flying.Judy F

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Nah, That's just old people stuff. My grandpa was the same way. He used to keep change in his pockets and jiggle it all the time when he had nothin to do. Don't give up today either. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 5:45 PM Subject: RE: I give up......

I total give up today also-I totally believe that Aspergers runs in families because my father who is 84 years old has Aspergers, it been raining and he cannot go outside. He is putting in a new flower garden in the front yard and it too cold and wet to go outside. If he taps, bangs or make other noises I am going to scream. He like he is caged up, making noise, walking back and forth, messing ( microwaved an apple to see what would happen). My nephew when he was little used to ask if there was grandpa Ritalin, when he took his. Is there old man Ritalin? I will trade for the day one old man for one kid.You be here in less than a minutes to trade back. He needs his tablet recharged, and pick up the many paper

airplanes he been making and flying.Judy F

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It was hard, very hard. My oldest started Early Intervention pre-school at 3 yrs. and 10 mo. 2 wks after my third was born and my baby was in the infant car seat and my middle child couldn't yet do stairs and my son's classroom was on the second floor (no elevator).....gee that was fun times twice a day M-F!!! To: "autism-aspergers "

<autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:27 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, I couldn't do that. This right here is killin me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 8:57 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

I wish I could have spaced mine out like that! I had baby #1 ( child with AS) and when he was 15 mo. I was pregnant again (easy easy baby) and then pregnant again when baby #2 was 12 mo. On an IUD that "supposedly" was there to prevent pregnancy long enough to space them out a bit. 3 kids in 3 yrs. 10 mo. I had one in pullups and two in diapers! Glad they are all out of that phase now!

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Sent: April 25, 2012 4/25/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

I missed that pouch after Ben started walking. When your kid sleeps regularly for 4 hours a day (2am-6am) and needs to be either held, sitting on your lap, or within 5cm of you at all times when he is awake, you get a bit inventive. You can do most things while holding a child. Although it is probably no surprise we didn't have another for 3 years, and then it came as a surprise to both of us. And I agree - they won't stop crying, and they won't eat the food, no matter how long you wait.

That sounds like my . I couldn't put him down either. I told my cousin that I wore the front pouch thing to do my chores just so that he was happy. She said she's put him down and let him scream......that is like the theory you hear about food....."if they are hungry enough they'll eat" ummmm.....no, mine will keep screaming and he'll starve too.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2012 8:20 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Yeah, I attached a picture of colton when he fell into the table. And he just simply looked at me like what the hell is that table doing there? And walked off. Coltons younger brother will be 3 months old tomorrow and I literally can not put him down fir even a second or hes screaming his head off. Almost like hes in pain its very strange and he has a milk allergy and hes got acid reflux, so he has to sit up all the time.

------------------------------

>I think it may be a matter of not being engaged with our own bodies. I know if I get up in the morning and it is cold and I dress warmly, if it comes out warm - even if it gets over 30C - I probably won't notice i need to remove any clothes. I have also been known to dress for warm weather and then need reminding (this is why we have mothers and wives ) to put something else on. I don't always notice small things that cause pain. I am just focused on other things. My son is much the same. But when it comes to emotional or mental discomfort - that is another thing! My son cried almost constantly if not being held for the first 10 months of his life. But after that, if he fell over, sometimes he cried, sometimes he didn't. Usually not much at all - nothing like from the distress of not being held. He took years to learn to put out his hands to break his fall, but even when he put his teeth through his lips and there was blood everywhere, it

was more a whimper than a cry. The only time he really cried was if he couldn't see me when it happened. Once I was there, it was fine.

>

>Strange thing is, if I cut my nails and there is even the slightest 'catch' on anything it drives me mad. My wife has often commented I fuss over my nails worse than any woman. It's just that if they are not smooth, then any contact with anything is like fingernails screeching on a blackboard. Did anyone else have a teacher who did that to get attention? Not sure how I survived a year without getting up and hitting her hard. Maybe because I was only 7 at the time

>

>

>

>

>> �Just piggy-backing on what said- my son with Asperger's has an incredibly high tolerance for pain.� He's now 10. If he cried (as a baby, toddler, or even now) we knew it was very bad... usually involving blood or worse.� It's bizarre the level of pain he can handle!!�

>>

>>

>> On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 at 3:57 PM, sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@... wrote:

>>

>> �

>> [Attachment(s) <#136e5ee3c4d375be_TopText> from sara degeer

>> included below]

>> Yes he rocks all the time It took the sores a couple months to

>> heal because he would keep rocking. Colton has a very high pain

>> tolerance as well just the other day he was sitting in my lap and

>> started throwing a fit and did the limp noodle thing and slid out

>> of my lap and when his knees hit the floor he kinda lunged forward

>> and hit his forehead on the coffee table that is in the videos and

>> didn't even cry. Just looked at me funny and walked away with a

>> lump sticking out of his head about a 1/4 of an inch. It was huge

>> and he should've cried. Here is a picture of it seconds after it

>> happened. He was more upset that I was trying to hold him still to

>> take the pic.

>>

>> ----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* and <alexandriairma@...

>>

>> *To:* "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012 3:47 PM

>> *Subject:* Re: I give up......

>>

>> �

>> You mentioned the scars on his back from rocking? When the scars

>> are sores does it sto

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OMG!!! My son licks the back of his hand!! We call him kitty cat! What makes someone do this?????? I gotta hear why!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:49 PM Subject: Re:

I give up......

YOU WROTE: He would also rub the back of his hand against his lips That is what colton does. And sometimes will have his tongue sticking out so that he's licking the back of his hand. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:18 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My son showed signs of autism almost from birth. He would stare at bright lights, trees moving and anything that spun. He never turned to our voices like his twin sister did from a very early age. I told his Ped that he had autism during a 7/8week well care visit! Yes, things got worse before they got better. Before intensive therapy (25-30 hours each week!)He never moved so much so that he developed a flat back of his head. We had to move him to his side several times in the middle of the night but, he just kept flopping over to his back. Almost had to wear a helmet.He couldn't sit up or do tummy time because he didn't have the strength to lift his head up...he would just scream bloody murder with his head smashed into the

carpet.Anyway...my son

would flip his hand over and suck on the outside of his pinky when he would get upset. He would also rub the back of his hand against his lips. Totally for sensory calming....LoriPlease BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those with autism!

https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism--- Subject: Re: I give up......To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Date: Thursday, April 26, 2012, 12:07 PM

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is

mad and crying. I feel like everyday

he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM Subject: Re: I give

up......

Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so.

And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to do. I am really starting to question if there is anything wrong at all. :-/

P.S. This is my Son Colton http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

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You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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I don't know about 84 year olds, but ritalin works for 49 year olds

  I wish I had tried it years ago.  I find I can actually sit

still when I have taken it.  With both my father and father-in-law

(both 83) wet days are to be dreaded.  It is like with a little kid

- 'look at what I've done', 'play with me', 'I'm bored', 'when is

the rain going to stop?', 'I want to go outside', 'Why can't we go

somewhere/visit someone?'.  Maybe it is just the age.

BTW, what does happen when you microwave an apple?

 

I total give up today also-I totally believe that

Aspergers runs in families because my father who is 84

years old has Aspergers, it been raining and he cannot go

outside.  He is putting in a new flower garden in the

front yard and it too cold and wet to go outside.  If he

taps, bangs or make other noises I am going to scream.  He

like he is caged up, making noise, walking back and forth,

messing ( microwaved an apple to see what would happen). 

My nephew when he was little used to ask if there was

grandpa Ritalin, when he took his.  Is there old man

Ritalin?  I will trade for the day one old man for one

kid.

You be here in less than a minutes to trade back.  He

needs his tablet recharged, and pick up the many paper

airplanes he been making and flying.

Judy F

  

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It would probably scare me if I knew how many miles I traveled around our block. It worked every time though!To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 8:47:07 AMSubject: Re: I give up......

When my son was a baby and wouldn't stop crying we would walk and walk - one day my husband turned the water on at the kitchen sink and he stopped! Guess he liked the sound of the water! With my oldest daughter I used to sit her on the dryer in an infant seat while the clothes were drying. I know some people who drive their kids around - never tried that one, though.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 11:27 AMSubject: Re: I give up......

Does anything comfort him? make him stop screaming? How old is he? My had to be on a pre-digested formula called Nutramiguen....(spelling this wrong, I know)

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 12:03 PMSubject: Re: I give up......

Yea peyton has been screaming so much he has completely lost his voice. And when I asked the dr about it she said hes just colicy, so idk------------------------------>That sounds like my . I couldn't put him down either. I told my cousin that I wore the front pouch thing to do my chores just so that he was happy. She said she's put him down and let him scream......that is like the theory you hear about food....."if they are hungry enough they'll eat" ummmm.....no, mine will keep screaming and he'll starve too. >> > >>>>________________________________> >To: autism-aspergers >Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2012 8:20 PM>Subject: Re: I give up......> >> >>>Yeah, I attached a picture of colton when he fell into the table. And he just simply looked at me like what the hell is that table doing there? And walked off. Coltons younger brother will be 3 months old tomorrow and I literally can not put him down fir even a second or hes screaming his head off. Almost like hes in pain its very strange and he has a milk allergy and hes got acid reflux, so he has to sit up all the time.>>------------------------------>>>>I think it may be a matter of not being engaged with our own bodies. I know if I get up in the

morning and it is cold and I dress warmly, if it comes out warm - even if it gets over 30C - I probably won't notice i need to remove any clothes. I have also been known to dress for warm weather and then need reminding (this is why we have mothers and wives ) to put something else on. I don't always notice small things that cause pain. I am just focused on other things. My son is much the same. But when it comes to emotional or mental discomfort - that is another thing! My son cried almost constantly if not being held for the first 10 months of his life. But after that, if he fell over, sometimes he cried, sometimes he didn't. Usually not much at all - nothing like from the distress of not being held. He took years to learn to put out his hands to break his fall, but even when he put his teeth through his lips and there was blood everywhere, it>was more a whimper than a cry. The only time he really cried was if he couldn't see me when it

happened. Once I was there, it was fine.>>>>Strange thing is, if I cut my nails and there is even the slightest 'catch' on anything it drives me mad. My wife has often commented I fuss over my nails worse than any woman. It's just that if they are not smooth, then any contact with anything is like fingernails screeching on a blackboard. Did anyone else have a teacher who did that to get attention? Not sure how I survived a year without getting up and hitting her hard. Maybe because I was only 7 at the time >>>>>>>>>> �Just piggy-backing on what said- my son with Asperger's has an incredibly high tolerance for pain.� He's now 10. If he cried (as a baby, toddler, or even now) we knew it was very bad... usually involving blood or worse.� It's bizarre the level of pain he can handle!!�>> >> >>

On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 at 3:57 PM, sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@... wrote:>> >> �>> [Attachment(s) <#136e5ee3c4d375be_TopText> from sara degeer>> included below]>> Yes he rocks all the time It took the sores a couple months to>> heal because he would keep rocking. Colton has a very high pain>> tolerance as well just the other day he was sitting in my lap and>> started throwing a fit and did the limp noodle thing and slid out>> of my lap and when his knees hit the floor he kinda lunged forward>> and hit his forehead on the coffee table that is in the videos

and>> didn't even cry. Just looked at me funny and walked away with a>> lump sticking out of his head about a 1/4 of an inch. It was huge>> and he should've cried. Here is a picture of it seconds after it>> happened. He was more upset that I was trying to hold him still to>> take the pic. >> >> ---------------------------------------------------------->> *From:* and > >> *To:* "autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >">> <autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012 3:47 PM>> *Subject:* Re: I give up......>> >> �>> You mentioned the scars on his back from rocking? When the scars>> are sores does it stop him from rocking? My daughter has what

I>> think is an incredibly high tolerance for pain. When she has>> skinned her knees and does this weird sound thing but won't cry.>> She does freak out at the sight of blood even if it is not her>> own. I think it is all part of the sensory issues.�>> >> Ella did not speak until after her second birthday, but she did a>> lot of stuff early. When she finally did speak she was very>> articulate (well for a 26 -27 month old) if you or anyone wants to>> look at her videos let me know, I will give you the link.>> >> As for toys Ella has/has the�opposite�of the Midas Touch, she>> intentionally took apart or broke most of her toys.�>> �>> */If guns kill people then pencils cause misspelled words/*>> >> ---------------------------------------------------------->> *From:* sara degeer

> >> *To:* "autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >">> <autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012 1:35 PM>> *Subject:* Re: I give up......>> >> �>> No Colton doesn't talk. He babbles like a little baby, but no real>> words. He talks to himself almost constantly. And the rocking is>> all day and all night. He has scars from rocking, on his back he>> has like these lesion things from rocking against hard surfaces>> and it wont ever heal cause he continues to do it so often. I have>> been trying to get him to point at stuff since before he was a>> year old. And I wish he played normal with his toys seeing as how>> he has so many of them. I feel like half the time we just waste>> our money on toys because he doesn't play with them instead he>>

just carries them around the house in his hand and/or throws them>> at people.�>> >> ---------------------------------------------------------->> *From:* Lori Yurtin >> *To:* autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012 2:06 PM>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......>> >> �>> One more thing. �He is darling! �And, although in isolation,>> rocking and spinning can be perfectly normal...if he isn't>> talking...isn't pointing...doesn't play appropiately with most>> toys...doesn't reference....etc, etc...he is on the spectrum.>> �Please don't doubt yourself. �If I waited, my son would never>> have learned to talk...NEVER! �My son also is "gifted" but has>> classic autism. �And, he is currently mainstreamed in 3rd grade.>> �I may homeschool him next year, though. �>> >> >> >> Please BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those>> with autism!>> https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism>> >> >> >> >> > >> Subject: I give up......>> To: "autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >">> <autism-aspergers >> <mailto:autism-aspergers >>> Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 10:48 AM>> >> �>> So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming>> to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to>> come once a week for an hour. When he

cancels he texts me>> minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So>> I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a>> different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to>> get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have>> anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And>> you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til>> today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like>> well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I>> calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He>> mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a>> few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk>> about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain>> parents" that only want their child dx so they can

receive>> government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause>> they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about>> me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the>> government only the right kind of care for my child. I am>> extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe>> there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and>> quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to>> do. I am really starting to question if there is anything>> wrong at all. :-/>> >> >> P.S. This is my Son>> Colton�http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee>> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >>

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My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.--- Original Message ---Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12To: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Becauseeverything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. :(To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PMSubject: Re: I give up...... Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety. I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me. My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one. My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issuesAshton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons) So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receivegovernment benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

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Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

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You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

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Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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Low dosage, constant med checks and less yelling and fighting has worked for us. Sammy has had none of the side effects minus dry mouth. A good psychiatrist can mentor you if you wish to investigate it.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:24:05 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.--- Original Message ---Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12To: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Becauseeverything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. :(To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PMSubject: Re: I give up...... Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety. I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me. My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one. My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issuesAshton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons) So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receivegovernment benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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I was also worried about side effects but sometimes you get to a point where nothing works. We tried yrs of ABA, floortime, RDI, special diets, supplements, even injections and we finally had to try the big guns-Risperadone. He now takes a cocktail of abilify and Risperadone and something for anxiety. Best therapy we ever did! LolSent from my iPhone

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

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Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

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Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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constant as in monthly? or more often? To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:27 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Low dosage, constant med checks and less yelling and fighting has worked for us. Sammy has had none of the side effects minus dry mouth. A good psychiatrist can mentor you if you wish to investigate it.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:24:05 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

[Guest guest]

Hmmmm....well, I will have a discussion, but I'm still so worried. I've heard ambilify has less side effects vs. Risperdone. My cousin's daughter, severe autism (not high functioning) was on Risperdone, but I don't know what dosage. She was 8 and wearing a girls 16!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:28 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

I was also worried about side effects but sometimes you get to a point where nothing works. We tried yrs of ABA, floortime, RDI, special diets, supplements, even injections and we finally had to try the big guns-Risperadone. He now takes a cocktail of abilify and Risperadone and something for anxiety. Best therapy we ever did! LolSent from my iPhone

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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[Guest guest]

That is so funny your kiddo got dry mouth! My son, once starting abilify, had the opposite problem...drooling! Had to put him on something to stop it. Only takes 1/2 dose every other day but without it, he drools all over his school papers or computer or his shirt!Sent from my iPhone

Low dosage, constant med checks and less yelling and fighting has worked for us. Sammy has had none of the side effects minus dry mouth. A good psychiatrist can mentor you if you wish to investigate it.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:24:05 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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[Guest guest]

Every three weeks and now monthly for the past three years. We see a psychiatrist who specializes in kids. I tried about four before I found this one. I was so scared to start medication at first too. All of the things we try to keep out of their system, but his little neurosensors connect better now. It worked for us at least.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:31:27 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... constant as in monthly? or more often? To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:27 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... Low dosage, constant med checks and less yelling and fighting has worked for us. Sammy has had none of the side effects minus dry mouth. A good psychiatrist can mentor you if you wish to investigate it.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:24:05 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.--- Original Message ---Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12To: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Becauseeverything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. :(To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PMSubject: Re: I give up...... Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety. I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me. My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one. My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issuesAshton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons) So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receivegovernment benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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Sammy is on Seraquel and zoloft.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:33:26 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Hmmmm....well, I will have a discussion, but I'm still so worried. I've heard ambilify has less side effects vs. Risperdone. My cousin's daughter, severe autism (not high functioning) was on Risperdone, but I don't know what dosage. She was 8 and wearing a girls 16!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:28 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... I was also worried about side effects but sometimes you get to a point where nothing works. We tried yrs of ABA, floortime, RDI, special diets, supplements, even injections and we finally had to try the big guns-Risperadone. He now takes a cocktail of abilify and Risperadone and something for anxiety. Best therapy we ever did! LolSent from my iPhone Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerrySender: autism-aspergers Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up...... If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.--- Original Message ---Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12To: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: I give up...... Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Becauseeverything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse. :(To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PMSubject: Re: I give up...... Hi Sara,You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety. I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me. My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one. My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issuesAshton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons) So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receivegovernment benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is =

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Yes, I will say many many kids gain a good amount of weight on Risperadone. Abilify can do that too but less likely.My son gained. Then lost when he went on Abilify. And had stabilized since being on both.He is 52 inches tall and weighs 86lbs. He has always been a "full" kid. He was 30lbs at just 10 months if age! His twin sister is s skinny mini..,same height but weighs 23lbs less. They have always been like that. At 10 months, only weighed 18lbs to his 30lbs!Sent from my iPhone

Hmmmm....well, I will have a discussion, but I'm still so worried. I've heard ambilify has less side effects vs. Risperdone. My cousin's daughter, severe autism (not high functioning) was on Risperdone, but I don't know what dosage. She was 8 and wearing a girls 16!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:28 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

I was also worried about side effects but sometimes you get to a point where nothing works. We tried yrs of ABA, floortime, RDI, special diets, supplements, even injections and we finally had to try the big guns-Risperadone. He now takes a cocktail of abilify and Risperadone and something for anxiety. Best therapy we ever did! LolSent from my iPhone

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

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Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

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Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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The suit is called a SPIO suit. It's lycra, stretcny, long sleeves, and is warn under the clothes. We got it with the help of his occupational therapist. Do a google search for the name I typed. I'd give you the link but I am typing this on my nook color. My dog chewed my laptop cord.

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>hmmmm, that is interesting. I would like to know more about this compression suit.

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>Yes, my son does this upside down thing all the time on the couch. I tell him couches are for sitting not standing on your head, and the only reason is because he gets so wild when he does it, his feet flail. He does the same thing in his bed when trying to calm down to sleep. It's a pressure need on his head, like his compression suit does for him.

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>>Well everyone keeps telling me that he clearly can't have ASD because of the eye contact. But I keep coming into contact with people who have ASD or know someone that does and they are telling me different. And one person then pointed out the very extreme or intense eye contact almost like he is starring you down isn't so great either. And since I have had the baby, I have been noticing the same things in him and I am terrified. I don't wanna do this again. Only this time the new baby is not nearly as happy as Colton was as a baby. And Colton now has this new thing where he wants to watch everything upside down, like all the time and will walk bent over with his head on the floor. Its kinda funny actually... And thank you I love it when he smiles it's so contagious.

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>>>Yea Colton was the same way he didn't learn how to roll over until he was 7 1/2 months old. Which is fairly late as it is in your case as well. He also couldn't crawl, sit up. He would smile at you all day long but never babbled or anything he didnt start that til about a year old. The only thing is with Colton he has amazing eye contact with his immediate family and my mom. But for strangers its very intense staring or he wont look at you at all. and when he stares at people i have noticed it make some people upset. I think it makes them feel uncomfortable.

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>>>I heard the same thing! We are in CA and used Early Intervention when my son was 10 months old and still wasn't rolling over, crawling, couldn't sit, etc. He also was VERY clearly on the spectrum as he wasn't babbling, didn't respond to his name, wasn't pointing, flapped and didn't play with any toys. Just stared at them from different angles.

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>>>He started with PT. A shrink came to our home and told me "You are just looking for a dx. Everyone just wants a dx to get more services. It isn't right." I responded with "Are you kidding me? My kid has ever sign of autism there is...and, you think I want this? I don't want this....I just want help for my child!"

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>>>She proceeded to tell me "Well, if you want a dx, go get it." I flipping did. He was 20 months and there was NO questioning it. CLASSIC AUTISM! I got 25 hours per week of playbased ABA from that "B* & C^", OT and speech therapy. Not from her directly...but, she had to approve it.

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>>>She wasn't happy. Basically, they say this because many parents will listen and then they don't have to shell out the cash for these kids. ;-(

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>>>Don't listen to that wackadoodle!

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>>>Please BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump Street! It makes fun of those with autism!

>>>https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism

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>>>Subject: I give up......To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 1:48 PM So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I amtold to do so. And then hegoes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to do. I am really starting to question if there is anything wrong at all. :-/P.S. This is my Son Colton http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

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I didn't know kids went on seraquel!! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:38 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

Sammy is on Seraquel and zoloft.Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:33:26 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hmmmm....well, I will have a discussion, but I'm still so worried. I've heard ambilify has less side effects vs. Risperdone. My cousin's daughter, severe autism (not high functioning) was on Risperdone, but I don't know what dosage. She was 8 and wearing a girls 16!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:28 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

I was also worried about side effects but sometimes you get to a point where nothing works. We tried yrs of ABA, floortime, RDI, special diets, supplements, even injections and we finally had to try the big guns-Risperadone. He now takes a cocktail of abilify and Risperadone and something for anxiety. Best therapy we ever did! LolSent from my iPhone

Wish my son was on mood stabilizers!! but I'm worried about side effects! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:22 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

My Sammy (ASD, age 9) used to tell me he hated me all of the time. Remember we don't define ourselves by our children. And for Sammy, he was frustrated that he didn't know how to properly express his anger. We had a special pillow that was only used when one of us was frustrated-he'd hit and yell at instead of me and with mood stabilizers, I can't remember the last time he said he hated me. Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Sender: autism-aspergers

Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2012 16:07:57 -0700 (PDT)To: autism-aspergers <autism-aspergers >ReplyTo: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

You know that is not the case. They love you. They are just angry or manipulative!!! To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers > Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 4:00 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

i keep thinkin about it and I still don't think I could do that. It breaks my heart every time he hits me. I just want to cry. It makes me feel like he doesn't like me. To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 3:55 PM Subject: Re: I give up......

If your children say it often enough you get use to it. my youngest with know ASD. he said that to manipulate me. you get use to it and then say oh well I don't like you either.

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Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: I give up......

Wow, thats crazy I think if Colton ever told me He hated me, I think a piece of me would just die. I love all of my kids the same I would do anything in the world for anyone one of them but Colton just has a really special place in my heart. And his anger hurts me the most. I never really paid much attention to the nose rubbing thing I knew he did it a lot. Even when he just gets excited he rubs his nose. Even if he doesn't have snot. And everyone keeps asking me if he ways his hands in front of his face but he didn't use to but have been noticing that when he is holding his brush he waves that like on the side of his face. and now he has started taking the back of his hand and rubbing it back and forth really fast against his lips. but he usually only does that when he is mad and crying. I feel like everyday he starts something new. I used to think he was just mildly autistic if at all. but now i feel like it may be getting much worse. Because

everything i have read and from what people tell me is usually kids dont start showing signs til about right now where as he has had them almost his whole life, and are just getting worse.

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wednesday, April 25, 2012 6:10 PM

Subject: Re: I give up......

Hi Sara,

You ARE seeing what you think you are seeing in your son. I watched your vodeos of him and it's like looking at me and my youngest. His nerves are in overdrive and he's responding to that by melting down. If you notice, he rubs his nose a lot, not just because it's running from crying but because it is tingling. The stimming he does is his way of trying to calm down the sensations his little body is going through, neurologically and anxiety.

I see him lashing out then he'll hug you. He is trying to tell you what is going on inside him and that he is sorry. I've lived this my entire life inside, it's like a war inside, and you cannot stop it, so you just want to scream. I'm 44 years old and I still have these same issues, and have learned to be by myself when I feel out of control. My son melted down like this, and at 7, still does, but not as often. Now it comes out in defiance against his brother and me.

My son wears a compression suit from the time he wakes up, until bedtime. His school and occupational therapist said that they notice a big difference in him since he got his SPIO suit. I notice that he's able to calm himself more now than prior. I would love to have an adult sized SPIO suit myself, but I don't have the money or the insurance to get one.

My youngest's meltdowns were violent toward me and my son, they still are, but now his is more able to talk instead of hit/punch/shove first. I think the difference was when he gained his ability speak better. He still struggles but he can tell me better what has upset him. Until that happened, it was so bad, we had to remove all knives from the kitchen because he would go get one and either throw it at me or my oldest, or threaten to stab us "I stab you." He hasn't done that in a long time. He mostly tells me he hates me when he's mad, and I remind him, "No, you don't hate me, you are mad at me."

Please don't let this therapist stop you from pursuing what Colton needs most, intervention and help as early as possible. Keep seeking until someone will listen. I had friends tell me nothing was wrong with my sons or me, that, Ethan was just acting out for attention. I finally got him evaluated and now he is in IEP and Speech/Occu therapy. They are helping so much, especially with the behavioral and eating issues

Ashton (Aspie Mom with 2 Autistic sons)

So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk about how everyone at the office is "talking" about "certain parents" that only want their child dx so they can receive

government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the government only the right kind of care for my child. I am extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe there is

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