Guest guest Posted April 2, 2007 Report Share Posted April 2, 2007 I think this could be an incredible thing!!! I know we'd have to save up,,,,,,and really plan ahead,,,,,,but it would be awesome for all of us to get together. Moms, Dads, Kids. Just take over the hotel!!! Robin meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote: Another advantage of getting together with other Aspie families... My DH is a miracle. He's not much of a talker, but he bonds well, and relates well, and he GETS it... so maybe he could be a help to other DHs? Meira > > Ohh I would really really love to meet! Heck I'd be just as happy to talk on > the phone! lol > > I don't mean to be a downer, but it sure does get lonely sometimes. I've got > DH here, but like I said, he's in that perpetual denial phase and doesn't > believe a thing is wrong so he's no help at all. I always have my mom, but > now she's gone for the summer :\ > > > -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) > > Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs > Anxiety/Depression) > and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) --------------------------------- Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2007 Report Share Posted April 2, 2007 Ack sorry about that, I missed your message, Meira. What a very sweet thought that is, but my DH won't go. He won't even go to one support group meeting with me that's only 30-45 minutes from here. I gave up on him, I don t even bother trying any more. Get pics for me Robin and Meira! And details! I want lots and lotsa details of what I miss! lol -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs Anxiety/Depression) and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) -- Re: ( ) My son has sleeping issues too I think this could be an incredible thing!!! I know we'd have to save up,,,,,,and really plan ahead,,,,,,but it would be awesome for all of us to get together. Moms, Dads, Kids. Just take over the hotel!!! Robin meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote: Another advantage of getting together with other Aspie families... My DH is a miracle. He's not much of a talker, but he bonds well, and relates well, and he GETS it... so maybe he could be a help to other DHs? Meira > > Ohh I would really really love to meet! Heck I'd be just as happy to talk on > the phone! lol > > I don't mean to be a downer, but it sure does get lonely sometimes. I've got > DH here, but like I said, he's in that perpetual denial phase and doesn't > believe a thing is wrong so he's no help at all. I always have my mom, but > now she's gone for the summer :\ > > > -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) > > Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs > Anxiety/Depression) > and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) --------------------------------- Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2007 Report Share Posted April 2, 2007 You don't have to worry. If we really do this,,,,,,,,the pictures will be plentiful!!!! I'm a wild-woman with a camera!!! We may not have a date set yet,,,,,,,,,,,,but you better start working on him. Whether he goes or not!!! Maybe you can entice him with the idea of having a weekend to himself??? Wait,,,,,,,,I'd like that. Hmmmmmmmmm. Robin Jenn <wyledbunch@...> wrote: Ack sorry about that, I missed your message, Meira. What a very sweet thought that is, but my DH won't go. He won't even go to one support group meeting with me that's only 30-45 minutes from here. I gave up on him, I don t even bother trying any more. Get pics for me Robin and Meira! And details! I want lots and lotsa details of what I miss! lol -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs Anxiety/Depression) and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) -- Re: ( ) My son has sleeping issues too I think this could be an incredible thing!!! I know we'd have to save up,,,,,,and really plan ahead,,,,,,but it would be awesome for all of us to get together. Moms, Dads, Kids. Just take over the hotel!!! Robin meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote: Another advantage of getting together with other Aspie families... My DH is a miracle. He's not much of a talker, but he bonds well, and relates well, and he GETS it... so maybe he could be a help to other DHs? Meira > > Ohh I would really really love to meet! Heck I'd be just as happy to talk on > the phone! lol > > I don't mean to be a downer, but it sure does get lonely sometimes. I've got > DH here, but like I said, he's in that perpetual denial phase and doesn't > believe a thing is wrong so he's no help at all. I always have my mom, but > now she's gone for the summer :\ > > > -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) > > Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs > Anxiety/Depression) > and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) --------------------------------- Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2007 Report Share Posted April 2, 2007 Woo hoo! Wild Woman! lol I really would love to go but I can't even go to my sister's by myself and she only lives three hours from here! lol She's been there for years and years (more than 10) *and* I used to live in the same general vicinity and I *still* get lost! rofl I wouldn't mind a weekend to myself either! rofl -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs Anxiety/Depression) and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) -- Re: ( ) My son has sleeping issues too I think this could be an incredible thing!!! I know we'd have to save up,,,,,,and really plan ahead,,,,,,but it would be awesome for all of us to get together. Moms, Dads, Kids. Just take over the hotel!!! Robin meiraharvey <meira-harvey@...> wrote: Another advantage of getting together with other Aspie families... My DH is a miracle. He's not much of a talker, but he bonds well, and relates well, and he GETS it... so maybe he could be a help to other DHs? Meira > > Ohh I would really really love to meet! Heck I'd be just as happy to talk on > the phone! lol > > I don't mean to be a downer, but it sure does get lonely sometimes. I've got > DH here, but like I said, he's in that perpetual denial phase and doesn't > believe a thing is wrong so he's no help at all. I always have my mom, but > now she's gone for the summer :\ > > > -Jenn, AEP (ADD, Bi-Polar, Anxiety/Depression) > > Proud Momma of Cory Albert (14yrs ADHD), h Dawn (12yrs > Anxiety/Depression) > and Jerry Lee " Trey " (9yrs ADHD, Bi-Polar, Asperger's) --------------------------------- Be a PS3 game guru. Get your game face on with the latest PS3 news and previews at Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2007 Report Share Posted April 3, 2007 Thank you Lindsey. I definitely understand. I know I've taken my bad moods out on the people I care about. It's hard not to! We've all been influenced by our pasts and others we love. Choosing to follow our hearts is a huge step. I know sometimes I have to be careful that I'm not working too hard to do the exact opposite of my parents! LOL.... Meira I'm sorry if my words were misunderstood. I did NOT mean to say that > was wrong in not wanting her kids to sleep with her. > > I meant she was wrong in saying that no child should ever sleep in > their parents' rooms. > > , if you misunderstood, and anyone else, I'm truly sorry, > that's not how it was meant! > > Meira Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2007 Report Share Posted April 3, 2007 Wow, , I can definitely see more of where you were coming from after reading this post. It's so hard to believe something could be acceptable when everyone around you tells you it's not. Be strong! You are the best Mom for your child! Meira > > Well I totally agree on all that you said. It's nice to hear the side of a real person that feels that way. I think I've always given too much credit to professionals as well as my son's father and my current husband. Even though for me, I would love to let my little guy sleep with me, I got SO much crap for wanting that when my son was a baby from his dad, plus the doctors and therapists saying that it was a big no no, that I just honestly really thought I was being selfish. We split up when my son was almost 3 and when I lived on my own and had my son only half the week, I did let him sleep in my bed sometimes. It started out because he got sick for about a week strait and we were in a new home. I didn't want him to be scared AND there was no one there to tell me no!! It wasn't every night, it was on and off for about a year, depending on how he was doing and feeling. But I have to admit, I loved snuggling so much!! I moved in with my current husband when my son was 7 and > by that point my son was only coming into my bed in the morning to watch cartoons. This was something my new hubby did not like one little bit. Once again I thought I was the one being selfish. Some of my favorite memories was going into my dad's room in the morning and watching cartoons. At my mom's house my stepdad wouldn't allow that and that always bothered me. This was a huge problem for me when we first moved in together. In the end, I could see where he was coming from and I may have been overly sensitive about it because of my childhood experiences. But it didn't seem to bother my son any, I just told him to wake me up in the morning and I'll come out to the couch and we could snuggle there and watch cartoons. Then during an Asperger Support Group meeting there was a therapit speaker and the topic was kids sleeping in there parents bed and what a big no no that was. And my son's dad and my current hubby kept looking right at me when she'd say certain things that I > was " guilty " of. So I guess what I heard from you and I actually agreed with, I hear the oposite from ALL the people in my life, that I thought I must be in the wrong. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Clonidine doesn't really " make " someone sleep as much as it just makes one drowsy. So staying asleep may well be better addressed with a different medication. Also, I hate saying this, but some of our kids can just not sleep as much as typical kids. My own 10 yo just can't possibly sleep as long as he should. So if I give him his meds too early, he is up too early. I have to manage that one according to his needs. Also, he shouldn't want to sleep all day. Either the meds need to be changed completely or altered as far as the timing. One time we tried a med for sleep (tenex) and it didn't work. However, the next day at pre-school, they called me to come pick my ds up because he was totally out at school. lol. Seems like the med worked only it didn't work until maybe 14 hours after he took it. Food is a tough one. One of my two boys with HFA has great food issues. Actually, your kid eats more than mine as far as variety goes. I would just always encourage him to try new foods but not make it a huge awful ordeal. Some people have luck by saying, " Take one bite - if you don't like it, you don't have to eat any more. " If that might work, go with it. At least he would try new foods. Roxanna ( ) My son has sleeping issues too Hello, my son is almost three and he won't sleep in his bed and it's really frustrating because he has a full size bunk-bed and he won't sleep in it, he has to sleep with Me and my husband and if we tell him that he has to sleep in his own bed , he has a tantrum . he is supposed to have his OT eval pretty soon so I am going to let them know about it and every time I tell my son's neurologist, he just keeps increasing his meds, my son is on Clonidine 3pills at bedtime,and Prozac 25 mg at night and 25mg in the morning,I don't think they are helping because he gets up at least once in the night and then he wants to sleep all day, he put him on those meds for sleeping problems and behavior problems but it seems to make it worse because he wants to sleep all day and then at night he's so hyper he is like a wild person , he rus around the house and gets into every thing.Is anyone going through this?? Also I would like to ask the group if anyone is going through eating issues, My son will hardly eat. he still eating some 3rd stage baby food like Cereal and Spagetti and Lasagna and some fruit sometimes he will eat Grilled cheese sandwiches but his favorite thing is Peanut butter,{toast and sand} I keep trying other things But I don't know what to do. Please write back and let me know if you know of anything I can do , Thank You!!! Heidi Van Oss __________________________________________________________ Sucker-punch spam with award-winning protection. Try the free Beta. http://advision.webevents./mailbeta/features_spam.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2007 Report Share Posted April 5, 2007 Tenex does that to too. So she takes it at 6am in order to fall asleep around 7pm. > > Also, he shouldn't want to sleep all day. Either the meds need to be changed completely or altered as far as the timing. One time we tried a med for sleep (tenex) and it didn't work. However, the next day at pre-school, they called me to come pick my ds up because he was totally out at school. lol. Seems like the med worked only it didn't work until maybe 14 hours after he took it. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2007 Report Share Posted April 8, 2007 My son would sleep with me until he was almost ten, sometimes I would wake up and he would be in the bed behind me snoring. He outgrew it on his own. Sometimes they need that comfort and support... even if they don't have AS, eventually they wont want to sleep with you anymore, so I wouldn't worry about it for the time being!! Re: ( ) My son has sleeping issues too I don't doubt for a second that more people do this than not. Maybe not all the time,,,,,but that allow it for the wonderful comfort it brings. I never understood complying with someone who told me NOT to do something that calms my wild children, opens communication, comforts a sick child, basically calms everyone, costs nothing, doesn't rot your teeth and makes them feel good about themselves. Hee hee Robin happybrats3@... wrote: Oh I missed the wrap/sling too! I so wish I had done this with my kids. I am a single mom and my kids, ages 7 and 4, take turns sleeping with me. I see no problem at all with it, yet others do. This is their special time with me as we talk about our day and such. It's their one on one with me. As I always say, my kids, my life, and I do what is best for us. I could care less what the " experts " say, they are not here day in and day out. It works for us and that's what matters. Tracey Shockey _MYspace_ (http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile & friendid=13263\ 4800) _Shaklee_ (http://www.shaklee.net/wellnessiseasy) Isn't it time to just feel better? Home of _GET CLEAN_ (http://www.shaklee.net/wellnessiseasy/getclean/index) , non toxic cleaners Home of _CINCH_ (http://www.cinchplan.com/wellnessiseasy) , powerful and proven inch loss _Mia Bella_ (http://www.burningandearning.com/) the best candles you'll ever burn _Tart burners_ (http://www.wbwholesale.com/cgi-bin/affiliates/clickthru.cgi?id=happybrats3) Great selection and colors for every decor! ELECTRIC ************************************** See what's free at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2007 Report Share Posted April 10, 2007 The Ohio people did once have a get together. We all went up to Mentor and had fun at the park/pool. Well, I spent my time chasing my youngest as he was still spending his free time wandering aimlessly. lol. Roxanna Re: ( ) My son has sleeping issues too Hi. Even though I was caught off-guard by your comment of " child or fair to myself and my husband toit wouldn't be appropriate for my do that " ,,,,,,,,, , I understand where you're coming from. We just looked at it as a need. If they would cry because they were hungry, we would feed them. If they cried because they had a bad dream, we'd comfort them. If they hurt themselves, we fix them up. All or our children on this site have disorders so we get them whatever help we can. For us,,,,,when our children want to be with us at night, we welcome it. It is a need for affection that we don't always see during the day, whether it's because they just don't want to, or are busy playing or because they're at school. My son unwinds and calms down with the computer after school. My daughters get a snack and we do homework and then watch Arthur. Another child rides his bike. The US is one of the few countries who do not advocate sleeping " as a family " and is one of the only countries who have people, other than family members, tell them to " let your child cry it out " . You're right, they do stop crying and " learn " after a while. They give up. No,,,,,,I'm not saying they are ruined from having to " cry it out " - of course they aren't. What I'm saying is that cuddling and being close to one-another is a basic need/want. My babies were always carried and held by us - constantly. And as they grew, it was simply our way of life to share the " family bed " . (This is also a great book - " THE FAMILY BED " ). But, it has to be a mutual decision. If you don't want it,,,,,,then you shouldn't. It is only going to cause tension,,,, just like anything else that is " imposed " on us when not welcome. As far as reading up on it,,,,,,,,,I have. And I've found incredible books that say it's the most wonderful, calming, bonding, soothing and natural thing out there. I've also read that it will " ruin " a marriage as well as the child. Personally, my kids all sleep in their own beds - most of the time, too. They have friends and are involved in different activities, sleep over at friends and are actually quite outgoing. If anything, I think this simple bonding time " adds to their self-confidence. There are also nights, though, when we tell them,,,, " hey,,,,,,why don't you stay in yours tonight and you can come in tomorrow " . They're ok with that. Also,,,,,our marriage is fine. We have many kids - we just don't do it in the bed - at night. Hee hee. I guess, in a nutshell,,,,,it made me sad when you wrote that you heard that " NO MATTER WHAT, not to let a child sleep with the parent " . Your child is YOURS,,,,,,,,,,You have the right to comfort your child any darned way you choose. This to me, is like saying it's gonna mess them up. We're not talking about un-monitored tv, un-monitored computer, non-stop violent video games, drugs, alcohol, bullying, not paying attention to your children, not eating together at the supper table, not teaching them self-confidence, not teaching them self-respect or spending time with them. It's simply letting your kid get in your bed cause they want to be with you. Once they're there, if it's a highly strung kid or very " tense " kid,,, ,they may calm down and feel safe. That's a good thing. It's too bad that it's looked at as such a " dirty " or " selfish " thing to do that's going only going to hurt the child. I also think that more people do it and don't admit it, because of the stigma. Oh well. Didn't mean to make this a sermon. I know we don't all agree and certainly, what works for 1 isn't going to work for all. I just wanted to clarify that we weren't freaks. We are normal parents who have chosen to allow our kids in our bed if they choose. Robin Essenfeld <lessen@...> wrote: Personally I would never let a child sleep in my bed. That is an intimate place for my husband and I and I don't feel it would be appropriate for my child or fair to myself and my husband to allow that. My son has always been told to stay in bed and if he can't sleep, he can read. If he wants to tantrum, fine, just do it in your room. It may take a lot of saying no but it's worth it, once they know your serious. If you allow it sometimes it will be much harder to get them to not sleep in your bed. I'm not an expert, but I've heard that it's best for the child NO MATTER WHAT to not sleep with their parents. You may want to read up about it. It can cause major problems later in life about comfort, sleeping with others, etc. I can t remember all of what I read about it (that was 9 years ago), but I remember thinking that no matter what, I would not do that FOR THE CHILD's SAKE. Lemke <jrisjs@...> wrote: As far as the sleeping issue,,,,,,,if you happily let him in your bed,,,,,,,what is his night like? What if he sleeps calmly and it changes how his day is? It's a cheap thing to try.......hee hee. And will have no side effects except you guys may not be too used to it. We did it for all of our kids and my husband had the hard time sleeping with them because they slept spread eagle............we eventually had to buy a large couch to accomodate him. This has been a joke for years. Anyway,,,,,,it was a simple thing that helped them tremendously. Let me know if you try it and it works. Also,,,,,,,,,,,,by telling a medical professional that your child sleeps with you for comfort is not the thing to do if you want approval. We learned this early on. Most want you to let " them learn " . We just couldn't do that - but you have to find what works for your family. Good luck. Robin Heidi Van Oss <vanossheidi38@...> wrote: Hello, my son is almost three and he won't sleep in his bed and it's really frustrating because he has a full size bunk-bed and he won't sleep in it, he has to sleep with Me and my husband and if we tell him that he has to sleep in his own bed , he has a tantrum . he is supposed to have his OT eval pretty soon so I am going to let them know about it and every time I tell my son's neurologist, he just keeps increasing his meds, my son is on Clonidine 3pills at bedtime,and Prozac 25 mg at night and 25mg in the morning,I don't think they are helping because he gets up at least once in the night and then he wants to sleep all day, he put him on those meds for sleeping problems and behavior problems but it seems to make it worse because he wants to sleep all day and then at night he's so hyper he is like a wild person , he rus around the house and gets into every thing.Is anyone going through this?? Also I would like to ask the group if anyone is going through eating issues, My son will hardly eat. he still eating some 3rd stage baby food like Cereal and Spagetti and Lasagna and some fruit sometimes he will eat Grilled cheese sandwiches but his favorite thing is Peanut butter,{toast and sand} I keep trying other things But I don't know what to do. Please write back and let me know if you know of anything I can do , Thank You!!! Heidi Van Oss __________________________________________________________ Sucker-punch spam with award-winning protection. Try the free Beta. http://advision.webevents./mailbeta/features_spam.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2007 Report Share Posted April 10, 2007 Hi Robin, we used to live in Mt. Carmel, Illinois. So we know where Olney is! Roxanna Re: ( ) Re: My son has sleeping issues too My husband is from Olney, IL (quite southern). Do you know it? Robin Amy McCarty <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote: Im centrally located too! Im about 2 hours straight south of Chicago. --------------------------------- We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love (and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2007 Report Share Posted April 10, 2007 Small world, isn't it? Were you originally from there? RobinRoxanna <madideas@...> wrote: Hi Robin,we used to live in Mt. Carmel, Illinois. So we know where Olney is! Roxanna Re: ( ) Re: My son has sleeping issues tooMy husband is from Olney, IL (quite southern). Do you know it?RobinAmy McCarty <luvmy2arabians > wrote:Im centrally located too! Im about 2 hours straight south of Chicago. ---------------------------------We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love(and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2007 Report Share Posted April 11, 2007 My dh is originally from Mt. Carmel. His family is still there and in dale. I just lived there a few years and then got married. Roxanna Re: ( ) Re: My son has sleeping issues tooMy husband is from Olney, IL (quite southern). Do you know it?RobinAmy McCarty <luvmy2arabians > wrote:Im centrally located too! Im about 2 hours straight south of Chicago. ---------------------------------We won't tell. Get more on shows you hate to love(and love to hate): TV's Guilty Pleasures list. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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