dealing with NT kids? (again)

[Guest guest]

My feeling is it's ok to ask for a glass of water, then if the hostess

offers something more, it would be ok to accept.

Sue

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

>

>

> Some kids are just not brought up well. You need to explain I have done

> this

> with my neighbors kids. I love her I love her kids but they are not

well

> mannered.

>

> I explained it this way to her NT daughter who is also 6.

>

> Honey listen if I offer you a drink and you except it that's ok. It's

> polite. If you ask me it isn't polite. What if you ask for something I

> don't have? That hurts my feelings. Your mom does not want you to ask

> for

> things. If I offer you can except but not unless you are offered

> something

> because that's good manners.

>

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes

total.

> We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to

find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

>

> Good luck!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My feeling is it's ok to ask for a glass of water, then if the hostess

offers something more, it would be ok to accept.

Sue

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

>

>

> Some kids are just not brought up well. You need to explain I have done

> this

> with my neighbors kids. I love her I love her kids but they are not

well

> mannered.

>

> I explained it this way to her NT daughter who is also 6.

>

> Honey listen if I offer you a drink and you except it that's ok. It's

> polite. If you ask me it isn't polite. What if you ask for something I

> don't have? That hurts my feelings. Your mom does not want you to ask

> for

> things. If I offer you can except but not unless you are offered

> something

> because that's good manners.

>

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes

total.

> We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to

find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

>

> Good luck!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Oh, I agree with and can handle that! LOL!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a

drink

> if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious

> social issues, so I honestly don't know.

I think it varies from household to household. I don't mind someone

asking

for a drink; just don't go get it yourself unless you are an adult friend.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Oh, I agree with and can handle that! LOL!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a

drink

> if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious

> social issues, so I honestly don't know.

I think it varies from household to household. I don't mind someone

asking

for a drink; just don't go get it yourself unless you are an adult friend.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Oh, I agree with and can handle that! LOL!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a

drink

> if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious

> social issues, so I honestly don't know.

I think it varies from household to household. I don't mind someone

asking

for a drink; just don't go get it yourself unless you are an adult friend.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Thanks! That would work if I didn't know them too well, first time at their

house, etc. I'll teach that. Hehe, first I have to stop teaching

him to YELL his YESA and NOA in response to questions. sheesh!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

My feeling is it's ok to ask for a glass of water, then if the hostess

offers something more, it would be ok to accept.

Sue

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

>

>

> Some kids are just not brought up well. You need to explain I have

done

> this

> with my neighbors kids. I love her I love her kids but they are not

well

> mannered.

>

> I explained it this way to her NT daughter who is also 6.

>

> Honey listen if I offer you a drink and you except it that's ok. It's

> polite. If you ask me it isn't polite. What if you ask for something

I

> don't have? That hurts my feelings. Your mom does not want you to

ask

> for

> things. If I offer you can except but not unless you are offered

> something

> because that's good manners.

>

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes

total.

> We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to

find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

>

> Good luck!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks! That would work if I didn't know them too well, first time at their

house, etc. I'll teach that. Hehe, first I have to stop teaching

him to YELL his YESA and NOA in response to questions. sheesh!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

My feeling is it's ok to ask for a glass of water, then if the hostess

offers something more, it would be ok to accept.

Sue

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

>

>

> Some kids are just not brought up well. You need to explain I have

done

> this

> with my neighbors kids. I love her I love her kids but they are not

well

> mannered.

>

> I explained it this way to her NT daughter who is also 6.

>

> Honey listen if I offer you a drink and you except it that's ok. It's

> polite. If you ask me it isn't polite. What if you ask for something

I

> don't have? That hurts my feelings. Your mom does not want you to

ask

> for

> things. If I offer you can except but not unless you are offered

> something

> because that's good manners.

>

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes

total.

> We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to

find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

>

> Good luck!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks! That would work if I didn't know them too well, first time at their

house, etc. I'll teach that. Hehe, first I have to stop teaching

him to YELL his YESA and NOA in response to questions. sheesh!

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

My feeling is it's ok to ask for a glass of water, then if the hostess

offers something more, it would be ok to accept.

Sue

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

>

>

> Some kids are just not brought up well. You need to explain I have

done

> this

> with my neighbors kids. I love her I love her kids but they are not

well

> mannered.

>

> I explained it this way to her NT daughter who is also 6.

>

> Honey listen if I offer you a drink and you except it that's ok. It's

> polite. If you ask me it isn't polite. What if you ask for something

I

> don't have? That hurts my feelings. Your mom does not want you to

ask

> for

> things. If I offer you can except but not unless you are offered

> something

> because that's good manners.

>

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes

total.

> We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to

find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

>

> Good luck!

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a drink

if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious social

issues, so I honestly don't know. <

i'm with you. i don't think i really ever ask for a drink, even if i'm dying of

thirst. i even usually turn down one when offered to me!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a drink

if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious social

issues, so I honestly don't know. <

i'm with you. i don't think i really ever ask for a drink, even if i'm dying of

thirst. i even usually turn down one when offered to me!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a drink

if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have serious social

issues, so I honestly don't know. <

i'm with you. i don't think i really ever ask for a drink, even if i'm dying of

thirst. i even usually turn down one when offered to me!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a

drink if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have

serious social issues, so I honestly don't know. <

i'm with you. i don't think i really ever ask for a drink, even if i'm

dying of thirst. i even usually turn down one when offered to me!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> Okay, this is an actual serious question. Is it impolite to ask for a

drink if you're visiting someone, or is that just for kids? I do have

serious social issues, so I honestly don't know. <

i'm with you. i don't think i really ever ask for a drink, even if i'm

dying of thirst. i even usually turn down one when offered to me!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> ,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen <

oh, me too, for sure. what a couple of nuts we are, huh?

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> ,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen <

oh, me too, for sure. what a couple of nuts we are, huh?

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> ,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen <

oh, me too, for sure. what a couple of nuts we are, huh?

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

would not eat the first few times at my house. Now at least she'll eat.

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> ,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen <

oh, me too, for sure. what a couple of nuts we are, huh?

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

would not eat the first few times at my house. Now at least she'll eat.

Re: dealing with NT kids? (again)

> ,

I even have a hard time asking where the bathroom is. :-(

ellen <

oh, me too, for sure. what a couple of nuts we are, huh?

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> Let make the ultimate choice about Ben.

>

Yes, I do agree with you there. It doesn't really matter how much I don't

like him; ERIC likes him, and so far he's no worse off for having Ben

around. In fact, he's a little tougher. He's learning some great lessons

about not tattling and learning to resolve situations himself.

I won't take a friend away from , even if the kid does give me the

creeps.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> Since you're using Ben as a method of learning how to handle

> situations, I was wondering if you have discussions with about Ben's

> behaviour after he leaves?

Sometimes, sometimes not. You gave me some very good suggestions! Thanks!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> Since you're using Ben as a method of learning how to handle

> situations, I was wondering if you have discussions with about Ben's

> behaviour after he leaves?

Sometimes, sometimes not. You gave me some very good suggestions! Thanks!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> Since you're using Ben as a method of learning how to handle

> situations, I was wondering if you have discussions with about Ben's

> behaviour after he leaves?

Sometimes, sometimes not. You gave me some very good suggestions! Thanks!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> yes, i suppose that's true, but, ummm, it doesn't seem to be working too

well for you. no offense meant, i wouldn't be able to stand it.

>

Yeah, but I'm peripheral to the situation. It's not MY life we're dealing

with here, it's 's -- and he needs to be able to know he has a friend.

I think the boost to 's self esteem and social skills is more important

than my discomfort and irritation, as much as I am miserable when Ben's

around. :-I

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> Then I asked if she had any questions. This took about 20 minutes total.

We

> still need to remind her. You're in Canada so you should be able to find

> some of the Anne Langdon books. I have three for that I got on

> feelings. What it means to be... they have different ones.

I will look for them! Thanks!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> wow he is a gutsy kid. I so look forward to the boys getting old enough to

have friends over NOT!! I think I would go with a short " Ben, in my house

guests do not go into my fridge. If you don't like what was offered, then

you need to go home to get your drinks "

>

I like that, karen. I think I can say that one.

> One of my friend's had company over and the company got the jar of mayo

out of the fridge and let her two yr. old lick the inside of the cover!!

yuck!!

>

UGH! Not only is that rude and uncouth, but it's extremely dangerous --

saliva in food is a breeding ground for bacteria! GROSS!

Jacquie