Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I remember my ped asking at 18 and 24 months if he was talking yet, and I said no each time. He didn't ask after that. :-| Finally when he was 2 1/2 years, I called for a consultation. Luckily a new ped had joined the service, and sat in with us. They agreed that he should be evaled, but weren't really concerned. } ellen Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? Stupid Ped? I went through 4 count them FOUR pediatricians in the first service I was with. I asked all FOUR, is there something wrong with my kid? She's almost 3 and not talking. " Some days I think she's autistic. Oh not as severe as an autistic child " (maniacal laughter, what did I know about autism? Just what I'd seen on TV. boy was I ignorant.) They kept saying, " If she was autistic, you'd know it. " Well DUH! But I had to change pediatricians to even get a speech eval done! And this is after I questioned these doctors for almost a year and a half!! They kept saying " she'll out grow it. " (meaning the speech delay.) So it's entirely possible the pediatrician isn't paying any attention to the child, and it wouldn't matter if the mom did ask. If she's not determined enough to push for testing, it won't happen until he hits school and then it's too late for early intervention. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I remember my ped asking at 18 and 24 months if he was talking yet, and I said no each time. He didn't ask after that. :-| Finally when he was 2 1/2 years, I called for a consultation. Luckily a new ped had joined the service, and sat in with us. They agreed that he should be evaled, but weren't really concerned. } ellen Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? Stupid Ped? I went through 4 count them FOUR pediatricians in the first service I was with. I asked all FOUR, is there something wrong with my kid? She's almost 3 and not talking. " Some days I think she's autistic. Oh not as severe as an autistic child " (maniacal laughter, what did I know about autism? Just what I'd seen on TV. boy was I ignorant.) They kept saying, " If she was autistic, you'd know it. " Well DUH! But I had to change pediatricians to even get a speech eval done! And this is after I questioned these doctors for almost a year and a half!! They kept saying " she'll out grow it. " (meaning the speech delay.) So it's entirely possible the pediatrician isn't paying any attention to the child, and it wouldn't matter if the mom did ask. If she's not determined enough to push for testing, it won't happen until he hits school and then it's too late for early intervention. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. Ah, I'm just like a dog whose jaws lock when it grabs on to something. Other words to describe me: pig-headed, narrow-minded, fixated, obsessive, stubborn... Not that it did me any good, mind you. was diagnosed a full year and a half older than Mikey was. LOL. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. Ah, I'm just like a dog whose jaws lock when it grabs on to something. Other words to describe me: pig-headed, narrow-minded, fixated, obsessive, stubborn... Not that it did me any good, mind you. was diagnosed a full year and a half older than Mikey was. LOL. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. Ah, I'm just like a dog whose jaws lock when it grabs on to something. Other words to describe me: pig-headed, narrow-minded, fixated, obsessive, stubborn... Not that it did me any good, mind you. was diagnosed a full year and a half older than Mikey was. LOL. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. Jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < hahaha, that book should be OUTLAWED! i would look at what she SHOULD be doing any given month, and if she wasn't doing everything, i would jump ahead to other months and see that she was doing some stuff that she SHOULDN'T be doing for many more months and kind of make myself feel better. geez... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. Jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < hahaha, that book should be OUTLAWED! i would look at what she SHOULD be doing any given month, and if she wasn't doing everything, i would jump ahead to other months and see that she was doing some stuff that she SHOULDN'T be doing for many more months and kind of make myself feel better. geez... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. Jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < hahaha, that book should be OUTLAWED! i would look at what she SHOULD be doing any given month, and if she wasn't doing everything, i would jump ahead to other months and see that she was doing some stuff that she SHOULDN'T be doing for many more months and kind of make myself feel better. geez... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 months old I hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for a diagnosis I knew was there. > *waving wildly* Now you have. was my first. I started questioning 's doctors at 9 months. The only experience I'd had was with my nephew who's ADHD. The rest of my nieces and nephews are fine. There isn't any mental retardation in mine or my husband's families. I worked in an office, not with young kids. I knew NOTHING about special needs. I do think 's problems got worse after her 3rd DTP and I wonder if it's a matter of timing or if the shots exacerbated her condition. > I didn't know it was autism, but I knew it was SOMETHING. I suggested autism to the doctors around 18 mos. They blew me off. I was never referred for therapy but I know they thought it a time or two. wasn't officially diagnosed with autism until she was 6. When she was 8 and about 3 years after her IQ tests were done, I finally calmed down enough to make copies of her test results and send them to the ped's service that we had used. I told them I wasn't angry with them anymore and I wasn't blaming them. But I did want to make them aware that they didn't even take me seriously enough to note it in her chart!! I told them they REALLY needed to listen to their parents a lot closer. I also told them that I really wish they'd been right and that I didn't have to write that letter. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 months old I hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for a diagnosis I knew was there. > *waving wildly* Now you have. was my first. I started questioning 's doctors at 9 months. The only experience I'd had was with my nephew who's ADHD. The rest of my nieces and nephews are fine. There isn't any mental retardation in mine or my husband's families. I worked in an office, not with young kids. I knew NOTHING about special needs. I do think 's problems got worse after her 3rd DTP and I wonder if it's a matter of timing or if the shots exacerbated her condition. > I didn't know it was autism, but I knew it was SOMETHING. I suggested autism to the doctors around 18 mos. They blew me off. I was never referred for therapy but I know they thought it a time or two. wasn't officially diagnosed with autism until she was 6. When she was 8 and about 3 years after her IQ tests were done, I finally calmed down enough to make copies of her test results and send them to the ped's service that we had used. I told them I wasn't angry with them anymore and I wasn't blaming them. But I did want to make them aware that they didn't even take me seriously enough to note it in her chart!! I told them they REALLY needed to listen to their parents a lot closer. I also told them that I really wish they'd been right and that I didn't have to write that letter. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 months old I hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for a diagnosis I knew was there. > *waving wildly* Now you have. was my first. I started questioning 's doctors at 9 months. The only experience I'd had was with my nephew who's ADHD. The rest of my nieces and nephews are fine. There isn't any mental retardation in mine or my husband's families. I worked in an office, not with young kids. I knew NOTHING about special needs. I do think 's problems got worse after her 3rd DTP and I wonder if it's a matter of timing or if the shots exacerbated her condition. > I didn't know it was autism, but I knew it was SOMETHING. I suggested autism to the doctors around 18 mos. They blew me off. I was never referred for therapy but I know they thought it a time or two. wasn't officially diagnosed with autism until she was 6. When she was 8 and about 3 years after her IQ tests were done, I finally calmed down enough to make copies of her test results and send them to the ped's service that we had used. I told them I wasn't angry with them anymore and I wasn't blaming them. But I did want to make them aware that they didn't even take me seriously enough to note it in her chart!! I told them they REALLY needed to listen to their parents a lot closer. I also told them that I really wish they'd been right and that I didn't have to write that letter. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yessenia dna Alec are my " rules " babies. Greggory could care less. He just didnt want to be touched or held and Yessenia and Alec like to be. Hmmmmm jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yessenia dna Alec are my " rules " babies. Greggory could care less. He just didnt want to be touched or held and Yessenia and Alec like to be. Hmmmmm jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yessenia dna Alec are my " rules " babies. Greggory could care less. He just didnt want to be touched or held and Yessenia and Alec like to be. Hmmmmm jacquie H Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something > that went missed in your own babyhood? > > Salli I can't speak for Sara, but if I had to guess for myself, I'd say that it was just a strict observance of the rules: THIS is how babies are *supposed* to be, but THAT is the way my baby is -- so something is wrong. Marc hid all my baby books when was less than a year old because he said I was torturing myself with them -- but every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. He didn't fall under ANY of the " rules " for babies I ever read. Or observed. Also, from the first moments coming in contact with other babies I saw that mine had more demanding needs. I lived by his schedule -- when everyone else was telling me HE needed to live by MINE. But that was impossible! I'd see other moms taking their child out for the afternoon - but if missed his afternoon nap, which he could ONLY take at home in his bed, life was misery for the rest of the day. The other moms criticised me for catering to him -- but it was the only way we could live. So again, I knew he wasn't " following the rules " , if you will. Had I been more able to comfortably say to myself, " oh, he's just his own person, " I'm sure I'd not have worried about it for a lot longer. But I literally live my life by the books -- and he wasn't in the books! LOL. Jacquie PS -- on the empathy side, this morning my mother was marvelling that from the day he was born I was able to 'read' him -- like everyone kept swaddling him while he screamed, and I grabbed him and said, " Don't! He hates to be wrapped up! " , unwrapped him and laid him in the bassinet - where he went straight to sleep. " Not like any other baby I'd EVER seen, " my mom said this morning. She said she'd have kept swaddling him because that's what you're supposed to do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. > Jacquie H > ----- Original Message ----- > > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < > > hit so many of the milestones. She did all the physical landmarks at the average to slow end of normal. What she didn't do was coo back, or respond to voices. She would also cry for hours on end then be the sweetest baby for weeks on end. She never liked to be swaddled tight, but she didn't like to be totally unwrapped either. : / She would get very upset at sounds and noises only I could hear. (I do have sensitive hearing.) I remember walking through a local Air Force museum when she was about 14 mos. old. She LOVED the overhead lights. I couldn't hardly hold her because she was arching her back so hard to see the lights. I couldn't put her in her stroller because that was too far away from the lights. Her autistic behaviors are mild, but the mental retardation isn't. ( By 15 mos. she was falling farther and farther behind on language and cognitive skills. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. > Jacquie H > ----- Original Message ----- > > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < > > hit so many of the milestones. She did all the physical landmarks at the average to slow end of normal. What she didn't do was coo back, or respond to voices. She would also cry for hours on end then be the sweetest baby for weeks on end. She never liked to be swaddled tight, but she didn't like to be totally unwrapped either. : / She would get very upset at sounds and noises only I could hear. (I do have sensitive hearing.) I remember walking through a local Air Force museum when she was about 14 mos. old. She LOVED the overhead lights. I couldn't hardly hold her because she was arching her back so hard to see the lights. I couldn't put her in her stroller because that was too far away from the lights. Her autistic behaviors are mild, but the mental retardation isn't. ( By 15 mos. she was falling farther and farther behind on language and cognitive skills. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am reading that book right now with Yessenia. None of my kids followed the typical path. I have no idea what that means anymore. > Jacquie H > ----- Original Message ----- > > every month of the 'What to Expect the First Year' was like a manual for some species other than that my baby was. < > > hit so many of the milestones. She did all the physical landmarks at the average to slow end of normal. What she didn't do was coo back, or respond to voices. She would also cry for hours on end then be the sweetest baby for weeks on end. She never liked to be swaddled tight, but she didn't like to be totally unwrapped either. : / She would get very upset at sounds and noises only I could hear. (I do have sensitive hearing.) I remember walking through a local Air Force museum when she was about 14 mos. old. She LOVED the overhead lights. I couldn't hardly hold her because she was arching her back so hard to see the lights. I couldn't put her in her stroller because that was too far away from the lights. Her autistic behaviors are mild, but the mental retardation isn't. ( By 15 mos. she was falling farther and farther behind on language and cognitive skills. Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 >I tried parenting him just like , he would have nothing to do with it. He would feed to feed and that was it. He's still not mister cuddle unless it suits him. He is going to be hard one to get through too. I just know it > Not necessarily, . When was a baby, he screamed when I tried to cuddle him. He was happiest being bottlefed lying across my lap. I couldn't breast feed him because he couldn't tolerate the closeness. All that skin-to-skin contact that's supposed to be so nurturing? You'd have thought I was trying to light him on fire. But he's a good kid. Very loving and affectionate. Just on HIS terms, is all. And he is UTTERLY bonded to me, sometimes too much for my comfort. :-) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 >I tried parenting him just like , he would have nothing to do with it. He would feed to feed and that was it. He's still not mister cuddle unless it suits him. He is going to be hard one to get through too. I just know it > Not necessarily, . When was a baby, he screamed when I tried to cuddle him. He was happiest being bottlefed lying across my lap. I couldn't breast feed him because he couldn't tolerate the closeness. All that skin-to-skin contact that's supposed to be so nurturing? You'd have thought I was trying to light him on fire. But he's a good kid. Very loving and affectionate. Just on HIS terms, is all. And he is UTTERLY bonded to me, sometimes too much for my comfort. :-) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 >I tried parenting him just like , he would have nothing to do with it. He would feed to feed and that was it. He's still not mister cuddle unless it suits him. He is going to be hard one to get through too. I just know it > Not necessarily, . When was a baby, he screamed when I tried to cuddle him. He was happiest being bottlefed lying across my lap. I couldn't breast feed him because he couldn't tolerate the closeness. All that skin-to-skin contact that's supposed to be so nurturing? You'd have thought I was trying to light him on fire. But he's a good kid. Very loving and affectionate. Just on HIS terms, is all. And he is UTTERLY bonded to me, sometimes too much for my comfort. :-) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 You tried to reach out and she's not ready for it. In time I promise you that she will look back and wish she had not been so snotty about it. Remember though she she is uneducated in autism that she is thinking the worst. I had the same thing happen with a mother I met at a playgroup. He wasn't autistic but was not talking. I called a couple times and gave her a few websites aprasia etc to look into. She never called me back so I let it go. I'll reach out twice at most I don't have energy for more than that. Hugs to Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 You tried to reach out and she's not ready for it. In time I promise you that she will look back and wish she had not been so snotty about it. Remember though she she is uneducated in autism that she is thinking the worst. I had the same thing happen with a mother I met at a playgroup. He wasn't autistic but was not talking. I called a couple times and gave her a few websites aprasia etc to look into. She never called me back so I let it go. I'll reach out twice at most I don't have energy for more than that. Hugs to Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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