Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yes, her looking into it is what matters. Is it me, or does she sound a touch defensive to you too? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yes, her looking into it is what matters. Is it me, or does she sound a touch defensive to you too? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > That is a real bee in my bonnet and is the reason I keep bothering people > about having their kids evaluated when they do not seem to be developing > normally. Having an eval never hurts anybody. At the worst it is an un-needed expense of time and money -- but I won't even call it a waste, because gaining knowledge is never a waste. Not having an eval, on the other hand... The problem is that most people have to admit to themselves that something MIGHT be wrong before they will seek that eval. And then of course there is the whole other problem of actually getting one, and having it be with a person who knows. They should just make the things mandatory and then none of us would have to go through this. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > That is a real bee in my bonnet and is the reason I keep bothering people > about having their kids evaluated when they do not seem to be developing > normally. Having an eval never hurts anybody. At the worst it is an un-needed expense of time and money -- but I won't even call it a waste, because gaining knowledge is never a waste. Not having an eval, on the other hand... The problem is that most people have to admit to themselves that something MIGHT be wrong before they will seek that eval. And then of course there is the whole other problem of actually getting one, and having it be with a person who knows. They should just make the things mandatory and then none of us would have to go through this. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > That is a real bee in my bonnet and is the reason I keep bothering people > about having their kids evaluated when they do not seem to be developing > normally. Having an eval never hurts anybody. At the worst it is an un-needed expense of time and money -- but I won't even call it a waste, because gaining knowledge is never a waste. Not having an eval, on the other hand... The problem is that most people have to admit to themselves that something MIGHT be wrong before they will seek that eval. And then of course there is the whole other problem of actually getting one, and having it be with a person who knows. They should just make the things mandatory and then none of us would have to go through this. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Ok, never mind my other post. I see that I am not the only one who took it that way. I hope she still considers you her friend. I do like the jist of the post you sent back to her. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Ok, never mind my other post. I see that I am not the only one who took it that way. I hope she still considers you her friend. I do like the jist of the post you sent back to her. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Ok, never mind my other post. I see that I am not the only one who took it that way. I hope she still considers you her friend. I do like the jist of the post you sent back to her. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 One reason that you were so able to take this as she meant it and not be too hurt was that you KNOW her, and we do not. That makes a BIG difference. {{Salli}} for being such a good friend. ellen Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > Oh Salli, you are a GOOD person, and generous and understanding in spirit in > deed. > > I do so admire you. > Oh, Jacquie, you understand all this too. It's just that you would have been hurt by her failure to recognize your good intentions. I am a bit too, but I realize it is not surprising (and I bet you do too). It's hard but it is all perfectly normal and expected. > Jacquie > -who hopes you don't read sarcasm there where there is NONE. > I do not. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 One reason that you were so able to take this as she meant it and not be too hurt was that you KNOW her, and we do not. That makes a BIG difference. {{Salli}} for being such a good friend. ellen Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > Oh Salli, you are a GOOD person, and generous and understanding in spirit in > deed. > > I do so admire you. > Oh, Jacquie, you understand all this too. It's just that you would have been hurt by her failure to recognize your good intentions. I am a bit too, but I realize it is not surprising (and I bet you do too). It's hard but it is all perfectly normal and expected. > Jacquie > -who hopes you don't read sarcasm there where there is NONE. > I do not. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 One reason that you were so able to take this as she meant it and not be too hurt was that you KNOW her, and we do not. That makes a BIG difference. {{Salli}} for being such a good friend. ellen Re: From my friend whose son seemed autistic... > Oh Salli, you are a GOOD person, and generous and understanding in spirit in > deed. > > I do so admire you. > Oh, Jacquie, you understand all this too. It's just that you would have been hurt by her failure to recognize your good intentions. I am a bit too, but I realize it is not surprising (and I bet you do too). It's hard but it is all perfectly normal and expected. > Jacquie > -who hopes you don't read sarcasm there where there is NONE. > I do not. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Silly ! You never offend me. Not at all. So quit worrying about it, okay? Salli < ok, i will. THANK YOU! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli < ain't that the truth! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli < ain't that the truth! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli < ain't that the truth! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 > months old I > hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or > could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that > young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with > special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the > head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for > a diagnosis I knew was there. I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. He was just a little different. The Doctor Said So. I sincerely wish I had known the words " developmental evaluation " a year earlier than I learned them. From Salli, by the way. > Thank goodness it did. Two weeks after his diagnosis, I took a bouquet of > flowers, a box I'd painted myself, and a thank-you card to the woman who > suggested it to me. She cried. *sniff* I just bet she did. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 > months old I > hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or > could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that > young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with > special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the > head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for > a diagnosis I knew was there. I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. He was just a little different. The Doctor Said So. I sincerely wish I had known the words " developmental evaluation " a year earlier than I learned them. From Salli, by the way. > Thank goodness it did. Two weeks after his diagnosis, I took a bouquet of > flowers, a box I'd painted myself, and a thank-you card to the woman who > suggested it to me. She cried. *sniff* I just bet she did. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I am probably part of a 1% minority. From the time was 14 > months old I > hounded doctors and speech therapists for answers that they would not or > could not give me. I've never heard of anyone else doing that from that > young an age, at least not a first-time parent with no experience with > special-needs children. I was blown off, condescended to, patted on the > head, and referred for therapy. But I kept on hounding them for > a diagnosis I knew was there. I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. He was just a little different. The Doctor Said So. I sincerely wish I had known the words " developmental evaluation " a year earlier than I learned them. From Salli, by the way. > Thank goodness it did. Two weeks after his diagnosis, I took a bouquet of > flowers, a box I'd painted myself, and a thank-you card to the woman who > suggested it to me. She cried. *sniff* I just bet she did. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli < you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli < you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three > now. > > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > > > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Yes. One told me it was perfectly normal for kids not to talk at 2. Um. Even my wonderful ped who I love told me that her child was not talking at 18 months and she was not at all worried. But she really does NOT know very much about autism and she does at least admit that. Still, she knows more than the other yahoos I saw when he was 12-18 months old, because we were not in the room together for 5 minutes before she said " the A word. " She had been on maternity leave before that. But then, when *I* say " not talking " I mean " no words at all, not even mama or dada. " When other people say " not talking " they often mean different things. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three > now. > > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > > > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Yes. One told me it was perfectly normal for kids not to talk at 2. Um. Even my wonderful ped who I love told me that her child was not talking at 18 months and she was not at all worried. But she really does NOT know very much about autism and she does at least admit that. Still, she knows more than the other yahoos I saw when he was 12-18 months old, because we were not in the room together for 5 minutes before she said " the A word. " She had been on maternity leave before that. But then, when *I* say " not talking " I mean " no words at all, not even mama or dada. " When other people say " not talking " they often mean different things. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three > now. > > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > > > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Yes. One told me it was perfectly normal for kids not to talk at 2. Um. Even my wonderful ped who I love told me that her child was not talking at 18 months and she was not at all worried. But she really does NOT know very much about autism and she does at least admit that. Still, she knows more than the other yahoos I saw when he was 12-18 months old, because we were not in the room together for 5 minutes before she said " the A word. " She had been on maternity leave before that. But then, when *I* say " not talking " I mean " no words at all, not even mama or dada. " When other people say " not talking " they often mean different things. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli < you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... , I don't think there is one good ped around here. Most know nothing and won't help. At least the ones I've found. Now here we start again with and Trevor, I'm so tired of the battle. I just wish someone else esp my ped would see what I do. " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli < you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... , I don't think there is one good ped around here. Most know nothing and won't help. At least the ones I've found. Now here we start again with and Trevor, I'm so tired of the battle. I just wish someone else esp my ped would see what I do. " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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