Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > i forgot to apologize to this. i do NOT think your friend is a bitch. not in the least. i think she had a bitchy response to your help, but, like i said, i don't blame her for that. i hope i haven't upset you anymore than you already were cause i honestly didn't mean to > , dear, you have definitely not upset me. Not even a little teensy-weensy bit. A bitchy response, well, perhaps, but we know why and it is okay. When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > i forgot to apologize to this. i do NOT think your friend is a bitch. not in the least. i think she had a bitchy response to your help, but, like i said, i don't blame her for that. i hope i haven't upset you anymore than you already were cause i honestly didn't mean to > , dear, you have definitely not upset me. Not even a little teensy-weensy bit. A bitchy response, well, perhaps, but we know why and it is okay. When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > i forgot to apologize to this. i do NOT think your friend is a bitch. not in the least. i think she had a bitchy response to your help, but, like i said, i don't blame her for that. i hope i haven't upset you anymore than you already were cause i honestly didn't mean to > , dear, you have definitely not upset me. Not even a little teensy-weensy bit. A bitchy response, well, perhaps, but we know why and it is okay. When someone attacks our children we do tend to attack back. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > ugh, i feel like i'm offending you all over the place here. if i'm not, PLEASE tell me. but if i am, i'm TRULY sorry > Silly ! You never offend me. Not at all. So quit worrying about it, okay? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > Yes, her looking into it is what matters. Is it me, or does she sound a > touch defensive to you too? Of course she does! Wouldn't anyone? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three now. > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three now. > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > His mother doesn't want to hear and won't take him to be evaluated. It's > been a year and my friend says the kid still isn't talking. He's three now. > I wonder how she keeps her ped from finding out something's wrong? > Pediatricians are weird. They don't seem to know beans about autism. Sigh. I hate how often this seems to happen. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 > months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well > baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. How very interesting that those of us who are clearly NT are so less astute on autism than those of us who are probably somewhere on the spectrum (for so I do place both Sara and Jacquie). So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something that went missed in your own babyhood? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 > months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well > baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. How very interesting that those of us who are clearly NT are so less astute on autism than those of us who are probably somewhere on the spectrum (for so I do place both Sara and Jacquie). So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something that went missed in your own babyhood? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > I would not say that I *hounded* anyone but I made 4 seperate appts in 6 > months to discuss my concerns about , starting with his 12 month well > baby check. Like you, I was and patted on the head (although I was NOT > referred for therapy!) but unlike you I accepted the pats gratefully because > obviously there was nothing seriously wrong with my child. How very interesting that those of us who are clearly NT are so less astute on autism than those of us who are probably somewhere on the spectrum (for so I do place both Sara and Jacquie). So much for theories of empathy. Did you both just recognize something that went missed in your own babyhood? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... > Well, Putter is healthy as a horse. Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... > Well, Putter is healthy as a horse. Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > you know, i think that might be a big reason why it took me so long to accept it about kailey. whenever i would go to the ped and mention something i was concerned about, the not eating, the not sleeping, etc, he always passed it off as no big deal. she was healthy, so he wasn't concerned... > Well, Putter is healthy as a horse. Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? > > Let's shoot them all and be peds ourselves. > Ha, ha, bloodthirsty Sara! But why not? The fiends. They stop us from finding out the truth when it is better to know sooner than later. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? > > Let's shoot them all and be peds ourselves. > Ha, ha, bloodthirsty Sara! But why not? The fiends. They stop us from finding out the truth when it is better to know sooner than later. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > > Let's skip shooting all the lawyers and just shoot all the peds, shall we? > > Let's shoot them all and be peds ourselves. > Ha, ha, bloodthirsty Sara! But why not? The fiends. They stop us from finding out the truth when it is better to know sooner than later. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > They kept saying, " If she was autistic, you'd know it. " > > Well DUH! I was so stupid. I was in such denial. After it all came about -- the evals, etc. I realized the questions my ped had been asking for months were all about autism. I was too dense to know. So when I finally brought it up, he was very quick to agree with me. I was the one who kept saying " he'll grow out of it " and " No really, he does say words. He says words to me " " yes, he makes eye contact " and so on -- only he was actually growing " into " it and the few words he'd had, had disappeared and he no longer made eye contact. For a while I thought I had imagined the words and the eye contact, etc,. but I have it all on videotape. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > They kept saying, " If she was autistic, you'd know it. " > > Well DUH! I was so stupid. I was in such denial. After it all came about -- the evals, etc. I realized the questions my ped had been asking for months were all about autism. I was too dense to know. So when I finally brought it up, he was very quick to agree with me. I was the one who kept saying " he'll grow out of it " and " No really, he does say words. He says words to me " " yes, he makes eye contact " and so on -- only he was actually growing " into " it and the few words he'd had, had disappeared and he no longer made eye contact. For a while I thought I had imagined the words and the eye contact, etc,. but I have it all on videotape. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > They kept saying, " If she was autistic, you'd know it. " > > Well DUH! I was so stupid. I was in such denial. After it all came about -- the evals, etc. I realized the questions my ped had been asking for months were all about autism. I was too dense to know. So when I finally brought it up, he was very quick to agree with me. I was the one who kept saying " he'll grow out of it " and " No really, he does say words. He says words to me " " yes, he makes eye contact " and so on -- only he was actually growing " into " it and the few words he'd had, had disappeared and he no longer made eye contact. For a while I thought I had imagined the words and the eye contact, etc,. but I have it all on videotape. Sissi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > You tried to reach out and she's not ready for it. In time I promise you > that she will look back and wish she had not been so snotty about it. > Remember though she she is uneducated in autism that she is thinking the > worst. Yes. I am sure she is. Actually I suspect that what happened is that she went home to her husband and he totally blew me off. She was happy to learn that he thought I was so wrong, and then felt angry at me for frightening her. > > I had the same thing happen with a mother I met at a playgroup. He wasn't > autistic but was not talking. I called a couple times and gave her a few > websites aprasia etc to look into. She never called me back so I let it go. > I'll reach out twice at most I don't have energy for more than that. > No, indeed, you work very hard, , for . Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > You tried to reach out and she's not ready for it. In time I promise you > that she will look back and wish she had not been so snotty about it. > Remember though she she is uneducated in autism that she is thinking the > worst. Yes. I am sure she is. Actually I suspect that what happened is that she went home to her husband and he totally blew me off. She was happy to learn that he thought I was so wrong, and then felt angry at me for frightening her. > > I had the same thing happen with a mother I met at a playgroup. He wasn't > autistic but was not talking. I called a couple times and gave her a few > websites aprasia etc to look into. She never called me back so I let it go. > I'll reach out twice at most I don't have energy for more than that. > No, indeed, you work very hard, , for . Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > You know, I was just thinking that you could send her a response just asking her to let you know what she finds out. > I considered that but then I feared it would sound too much like I was sitting there waiting for me to be proved right and her to be proved wrong. Don't like that feeling at all; I would love to be wrong. I suspect that I will not hear from her again at all unless he does receive an autism dx. And now I am wondering if she has found the right people to take him to. A number of weeks ago, before I thought anything about autism with him at all, I suggested she take him to the early intervention people at Putter's old school. They know their stuff and they are free, I told her (can't beat that!) so I hope that is where she is going. If she gets his hearing evaluated first, which is what I had to do, then it will be even longer and I do not think she will even hear the word autism. I did not, just a murmur under the breath when I told the hearing evaluator that Putter's doctor had said he was not autistic, just a whisper of, " Well, it does look very like... " And Putter's psychologist did not run any tests on him, merely telling me that she knew what others would call it, and I did not dare to ask her to tell me exactly what others would call it. She knew all about Putter though and kept pointing out what I thought were unique Putter behaviors and mentioning that they were typical behaviors among the kids that she saw (nearly all of whom have autism or Asperger's). Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 > You know, I was just thinking that you could send her a response just asking her to let you know what she finds out. > I considered that but then I feared it would sound too much like I was sitting there waiting for me to be proved right and her to be proved wrong. Don't like that feeling at all; I would love to be wrong. I suspect that I will not hear from her again at all unless he does receive an autism dx. And now I am wondering if she has found the right people to take him to. A number of weeks ago, before I thought anything about autism with him at all, I suggested she take him to the early intervention people at Putter's old school. They know their stuff and they are free, I told her (can't beat that!) so I hope that is where she is going. If she gets his hearing evaluated first, which is what I had to do, then it will be even longer and I do not think she will even hear the word autism. I did not, just a murmur under the breath when I told the hearing evaluator that Putter's doctor had said he was not autistic, just a whisper of, " Well, it does look very like... " And Putter's psychologist did not run any tests on him, merely telling me that she knew what others would call it, and I did not dare to ask her to tell me exactly what others would call it. She knew all about Putter though and kept pointing out what I thought were unique Putter behaviors and mentioning that they were typical behaviors among the kids that she saw (nearly all of whom have autism or Asperger's). Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2003 Report Share Posted January 3, 2003 Yes, her looking into it is what matters. Is it me, or does she sound a touch defensive to you too? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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