Re: Having a Really bad day- Any advice is appreciated!

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Krista ~

OK, now it is time to send in the guns....

I will send you something privately..........

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Oh Krista,I do understand. I really do. I remember you were saying your Hubby wanted to get you a kitten or a puppy. Maybe you should ask him to take you SPCA. We got my cat Prowler from the Oakville, Ontario Humane Society.As I type the little monkey is trying to eat my shoelaces. He is the light of my life. I've been sick since explant in July and you do have every right to feel frustrated. I had to get my surgeon to write my Hubby a letter spelling out what's going on and why I can't do anything. He's been good ever since. I know you are scared. I scared too. It's only been 9 days since surgery. Hang in there.Love TraciKrista <seekingthetruthaboutimplants@...> wrote: Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had since explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a lot of pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of days, my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so bad, that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of all of the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so frustrated and scared! My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he keeps making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he keeps going to the gym,

right now he said he is going on a walk because he needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and does not want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it! He said "I thought getting the implants out was going to take care of this?" I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at it, so then he said "then why aren't you working at it, you aren't doing anything." Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he says "you need to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel better." Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not just because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts too much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to understand what I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very good with handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to be

even keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is what he is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we won't get through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers, it's not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix the problem. There is no fix! I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my husband so much and I'm so tired of being sick. I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is there? Thanks for any advice. Love, Krista No hour of life is wasted that is spent in the saddle. ~Winston Churchill

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What else is there? Just time. I know that's hard to hear, Krista.

If I could wave a magic wand, I'd cure us all! I know this is tough

on our husbands, perhaps in some way tougher because they want to fix

us but don't know how. In the end though, maybe it'll bring you two

closer together in that it's a challenge you faced and made it

through to the bright side. You'll never take anything or each other

for granted!

You are working at it by resting. Vitamins make a lot of people feel

nauseated. Also, you're only 9 days post explant. Even after 2 c-

sections I was exhausted at 9 days. You just had your chest wall

scraped. That takes some serious healing alone.

You ask what you can do to get your husband to understand. Talk with

him, hold him. Tell him that things are going to be a little

different for a while but that you need him to get you through.

Promise him you're going to recover and keep that promise!

In the meantime, share activities you can do together...walks,

cooking, renting movies, sharing a bath. I know it's not the same

and believe me it's not easy! I sometimes think my husband should

have an affair and I'd be sort of ok with it...never imagined I'd

ever think that!! But I feel sorry that he and the kids are

suffering because of my illness.

How long have you been married? All marriages go through ups and

downs. This is your down but once you're recovered, you may share a

gift that most couples don't know.

You're doing the right things by resting and eating healthy. Just

hang in there. Even if it's two years to recover, which is what most

say on this forum, two years is nothing in the big scheme of life.

You can do it, Krista! You need to grab hold of that same courage

you had a couple weeks ago. Cry out what you need to and then move

forward!! Journalling helped me a lot in the beginning adjusting to

all this. I like looking back and being able to realize how I've

grown and improved spiritually and physically in just 6 months. The

same will happen for you! Love, PH

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>

> Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had since

> explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a lot of

> pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of days,

> my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so bad,

> that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of all

of

> the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

frustrated

> and scared!

> My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he keeps

> making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

keeps

> going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk because he

> needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and does not

> want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it! He

> said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care of

> this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at it, so

> then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't doing

> anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he says " you

need

> to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not just

> because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts too

> much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to understand

what

> I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very good

with

> handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to be

even

> keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is what

he

> is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we won't

get

> through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers, it's

> not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix the

> problem. There is no fix!

> I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my husband

so

> much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is there?

> Thanks for any advice.

> Love, Krista

>

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How are you and your Dad doing today?Love ya,TraciDGRAHAMA@... wrote: Krista ~ OK, now it is time to send in the guns.... I will send you something privately.......... Love DedeSee what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage. No hour of life is wasted that is spent in the saddle. ~Winston Churchill

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Traci ~

Dad is ok, he went to church......so he loved that.

I havent felt well today. Emotions are good, physically

pretty challenged. Alot of pain today, and too low bp,

kidney pain and the list goes on.....tomorrow will be better..

its just one of those very challenging days....my brain isnt

functioning well either.....

Thank you for asking, how are you my dear?

loveya ~ DedeSee what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage.

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Thanks PH. What you have to say always makes sense to me. Time so much

seems like the enemy right now. When I told my hubby that it takes

some women up to 2 years before they feel better, I know he thought to

himself " can we get through this? " I saw it all over his face. I feel

like we are in the prime of our lives (we have been married for 3

years,) both have good jobs, wonderful friends, wonderful social life

together, beautiful new home, getting ready to start a family and then

BAM! like a ton of bricks we were hit with this. The last year has

been so difficult for me, not only on my health, but

emotionally....I've been trying to hold my sh** together because I

didn't want him to know how sick I was, because I knew it would

frustrate him. So, I've been pretending to be less sick then I

actually am. I don't cry when I should, I don't say when I don't feel

good. I know this is contributing to my breakdown now, but I just

haven't known what else to do.

I sure hope you are right in saying that this will bring us closer

together. I hope we look back on this 10 years from now and can

say...remember when? Because right now...I just don't know about

anything. You're right, one of the hardest things about this is

hurting the ones that we love. I hate seeing him frustrated and angry,

I want to give him answers, but I have none.

I am going to try and talk to him again tonight, I just hope I can get

through to him.

Thanks again, PH.

Love, Krista

> >

> > Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had since

> > explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a lot of

> > pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of days,

> > my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so bad,

> > that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of all

> of

> > the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> > frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> > feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

> frustrated

> > and scared!

> > My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he keeps

> > making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

> keeps

> > going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk because he

> > needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and does not

> > want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> > behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it! He

> > said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care of

> > this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at it, so

> > then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't doing

> > anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he says " you

> need

> > to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> > better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not just

> > because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts too

> > much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to understand

> what

> > I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very good

> with

> > handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to be

> even

> > keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is what

> he

> > is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we won't

> get

> > through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers, it's

> > not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix the

> > problem. There is no fix!

> > I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my husband

> so

> > much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> > I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is there?

> > Thanks for any advice.

> > Love, Krista

> >

>

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Krista,

I wouldn't over-do it but I would try light excercise. It helps with the depression naturally. Perhaps even short walks.

It is tough on the husbands. I am sorry. It did get better for me but that also took time. I tried my best to keep us as "normal" as possible. Lynn

Having a Really bad day- Any advice is appreciated!

Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had sinceexplant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a lot ofpain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of days,my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so bad,that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of all ofthe different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just sofrustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've beenfeeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so frustratedand scared!My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he keepsmaking excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he keepsgoing to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk because heneeds to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and does notwant to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being leftbehind. I've tried to talk

to him, but he just does not get it! Hesaid "I thought getting the implants out was going to take care ofthis?" I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at it, sothen he said "then why aren't you working at it, you aren't doinganything." Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he says "you needto exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feelbetter." Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not justbecause I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts toomuch and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to understand whatI am going through and how he can support me? He's not very good withhandling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to be evenkeel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is what heis doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we won't getthrough this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers,

it'snot like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix theproblem. There is no fix!I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my husband somuch and I'm so tired of being sick. I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is there?Thanks for any advice.Love, Krista

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Stephie ~

Honey, remember you JUST had surgery......

You had alot of nasty meds IV during surgery....

your body is detoxing from those, and you are probably

reacting to that.........like herxing......and its no fun......

Also, you are probably having some adrenal fatigue from

being ill prior to explant, and from the surgery. Look in

the archives for adrenals and read about it, you can support

your adrenals at home without a doctor.

Your body is also in shock and unsure, it will take time for it

to realize what just happened. Bless your heart ~

Hugs Prayers and Hope~

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Krista,

When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not like turning on a light at the end of those years and being "well" . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . .

IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and realize how far you've come.

One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger and guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on healing.

You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

Hugs and prayers,

Rogene

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Krista,

I know what you're saying. I've been there with my husband. Right

now he's out with our boys grocery shopping...partly to help me but

also because I know he wants out of the house, if even for half an

hour!

Truly, though, if you can look at the blessings this illness has

brought, it makes it easier to get through. My husband and I have

had talks like none ever before in the first couple weeks after

explant. I've always known he loves me but when I truly thought I

was dying, we both shared things we hadn't with each other on a much

deeper level. I now know without a doubt we mean the world to one

another.

That being said, this same thing hit me at a time in my life when I

was on top of the world, emotionally, socially, financially,

occupationally. I had a lot of friends and traveled to beautiful

places at my heart's content. If I could have written a script for

my life, I had it. I had just finished my Master's, had a terrific

job and was looking forward to the additional time I'd get with the

boys. I certainly never thought this would happen. Even today I

looked in the mirror and said " I can't believe I'm in this

situation! "

But, the way I get through this is telling myself that this illness

is going to bring me life lessons, ultimate deep self-love I've never

known and eventual optimal health. I refuse to believe that I won't

overcome this!!!

Good luck tonight in talking with your husband. Speak from the

heart. Be honest with him. It only hurts you when you suppress your

fears or need to cry. Get it out and then move on with a plan of

attack on how you are going to conquer this. Tell him you need him

to be your cheerleader. If you haven't watched the movie The Secret,

watch it together, pray together, laugh together and plan something

special as a reward for when you are healed. Love, PH

> > >

> > > Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had

since

> > > explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a

lot of

> > > pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of

days,

> > > my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so

bad,

> > > that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of

all

> > of

> > > the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> > > frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> > > feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

> > frustrated

> > > and scared!

> > > My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he

keeps

> > > making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

> > keeps

> > > going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk

because he

> > > needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and

does not

> > > want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> > > behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it!

He

> > > said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care

of

> > > this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at

it, so

> > > then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't

doing

> > > anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he

says " you

> > need

> > > to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> > > better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not

just

> > > because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts

too

> > > much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to

understand

> > what

> > > I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very

good

> > with

> > > handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to

be

> > even

> > > keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is

what

> > he

> > > is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we

won't

> > get

> > > through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers,

it's

> > > not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix

the

> > > problem. There is no fix!

> > > I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my

husband

> > so

> > > much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> > > I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is

there?

> > > Thanks for any advice.

> > > Love, Krista

> > >

> >

>

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Krista,

Check ALL your supplements to see if any of them contain Silicone Dioxide. . . If you are hypersensitive to silicone dioxide, you will feel terribly ill! . . .

Start everything slowly so you know how you feel. . .

This isn't something you can rush! . . .

Guys like to be able to "fix" things. . . It's a man thing. . . They get really frustrated and feel powerless when they can't help the ones they love. . .. If you'll gently tell him what you need from him, it will be easier for him to give you the help he wants to give you. . .

This really tests a relationship . . . but most relationships come out much stronger for the experience. . . Good practice for your senior years!

Hugs,

Rogene

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Rogene, I would love to believe that but it's hard. I feel like crap.

My skin is pale, my eyes look glossy, I have fatigue and a headache.

This morning I woke up with an eye infection. My husband and I were

planning on having a baby but who knows when that can happen. I feel

that every day I feel worse and not better.

>

> Krista,

>

> When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that

you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not

like turning on a light at the end of those years and

being " well " . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely

notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . .

>

> IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely

experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad

days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and

realize how far you've come.

>

> One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger and

guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on

healing.

>

> You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do

everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

>

> Hugs and prayers,

>

> Rogene

>

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Stephie,Rogene is right. She's a very smart Lady. Because of complications I'm still healing from my July explant. I find the biggest gift you can give yourself is forgiveness.Hang in there.Love Tracistephie0580 <stephie0580@...> wrote: Rogene, I would love to believe that but it's hard. I feel like crap. My skin is pale, my eyes look glossy, I have fatigue and a headache. This morning I woke up with an eye infection. My husband and I were planning on having a baby but who knows when that can happen. I feel

that every day I feel worse and not better. > > Krista, > > When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not like turning on a light at the end of those years and being "well" . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . . > > IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and realize how far you've come. > > One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger and guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on

healing. > > You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do. > > Hugs and prayers, > > Rogene > No hour of life is wasted that is spent in the saddle. ~Winston Churchill

Never miss a thing. Make your homepage.

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Hi PH, I wish I could have the strength to take walks or even cook.

I've been so fatigued that I can't do anything besides lay in bed and

I've had a headache for the past 2 days.

> >

> > Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had

since

> > explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a lot

of

> > pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of

days,

> > my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so

bad,

> > that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of

all

> of

> > the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> > frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> > feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

> frustrated

> > and scared!

> > My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he

keeps

> > making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

> keeps

> > going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk because

he

> > needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and does

not

> > want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> > behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it! He

> > said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care of

> > this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at it,

so

> > then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't doing

> > anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he says " you

> need

> > to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> > better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not

just

> > because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts

too

> > much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to understand

> what

> > I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very good

> with

> > handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to be

> even

> > keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is

what

> he

> > is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we won't

> get

> > through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers,

it's

> > not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix

the

> > problem. There is no fix!

> > I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my

husband

> so

> > much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> > I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is

there?

> > Thanks for any advice.

> > Love, Krista

> >

>

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Stephie,

Just relax. Things will get better. You remind me of what I looked

like in the beginning. My hair had fallen out, I was pale gray with

red blotchy skin, red eyes, terribly skinny and listless looking. I

couldn't even raise my arms to blow dry my hair.

When I looked in the mirror I seriously sometimes didn't even

recognize myself. This past week when I got dressed and looked in

the mirror the old me is back looks-wise. I don't feel like myself

yet inside but people I haven't seen in a while haven't a clue that

I've been ill.

Five months ago I could barely walk down the stairs. Now I'm out

running errands. No, I'm definitely not recovered but I am improving

slowly but surely. Keep reminding yourself that our bodies have a

built-in healing mechanism. Every time you've had a cold, you've

recovered, right? Your body instinctually knows what to do. This is

no different, other than your body is healing at a deeper level and

it will take time. Patience, my friend. Love, PH

> >

> > Krista,

> >

> > When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that

> you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not

> like turning on a light at the end of those years and

> being " well " . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely

> notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . .

> >

> > IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely

> experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad

> days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and

> realize how far you've come.

> >

> > One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger

and

> guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on

> healing.

> >

> > You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do

> everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

> >

> > Hugs and prayers,

> >

> > Rogene

> >

>

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Stephie,

If I had to chose the most important thing in getting better after implants, it would be to eat a very healthy diet. . . .

The Maker's Diet is an outstanding place to start. . . .

Everything else can come later.

Hugs,

Rogene

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I know but the fatigue is really hard to deal with. I don't have the

energy and I just feel sick.

> >

> > Krista,

> >

> > When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that

> you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's

not

> like turning on a light at the end of those years and

> being " well " . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely

> notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . .

> >

> > IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely

> experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad

> days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and

> realize how far you've come.

> >

> > One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger

and

> guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on

> healing.

> >

> > You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do

> everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

> >

> > Hugs and prayers,

> >

> > Rogene

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

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Churchill

>

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[Guest guest]

Stephie,

That's been one of my biggest struggles is cooking and exercising in

the midst of fatigue. For now, you'll have to rely on someone to

cook if you can.

In the beginning my husband would cook a lot. On the weekends we

would put a serving of salmon or meat in a freezer bag with green

beans and onions or other veggies. We'd put about 10 meals in

different bags so that all I had to do when he was at work is put

them in a glass dish with coconut oil and garlic and in put them in

the oven.

You can wait on exercise for a while. Once you're feeling stronger,

exercise after a nap. I bought a $20 rebounder (mini trampoline)

from Walmart which is great exercise for releasing toxins. Even just

jumping for 2-3 minutes cycles toxins out through the lymph system. -

PH

> > >

> > > Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had

> since

> > > explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a

lot

> of

> > > pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of

> days,

> > > my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so

> bad,

> > > that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of

> all

> > of

> > > the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> > > frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> > > feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

> > frustrated

> > > and scared!

> > > My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he

> keeps

> > > making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

> > keeps

> > > going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk

because

> he

> > > needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and

does

> not

> > > want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> > > behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it!

He

> > > said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care

of

> > > this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at

it,

> so

> > > then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't

doing

> > > anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he

says " you

> > need

> > > to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> > > better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not

> just

> > > because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts

> too

> > > much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to

understand

> > what

> > > I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very

good

> > with

> > > handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to

be

> > even

> > > keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is

> what

> > he

> > > is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we

won't

> > get

> > > through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers,

> it's

> > > not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix

> the

> > > problem. There is no fix!

> > > I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my

> husband

> > so

> > > much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> > > I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is

> there?

> > > Thanks for any advice.

> > > Love, Krista

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Stephie,

I wish I had a key to turn the switch on how you're thinking.

You're actually making yourself worse through your thought pattern at this time.

It takes some mental gymnastics to change a mind set when you're where you're at right now . . . I wish I know which techniques would work for you!

I'd suggest finding someone who needs help more than you . . . A shut-in friend or family member who would appreciate a phone call . . . A funny video . . . a funny book . . . making something to surprise a friend - like a funny gift or card.

I'm afraid you're giving your symptoms too much energy right now . . . Write them down, then find something else to think about. . . Even if it means taking a break from the group while you do.

Where you're at right now isn't helping you physically, or mentally. . . . When we accept the mindset that we're sick and not going to get better, we quit doing what it takes to get better. . . . You have to take control of your health . .. You're the only one who can do it!

What's going on with you is not terminal. . . It's frustrating as ****, but you're going to get through it - one step at a time.

You're the only one who can take those steps! . . .

I really, truly wish it was easier!

Hugs and prayers,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

Rogene- Thanks for pointing that out. I'm picturing that I'm going to

be living like this for the next 2 years. That is unimaginable! I do

hope I start to feel better soon. I'm not sure what IMHO stands for,

but it is good to hear that this is the worst I will likely

experience. This is unlike anything I've ever felt before, and it

makes me feel so helpless. I know that I too, need to let go all of a

lot of the guilt and anger. I know I will get there....

Thanks for everything

Love, Krista

>

> Krista,

>

> When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that you

will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not like

turning on a light at the end of those years and being " well " . . .

It's a gradual process that you will barely notice, unless you are

keeping a journal. . .

>

> IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely experience . .

.. you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad days farther and

farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and realize how far

you've come.

>

> One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger and

guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on healing.

>

> You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do

everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

>

> Hugs and prayers,

>

> Rogene

>

[Guest guest]

Have you ladies seen the new vacuum seal bags? . . .

Walmart has a ten dollar, hand held vacuum sealer to use on special zip lock bags . . . You can use as much as you want and reseal the bag in seconds. . . The bags are more than the regular zip lock bags, but not nearly as much as the regular vacuum bags.

Wonderful for cooking ahead and freezing, or buying in bulk.

Hugs,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

Stephie,

There are a lot of veggies you can eat raw. In fact, raw is better . . . then all kinds of fruits and nuts . . . No cooking required. . .

Beans are so easy to cook in the slow cooker! . . . add whatever seasonings you like.

The hardest thing is drawing up your plan.

Hugs,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

PH- Wow, except for the part that you have kids now and I don't...we

are very similar. I talked to him tonight when he got back from his

walk, and it was very helpful for both of us. He understands better

what I need and I understand better what he is going through. He just

said that his work is very stressful (and it is,) and his school (he

is finishing his MBA) is stressful and that the added stress of my

health problems is taking it's toll on him, so that is why he feels

the need to get out of the house and go to the gym. He said he isn't

running away from me, just needs some time to de-stress. That was good

for me to hear. He understands now that I need him to communicate

better with me and try to understand that I am doing all I can to beat

this, and that I will get there. I'm sure we will have more talks like

this in the months to come, but it was a good start.

This is truly an experience isn't it? I do feel that once I come out

of it I will have a better appreciation for life. I hate this lesson

that I am learning, but maybe it is a necessary one for me somehow.

Thanks for everything.

Love, Krista

> > > >

> > > > Hey Everyone- So, I think this probably the worst day I've had

> since

> > > > explant. For the first week, while I was tired, I wasn't in a

> lot of

> > > > pain other then the soreness in my breasts. The last couple of

> days,

> > > > my strange all over achiness has returned. Today I just felt so

> bad,

> > > > that I wanted to try anything to feel better. So, I took one of

> all

> > > of

> > > > the different vitamins I had (I know, stupid, but I'm just so

> > > > frustrated.) I think I probably took too many because I've been

> > > > feeling very nauseous for the past few hours. I am just so

> > > frustrated

> > > > and scared!

> > > > My hubby has been home with me all weekend, and I feel like he

> keeps

> > > > making excuses to leave the house. He says he just bored, so he

> > > keeps

> > > > going to the gym, right now he said he is going on a walk

> because he

> > > > needs to get out of the house. While I know he loves me and

> does not

> > > > want to hurt me, this does hurt me. I feel like I am being left

> > > > behind. I've tried to talk to him, but he just does not get it!

> He

> > > > said " I thought getting the implants out was going to take care

> of

> > > > this? " I tried to tell him that I am going to need to work at

> it, so

> > > > then he said " then why aren't you working at it, you aren't

> doing

> > > > anything. " Then I asked what he thinks I should do, he

> says " you

> > > need

> > > > to exercise, sitting on the couch is not going to make you feel

> > > > better. " Maybe he's right, but I CAN'T exercise right now! Not

> just

> > > > because I just had surgery 9 days ago but because my body hurts

> too

> > > > much and I feel sick all the time! How do I get him to

> understand

> > > what

> > > > I am going through and how he can support me? He's not very

> good

> > > with

> > > > handling the ups and downs of life, he really likes things to

> be

> > > even

> > > > keel and when they're not, he gets really withdrawn, which is

> what

> > > he

> > > > is doing now. I just don't know what to do. I worry that we

> won't

> > > get

> > > > through this because there just doesn't seem to be any answers,

> it's

> > > > not like losing a job where you can just get another one to fix

> the

> > > > problem. There is no fix!

> > > > I am just beyond scared and depressed right now. I love my

> husband

> > > so

> > > > much and I'm so tired of being sick.

> > > > I've been eating as healthy as I can, resting...what else is

> there?

> > > > Thanks for any advice.

> > > > Love, Krista

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

IMHO - In My Humble Opinion . . .

i.e., I can't prove it, but I believe it!

Hugs,

Rogene

[Guest guest]

Me too Steph. I have a strange achiness all over my body, not sure if

that is caused by the toxins, nerve pain or what is going on. Constant

headache, nausea, diarrhea, fatigue. We were planning a baby this

year, not going to happen. I'm sad too Steph. We'll get there! Let's

hang in there together!

Love, Krista

> >

> > Krista,

> >

> > When you think in term of years to get better . . . realize that

> you will be gradually getting better that entire time. . . It's not

> like turning on a light at the end of those years and

> being " well " . . . It's a gradual process that you will barely

> notice, unless you are keeping a journal. . .

> >

> > IMHO, where you are now is the worst you will likely

> experience . . . you'll gradually feel better and better . . . bad

> days farther and farther apart . . . One day you'll look back and

> realize how far you've come.

> >

> > One of the biggest obstacles is letting go of the stress, anger and

> guilt. All of these take valuable energy that is better spent on

> healing.

> >

> > You're going to get there! . . . Trust that you will, then do

> everything to help your body accomplish what it needs to do.

> >

> > Hugs and prayers,

> >

> > Rogene

> >

>