Re: Cleavage and legs, oh my!

[Guest guest]

I have a non-Aspie friend that I started talking to about eye contact

once and when I told him all the reasons I thought it was intimidating

to me, he all of a sudden became very self-conscious about looking at

anyone.

It didn't take him long before he could go back to meeting a person's

gaze, but this " AS experience " certainly had an effect on him.

Tom

Administrator

You know, in addition to the agressiveness of eye contact, I started

looking at it from the mating standpoint and I realized that I feel too

forward if I hold a man's gaze, it feels too intimate, as though I am

not allowed to do that unless I am interested in them. Anyone else feel

this way?

This makes me think that for us, we may be like the animals in how we

view eye contact.

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[Guest guest]

> You know, in addition to the agressiveness of eye contact, I

started looking at it from the mating standpoint and I realized that

I feel too forward if I hold a man's gaze, it feels too intimate,

as though I am not allowed to do that unless I am interested in

them. Anyone else feel this way?

Yes I do too, although I feel I've had an easier time conversing

with men. I've been very creeped out by guys who found me

attractive and try to hold my gaze. They were fascinated by my

green eyes and told me so. These were the types who would not stop

staring. I find it extremely unsettling to look up and find someone

who won't look away and when you look down then back up they are

still looking. I do not dress flashy and rarely wear makeup any

more because when I do look good I attract unwanted attention. So I

keep my glasses on instead of contacts and try to be drab looking.

My bad habit with eye contact is when I do look right at someone who

is speaking to me it's a bit intense, like I'm looking right through

them. I might not blink enough or show enough facial reactions

maybe.

Kim

> This makes me think that for us, we may be like the animals in

how we view eye contact.

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