Worried

[Guest guest]

//Thanks so much to everyone for your encouragement. I was feeling really low

last night and after reading your emails I feel better.//As Sandy said... " don't

be afraid to talk about the hard parts " ...reading your post and reading the

responses I learned so much and it helped me also...its amazing how when we

share our struggles we become teachers. I can't wait to hear about your

progress.

[Guest guest]

I had my second fill today. 1cc for a total of 2.5cc in my 10cc band. How long

do you think I should liquids>pureed>solids..

[Guest guest]

Dr. Curry always has us follow a 4-day post-fill plan.

Day of Fill: Liquids Only

Day 2 : Pureed Foods

Day 3: Soft Foods

Day 4: Regular Diet

:)Ali

On Jan 8, 2010, at 7:21 PM, MARIA DANIEL wrote:

> I had my second fill today. 1cc for a total of 2.5cc in my 10cc band. How long

do you think I should liquids>pureed>solids..

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so very much!

> I had my second fill today. 1cc for a total of 2.5cc in my 10cc band. How long

do you think I should liquids>pureed>solids..

>

>

[Guest guest]

Lots of variation here. You should really ask your doc and he should have

written guidelines for you. My original doc wanted fluids for 24 hrs then a day

of soft then back to regular foods. You might wish to go over the 4 fill

documents in the files to help you determine if the fill is good or perhaps too

much.

Good luck! Hope this one brings you closer to " just right " .

Sandy r

Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry

Re: Worried

I had my second fill today. 1cc for a total of 2.5cc in my 10cc band. How long

do you think I should liquids>pureed>solids..

[Guest guest]

And my original doc (also a top one in Tijuana) wanted you to go back to

hotel, or to a restaurant if you weren't staying over, and eat a

normal bandster meal. That way if you were too tight he could still

take care of it before you crossed the border.

I can see advantages either way.

You see the same differences on pre-surgery weight loss, pre-surgery

liquid diet for xx days, how long liquids after surgery, etc, etc. So

far I've not found anything that " proves " one is right and another is

wrong, at least in the scientific research sense of " prove " .

Friday, January 8, 2010, 10:12:32 PM, you wrote:

> Lots of variation here. You should really ask your doc and he

> should have written guidelines for you. My original doc wanted

> fluids for 24 hrs then a day of soft then back to regular foods. You

> might wish to go over the 4 fill documents in the files to help you

> determine if the fill is good or perhaps too much.

> Good luck! Hope this one brings you closer to " just right " .

--

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[Guest guest]

Sorry I havent posted in awhile but things have been crazy for us... is fine but I have been having to make some tough decisions about the house and loosing it or the car...things are a mess financially being a single mom with no child support.. I'm sorry I havent participated in the board much I just havent had the opportunity as this weeks crisis was a broken refrigerator which I had no money to repair or get a new one...church family helped out and I am truly blessed.

But thats not why I'm writing I feel like a crappy mom, I missed or the teacher didn't send home a note telling me when s ETR with the psychologist was number one....I don't think she sent something home because I read everything in the backpack and agenda book everyday. What concerned me was s Wellness homework... is in 6th grade and his mental capacity is , well it used to be two years delayed. He has severe fine motor skill delays the gross motor delays are getting better.....but those fine motor skills...I am just so worried. He cannot write his name or do his homework without hand over hand. He gets OT...I try and help him as much as I can but I cannot continue to do things for him like button his own pants zip his coat, tie his shoes..now he expects it and doesn't even try. They are teaching him to type on an Alpha Smart.. I worry that he is not learning....

I suggested at the IEP he be held back and they didn't think that was necessary but as things get harder for him I don't see him succeeding...I don't know what to do to help my child.

Marcia

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Hey Roxanna,

Today I voiced my concerns with the caseworker and the behaviorist and made a call to the teacher who has yet to call back. I went over his IEP again and was surprised to find out that the teacher did not send a copy to the caseworker. I think this lady is falling down on the job. When she calls I am going to ask her for a copy of the invitation letter (that I never received) for the ETR (MFE) and for it to be scheduled again. This time I have asked for the behaviorist and the caseworker to attend...that is if she calls me back...and if she doesnt today I will call her again on Monday. The OT report was all showing progress...but I am not seeing it at home. He has adaptive PT and gym class and they say they are working on things like buttoning snapping etc.. I will take your advice and ask for data to prove that he is improving....in the mean time my son is getting anxiety about changing schools and starting 7th grade. When I voiced my concern in the IEP last month their answer was well don't worry he can go to school till he's 20 or 21. And they we're in a big hurry to get me out of there.

I have people backing me up I fully intend to take them with me if I can get her to call me back if not I guess I will have to call the principal.

Thanks for your reply,

marcia

( ) Worried

Sorry I havent posted in awhile but things have been crazy for

us... is fine but I have been having to make some tough

decisions about the house and loosing it or the car...things are a mess

financially being a single mom with no child support.. I'm sorry I

havent participated in the board much I just havent had the opportunity

as this weeks crisis was a broken refrigerator which I had no money to

repair or get a new one...church family helped out and I am truly

blessed.

But thats not why I'm writing I feel like a crappy mom, I missed or the

teacher didn't send home a note telling me when s ETR with the

psychologist was number one....I don't think she sent something home

because I read everything in the backpack and agenda book everyday.

What concerned me was s Wellness homework... is in 6th

grade and his mental capacity is , well it used to be two years

delayed. He has severe fine motor skill delays the gross motor delays

are getting better.....but those fine motor skills...I am just so

worried. He cannot write his name or do his homework without hand over

hand. He gets OT...I try and help him as much as I can but I cannot

continue to do things for him like button his own pants zip his coat,

tie his shoes..now he expects it and doesn't even try. They are

teaching him to type on an Alpha Smart.. I worry that he is not

learning....

I suggested at the IEP he be held back and they didn't think that was

necessary but as things get harder for him I don't see him

succeeding...I don't know what to do to help my child.

Marcia

[Guest guest]

Don't worry, he can go to school until he's 21? I guess they don't

mind wasting his life. It's one thing to go to school to age 21 when

it is necessary to do so. But if you can graduate and then go on to

your career or college, you would be doing better. That should be the

goal that they are pushing for. I've heard once before of a lady who

was always told not to worry since her kid could go to school an extra

year or two. This was also a way to say, " Hey, we don't have to show

sufficient progress since we have tons of extra time. " But the " extra

time " was at the kid's expense.

As for them being in a hurry to get you out of there, you just need to

say, " I'm not done discussing this. When can we meet again to finish

this meeting? " I'm sure they do want to move things along, especially

if they have meetings coming after yours. But if it takes longer or

you need more time to discuss it, feel free to ask to schedule another

meeting! Don't sign off on anything until you get the answers you

need! I hope you got in touch with all the people you were trying to

find and got your meeting. I am behind reading posts but if you didn't

update yet, I hope you will let us know how it went!

Roxanna

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

( ) Worried

Sorry I havent posted in awhile but things have been crazy for

us... is fine but I have been having to make some tough

decisions about the house and loosing it or the car...things are a mess

financially being a single mom with no child support.. I'm sorry I

havent participated in the board much I just havent had the opportunity

as this weeks crisis was a broken refrigerator which I had no money to

repair or get a new one...church family helped out and I am truly

blessed.

But thats not why I'm writing I feel like a crappy mom, I missed or the

teacher didn't send home a note telling me when s ETR with the

psychologist was number one....I don't think she sent something home

because I read everything in the backpack and agenda book everyday. 

What concerned me was s Wellness homework... is in 6th

grade and his mental capacity is , well it used to be two years

delayed.  He has severe fine motor skill delays the gross motor delays

are getting better.....but those fine motor skills...I am just so

worried.  He cannot write his name or do his homework without hand over

hand.  He gets OT...I try and help him as much as I can but I cannot

continue to do things for him like button his own pants zip his coat,

tie his shoes..now he expects it and doesn't even try.  They are

teaching him to type on an Alpha Smart..  I worry that he is not

learning....

I suggested at the IEP he be held back and they didn't think that was

necessary but as things get harder for him I don't see him

succeeding...I don't know what to do to help my child.

Marcia

[Guest guest]

There is so much stress with this economy. Doubly if you are a single

Mom I am sure. I am so happy your church is supportive.

You son sounds like a good boy. He doesn't sound like he

is a behavior problem.

How old is he? My daughter's fine motor skills did not

improve until she was 12. She has not had OT since first

grade either. You can have your child do the things OT do

at home. They have them cartoon, use clay, draw, color,

paint, do beads they are enjoyable for some kids and they

may help. My daughter is still has a way to go on fine motor skills

but there is improvement in handwriting. Your son will improve too.

My daughter is taught on an alpha smart too.

You can ask for another session or two of OT from the school.

I thought OT really helped my daughter in her gross motor skills

and coordination but not in the fine motor skills as much

or as fast.

Make sure you ask that he have a lunch buddy before this

gets to be a problem.

You seemed concerned that he was academically not keeping

up at grade level in reading and math? Does he have

an average IQ on the IQ test. I am sure they must

have done one when they classified him.

What is the reason he is behind by a few years? Does he

have a reading issue?

What are his academic problems?

Pam

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> Sorry I havent posted in awhile but things have been crazy for us...

is fine but I have been having to make some tough decisions about the house and

loosing it or the car...things are a mess financially being a single mom with no

child support.. I'm sorry I havent participated in the board much I just havent

had the opportunity as this weeks crisis was a broken refrigerator which I had

no money to repair or get a new one...church family helped out and I am truly

blessed.

>

> But thats not why I'm writing I feel like a crappy mom, I missed or the

teacher didn't send home a note telling me when s ETR with the

psychologist was number one....I don't think she sent something home because I

read everything in the backpack and agenda book everyday. What concerned me was

s Wellness homework... is in 6th grade and his mental capacity is

, well it used to be two years delayed. He has severe fine motor skill delays

the gross motor delays are getting better.....but those fine motor skills...I am

just so worried. He cannot write his name or do his homework without hand over

hand. He gets OT...I try and help him as much as I can but I cannot continue to

do things for him like button his own pants zip his coat, tie his shoes..now he

expects it and doesn't even try. They are teaching him to type on an Alpha

Smart.. I worry that he is not learning....

> I suggested at the IEP he be held back and they didn't think that was

necessary but as things get harder for him I don't see him succeeding...I don't

know what to do to help my child.

>

>

> Marcia

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