Re: To Roxanna re Reece's costume

[Guest guest]

Melinda,

You know I can absolutely relate even though our situations are

opposite:

Having had 5 kids it just did not make sense for me to work - the

costs of child care being astronomical - so I waited and we made due

until the youngest was in kindergarten. Then I obtained a diploma as

a teacher's aide so I could get back into the work force. Moreso,

because my husband has a chronic illness that has the potential to

incapacitate him at any time without warning.

Well, a social worker had the nerve to say to me, " Quit your job,

stay at home... (so that I can look after my severely disabled

daughter on my own) you and (DH) survived on one income before. " I

feel like I am going to lose it! I am trying my very best and looking

after the 4 boys (including son #3 diagnosed with all his ABC's).

What gets me is that my daughter qualifies for all types of financial

aid and services provided it is by someone other than her biological

family! Where the hell is the justice in that and where the heck does

social services get off indicating to a person that their career is

so unimportant that they should leave it and stay at home? (How do

you write LOUD SCREAM by keyboard!!) Sorry for ranting!

The point is, it so easy for others to judge without walking the

miles.

- Velvet

> And what gets me are the people who think that the

> answer to the financial stress is to just " get a job " .

> I couldn't think while I was at a job anyhow-fearing

> that the phone would ring and I'd have to go get

> or he'd have forgotten something for the day

> and need it. And, who could keep a job if they are

> having to leave all the time for issues at

> school-school calling because 's in the clinic

> for the 10th time this year, etc. (Which we haven't

> had in a long time-he's doing well, but you just never

> know.)

>

> Anything can trigger a panic attack or anxiety level

> beyond his ability to cope. Get a job? I have one-a

> full-time-even in my sleep-job. Easy for them to say

> when they haven't a clue of what it's like. I carry my

> cell everywhere in case I get a phone call. I even

> keep it on in places that says no cell use because I

> never know.....

>

> Tom is possibly facing rotator cuff surgery and I am

> freaking out about it because we can't afford to have

> no income at the moment.

>

> But I am so tired of hearing, " just get a job. " I

> already have one. It's called being a mom!

>

>

> In a perfect world.......(sigh).

>

> Melinda

[Guest guest]

I think you and Melinda both see, and demonstrate my point. No one can judge

the other one's situation unless they are in it, and these kids, and all of

us are very different people. I appreciate the support guys! I'm here for

you too.

Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

Melinda,

You know I can absolutely relate even though our situations are

opposite:

Having had 5 kids it just did not make sense for me to work - the

costs of child care being astronomical - so I waited and we made due

until the youngest was in kindergarten. Then I obtained a diploma as

a teacher's aide so I could get back into the work force. Moreso,

because my husband has a chronic illness that has the potential to

incapacitate him at any time without warning.

Well, a social worker had the nerve to say to me, " Quit your job,

stay at home... (so that I can look after my severely disabled

daughter on my own) you and (DH) survived on one income before. " I

feel like I am going to lose it! I am trying my very best and looking

after the 4 boys (including son #3 diagnosed with all his ABC's).

What gets me is that my daughter qualifies for all types of financial

aid and services provided it is by someone other than her biological

family! Where the hell is the justice in that and where the heck does

social services get off indicating to a person that their career is

so unimportant that they should leave it and stay at home? (How do

you write LOUD SCREAM by keyboard!!) Sorry for ranting!

The point is, it so easy for others to judge without walking the

miles.

- Velvet

> And what gets me are the people who think that the

> answer to the financial stress is to just " get a job " .

> I couldn't think while I was at a job anyhow-fearing

> that the phone would ring and I'd have to go get

> or he'd have forgotten something for the day

> and need it. And, who could keep a job if they are

> having to leave all the time for issues at

> school-school calling because 's in the clinic

> for the 10th time this year, etc. (Which we haven't

> had in a long time-he's doing well, but you just never

> know.)

>

> Anything can trigger a panic attack or anxiety level

> beyond his ability to cope. Get a job? I have one-a

> full-time-even in my sleep-job. Easy for them to say

> when they haven't a clue of what it's like. I carry my

> cell everywhere in case I get a phone call. I even

> keep it on in places that says no cell use because I

> never know.....

>

> Tom is possibly facing rotator cuff surgery and I am

> freaking out about it because we can't afford to have

> no income at the moment.

>

> But I am so tired of hearing, " just get a job. " I

> already have one. It's called being a mom!

>

>

> In a perfect world.......(sigh).

>

> Melinda

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 3:52:17 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

embroidery4@... writes:

My question was what about the kids that are spec. ed and mainstreamed in

the school district. It can cost me in child care as much as my salary

would be. I should apply for child care stipends was the response.

She said unless you provide your child with " hands-on " medical treatment

around the clock at home you will be off welfare. So much for trying to do

what's best for our children. Welfare is telling us to leave them in the

hands of others. I think I see some interesting scenarios being set up here

with possible legal action.

I know people get TOLD to apply for child care assistance, BUT the fact is

that, at least in Ohio, #1-- they only $2 per hour to begin with and #2-- they

ONLY provide said stipend up to the age of 12. WTF do those of us with SN

kids who are teenagers supposed to do?? Do they REALLY think that somebody is

going to care for a violent, out of control teenager for $2 an hour?? @@

Connie

[Guest guest]

--- Dawahooz@... wrote:

>

> The ones bitching the loudest are the ones with the

> least knowledge of what

> they're bitching ABOUT.

>

> Connie

I have to give an " Amen! " to that!!!!!!!!!!! And I

will probably use your quote from now on!

Melinda

__________________________________

- PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005

http://mail.

[Guest guest]

When I was on Welfare I was told that even with a disabled child Welfare

would require me to work. Currently its a minimum of 25 hours ( the length

of time they are in school) but was told within the next 5 yrs. it will go

up to 36 hours per week since there are longer days in spec. ed programs

with after school programs.

My question was what about the kids that are spec. ed and mainstreamed in

the school district. It can cost me in child care as much as my salary

would be. I should apply for child care stipends was the response.

She said unless you provide your child with " hands-on " medical treatment

around the clock at home you will be off welfare. So much for trying to do

what's best for our children. Welfare is telling us to leave them in the

hands of others. I think I see some interesting scenarios being set up here

with possible legal action.

-- Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

In a message dated 10/24/2005 7:29:14 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

mlndhall@... writes:

And what gets me are the people who think that the

answer to the financial stress is to just " get a job " .

I couldn't think while I was at a job anyhow-fearing

that the phone would ring and I'd have to go get

or he'd have forgotten something for the day

and need it. And, who could keep a job if they are

having to leave all the time for issues at

school-school calling because 's in the clinic

for the 10th time this year, etc. (Which we haven't

had in a long time-he's doing well, but you just never

know.)

Anything can trigger a panic attack or anxiety level

beyond his ability to cope. Get a job? I have one-a

full-time-even in my sleep-job. Easy for them to say

when they haven't a clue of what it's like. I carry my

cell everywhere in case I get a phone call. I even

keep it on in places that says no cell use because I

never know.....

Tom is possibly facing rotator cuff surgery and I am

freaking out about it because we can't afford to have

no income at the moment.

But I am so tired of hearing, " just get a job. " I

already have one. It's called being a mom!

Ah, you haven't lived until you've been told you're " using your kids as an

excuse to be lazy " by living off their SSI. And called a welfare ho for

getting

food stamps. The only thing that puts food on the table.Yeah, it's something

about YOU that keeps you from working.

Yep, it is. It's my CHILD. Personally, better to give assistance to

families

like ours, than to put the kids in a home. God forbid we take money from

the

Armed Forces, wasting billions a day for some useless (IMO) cause, but don

t

let those welfare hoes be lazy.

Can you tell it's REALLY wearing on me?

Connie

[Guest guest]

>

> Melinda,

>

> You know I can absolutely relate even though our situations are

> opposite:

>

> Having had 5 kids it just did not make sense for me to work - the

> costs of child care being astronomical - so I waited and we made

due

> until the youngest was in kindergarten. Then I obtained a diploma

as

> a teacher's aide so I could get back into the work force. Moreso,

> because my husband has a chronic illness that has the potential to

> incapacitate him at any time without warning.

>

> Well, a social worker had the nerve to say to me, " Quit your job,

> stay at home... (so that I can look after my severely disabled

> daughter on my own) you and (DH) survived on one income before. " I

> feel like I am going to lose it! I am trying my very best and

looking

> after the 4 boys (including son #3 diagnosed with all his ABC's).

> What gets me is that my daughter qualifies for all types of

financial

> aid and services provided it is by someone other than her

biological

> family! Where the hell is the justice in that and where the heck

does

> social services get off indicating to a person that their career is

> so unimportant that they should leave it and stay at home? (How do

> you write LOUD SCREAM by keyboard!!) Sorry for ranting!

>

> The point is, it so easy for others to judge without walking the

> miles.

>

> - Velvet

>

Dear Melinda & Velvet,

It's just chatty me again! I became ill during my pregnancy with my

ds (the only child my husband and I had together). I managed to work

for 1 1/2 years after my ds was born until my health fell apart

completely. I've been unable to work ever since (more than 10

years). I was the breadwinner for the family, so it has been

difficult, but my husband and I remained together.

When I was working during those 1 1/2 years, it was a nightmare. Ds

was in five different childcare placements. The first lady we hired

to take care of him was a stay at home mom with 4 children of her

own. She only lasted a month with ds as she said he wasn't like any

of her other children. Finally, one day her husband called me to

come get my son as she had called him crying and said she couldn't

hack it anymore.

Then a lady across the street from the first lady said she would take

care of him as she had grown to know ds and liked him. She was a

person who ran a business part time out of her home and didn't have

any other children at home during the day. Perfect, right? That

lasted a month too -- she said she couldn't take him anymore as she

had a chance to take her home business from part time to full time

but I think it really was about ds. Again, this was a person with

child-rearing experience.

Then I found a church daycare that would only take a maximum # of 4

infants and that always had at least 2 people in the baby room at all

times. Well, ds lasted there longer, but I was always getting calls

to come pick him up early at least once per week. Also, he only was

there 3 days a week anyway as my ds' grandma would watch him 2 days a

week (she worked on weekends). Then ds' grandma couldn't take him

anymore (she got burnt out on him), so he had to go to church daycare

5 days a week and the calls increased to at least 2 days a week to

pick him up early.

Now I had a high powered job. I had some flexibility, but not that

much flexibility. What really made me mad was that these places

never, ever called my husband to come pick ds up. It was always me,

no matter how many times I told them that my husband was also

available to be called -- huh!

We finally lucked into another lady who was willing to do an in home

daycare with ds. She was disabled and didn't take care of any other

children. She bonded with ds and we very rarely had any calls or

problems while he was in her care.

After I became too ill to work then I stayed home and took care of

ds. I got a chance to see what he was like. Boy, could that kid go

all day long! As a baby, though, he got much better once he learned

how to roll on the floor and go places. He just hated it that people

could walk away from him.

I don't know how other Moms or Dads for that matter manage a child

with AS or autism without one of them being at home. Even after ds

went to public school, I still was getting calls from them about my

son 1+ times per week. Usually I had to pick him up after meltdowns

at least once every two weeks.

As he got older and we tried different things with the schools, the

number of calls decreased. He was learning to hold it in better.

But as soon as he got home off the school bus, he would explode with

bad behavior at home. We ended up pulling him out and homeschooling

him. His attitudes are much better now. But this would not have

been an option, had I not been home already. And it is difficult

with my disability to have enough energy to do this. But dealing

with ds and the public school system sapped my energy more.

My heart goes out to all of you with jobs who are not able to have

someone stay at home with your child. ((((Hugs)))) to all!

P.

[Guest guest]

>

>

> In a message dated 10/23/2005 10:38:47 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> littleweatherman@y... writes:

>

>

> Now these two people (my ds and my mother) could go round and

round

> in arguing, but they became extremely close. In fact, I believe

she

> came to love him more than she loved me.

>

>

>

> ((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))

>

>

<snip>

> Um, one would hope, but don't hold your breath. <g>

>

> Connie

>

>

Thanks Connie. Right back at you (((((((((((hug)))))))))))

P.

[Guest guest]

>

> Thanks Sara- that's what it's like for me. I leave to go to school,

and he

> tears things up, and ends up fighting with his sister, or melting

down, and

> I have to leave school to come home. I just quit a part time job

because I

> was afraid to leave him any more, I don't know what I would do if my

husband

> couldn't support us without me working...

>

>

>

> I am STUCK working. I work 20 miles away, take the bus most of the

time for expense reasons, hardly make any money, just enough for our

groceries and pharmacy and work expenses, my husband's pay pays all

other bills. I'm stuck because I'm the one with the insurance. My

husband works for a small co. with no medical.....so I'm stuck, stuck,

stuck. And family friendly? No way. I had to fight to lower my hours

to 7 a day with no lunch hour. I have to take a family leave day once

a month with no pay for DRS visits, which is fine with me, I look

forward to that day off. I can schedule other things then too. I

worry a lot about the 2 and a half hours my son's alone every

afternoon. He doesn't mind being by himself, but I never know when he

will have a meltdown, or when neighborhood kids are going to come to

the door and give him a hard time, used to happen a lot, doesn't much

anymore, thank goodness! Poor kid! Poor me, I don't want to work at

all! I'm such a baby! - Sara

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 8:09:34 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

roxanna_neely@... writes:

Oh not another round of problems???

I must say that sure had a terrible time in puberty. And he's such a

nice guy. Connie, the other day, I swear, Reece was in the store begging me

to buy him a stick of raw cinnamon. lol.

OH yeah. Magnified to the nth degree THIS time. I've resorted to emailing

Maury Povich to get him into boot camp. @@

As far as that cinnamon?? Isn't that they wrong kid?? Is it possible that

Reece heard it and retained it from what?? About three years ago??

ROFL Wait till I tell THAT one.....

Connie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 8:11:27 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

evilpenguin@... writes:

Connie, the other day, I swear, Reece was in the store begging me to buy him

a stick of raw cinnamon. lol.

<<

I forgot that Nick got that from ... lol. He will still chew on the

cinnamon sticks, and when I bring home one of those cinnamon brooms from

Cracker Barrell, he stands and sniffs it...

is LHAO right now because of this.

Connie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 8:20:33 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

roxanna_neely@... writes:

As for things getting worse as puberty hits -- oh no! My ds will

turn 12 next month. At least with homeschooling him I'll be able to

control some of these adolescent things. Right? Right?

Getting off now as the house is getting too quiet.

P.

Ahhh, yeah...control...damn, I knew I had that laying around here

somewhere...

Control......is that in that same dictionary that " responsibility " is in??

LOL

Connie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 8:28:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

roxanna_neely@... writes:

Our new sped director likes to say, " People don't know what they don't

know. " lol.

Is that supposed to show his GOOD side or his BAD side? LOL

Connie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/24/2005 8:22:04 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

roxanna_neely@... writes:

Have you ever thought of working at the school? At least you would have the

same hours as the boys?

I can't get hired. The only REAL option would be to work directly with the

kids. When they go to school is my only link to real sanity!!

Besides, you're forgetting where I live. We have 12 elementary schools,

three Jr Highs and a HS with over 3000 kids.

Connie

[Guest guest]

Jill Kern <JillBKern@...> wrote:

Dear Roxanna,

At least he wants to dress up as something recognizable. Owen always wanted

to be something like a character in a computer game, so I had to explain to

everyone that he was Yeet from " Boppin " or Azurblast from " Mystic Towers. "

I guess I should be glad he didn't pick something macabre, like the girl

who, when I asked what she was supposed to be, said " Dead " !

Jill

LOL. She sounds FUN. lol.

That is true, at least it is something recognizable...it could be worse. Royce

went through that same stage as Owen. One year I had to figure out how to make

a Meoweth costume. ugh. I suppose I should just be happy with " black cat " .

Roxanna

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Just Like Everyone Else

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evilpenguin <evilpenguin@...> wrote:

LOL- my son wanted to be Link from the Legend of Zelda... and then there was

the year he wanted to be Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz... hehe. This year,

he wants to be a Phillies ball player... unfortunately, I had to veto

carrying a BAT through the neighborhood, since he's in a little trouble with

the law right now as it is for throwing a screwdriver at his sister.

Anyone got any suggestions for dealing with puberty aggression issues?

Yes, Punt.

Roxanna

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[Guest guest]

LOL, I was thinking a cage...

Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

evilpenguin <evilpenguin@...> wrote:

LOL- my son wanted to be Link from the Legend of Zelda... and then there

was

the year he wanted to be Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz... hehe. This year,

he wants to be a Phillies ball player... unfortunately, I had to veto

carrying a BAT through the neighborhood, since he's in a little trouble

with

the law right now as it is for throwing a screwdriver at his sister.

Anyone got any suggestions for dealing with puberty aggression issues?

Yes, Punt.

Roxanna

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Just Like Everyone Else

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Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Hello,

We didn't get to the puberty stage yet, But, why do you blame the aggressive

behavior on puberty and not just as it is, aggressive behavior? Like in ABA

they ask: What happened just before the behavior, to cause the aggressive

behavior, and what happened after that behavior?. I know a person that from

when their child was very young, always had a very good " excuse " for their

child's aggressive, verbally abusive behavior, and lying. Like, " excuses are " :,

its close to the child's bed time, another child caused the behavior, that was

the number #1 excuse for a long time. the child was hungry, as that same child

got older, the parents still have a reason for the child's behavior. many

reasons, but that child still has that same aggressive behavior, now, the excuse

for that same parent, same child is::PUBERTY. When I go to school to pick up my

child, I also hear parents say to the teacher, (that complained about their

child's aggressive behavior, in school.) say, its the beginning of

the school year, it will straighten out, or, I'm not comfortable with the

teacher, she didn't see what the " other child did first " . This may not be your

situation at all, but, did your child NEVER have aggressive behavior before?

" at all " , and it just started NOW with puberty?

I am sure Tammy isn't saying that aggressive behavior/puberty is an excuse as

much as a reason. A lot of fun things happen during puberty. I used to mutter

all the time, " This is your teenager, this is your teenager on autism. " lol.

It's like everything was magnified. And then I know some people who have gone

through hell during puberty. A number of kids who have AS will have incredible

problems starting at puberty including aggressive behavior, depression and

bipolar, OCD. Excuses would be if you didn't bother working on the problem and

most parents here in this forum are here because they want to learn and work on

the problem(s).

Roxanna

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evilpenguin <evilpenguin@...> wrote:

Seriously considering it Pam... hehe. It's no picnic here... but somehow,

I'll get through it. Don't we deserve the congressional medal of honor or

something? Yeah, I know, we love them... but jeez... it's hard enough

keeping typical sibs from killing each other, but some of us have kids who

are not only aggressive enough, but intelligent and creative enough to DO

it.

My new mantra lately is to wonder where my award is for showing up. lol.

Roxanna

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Roxanna... you said that better than I did... I'm giving it all we

got. He has the whole alphabet soup. We're looking into counseling and

adjusting meds. Thanks for the support Roxanna!

Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote:

Hello,

We didn't get to the puberty stage yet, But, why do you blame the

aggressive behavior on puberty and not just as it is, aggressive behavior?

Like in ABA they ask: What happened just before the behavior, to cause the

aggressive behavior, and what happened after that behavior?. I know a

person that from when their child was very young, always had a very good

" excuse " for their child's aggressive, verbally abusive behavior, and lying.

Like, " excuses are " :, its close to the child's bed time, another child

caused the behavior, that was the number #1 excuse for a long time. the

child was hungry, as that same child got older, the parents still have a

reason for the child's behavior. many reasons, but that child still has that

same aggressive behavior, now, the excuse for that same parent, same child

is::PUBERTY. When I go to school to pick up my child, I also hear parents

say to the teacher, (that complained about their child's aggressive be the

school year, it will straighten out, or, I'm not comfortable with the

teacher, she didn't see what the " other child did first " . This may not be

your situation at all, but, did your child NEVER have aggressive behavior

before? " at all " , and it just started NOW with puberty?

I am sure Tammy isn't saying that aggressive behavior/puberty is an excuse

as much as a reason. A lot of fun things happen during puberty. I used to

mutter all the time, " This is your teenager, this is your teenager on

autism. " lol. It's like everything was magnified. And then I know some

people who have gone through hell during puberty. A number of kids who have

AS will have incredible problems starting at puberty including aggressive

behavior, depression and bipolar, OCD. Excuses would be if you didn't

bother working on the problem and most parents here in this forum are here

because they want to learn and work on the problem(s).

Roxanna

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[Guest guest]

My new mantra lately is to wonder where my award is for showing up. lol.

<<

I want to know when *I* get controlled substances...

Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

evilpenguin <evilpenguin@...> wrote:

Seriously considering it Pam... hehe. It's no picnic here... but somehow,

I'll get through it. Don't we deserve the congressional medal of honor or

something? Yeah, I know, we love them... but jeez... it's hard enough

keeping typical sibs from killing each other, but some of us have kids who

are not only aggressive enough, but intelligent and creative enough to DO

it.

My new mantra lately is to wonder where my award is for showing up. lol.

Roxanna

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Dawahooz@... wrote:

I can assure you, my child, now almost 18, had to be hospitalized THREE

times during puberty for his emotional crashes. He was aggressive, which is

completely against his nature, as both Roxanna and Tammy will coraborate (sp?

the

damn word isn't in my spell check LOL)

He was totally and completely out of control, even attempting suicide.

My now 14 yr old has demonstrated an extreme escalation is HIS

aggressiveness as well over the last year. Not coincidentally, he is also going

thru

puberty.

Oh not another round of problems???

I must say that sure had a terrible time in puberty. And he's such a nice

guy. Connie, the other day, I swear, Reece was in the store begging me to buy

him a stick of raw cinnamon. lol.

Roxanna

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Just Like Everyone Else

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[Guest guest]

Connie, the other day, I swear, Reece was in the store begging me to buy him

a stick of raw cinnamon. lol.

<<

I forgot that Nick got that from ... lol. He will still chew on the

cinnamon sticks, and when I bring home one of those cinnamon brooms from

Cracker Barrell, he stands and sniffs it...

Re: ( ) To Roxanna re Reece's costume

Dawahooz@... wrote:

I can assure you, my child, now almost 18, had to be hospitalized THREE

times during puberty for his emotional crashes. He was aggressive, which

is

completely against his nature, as both Roxanna and Tammy will coraborate

(sp? the

damn word isn't in my spell check LOL)

He was totally and completely out of control, even attempting suicide.

My now 14 yr old has demonstrated an extreme escalation is HIS

aggressiveness as well over the last year. Not coincidentally, he is also

going thru

puberty.

Oh not another round of problems???

I must say that sure had a terrible time in puberty. And he's such

a nice guy. Connie, the other day, I swear, Reece was in the store begging

me to buy him a stick of raw cinnamon. lol.

Roxanna

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sara11alex77 <sara61145@...> wrote:

Just chiming in........my son, now 16, was a lot more aggressive

between 13 and 15. He had almost nightly 'spells', also got in

trouble for pushing a teacher at school who he thought was invading

his space way too much. And other people don't understand at all. I

remember one time while at work (I loathe working) my son kept hanging

up on me every time I called. He was definitely having a meltdown, so

I was too, panicky, frustrated. A co-worker said to me - I would beat

my child if they did that to me! I just let the comment go.....didn't

need the additional stress! -Sara

It's just a whole different world.

Roxanna

Always Remember You're Unique

Just Like Everyone Else

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littleweatherman <littleweatherman@...> wrote:

As for things getting worse as puberty hits -- oh no! My ds will

turn 12 next month. At least with homeschooling him I'll be able to

control some of these adolescent things. Right? Right?

Getting off now as the house is getting too quiet.

P.

Ahhh, yeah...control...damn, I knew I had that laying around here somewhere...

Roxanna

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Just Like Everyone Else

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evilpenguin <evilpenguin@...> wrote:

I'm lost. Completely.

Connie

<< Not completely... I'm here... and I care... somehow we'll keep this house

of cards from blowing over.

Have you ever thought of working at the school? At least you would have the

same hours as the boys?

Roxanna

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Just Like Everyone Else

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