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> She said it's worse for me and moms like me (parents of auties and the like)

because we have been even MORE involved in our children's lives for six years

than regular parents.

Jacquie <

i guess i've been " lucky " that way. kailey went to full time preschool from 3.5

to 5yo, during which time i went to college. when i took her out of school at 5,

i was already pg with trev, so it wasn't like i'd have any time to myself

anyway. she was then home until almost 7yo, at which point trevor was a little

past 1 and VERY mobile. now he's 3 and finally in fulltime preschool as well,

but again i'm pg, so i STILL won't have any time to myself for the next few

years.

i can, however, understand where you're coming from. right now, when both kids

manage to get to school and i have no appts to go to, i sleep almost the entire

day. i'm not saying i mind sleeping, but it does make me feel a little useless,

especially when there are so many things around the house that definitely need

doing. actually, maybe i'll follow your example and write everything down on a

checklist. altho, in my condition, i'd better just try to accomplish one thing a

week rather than one thing a day. i don't need this baby coming any sooner than

planned

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> I wouldn't want to breathe for a living, either <

i think you've got a problem there

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

rachelle, will be 2 a week from today, and we just had another

check up from birth to 3 (today), and she is still on the right

track.

> woo hoo!!! <

>

> yay rachelle! and happy almost birthday!

gina

THANKS, !!!

rachelle says " dank you " too!!!!

nancy

[Guest guest]

rachelle, will be 2 a week from today, and we just had another

check up from birth to 3 (today), and she is still on the right

track.

> woo hoo!!! <

>

> yay rachelle! and happy almost birthday!

gina

THANKS, !!!

rachelle says " dank you " too!!!!

nancy

[Guest guest]

> You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

> that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade

Syndrome " .

This is why my kids are spaced out so far in age. Every time I got one into

school I " needed " another one.

Sissi, mother of a 19YO (as of yesterday), an 11 YO and a 5 YO

[Guest guest]

> You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

> that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade

Syndrome " .

This is why my kids are spaced out so far in age. Every time I got one into

school I " needed " another one.

Sissi, mother of a 19YO (as of yesterday), an 11 YO and a 5 YO

[Guest guest]

> You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

> that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade

Syndrome " .

This is why my kids are spaced out so far in age. Every time I got one into

school I " needed " another one.

Sissi, mother of a 19YO (as of yesterday), an 11 YO and a 5 YO

[Guest guest]

Wow, did THIS post hit home.

Penny :/

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

Yesterday I realized the main elements of the problem:

- does still need me during the week a little (like today; he's home

sick from school) but not a lot.

- I don't KNOW what I want to do when I grow up

- Marc hasn't been taking my talking about my future job seriously

- even if I KNEW what I wanted to do, I can't get a job or take any courses

right now because Marc is putting out resumes like crazy and we are trying

to move away from here -- so I could end up taking two classes of a program

and then have to ditch the program because we have to move away from the

college, or I could get a job and have to quit a month later. We're in

limbo here right now. I'm trapped doing nothing, not moving forward at all.

So yesterday I made a list of 50 big things that need to be done around the

house - oven cleaned, bedding plants planted, pantry sorted and cleaned,

closets organized, individual steps for painting the living room and

kitchen, etc. Then I sat down with my day timer and scheduled them all into

the next three months, one task every day.

I think following a schedule and doing one project every day will give me

more of a sense of accomplishment and purpose than I've had recently. This

schedule will take me right up to 's summer break.

After I did all of that, I sat down and talked to marc for an hour or more.

Well, talked and cried mostly. At the end of it, he seemed to understand

that my sadness is coming from this feeling of being trapped in limbo, and

he seemed to suddenly understand how hard it's been for me going from

nurturing that child intensively every day for six years to have huge blocks

of time every day without , with nothing to give me that sense of

purpose and accomplishment. He suddenly seemed to understand that I won't

be able to just jump back into PR or journalism because those things don't

mean anything to me now. I've been too long away from them and they just

don't suit me any more. So now when it comes to my personal future, I am

lost. He suddenly realized how lucky HE is to always have known what he was

good at, and that that was what he wanted to do.

Hopefully the schedule and Marc's new understanding of my precarious mental

position will get me over this nasty time.

Thanks,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Wow, did THIS post hit home.

Penny :/

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

Yesterday I realized the main elements of the problem:

- does still need me during the week a little (like today; he's home

sick from school) but not a lot.

- I don't KNOW what I want to do when I grow up

- Marc hasn't been taking my talking about my future job seriously

- even if I KNEW what I wanted to do, I can't get a job or take any courses

right now because Marc is putting out resumes like crazy and we are trying

to move away from here -- so I could end up taking two classes of a program

and then have to ditch the program because we have to move away from the

college, or I could get a job and have to quit a month later. We're in

limbo here right now. I'm trapped doing nothing, not moving forward at all.

So yesterday I made a list of 50 big things that need to be done around the

house - oven cleaned, bedding plants planted, pantry sorted and cleaned,

closets organized, individual steps for painting the living room and

kitchen, etc. Then I sat down with my day timer and scheduled them all into

the next three months, one task every day.

I think following a schedule and doing one project every day will give me

more of a sense of accomplishment and purpose than I've had recently. This

schedule will take me right up to 's summer break.

After I did all of that, I sat down and talked to marc for an hour or more.

Well, talked and cried mostly. At the end of it, he seemed to understand

that my sadness is coming from this feeling of being trapped in limbo, and

he seemed to suddenly understand how hard it's been for me going from

nurturing that child intensively every day for six years to have huge blocks

of time every day without , with nothing to give me that sense of

purpose and accomplishment. He suddenly seemed to understand that I won't

be able to just jump back into PR or journalism because those things don't

mean anything to me now. I've been too long away from them and they just

don't suit me any more. So now when it comes to my personal future, I am

lost. He suddenly realized how lucky HE is to always have known what he was

good at, and that that was what he wanted to do.

Hopefully the schedule and Marc's new understanding of my precarious mental

position will get me over this nasty time.

Thanks,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Wow, did THIS post hit home.

Penny :/

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

Yesterday I realized the main elements of the problem:

- does still need me during the week a little (like today; he's home

sick from school) but not a lot.

- I don't KNOW what I want to do when I grow up

- Marc hasn't been taking my talking about my future job seriously

- even if I KNEW what I wanted to do, I can't get a job or take any courses

right now because Marc is putting out resumes like crazy and we are trying

to move away from here -- so I could end up taking two classes of a program

and then have to ditch the program because we have to move away from the

college, or I could get a job and have to quit a month later. We're in

limbo here right now. I'm trapped doing nothing, not moving forward at all.

So yesterday I made a list of 50 big things that need to be done around the

house - oven cleaned, bedding plants planted, pantry sorted and cleaned,

closets organized, individual steps for painting the living room and

kitchen, etc. Then I sat down with my day timer and scheduled them all into

the next three months, one task every day.

I think following a schedule and doing one project every day will give me

more of a sense of accomplishment and purpose than I've had recently. This

schedule will take me right up to 's summer break.

After I did all of that, I sat down and talked to marc for an hour or more.

Well, talked and cried mostly. At the end of it, he seemed to understand

that my sadness is coming from this feeling of being trapped in limbo, and

he seemed to suddenly understand how hard it's been for me going from

nurturing that child intensively every day for six years to have huge blocks

of time every day without , with nothing to give me that sense of

purpose and accomplishment. He suddenly seemed to understand that I won't

be able to just jump back into PR or journalism because those things don't

mean anything to me now. I've been too long away from them and they just

don't suit me any more. So now when it comes to my personal future, I am

lost. He suddenly realized how lucky HE is to always have known what he was

good at, and that that was what he wanted to do.

Hopefully the schedule and Marc's new understanding of my precarious mental

position will get me over this nasty time.

Thanks,

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Well, Happy Birthday Amber!

Penny

Re: apology - long - no reply necessary

> You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

> that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade

Syndrome " .

This is why my kids are spaced out so far in age. Every time I got one into

school I " needed " another one.

Sissi, mother of a 19YO (as of yesterday), an 11 YO and a 5 YO

[Guest guest]

> Thanks. :-)

While I was scheduling it, I made sure to plan it so that big tasks and little

ones are scattered -- Monday big task, Tuesday little one, Wednesday big one,

etc. ie: Monday, paint trim in LR. Tuesday, sort out drawer under the

microwave.

Jacquie <

great

good luck with it all!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> Thanks. :-)

While I was scheduling it, I made sure to plan it so that big tasks and little

ones are scattered -- Monday big task, Tuesday little one, Wednesday big one,

etc. ie: Monday, paint trim in LR. Tuesday, sort out drawer under the

microwave.

Jacquie <

great

good luck with it all!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

> Thanks. :-)

While I was scheduling it, I made sure to plan it so that big tasks and little

ones are scattered -- Monday big task, Tuesday little one, Wednesday big one,

etc. ie: Monday, paint trim in LR. Tuesday, sort out drawer under the

microwave.

Jacquie <

great

good luck with it all!

~~~ Imagine all the people, living life in peace - Lennon ~~~

-------------------------

gina, 31, ny

single mom to -

kailey, 8, autism, hyperlexia, depression, anxiety, OCD, DSI

trevor, 3, multiple developmental delays, no " official " dx yet

parker jade, due 7-25-03 :-D

[Guest guest]

So Jacquie,

When is paint the living room day??

Sue

[Guest guest]

So Jacquie,

When is paint the living room day??

Sue

[Guest guest]

So Jacquie,

When is paint the living room day??

Sue

[Guest guest]

> There are many things you could do. My best friend has a Masters in some

> type of library degree. She makes more part time than my husband does

full

> time. She travels and organizes government offices files and paperwork.

I

> can see you doing that. You could paint, you could do ANYTHING. The

world

> is out there.

>

Except all trainging costs money we don't have. :-(

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> There are many things you could do. My best friend has a Masters in some

> type of library degree. She makes more part time than my husband does

full

> time. She travels and organizes government offices files and paperwork.

I

> can see you doing that. You could paint, you could do ANYTHING. The

world

> is out there.

>

Except all trainging costs money we don't have. :-(

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> There are many things you could do. My best friend has a Masters in some

> type of library degree. She makes more part time than my husband does

full

> time. She travels and organizes government offices files and paperwork.

I

> can see you doing that. You could paint, you could do ANYTHING. The

world

> is out there.

>

Except all trainging costs money we don't have. :-(

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I know it's hard when you devoted yourself to your child and you family

> and then they move on and kind of leave you behind. So now you have to

> figure it out how are you going to do on your own, and maybe you don't

> even know who you really are without being a mom or a wife. This is hard

> to do.

You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade Syndrome " .

LOL. She said it's worse for me and moms like me (parents of auties and the

like) because we have been even MORE involved in our children's lives for

six years than regular parents.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I know it's hard when you devoted yourself to your child and you family

> and then they move on and kind of leave you behind. So now you have to

> figure it out how are you going to do on your own, and maybe you don't

> even know who you really are without being a mom or a wife. This is hard

> to do.

You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade Syndrome " .

LOL. She said it's worse for me and moms like me (parents of auties and the

like) because we have been even MORE involved in our children's lives for

six years than regular parents.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I know it's hard when you devoted yourself to your child and you family

> and then they move on and kind of leave you behind. So now you have to

> figure it out how are you going to do on your own, and maybe you don't

> even know who you really are without being a mom or a wife. This is hard

> to do.

You're absolutely right, Cecilia. I finally talked to my mom and she said

that I am the newest victim of an age-old disease -- " First Grade Syndrome " .

LOL. She said it's worse for me and moms like me (parents of auties and the

like) because we have been even MORE involved in our children's lives for

six years than regular parents.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> >>>>>>

> I find it very enriching to help with our local task force. Right now I'm

> collected data to help parents explain autism to their families.

> <<<<<<<<

>

>

> I agree with this. The small amount of time I spend volunteering for PEP

> makes me feel " good " . I see what these people do everyday, (without large

> paychecks, believe me), to help parents who just don't have the time,

money

> or skills to help their kids.

>

> Volunteering is great, also, because you can do it on YOUR TIME.

I volunteered at the library for three years; I quit in November because I

just didn't care anymore and the fibro was very bad. Now the fibro's not so

bad, but I really am not interested in going back.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> >>>>>>

> I find it very enriching to help with our local task force. Right now I'm

> collected data to help parents explain autism to their families.

> <<<<<<<<

>

>

> I agree with this. The small amount of time I spend volunteering for PEP

> makes me feel " good " . I see what these people do everyday, (without large

> paychecks, believe me), to help parents who just don't have the time,

money

> or skills to help their kids.

>

> Volunteering is great, also, because you can do it on YOUR TIME.

I volunteered at the library for three years; I quit in November because I

just didn't care anymore and the fibro was very bad. Now the fibro's not so

bad, but I really am not interested in going back.

Jacquie