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In a message dated 3/2/01 10:38:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

CJWatts88@... writes:

>

> Hi Shirley,

> It's hard to believe how much we have in common and how much we are so

> alike.

> Are you sure my sisters aren't related to yours? I get the same

> reaction

> when we're all together at Christmas. They think I don't eat so they will

> feel sorry for me. That's so far from the truth...I'd really rather stay

> at

> home away from them so they wouldn't have any reason to judge me. They

> aren't around me enough to know what goes on daily in my life. In fact, I

> have told my husband and my children that if indeed I have to have surgery,

> they are not to tell my sisters. If they can't phone me with love in their

> heart now when I would really love to hear from them, I don't want them at

> the hospital. I don't mean to be ugly...I just don't want them there if it

> takes my going into the hospital before they acknowledge I really do have a

> problem....does that make any sense??

>

> Shirley, I'm so glad I have you to vent to about my sisters because I know

> you truly understand. We'll just have to stick together and give to each

> other the love and support we would love to have from them.

>

> Hugs & Prayers

> Carole

>

>

>

Dear Carole, my husband has already gone to bed and here I am on the PC. But

that's OK because we sleep in separate bedrooms. He snores really loud and

keeps me awake and I have to read so I can fall asleep and that keeps him

awake. I guess we are getting old. All this talk among the group today

about sexual things made me feel guilty so I asked him if he wanted to sleep

with me tonight and he said no so I ask him if he wanted me to sleep with him

and he said no. So to be sure he understood my thoughts I asked why and he

said it's too late. It wasn't even 11:30 yet. We are old and I have been

sick for so long I think he has just about forgotten all about sex. That's

OK with me since I don't have any hormone and having sex hurts so bad. We

are a funny pair. LOL

I am sorry you have to take abuse from your sisters. I have always had to

take it from them. The one I described today is really something. I am

nothing like her. We don't think alike, act alike, are personalities are so

different. I am so glad I am not like her. She is a user, a manipilator,

and dollar signs is first and foremost on her mind. I know I am being really

bad talking about my sister this way but it is the truth and so much more.

When I go to bed tonight and say my prayers I will feel so guilty for talking

about her. Did you say you feel guilty also when you get angry or talk about

you sisters? I love her but I don't want to be around her for too long. She

uses men for their money and I can't stand that. Here I go again. I am not

going to talk about her anymore tonight. I will try to be good.

How are you feeling tonight and today Carole? How do you feel physically and

emotionally? I am hoping that you are feeling better every day. When you go

for your C. T. Scan I will be anxious for you and waiting for you to write me

and let me know what the doctor had to say. Please keep us informed.

I am worried about Henry. I think that Henry hasn't been very well for a

long time. I believe he suffers terribly. I have not heard from him and am

wondering if he is in the hospital. Have you heard anything about him? I

also have not heard anything from Jang. I am wondering how she is doing.

There are so many people in the group now it makes it hard to keep up with

everyone. I am thankful though that they all have found us because I

remember the day I found the group. I was so happy that I had finally found

people who understood what I was going thru and they all were so nice to me.

I don't blame you for telling your children and your husband not to tell your

sisters that you are in the hospital. I have been there, you have described

my situation so clearly. We are so much alike Carole. I hope that one day

we can meet. Take care and I am hoping I will be able to talk with you

tomorrow. Love, Shirley

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In a message dated 3/2/01 10:38:34 PM Eastern Standard Time,

CJWatts88@... writes:

>

> Hi Shirley,

> It's hard to believe how much we have in common and how much we are so

> alike.

> Are you sure my sisters aren't related to yours? I get the same

> reaction

> when we're all together at Christmas. They think I don't eat so they will

> feel sorry for me. That's so far from the truth...I'd really rather stay

> at

> home away from them so they wouldn't have any reason to judge me. They

> aren't around me enough to know what goes on daily in my life. In fact, I

> have told my husband and my children that if indeed I have to have surgery,

> they are not to tell my sisters. If they can't phone me with love in their

> heart now when I would really love to hear from them, I don't want them at

> the hospital. I don't mean to be ugly...I just don't want them there if it

> takes my going into the hospital before they acknowledge I really do have a

> problem....does that make any sense??

>

> Shirley, I'm so glad I have you to vent to about my sisters because I know

> you truly understand. We'll just have to stick together and give to each

> other the love and support we would love to have from them.

>

> Hugs & Prayers

> Carole

>

>

>

Dear Carole, my husband has already gone to bed and here I am on the PC. But

that's OK because we sleep in separate bedrooms. He snores really loud and

keeps me awake and I have to read so I can fall asleep and that keeps him

awake. I guess we are getting old. All this talk among the group today

about sexual things made me feel guilty so I asked him if he wanted to sleep

with me tonight and he said no so I ask him if he wanted me to sleep with him

and he said no. So to be sure he understood my thoughts I asked why and he

said it's too late. It wasn't even 11:30 yet. We are old and I have been

sick for so long I think he has just about forgotten all about sex. That's

OK with me since I don't have any hormone and having sex hurts so bad. We

are a funny pair. LOL

I am sorry you have to take abuse from your sisters. I have always had to

take it from them. The one I described today is really something. I am

nothing like her. We don't think alike, act alike, are personalities are so

different. I am so glad I am not like her. She is a user, a manipilator,

and dollar signs is first and foremost on her mind. I know I am being really

bad talking about my sister this way but it is the truth and so much more.

When I go to bed tonight and say my prayers I will feel so guilty for talking

about her. Did you say you feel guilty also when you get angry or talk about

you sisters? I love her but I don't want to be around her for too long. She

uses men for their money and I can't stand that. Here I go again. I am not

going to talk about her anymore tonight. I will try to be good.

How are you feeling tonight and today Carole? How do you feel physically and

emotionally? I am hoping that you are feeling better every day. When you go

for your C. T. Scan I will be anxious for you and waiting for you to write me

and let me know what the doctor had to say. Please keep us informed.

I am worried about Henry. I think that Henry hasn't been very well for a

long time. I believe he suffers terribly. I have not heard from him and am

wondering if he is in the hospital. Have you heard anything about him? I

also have not heard anything from Jang. I am wondering how she is doing.

There are so many people in the group now it makes it hard to keep up with

everyone. I am thankful though that they all have found us because I

remember the day I found the group. I was so happy that I had finally found

people who understood what I was going thru and they all were so nice to me.

I don't blame you for telling your children and your husband not to tell your

sisters that you are in the hospital. I have been there, you have described

my situation so clearly. We are so much alike Carole. I hope that one day

we can meet. Take care and I am hoping I will be able to talk with you

tomorrow. Love, Shirley

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Hi Shirley,

You are never to old to have sex! You just need to let the sexy side of you

come out...

I emailed Henry the other day to see how he and his girlfriend were, and I never

heard back from him. I think one of them is probably in the hospital...

Hopefully he will mail soon. We should say extra prayers for him...

Happy Thoughts,

Col Debi

Dear Carole, my husband has already gone to bed and here I am on the PC. But

that's OK because we sleep in separate bedrooms. He snores really loud and

keeps me awake and I have to read so I can fall asleep and that keeps him

I am worried about Henry. I think that Henry hasn't been very well for a

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In a message dated 3/3/01 7:08:50 AM Eastern Standard Time,

dvdsterritt@... writes:

>

> Hi Shirley,

>

> You are never to old to have sex! You just need to let the sexy side of

> you come out...

>

> I emailed Henry the other day to see how he and his girlfriend were, and I

> never heard back from him. I think one of them is probably in the

> hospital... Hopefully he will mail soon. We should say extra prayers for

> him...

>

> Happy Thoughts,

> Col Debi

>

>

>

>

>

I think you are right Debi, we have just forgotten. LOL

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I doupt that! ;-)

Col Debi

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>

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Debi,

I got a short email back from Henry, he was in the hospital he is out now but

still not feeling that great just thought I would let you know.. so keep the

prayers going.. I say and extra one for him and all of you ... take care

hugs and kisses

your pal from Michigan

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In a message dated 3/4/01 10:10:09 AM Eastern Standard Time, mrsteep1@...

writes:

> I got a short email back from Henry, he was in the hospital he is out now

> but

> still not feeling that great just thought I would let you know.. so keep

> the

>

Hi ,

Glad to hear that Henry is okay. Was he in the hospital because of his

Pancreas or was it something else? I know he has other problems, too.

Please keep us informed about his condition and tell him I will keep him in

my prayers and I'll send a little " angel " to watch over him. , hope you

are doing better.

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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Carole,

You give back as much as all of us..I know that you have given me so

much and for that I thank you... I know that you could never stop loving your

sisters or anyone, but I guess what I am saying is to try not to worry about

what they think or do which I to know is hard.. you know they tell us not to

stress our self but how can you not with this disease it is so hard I worry

about so many things .. working paying bills taking care of my parents. but

you know I try to tell my self to look at the past and god has always taken

care of me.. it always seems to work out so when I feel the stress I say it

will work out god will take care of me... and when I think about it it does

help.. I mean my mom got sick and I was well enough to take care of her and

dad..my sick leave pay ran out and I was able to go back to work and

hopefully it will last long enough that I will get the pay again.. just a

little over 2 mo to go..but if it doesn't I know god will take care of me

then too.. so please know that some how some way this too will work out, god

will some how get through to your sisters and family and let them understand

your disease..I pray for you and all and for the ones who do not

understand..it is just a disease that people don't know enough about or

understand ...I hope I didn't babble on and not make since.. I know I

sometimes get carried away and don't always come across the way i want it

too.. but know you are in my thoughts and prayers...

lots of love

hugs and kisses

your pal from Michigan

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Carole,

You give back as much as all of us..I know that you have given me so

much and for that I thank you... I know that you could never stop loving your

sisters or anyone, but I guess what I am saying is to try not to worry about

what they think or do which I to know is hard.. you know they tell us not to

stress our self but how can you not with this disease it is so hard I worry

about so many things .. working paying bills taking care of my parents. but

you know I try to tell my self to look at the past and god has always taken

care of me.. it always seems to work out so when I feel the stress I say it

will work out god will take care of me... and when I think about it it does

help.. I mean my mom got sick and I was well enough to take care of her and

dad..my sick leave pay ran out and I was able to go back to work and

hopefully it will last long enough that I will get the pay again.. just a

little over 2 mo to go..but if it doesn't I know god will take care of me

then too.. so please know that some how some way this too will work out, god

will some how get through to your sisters and family and let them understand

your disease..I pray for you and all and for the ones who do not

understand..it is just a disease that people don't know enough about or

understand ...I hope I didn't babble on and not make since.. I know I

sometimes get carried away and don't always come across the way i want it

too.. but know you are in my thoughts and prayers...

lots of love

hugs and kisses

your pal from Michigan

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Hi ,

Thank you for your sweet thoughts and your loving, caring ways. It's hard to

believe that this forum is made up of so many sick people who always take the

time to comfort someone else....we all seem to feel each other's pain which

brings a closeness that you can't get even if it's your next door neighbor!

, I really hope and pray that the thyroid medication will help you have

more energy. With taking care of your parents, trying to work and having

pain with Pancreatitis, you need all the energy you can get. I'm sorry you

seem to have so much on you right now and I hope that gets better soon.

Take care of yourself and I will keep you in my prayers. Thanks again for

your comforting words.

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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Hi ,

I was so glad to see you posting again....I have really missed you. Hope

things settle down now and you can concentrate more on your condition. It's

very difficult to take care of yourself when so much is going on around you.

You probably needed that extra rest in bed for a few days. I will continue

to keep you, Dave and the girls in my daily prayers. Hang in there,

....things will get better!

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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In a message dated 3/18/01 1:35:40 PM Eastern Standard Time,

renpeaches@... writes:

> I get tired of doctors nodding their heads knowingly when I admit I am in

> recovery.(13 years) It makes me want to be less than honest with them and

> others. And forgive me but even in here, I have posted the question to the

> group 2 times when I read the references from several people about drug

> abuse being one possible cau!

> ses ( which no doctor has ever t

>

Hi ,

First, I'd like to say I'm very proud of you for the 13 years you have gone

without alcohol as well as cocaine. Although I don't drink and have never

taken drugs, my Dad was an alcoholic and he didn't have Pancreatitis but I

did which I find very strange. It would be great if the medical field knew

enough about this disease to be able to tell each of us the reason we have

Pancreatitis but most of the time they just don't know. Right now, there are

too many unanswered questions about this disease and until more public

awareness and research is done, it won't change. I, for one, need facts from

the doctors....not " I think " which simply means, " I'm not sure. " Anyway, my

point is the pain is the same regardless of what the cause is.

The fact that has Pancreatitis no matter what the cause can

definitely be a positive for all of us. I don't think anyone deserves this

disease no matter what lifestyle they choose. Right now, I think we'd all

settle for a " cure " regardless of the cause!

, hope you are having a good day. I'm sending you a ray of " sunshine "

to help brighten those cloudy days that we all have! By the way, since you

can't find your white light, I'm sending you mine!

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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In a message dated 3/18/01 1:35:40 PM Eastern Standard Time,

renpeaches@... writes:

> I get tired of doctors nodding their heads knowingly when I admit I am in

> recovery.(13 years) It makes me want to be less than honest with them and

> others. And forgive me but even in here, I have posted the question to the

> group 2 times when I read the references from several people about drug

> abuse being one possible cau!

> ses ( which no doctor has ever t

>

Hi ,

First, I'd like to say I'm very proud of you for the 13 years you have gone

without alcohol as well as cocaine. Although I don't drink and have never

taken drugs, my Dad was an alcoholic and he didn't have Pancreatitis but I

did which I find very strange. It would be great if the medical field knew

enough about this disease to be able to tell each of us the reason we have

Pancreatitis but most of the time they just don't know. Right now, there are

too many unanswered questions about this disease and until more public

awareness and research is done, it won't change. I, for one, need facts from

the doctors....not " I think " which simply means, " I'm not sure. " Anyway, my

point is the pain is the same regardless of what the cause is.

The fact that has Pancreatitis no matter what the cause can

definitely be a positive for all of us. I don't think anyone deserves this

disease no matter what lifestyle they choose. Right now, I think we'd all

settle for a " cure " regardless of the cause!

, hope you are having a good day. I'm sending you a ray of " sunshine "

to help brighten those cloudy days that we all have! By the way, since you

can't find your white light, I'm sending you mine!

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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Thnk you Carol, ,

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Thnk you Carol, ,

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Thnk you Carol, ,

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In a message dated 3/21/01 1:03:56 PM Eastern Standard Time, mrsteep1@...

writes:

> WEll I didn't do well, I am in the hospital, the nausea and pain were bad

> called to see about taken more compazine and he wanted to see me I walked

> in

> there and got sick while I was there and he walked in and said you need to

> be in the hospital so here I am but thanks to this laptop I am able to keep

> up with you all, I just wanted to tell you all what is going on I will keep

> you all updated...

>

>

Hi ,

I'm so sorry that you ended up in the hospital again but with the trouble you

have been having, that's probably the best place for you to get the help you

need. What are they doing for you? Are they going to do any procedures

while you're there? I wish there was something I could do to help but I will

say a special prayer for you tonight and hope you don't have to stay there

long. Please keep us updated....glad to see you have a laptop. Try to take

of advantage of being there by getting the rest that you need. Hope you are

feeling much better tomorrow!

Hugs & Prayers with Love

Carole

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In a message dated 3/21/01 1:03:56 PM Eastern Standard Time, mrsteep1@...

writes:

> WEll I didn't do well, I am in the hospital, the nausea and pain were bad

> called to see about taken more compazine and he wanted to see me I walked

> in

> there and got sick while I was there and he walked in and said you need to

> be in the hospital so here I am but thanks to this laptop I am able to keep

> up with you all, I just wanted to tell you all what is going on I will keep

> you all updated...

>

>

Hi ,

I'm so sorry that you ended up in the hospital again but with the trouble you

have been having, that's probably the best place for you to get the help you

need. What are they doing for you? Are they going to do any procedures

while you're there? I wish there was something I could do to help but I will

say a special prayer for you tonight and hope you don't have to stay there

long. Please keep us updated....glad to see you have a laptop. Try to take

of advantage of being there by getting the rest that you need. Hope you are

feeling much better tomorrow!

Hugs & Prayers with Love

Carole

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Carole,

you are right it is the place for me right now.. I have to go to U of

M for the ERCP they don't so that here so I have to go there on Monday, he

thinks they ill keep me until then.. I willl keep you inform.. thanks again

for caring

hugs and kisses

your pal from Michigan

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In a message dated 4/3/01 9:42:22 PM Eastern Daylight Time, howmtp@...

writes:

> I don't think I will be here to chat with you all tonight I didn't

> sleep last night much thinking about this doctors apt with the surgeon I

> think got to me... but I think all your prayers helped Henry did they

> tell you this would take your pancreatis away? or any of you?

>

Hi ,

I am so sorry you are having to have the Whipple surgery. I know you are

frightened and I wish I could take your fear away. Since I am facing surgery

now too, I truly understand what is going through your mind at this moment.

It's not fair, but somehow, someway, we will get through this and

hopefully things will be better for each of us. Remember, we all care about

you and want to help you through this. We're always here if you need us.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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In a message dated 4/3/01 9:42:22 PM Eastern Daylight Time, howmtp@...

writes:

> I don't think I will be here to chat with you all tonight I didn't

> sleep last night much thinking about this doctors apt with the surgeon I

> think got to me... but I think all your prayers helped Henry did they

> tell you this would take your pancreatis away? or any of you?

>

Hi ,

I am so sorry you are having to have the Whipple surgery. I know you are

frightened and I wish I could take your fear away. Since I am facing surgery

now too, I truly understand what is going through your mind at this moment.

It's not fair, but somehow, someway, we will get through this and

hopefully things will be better for each of us. Remember, we all care about

you and want to help you through this. We're always here if you need us.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hugs & Prayers

Carole

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In a message dated 4/3/01 10:30:47 PM Central Daylight Time,

CJWatts88@... writes:

> Since I am facing surgery

> now too, I truly understand what is going through your mind at this moment.

>

> It's not fair, but somehow, someway, we will get through this and

> hopefully things will be better for each of us. Remember, we all care

> about

> you and want to help you through this. We're always here if you need us.

> You are in my thoughts and prayers.

>

> Hugs & Prayers

> Carole

>

>

>

>

>

ditto here also, anna - and hugs and prayers for you too, carole.

ar debbie

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Carole,

thank you for the kind words and support, like I have said a million

times I would be lost without you all, Ok I think I missed something what

surgery are you going to have will you fill me in this part of me I hate but

I must have forgotton cuz I am sure we talked about it... please forgive me

and fill me in my friend..

Hugs and kisses

Hoping you have a pain free day

Your pancreatis pal From Michigan

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Carole,

thank you for the kind words and support, like I have said a million

times I would be lost without you all, Ok I think I missed something what

surgery are you going to have will you fill me in this part of me I hate but

I must have forgotton cuz I am sure we talked about it... please forgive me

and fill me in my friend..

Hugs and kisses

Hoping you have a pain free day

Your pancreatis pal From Michigan

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In a message dated 4/6/01 1:30:05 PM Eastern Daylight Time, bryann@...

writes:

>

> well since i have gotton home from the hospital on sat i have been doing

> pretty good. i have had a few small epasodes but very managable. the only

> hard part this week is trying to get back off of the pain meds. this

> withdrawl really sucks!!

> i am off work next week yet and if all goes well and i stay pretty much

> pain free i may go back to work on the 16. i can really tell if i eat the

> wrong foods it really acts up so right now i am just trying to figure a

> good diet that i can live with.

> on the plus side i have lost 40 lbs since the beginning of the year.

> well i hope today was a good day for evereyone else

> bryan

>

Hi ,

First I'd like to welcome you to our group. I'm glad you are out of the

hospital and doing better. Good luck with your diet since I know how

difficult it is to find something that won't make the pain worse. I'm sorry

you are one of many who has to endure this horrible disease but I'm glad you

found this site....it can be comforting in many ways!

Hugs & Prayers

Carole