Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Speaking of threats to fertility I am sure this surgery is definetly one I have had a period yet...in 13 months. I got one at 3 months post partum, right after the surgery then nothing... Not that I am complaining (its the breastfeeding too but Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Speaking of threats to fertility I am sure this surgery is definetly one I have had a period yet...in 13 months. I got one at 3 months post partum, right after the surgery then nothing... Not that I am complaining (its the breastfeeding too but Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Speaking of threats to fertility I am sure this surgery is definetly one I have had a period yet...in 13 months. I got one at 3 months post partum, right after the surgery then nothing... Not that I am complaining (its the breastfeeding too but Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Yes give people terminology they can't discuss But I think you meant maxillofacial surgery... =oh yeah and I can't spell either! I am more conservative in what I tell people now, most people don't ask their doc questions when its them on the table. We here are defn over educated! Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Yes give people terminology they can't discuss But I think you meant maxillofacial surgery... =oh yeah and I can't spell either! I am more conservative in what I tell people now, most people don't ask their doc questions when its them on the table. We here are defn over educated! Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Well he gets points for being supportive at least. I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. It is such an obsessive thing. That's one reasons this board is so great. You can obsess all you want here (I do). Yes, I am from Texas, grew up in San , college in College Station. Now I live in Alabama. I miss Texas, especially the food. I have to make Mexican food, Chicken Fried steak etc myself if I want good stuff. Keep us updated on how things are going for you. > > Alison, > > > > I am so sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you in > > this. I have come to learn how important it is to have support and > > how lucky I am that all of my family and friends are there for me. > > Even my mother who I think belives I am crazy to do this is driving > > from Texas to Alabama to take care of me and my kids. > > > > Has you husband gone to the doctor with you? This seems to have > > changed other peoples outlook on your decision. I know another > girl > > on the board said her mom (I think) changed her tune when she went > to > > the surgeon with her and heard what was needed. Maybe also if you > > take care of the endometriosis first, your husband will have a > > different outlook on the whole thing. I am sure he is just scared > > for you and believes the best way to protect you is to tell you not > > to do it. > > > > I am sure there are post-oppers here that can add to this, but I am > > thinking that during recovery you probably don't want any of these > > negative people around you. > > > > Good luck with whatever you decide and come here anytime you need > > support. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Well he gets points for being supportive at least. I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. It is such an obsessive thing. That's one reasons this board is so great. You can obsess all you want here (I do). Yes, I am from Texas, grew up in San , college in College Station. Now I live in Alabama. I miss Texas, especially the food. I have to make Mexican food, Chicken Fried steak etc myself if I want good stuff. Keep us updated on how things are going for you. > > Alison, > > > > I am so sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you in > > this. I have come to learn how important it is to have support and > > how lucky I am that all of my family and friends are there for me. > > Even my mother who I think belives I am crazy to do this is driving > > from Texas to Alabama to take care of me and my kids. > > > > Has you husband gone to the doctor with you? This seems to have > > changed other peoples outlook on your decision. I know another > girl > > on the board said her mom (I think) changed her tune when she went > to > > the surgeon with her and heard what was needed. Maybe also if you > > take care of the endometriosis first, your husband will have a > > different outlook on the whole thing. I am sure he is just scared > > for you and believes the best way to protect you is to tell you not > > to do it. > > > > I am sure there are post-oppers here that can add to this, but I am > > thinking that during recovery you probably don't want any of these > > negative people around you. > > > > Good luck with whatever you decide and come here anytime you need > > support. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol It is such an obsessive thing. nokidding. Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol It is such an obsessive thing. nokidding. Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol It is such an obsessive thing. nokidding. Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I ask a lot, A LOT of questions... I tole you, my surgeon didn't band me because first, he thought I could get away with it (and i did) and second, " You like to talk a lot. A LOT! And I'd hate to think of you straining against those bands. " Wish that my ortho had later been as considerate! -- but not really. ;~) ) But speaking of fat, Maxillofillio sounds more like that swell Greek pastry dough! Yummm! Best, C. > Yes give people terminology they can't discuss > > But I think you meant maxillofacial surgery... > =oh yeah and I can't spell either! > > I am more conservative in what I tell people now, > most people don't ask their doc questions when its them on the table. > We here are defn over educated! > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I ask a lot, A LOT of questions... I tole you, my surgeon didn't band me because first, he thought I could get away with it (and i did) and second, " You like to talk a lot. A LOT! And I'd hate to think of you straining against those bands. " Wish that my ortho had later been as considerate! -- but not really. ;~) ) But speaking of fat, Maxillofillio sounds more like that swell Greek pastry dough! Yummm! Best, C. > Yes give people terminology they can't discuss > > But I think you meant maxillofacial surgery... > =oh yeah and I can't spell either! > > I am more conservative in what I tell people now, > most people don't ask their doc questions when its them on the table. > We here are defn over educated! > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I ask a lot, A LOT of questions... I tole you, my surgeon didn't band me because first, he thought I could get away with it (and i did) and second, " You like to talk a lot. A LOT! And I'd hate to think of you straining against those bands. " Wish that my ortho had later been as considerate! -- but not really. ;~) ) But speaking of fat, Maxillofillio sounds more like that swell Greek pastry dough! Yummm! Best, C. > Yes give people terminology they can't discuss > > But I think you meant maxillofacial surgery... > =oh yeah and I can't spell either! > > I am more conservative in what I tell people now, > most people don't ask their doc questions when its them on the table. > We here are defn over educated! > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I have heard about that thing of folks suspecting the battered wife syndrome. I still think the best answer to that one is, coming from the person who's had the surgery, either: 1. Don't inquire too closely. We had a really bizarre sexual experience. or, 2. For general queries that are none of anybody's business, and especially to children, I had an encounter with a rabid moose. But I'm fine now. C. > =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as > supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. > > mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital > with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol > > It is such an obsessive thing. > nokidding. > > Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! > I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 I have heard about that thing of folks suspecting the battered wife syndrome. I still think the best answer to that one is, coming from the person who's had the surgery, either: 1. Don't inquire too closely. We had a really bizarre sexual experience. or, 2. For general queries that are none of anybody's business, and especially to children, I had an encounter with a rabid moose. But I'm fine now. C. > =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as > supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. > > mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital > with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol > > It is such an obsessive thing. > nokidding. > > Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! > I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Or you start a really long unrelated story but keep telling them the point is comming up...see it all started in 1974, I was on the way to school, hey did I ever tell you about the time in, oh yeah I was trying to get to the point...... Or offer to show them the slide show! Or tell them you are part of a new reality tv show (orth. survivor) Or say in a very low voice, I'd rather not get into the specifics and wisper something Shiloh Battered wife lol, he'd never hit my 50k face now > > =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as > > supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. > > > > mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital > > with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol > > > > It is such an obsessive thing. > > nokidding. > > > > Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! > > I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. > > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Or you start a really long unrelated story but keep telling them the point is comming up...see it all started in 1974, I was on the way to school, hey did I ever tell you about the time in, oh yeah I was trying to get to the point...... Or offer to show them the slide show! Or tell them you are part of a new reality tv show (orth. survivor) Or say in a very low voice, I'd rather not get into the specifics and wisper something Shiloh Battered wife lol, he'd never hit my 50k face now > > =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as > > supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. > > > > mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital > > with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol > > > > It is such an obsessive thing. > > nokidding. > > > > Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! > > I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. > > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Or you start a really long unrelated story but keep telling them the point is comming up...see it all started in 1974, I was on the way to school, hey did I ever tell you about the time in, oh yeah I was trying to get to the point...... Or offer to show them the slide show! Or tell them you are part of a new reality tv show (orth. survivor) Or say in a very low voice, I'd rather not get into the specifics and wisper something Shiloh Battered wife lol, he'd never hit my 50k face now > > =I think all significant others seem to have a hard time being as > > supportive as we need them to be leading up to the surgery. > > > > mine found it tough when he told people at work I was in hospital > > with a broken jaw...someone actually asked him if he did it -lol > > > > It is such an obsessive thing. > > nokidding. > > > > Nothing like Chicken Fried Steak - with cheese on it!!! > > I worked for Dell in Austin so I hear you on the tex mex. > > Shiloh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Hi Cammie. As always you know just the right things to say, if only everyone could be as supportive as you (sigh). Ok, I just had an evil chuckle, picturing my brother-in-law trying to enjoy that steak on the 4th with no teeth. I'm sick in the head. Hey, he's the one that said he wouldn't do this even if he couldn't chew! So, my surgery has finally been rescheduled after 5 long months, it will be in the end of August. I am relieved and ready to have it overwith. Speaking of Mexican food, a little over a month to fit all of it in that I can. Didn't waste any time either, had it for dinner tonight. Take care! Alison > Ohhh, geez. I just wish that folks (and that includes family) could > find a way to be supportive of their loved ones in their time of need. > > Why is it important to rank the surgeries in order of importance? You > apparently need repairs in two areas, and if you and your doctors are > in agreement about the sequence in which things should happen, that > would be good enough for me. And aren't you fortunate that one does > not contradict the other! THEN you and yours might have to make a > choice. And especially are you fortunate if you have insurance or > other provisions that will cover the financial aspects. > > Hey, guilt, I believe, is seldom a productive feeling. Try as best > you can to ditch it, and get on with living and enjoying those you > love. Including yourself. > > You are blessed with -- is it two? -- children you apparently very > much want, and you may want more. (I do not have a clue about the > threat from laparascopy, or not doing laparascopy, to fertility; > sorry. I do know that it can make some surgical procedures soooo much > easier for the patient that it is truly a miracle of modern Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Hi Cammie. As always you know just the right things to say, if only everyone could be as supportive as you (sigh). Ok, I just had an evil chuckle, picturing my brother-in-law trying to enjoy that steak on the 4th with no teeth. I'm sick in the head. Hey, he's the one that said he wouldn't do this even if he couldn't chew! So, my surgery has finally been rescheduled after 5 long months, it will be in the end of August. I am relieved and ready to have it overwith. Speaking of Mexican food, a little over a month to fit all of it in that I can. Didn't waste any time either, had it for dinner tonight. Take care! Alison > Ohhh, geez. I just wish that folks (and that includes family) could > find a way to be supportive of their loved ones in their time of need. > > Why is it important to rank the surgeries in order of importance? You > apparently need repairs in two areas, and if you and your doctors are > in agreement about the sequence in which things should happen, that > would be good enough for me. And aren't you fortunate that one does > not contradict the other! THEN you and yours might have to make a > choice. And especially are you fortunate if you have insurance or > other provisions that will cover the financial aspects. > > Hey, guilt, I believe, is seldom a productive feeling. Try as best > you can to ditch it, and get on with living and enjoying those you > love. Including yourself. > > You are blessed with -- is it two? -- children you apparently very > much want, and you may want more. (I do not have a clue about the > threat from laparascopy, or not doing laparascopy, to fertility; > sorry. I do know that it can make some surgical procedures soooo much > easier for the patient that it is truly a miracle of modern Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 It is a very demanding time on spouses too. I'm sure he never feels like he says the right thing...even when he's trying. I'm a native Pennsylvanian, have been in Texas for 7 years though. The food is absolutely incredible here. I guess this isn't the best place to be discussing food, is it? > > > Alison, > > > > > > I am so sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you in > > > this. I have come to learn how important it is to have support > and > > > how lucky I am that all of my family and friends are there for > me. > > > Even my mother who I think belives I am crazy to do this is > driving > > > from Texas to Alabama to take care of me and my kids. > > > > > > Has you husband gone to the doctor with you? This seems to have > > > changed other peoples outlook on your decision. I know another > > girl > > > on the board said her mom (I think) changed her tune when she > went > > to > > > the surgeon with her and heard what was needed. Maybe also if > you > > > take care of the endometriosis first, your husband will have a > > > different outlook on the whole thing. I am sure he is just > scared > > > for you and believes the best way to protect you is to tell you > not > > > to do it. > > > > > > I am sure there are post-oppers here that can add to this, but I > am > > > thinking that during recovery you probably don't want any of > these > > > negative people around you. > > > > > > Good luck with whatever you decide and come here anytime you need > > > support. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 It is a very demanding time on spouses too. I'm sure he never feels like he says the right thing...even when he's trying. I'm a native Pennsylvanian, have been in Texas for 7 years though. The food is absolutely incredible here. I guess this isn't the best place to be discussing food, is it? > > > Alison, > > > > > > I am so sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you in > > > this. I have come to learn how important it is to have support > and > > > how lucky I am that all of my family and friends are there for > me. > > > Even my mother who I think belives I am crazy to do this is > driving > > > from Texas to Alabama to take care of me and my kids. > > > > > > Has you husband gone to the doctor with you? This seems to have > > > changed other peoples outlook on your decision. I know another > > girl > > > on the board said her mom (I think) changed her tune when she > went > > to > > > the surgeon with her and heard what was needed. Maybe also if > you > > > take care of the endometriosis first, your husband will have a > > > different outlook on the whole thing. I am sure he is just > scared > > > for you and believes the best way to protect you is to tell you > not > > > to do it. > > > > > > I am sure there are post-oppers here that can add to this, but I > am > > > thinking that during recovery you probably don't want any of > these > > > negative people around you. > > > > > > Good luck with whatever you decide and come here anytime you need > > > support. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 It is a very demanding time on spouses too. I'm sure he never feels like he says the right thing...even when he's trying. I'm a native Pennsylvanian, have been in Texas for 7 years though. The food is absolutely incredible here. I guess this isn't the best place to be discussing food, is it? > > > Alison, > > > > > > I am so sorry to hear that your family is not supporting you in > > > this. I have come to learn how important it is to have support > and > > > how lucky I am that all of my family and friends are there for > me. > > > Even my mother who I think belives I am crazy to do this is > driving > > > from Texas to Alabama to take care of me and my kids. > > > > > > Has you husband gone to the doctor with you? This seems to have > > > changed other peoples outlook on your decision. I know another > > girl > > > on the board said her mom (I think) changed her tune when she > went > > to > > > the surgeon with her and heard what was needed. Maybe also if > you > > > take care of the endometriosis first, your husband will have a > > > different outlook on the whole thing. I am sure he is just > scared > > > for you and believes the best way to protect you is to tell you > not > > > to do it. > > > > > > I am sure there are post-oppers here that can add to this, but I > am > > > thinking that during recovery you probably don't want any of > these > > > negative people around you. > > > > > > Good luck with whatever you decide and come here anytime you need > > > support. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Keep that brother in law image going strong. He just hasn't a clue... Fun to think of him trying to gum a steak. But I do believe that for the occasion I'd make it maybe a flank steak, instead of a filet. Or bottom round. Or maybe even shoulder. And let him gum it, greasy and cold. While you eat a delicately cooked and seasoned chicken fried steak, with the utmost delicacy. (But that won't, alas, be the week post op. Wish I could offer better...) You'll do fine. And hey -- Mexican has traditionally been one of the most successful for post-op blending. Mix in some beans, and rice, and salsa, and, if you want it, cheese or cheese soup, and whiz away. (Whiz as in with a blender, until you get an edible, slurpable texture.) C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2003 Report Share Posted July 8, 2003 Keep that brother in law image going strong. He just hasn't a clue... Fun to think of him trying to gum a steak. But I do believe that for the occasion I'd make it maybe a flank steak, instead of a filet. Or bottom round. Or maybe even shoulder. And let him gum it, greasy and cold. While you eat a delicately cooked and seasoned chicken fried steak, with the utmost delicacy. (But that won't, alas, be the week post op. Wish I could offer better...) You'll do fine. And hey -- Mexican has traditionally been one of the most successful for post-op blending. Mix in some beans, and rice, and salsa, and, if you want it, cheese or cheese soup, and whiz away. (Whiz as in with a blender, until you get an edible, slurpable texture.) C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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