Getting started

[Guest guest]

She initiates

> often and she's just so sweet.

Yep, just like a lot of the kids here.

I may look into the trampoline

> option. Just need a place to put it.

You could always put her bed mattress right on the floor and allow her to

jump on that. We have an old one downstairs and actually bought a new one

to go with it. That makes up the safety padding under the monkey bars and

the kids can jump there, too. The mini tramps are usually 36 to 40 " in

diameter and only about 6 to 8 inches off the ground. You could store it

standing against the wall and she could lay it down when she needs to

bounce. Most stores like Wal Mart, Kmart and Meijers and sporting good

stores have them. :-)

Sue

[Guest guest]

The funny thing about the potty is that she loves to sit on it. I got a

little doll and she sits on her potty also. When told you have to pee or we

won't do " whatever " she will go. Isn't that weird?

[Guest guest]

The funny thing about the potty is that she loves to sit on it. I got a

little doll and she sits on her potty also. When told you have to pee or we

won't do " whatever " she will go. Isn't that weird?

[Guest guest]

Thank-you. All suggestions are welcome. I am open to anything.

Re: Getting started

--- Hi my name is Daeley and I am also new to this group. I have a 5

year old boy with autism who is also very very hyper and also a 4

year old NT boy. Chasing taylor at family functions is pretty much

what i do too! My son isnt so much a climber, he's a jumper. He

jumps up and down alot! We too use a trampoline. We have found that

our son get " more " wound up with physical activities rather than worn

out and calmer. If he is playing outside or doing anything physically

exhilerating..he becomes more hyper and cannot bring himself back

down. So, we have found for our son...that finding calming

activities works best. We try to keep his activity level from getting

past the point of no return...by using activities that calm him. For

taylor it is things like gentle swinging, sucking milkshake or apple

sauce thru a straw (sucking is calming to him), holding his favorite

baby blanket, reading books, cuddling, computer, video games, deep

pressure massage, (taylor doesnt like light touch), etc. We also

make sure we pack a backpack with some of his favorite calming things

so we can pull out one when we need it. I have no idea if this will

help you at all. But for taylor when he has that need to jump...we do

the trampoline. Maybe for climbing...you can have her climb a jungle

gym.

[Guest guest]

Thank-you. All suggestions are welcome. I am open to anything.

Re: Getting started

--- Hi my name is Daeley and I am also new to this group. I have a 5

year old boy with autism who is also very very hyper and also a 4

year old NT boy. Chasing taylor at family functions is pretty much

what i do too! My son isnt so much a climber, he's a jumper. He

jumps up and down alot! We too use a trampoline. We have found that

our son get " more " wound up with physical activities rather than worn

out and calmer. If he is playing outside or doing anything physically

exhilerating..he becomes more hyper and cannot bring himself back

down. So, we have found for our son...that finding calming

activities works best. We try to keep his activity level from getting

past the point of no return...by using activities that calm him. For

taylor it is things like gentle swinging, sucking milkshake or apple

sauce thru a straw (sucking is calming to him), holding his favorite

baby blanket, reading books, cuddling, computer, video games, deep

pressure massage, (taylor doesnt like light touch), etc. We also

make sure we pack a backpack with some of his favorite calming things

so we can pull out one when we need it. I have no idea if this will

help you at all. But for taylor when he has that need to jump...we do

the trampoline. Maybe for climbing...you can have her climb a jungle

gym.

[Guest guest]

Do your twins communicate/play well together? Fortunately, mine do. (most of

the time). How, at 29 months, did they know your son was Autistic Spectrum

Disorder? They wouldn't label Kylin until she was five. (Just turned in Nov.)

Up to that point they simply said she was Developmentally delayed.

RE: Getting started

Hi Tara!! <waves wildly> Can you tell I'm excited???

My name is Debbie and I have 29 month old boy/girl twins. Like you, one

of my twins is ASD and the other is NT. Except we're reversed ... my

son Jordan is ASD and my daughter is NT.

I'm so excited to have another person in the same situation, ASD/NT

twins. It puts a whole different twist on autism & siblings.

Anyways, welcome to the group. You'll love it here.

Debbie

[Guest guest]

Do your twins communicate/play well together? Fortunately, mine do. (most of

the time). How, at 29 months, did they know your son was Autistic Spectrum

Disorder? They wouldn't label Kylin until she was five. (Just turned in Nov.)

Up to that point they simply said she was Developmentally delayed.

RE: Getting started

Hi Tara!! <waves wildly> Can you tell I'm excited???

My name is Debbie and I have 29 month old boy/girl twins. Like you, one

of my twins is ASD and the other is NT. Except we're reversed ... my

son Jordan is ASD and my daughter is NT.

I'm so excited to have another person in the same situation, ASD/NT

twins. It puts a whole different twist on autism & siblings.

Anyways, welcome to the group. You'll love it here.

Debbie

[Guest guest]

You have your hands full. I feel like a whiner now. You have my blessing and I

hope to draw from your extensive experience.

Re: Getting started

Hey Tara, glad to have you here! This place is my life line. Alot

of our kids have sleep issues and behavioral issues like your

daughter's hyperactivity. Our house has been privy to flying,

climbing, leaping children for years now. Two of the five have sleep

medications, and another may yet be there. Autism is what we do here

at PA and at our house.

(dh for 17 years)

, 15yo, AS unofficially, formal dx's NVLD, Tourette's, ADD, OCD

Gail, 13yo, Severe ADHD, Anxiety, Panic attacks, OCD

, 10yo, HFA, ADHD, Tourette's BP

, 5yo next week, PDD-NOS, Sensory Issues

, 2.5yo, PDD=NOS as of today instead of apraxia and DSI.

[Guest guest]

You have your hands full. I feel like a whiner now. You have my blessing and I

hope to draw from your extensive experience.

Re: Getting started

Hey Tara, glad to have you here! This place is my life line. Alot

of our kids have sleep issues and behavioral issues like your

daughter's hyperactivity. Our house has been privy to flying,

climbing, leaping children for years now. Two of the five have sleep

medications, and another may yet be there. Autism is what we do here

at PA and at our house.

(dh for 17 years)

, 15yo, AS unofficially, formal dx's NVLD, Tourette's, ADD, OCD

Gail, 13yo, Severe ADHD, Anxiety, Panic attacks, OCD

, 10yo, HFA, ADHD, Tourette's BP

, 5yo next week, PDD-NOS, Sensory Issues

, 2.5yo, PDD=NOS as of today instead of apraxia and DSI.

[Guest guest]

Definitely doing the trampoline. Thank-you

Re: Re: Getting started

She initiates

> often and she's just so sweet.

Yep, just like a lot of the kids here.

I may look into the trampoline

> option. Just need a place to put it.

You could always put her bed mattress right on the floor and allow her to

jump on that. We have an old one downstairs and actually bought a new one

to go with it. That makes up the safety padding under the monkey bars and

the kids can jump there, too. The mini tramps are usually 36 to 40 " in

diameter and only about 6 to 8 inches off the ground. You could store it

standing against the wall and she could lay it down when she needs to

bounce. Most stores like Wal Mart, Kmart and Meijers and sporting good

stores have them. :-)

Sue

[Guest guest]

Definitely doing the trampoline. Thank-you

Re: Re: Getting started

She initiates

> often and she's just so sweet.

Yep, just like a lot of the kids here.

I may look into the trampoline

> option. Just need a place to put it.

You could always put her bed mattress right on the floor and allow her to

jump on that. We have an old one downstairs and actually bought a new one

to go with it. That makes up the safety padding under the monkey bars and

the kids can jump there, too. The mini tramps are usually 36 to 40 " in

diameter and only about 6 to 8 inches off the ground. You could store it

standing against the wall and she could lay it down when she needs to

bounce. Most stores like Wal Mart, Kmart and Meijers and sporting good

stores have them. :-)

Sue

[Guest guest]

Definitely doing the trampoline. Thank-you

Re: Re: Getting started

She initiates

> often and she's just so sweet.

Yep, just like a lot of the kids here.

I may look into the trampoline

> option. Just need a place to put it.

You could always put her bed mattress right on the floor and allow her to

jump on that. We have an old one downstairs and actually bought a new one

to go with it. That makes up the safety padding under the monkey bars and

the kids can jump there, too. The mini tramps are usually 36 to 40 " in

diameter and only about 6 to 8 inches off the ground. You could store it

standing against the wall and she could lay it down when she needs to

bounce. Most stores like Wal Mart, Kmart and Meijers and sporting good

stores have them. :-)

Sue

[Guest guest]

Hi Tara!

I have five kids: Enrique, AS, 15; , 13, NT; Sophia, 8, NT;

Xavier, AKA Putter, 6; Robbie, 3, NT. Everyone but has a

birthday coming up in the next three weeks.

And I have no money for presents until my divorce is final.

Whoops! This is an introduction. Sorry.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Hi Tara!

I have five kids: Enrique, AS, 15; , 13, NT; Sophia, 8, NT;

Xavier, AKA Putter, 6; Robbie, 3, NT. Everyone but has a

birthday coming up in the next three weeks.

And I have no money for presents until my divorce is final.

Whoops! This is an introduction. Sorry.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> You have your hands full. I feel like a whiner now. You have my

blessing and I hope to draw from your extensive experience.

I'm not sure I'm up to such praises. Really. I'll take the

blessings though. Lots of them. People ask how we manage and I tell

we don't. Right now we are surviving. It's just the way it is.

Something else too - never apologize for needing to vent. If it's

hard for you then it is hard for you. We all share that here. No

matter where you go in life you don't have to look too terribly far

to see others that have more troubles than yourself or predicaments

that are more complicated, but that still does not detract from your

own situation and whether or not it is difficult for you. We can

still be grateful for the blessings we have and be utterly frustrated

with circumstances at the same time, so...vent away if need be!

[Guest guest]

> No need for apologies. I am divorced. Maybe, depending on your

situation, the divorce could be your present. Depends on the home front

atmosphere. It was a great gift I gave to myself. Think about it. Thanks

for the welcome.

Those who have listened to me moaning and agonizing over the past few years

about my horrible husband all think it is a VERY good thing that my divorce

is almost final. Most of them thought I should have done it ages ago, but I

persisted in trying to be a good Catholic and go to counselling etc.

Oh, well.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> No need for apologies. I am divorced. Maybe, depending on your

situation, the divorce could be your present. Depends on the home front

atmosphere. It was a great gift I gave to myself. Think about it. Thanks

for the welcome.

Those who have listened to me moaning and agonizing over the past few years

about my horrible husband all think it is a VERY good thing that my divorce

is almost final. Most of them thought I should have done it ages ago, but I

persisted in trying to be a good Catholic and go to counselling etc.

Oh, well.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> > but I persisted in trying to be a good Catholic and go to counselling

etc. <

>

>

> salli, i don't think anyone faults you for trying.

>

Oh, no, I never felt that. Certainly not on this list. Marriages do need

to be taken seriously and as a serious obligation especially with five kids.

But it is so clear to me in retrospect how hopeless the counselling really

was.

And yet I hoped.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> well of course you did, we all do, and like you said, it's better than the

other way

>

Ha, ha, so I did.

Thanks, .

Salli

[Guest guest]

> well of course you did, we all do, and like you said, it's better than the

other way

>

Ha, ha, so I did.

Thanks, .

Salli

[Guest guest]

> well of course you did, we all do, and like you said, it's better than the

other way

>

Ha, ha, so I did.

Thanks, .

Salli

[Guest guest]

> But it takes two people to make a marriage, and only one to make a

divorce.

> My dad told me that when he and my mom split up, and I think it's probably

> the best piece of advice he ever gave me.

>

GREAT advice. Thanks.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> But it takes two people to make a marriage, and only one to make a

divorce.

> My dad told me that when he and my mom split up, and I think it's probably

> the best piece of advice he ever gave me.

>

GREAT advice. Thanks.

Salli

[Guest guest]

> You have your hands full. I feel like a whiner now.

NOT ALLOWED!

You NEVER get to feel like a whiner here. Your problems are your problems,

and if they're the hardest thing you've ever dealt with, then they're just

as hard as anyone else's.

Remember that!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Really needed to hear that. Sometimes forget to feel validated for my real and

true experiences.

Re: Getting started

> You have your hands full. I feel like a whiner now. You have my

blessing and I hope to draw from your extensive experience.

I'm not sure I'm up to such praises. Really. I'll take the

blessings though. Lots of them. People ask how we manage and I tell

we don't. Right now we are surviving. It's just the way it is.

Something else too - never apologize for needing to vent. If it's

hard for you then it is hard for you. We all share that here. No

matter where you go in life you don't have to look too terribly far

to see others that have more troubles than yourself or predicaments

that are more complicated, but that still does not detract from your

own situation and whether or not it is difficult for you. We can

still be grateful for the blessings we have and be utterly frustrated

with circumstances at the same time, so...vent away if need be!