Re: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

[Guest guest]

Isn't it sheer madness how we torture ourselves so we can 'look good' for

OTHERS?!? It seems to me that the only reason your reunion gal dieted was that

she felt she wasn't OK as she IS and felt that would be the only way she would

receive what she isn't giving her own self - esteem. Sad, really sad.

Katcha

> Earlier I posted about a friend from high school who did the HCG diet to look

good for our HS reunion. When she walked up to where we were all gathered, she

looked great. I hugged her and said, " Wow, you look like you just lost twenty

pounds! " She said, " Ten! " emphatically in my ear. Of all of us, she was the

most fit looking - and yet - she mostly stood and posed while the rest of us ate

and visited.

>

> She looked self conscious and was undoubtedly disappointed that the entire

reunion didn't stop in its tracks to acknowledge how good she looked.

>

> Sandarah

[Guest guest]

Isn't it sheer madness how we torture ourselves so we can 'look good' for

OTHERS?!? It seems to me that the only reason your reunion gal dieted was that

she felt she wasn't OK as she IS and felt that would be the only way she would

receive what she isn't giving her own self - esteem. Sad, really sad.

Katcha

> Earlier I posted about a friend from high school who did the HCG diet to look

good for our HS reunion. When she walked up to where we were all gathered, she

looked great. I hugged her and said, " Wow, you look like you just lost twenty

pounds! " She said, " Ten! " emphatically in my ear. Of all of us, she was the

most fit looking - and yet - she mostly stood and posed while the rest of us ate

and visited.

>

> She looked self conscious and was undoubtedly disappointed that the entire

reunion didn't stop in its tracks to acknowledge how good she looked.

>

> Sandarah

[Guest guest]

We really have become so image oriented that how one LOOKS is the main focus for

our lives?!? " You look great/healthy/wonderful! (etc.) " is a common greeting and

compliment. But I bet all of us would love to hear " Its so wonderful to be with

you again. " or " I am enjoying being with you and want to hear how YOU are. "

instead.

What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-)

Just a thought - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

> > > >

> > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ________________________________

> > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Â

> > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > >

> > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > >

> > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

We really have become so image oriented that how one LOOKS is the main focus for

our lives?!? " You look great/healthy/wonderful! (etc.) " is a common greeting and

compliment. But I bet all of us would love to hear " Its so wonderful to be with

you again. " or " I am enjoying being with you and want to hear how YOU are. "

instead.

What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-)

Just a thought - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

> > > >

> > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ________________________________

> > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Â

> > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > >

> > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > >

> > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

We really have become so image oriented that how one LOOKS is the main focus for

our lives?!? " You look great/healthy/wonderful! (etc.) " is a common greeting and

compliment. But I bet all of us would love to hear " Its so wonderful to be with

you again. " or " I am enjoying being with you and want to hear how YOU are. "

instead.

What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-)

Just a thought - Katcha

IEing since March 2007

> > > >

> > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ________________________________

> > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Â

> > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > >

> > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > >

> > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Kate thanks for reminding me that besides the anger at false promises that

dieting brings, there are other things about dieting I need to remember.

1) Dieting basically tells me that I am NOT capable of running my own life. I

NEED to be directed and should NOT trust myself.

2) To diet admits that I am flawed as I am. That I will not be 'good enough'

UNTIL .... And even if I get as near that 'perfection' as possible, there will

always be something that isn't 'right' to be worked on.

3) When I diet I only look OUTward - how am I seen? What do others think of me?

What will make me OK? Never does dieting encourage me to focus on the real me

that is always there and long ignored. Dieting constantly reminds me that I can

and shouldn't trust myself.

If I'm not doing all this effort for my own good, why would I want to do that at

all?!?

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

>

>

> I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

>

[Guest guest]

Kate thanks for reminding me that besides the anger at false promises that

dieting brings, there are other things about dieting I need to remember.

1) Dieting basically tells me that I am NOT capable of running my own life. I

NEED to be directed and should NOT trust myself.

2) To diet admits that I am flawed as I am. That I will not be 'good enough'

UNTIL .... And even if I get as near that 'perfection' as possible, there will

always be something that isn't 'right' to be worked on.

3) When I diet I only look OUTward - how am I seen? What do others think of me?

What will make me OK? Never does dieting encourage me to focus on the real me

that is always there and long ignored. Dieting constantly reminds me that I can

and shouldn't trust myself.

If I'm not doing all this effort for my own good, why would I want to do that at

all?!?

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

>

>

> I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

>

[Guest guest]

Kate thanks for reminding me that besides the anger at false promises that

dieting brings, there are other things about dieting I need to remember.

1) Dieting basically tells me that I am NOT capable of running my own life. I

NEED to be directed and should NOT trust myself.

2) To diet admits that I am flawed as I am. That I will not be 'good enough'

UNTIL .... And even if I get as near that 'perfection' as possible, there will

always be something that isn't 'right' to be worked on.

3) When I diet I only look OUTward - how am I seen? What do others think of me?

What will make me OK? Never does dieting encourage me to focus on the real me

that is always there and long ignored. Dieting constantly reminds me that I can

and shouldn't trust myself.

If I'm not doing all this effort for my own good, why would I want to do that at

all?!?

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

>

>

> I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

>

[Guest guest]

Kate, good for you.  What insight.  Sandy

 

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about my

past dieting.  I am, indeed, rejecting the diet mentality but I have to

say I have learned from it.  I have had two major losses and gains. 

During the first loss, I learned that I am really good at following directions,

which has its merits, but also found I wasn’t so good at listening to my

body…yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back once I wasn’t

following the directions.  My second experience was that I went back to real

food.  I’d been eating cardboard dinners because they were easy and

I’d convinced myself they were healthy because they didn’t contain

many calories and/or fat.  However, I have found that real food is the key

for me.  That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half

& half in my coffee.  When I start saying “you can’t have

that”, I just want it more.  Putting half & half in my coffee is

very satisfying and putting a little butter in my steel cut oats is

yummy.  This second big loss was very restrictive calorically but it

required real food.  So now I am eating real food and am much

happier.  I have gained the weight I lost, but that’s just the way

it is for now.  My dieting in the past has made me who I am today and has

taught me more about myself that I might not have known.  But - No More

Dieting.  ~Kate in Spokane

[Guest guest]

Kate, good for you.  What insight.  Sandy

 

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about my

past dieting.  I am, indeed, rejecting the diet mentality but I have to

say I have learned from it.  I have had two major losses and gains. 

During the first loss, I learned that I am really good at following directions,

which has its merits, but also found I wasn’t so good at listening to my

body…yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back once I wasn’t

following the directions.  My second experience was that I went back to real

food.  I’d been eating cardboard dinners because they were easy and

I’d convinced myself they were healthy because they didn’t contain

many calories and/or fat.  However, I have found that real food is the key

for me.  That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half

& half in my coffee.  When I start saying “you can’t have

that”, I just want it more.  Putting half & half in my coffee is

very satisfying and putting a little butter in my steel cut oats is

yummy.  This second big loss was very restrictive calorically but it

required real food.  So now I am eating real food and am much

happier.  I have gained the weight I lost, but that’s just the way

it is for now.  My dieting in the past has made me who I am today and has

taught me more about myself that I might not have known.  But - No More

Dieting.  ~Kate in Spokane

[Guest guest]

Kate, good for you.  What insight.  Sandy

 

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about my

past dieting.  I am, indeed, rejecting the diet mentality but I have to

say I have learned from it.  I have had two major losses and gains. 

During the first loss, I learned that I am really good at following directions,

which has its merits, but also found I wasn’t so good at listening to my

body…yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back once I wasn’t

following the directions.  My second experience was that I went back to real

food.  I’d been eating cardboard dinners because they were easy and

I’d convinced myself they were healthy because they didn’t contain

many calories and/or fat.  However, I have found that real food is the key

for me.  That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half

& half in my coffee.  When I start saying “you can’t have

that”, I just want it more.  Putting half & half in my coffee is

very satisfying and putting a little butter in my steel cut oats is

yummy.  This second big loss was very restrictive calorically but it

required real food.  So now I am eating real food and am much

happier.  I have gained the weight I lost, but that’s just the way

it is for now.  My dieting in the past has made me who I am today and has

taught me more about myself that I might not have known.  But - No More

Dieting.  ~Kate in Spokane

[Guest guest]

Mmmm, good points all. And many initiated early in life when one is just

starting to form fundamental foundations for living. Wow. Dieting totally

undermines self-directed living and assessing value based on external approval.

Yep, yep. Dieting was a great teacher - too bad I didn't figure out the back

story a lot earlier in life.

> >

> >

> >

> > I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> > diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> > major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> > good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> > so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> > once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> > went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> > easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> > many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> > for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> > in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> > more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> > little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> > restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> > food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> > the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> > and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> > More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Mmmm, good points all. And many initiated early in life when one is just

starting to form fundamental foundations for living. Wow. Dieting totally

undermines self-directed living and assessing value based on external approval.

Yep, yep. Dieting was a great teacher - too bad I didn't figure out the back

story a lot earlier in life.

> >

> >

> >

> > I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> > diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> > major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> > good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> > so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> > once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> > went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> > easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> > many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> > for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> > in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> > more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> > little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> > restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> > food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> > the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> > and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> > More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Mmmm, good points all. And many initiated early in life when one is just

starting to form fundamental foundations for living. Wow. Dieting totally

undermines self-directed living and assessing value based on external approval.

Yep, yep. Dieting was a great teacher - too bad I didn't figure out the back

story a lot earlier in life.

> >

> >

> >

> > I've been thinking a lot about my past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the

> > diet mentality but I have to say I have learned from it. I have had two

> > major losses and gains. During the first loss, I learned that I am really

> > good at following directions, which has its merits, but also found I wasn't

> > so good at listening to my body.yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back

> > once I wasn't following the directions. My second experience was that I

> > went back to real food. I'd been eating cardboard dinners because they were

> > easy and I'd convinced myself they were healthy because they didn't contain

> > many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

> > for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half & half

> > in my coffee. When I start saying " you can't have that " , I just want it

> > more. Putting half & half in my coffee is very satisfying and putting a

> > little butter in my steel cut oats is yummy. This second big loss was very

> > restrictive calorically but it required real food. So now I am eating real

> > food and am much happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that's just

> > the way it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today

> > and has taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No

> > More Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm most likely to comment on someone's appearance when they're looking

particularly radiant or healthy, and happy too.

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

> > laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

> > pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

> > Mentality

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Â

> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

> > false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at

> > the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a

> > new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you

> > allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking

> > around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover

> > Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's

> > Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up

> > for you.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm most likely to comment on someone's appearance when they're looking

particularly radiant or healthy, and happy too.

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

> > laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

> > pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

> > Mentality

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Â

> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

> > false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at

> > the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a

> > new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you

> > allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking

> > around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover

> > Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's

> > Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up

> > for you.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I'm most likely to comment on someone's appearance when they're looking

particularly radiant or healthy, and happy too.

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

> > laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

> > pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

> > Mentality

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Â

> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

> > false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at

> > the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a

> > new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you

> > allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking

> > around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover

> > Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's

> > Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up

> > for you.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

" What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-) "

That's totally it. If I think about my very best friends in the whole world,

they are people that I love to be around, because I totally feel like myself

around them, and they like me for who I am, and it matters not one whit what I

look like. What a gift! Now I'm thinking about how I can offer that to other

people, and it mostly seems to be some kind of mental adjustment. But if we can

look beyond appearances in others, shouldn't, we be ale to do that for ourselves

too?

Tilley

T

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

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> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the

lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet

stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one

hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it

will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

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[Guest guest]

" What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-) "

That's totally it. If I think about my very best friends in the whole world,

they are people that I love to be around, because I totally feel like myself

around them, and they like me for who I am, and it matters not one whit what I

look like. What a gift! Now I'm thinking about how I can offer that to other

people, and it mostly seems to be some kind of mental adjustment. But if we can

look beyond appearances in others, shouldn't, we be ale to do that for ourselves

too?

Tilley

T

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Â

> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the

lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet

stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one

hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it

will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

" What would YOU really really really like to hear from others when you meet?

Maybe that's what they really want and need to hear too ;-) "

That's totally it. If I think about my very best friends in the whole world,

they are people that I love to be around, because I totally feel like myself

around them, and they like me for who I am, and it matters not one whit what I

look like. What a gift! Now I'm thinking about how I can offer that to other

people, and it mostly seems to be some kind of mental adjustment. But if we can

look beyond appearances in others, shouldn't, we be ale to do that for ourselves

too?

Tilley

T

> > > > >

> > > > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me

laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're

pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ________________________________

> > > > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Â

> > > > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the

false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the

lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet

stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one

hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it

will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > > > >

> > > > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > > > >

> > > > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I began dieting in middle school, when I was probably 15 pounds overweight. I've

successfully lost many times, and regained plus more, so that now, at the age of

60, I need to lose about 50 pounds. It is a big relief to learn that this is not

my fault, not my weakness, but that it is a biological response to dieting

along. While it all makes sense, I am also afraid to let it go, that I will gain

a ton of weight if I am not dieting. Maybe that is because, since middle school,

I've either been dieting or regaining the lost weight, at one end of the

pendulum. I have never just held a steady weight. I am very glad this group is

here, as I am reading the posts every day or so, and listening.

For me, there's also an emotional component. Like, at this moment, I'm fighting

the urge to eat, but am not physically hungry. And this feels a lot like a diet,

that I want food but can't have it. But I know it's not that my body is needing

food. It's something else, so mayabe I simply need to sit quietly and listen for

a voice inside me whispering what it is that I really need.

-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " jain_daugh "

wrote:

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

I began dieting in middle school, when I was probably 15 pounds overweight. I've

successfully lost many times, and regained plus more, so that now, at the age of

60, I need to lose about 50 pounds. It is a big relief to learn that this is not

my fault, not my weakness, but that it is a biological response to dieting

along. While it all makes sense, I am also afraid to let it go, that I will gain

a ton of weight if I am not dieting. Maybe that is because, since middle school,

I've either been dieting or regaining the lost weight, at one end of the

pendulum. I have never just held a steady weight. I am very glad this group is

here, as I am reading the posts every day or so, and listening.

For me, there's also an emotional component. Like, at this moment, I'm fighting

the urge to eat, but am not physically hungry. And this feels a lot like a diet,

that I want food but can't have it. But I know it's not that my body is needing

food. It's something else, so mayabe I simply need to sit quietly and listen for

a voice inside me whispering what it is that I really need.

-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " jain_daugh "

wrote:

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

I began dieting in middle school, when I was probably 15 pounds overweight. I've

successfully lost many times, and regained plus more, so that now, at the age of

60, I need to lose about 50 pounds. It is a big relief to learn that this is not

my fault, not my weakness, but that it is a biological response to dieting

along. While it all makes sense, I am also afraid to let it go, that I will gain

a ton of weight if I am not dieting. Maybe that is because, since middle school,

I've either been dieting or regaining the lost weight, at one end of the

pendulum. I have never just held a steady weight. I am very glad this group is

here, as I am reading the posts every day or so, and listening.

For me, there's also an emotional component. Like, at this moment, I'm fighting

the urge to eat, but am not physically hungry. And this feels a lot like a diet,

that I want food but can't have it. But I know it's not that my body is needing

food. It's something else, so mayabe I simply need to sit quietly and listen for

a voice inside me whispering what it is that I really need.

-- In IntuitiveEating_Support , " jain_daugh "

wrote:

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

>

> For me, there's also an emotional component. Like, at this moment, I'm

fighting the urge to eat, but am not physically hungry. And this feels a lot

like a diet, that I want food but can't have it.

YES you can choose to eat even when you are not hungry. No safe is going to fall

on your head and you may even find that its the PERMISSION to eat that you need

far more than the actual food. But that's a few Principles further on down (#3)

;-)

> But I know it's not that my body is needing food. It's something else, so

maybe I simply need to sit quietly and listen for a voice inside me whispering

what it is that I really need.

You are so right and on your way to getting it too. Kudos to you for allowing

yourself that awareness.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

[Guest guest]

>

> For me, there's also an emotional component. Like, at this moment, I'm

fighting the urge to eat, but am not physically hungry. And this feels a lot

like a diet, that I want food but can't have it.

YES you can choose to eat even when you are not hungry. No safe is going to fall

on your head and you may even find that its the PERMISSION to eat that you need

far more than the actual food. But that's a few Principles further on down (#3)

;-)

> But I know it's not that my body is needing food. It's something else, so

maybe I simply need to sit quietly and listen for a voice inside me whispering

what it is that I really need.

You are so right and on your way to getting it too. Kudos to you for allowing

yourself that awareness.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007