Re: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

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Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to lose weight? No thank you! To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

(quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

[Guest guest]

Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to lose weight? No thank you! To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

(quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

[Guest guest]

Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to lose weight? No thank you! To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

(quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

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My " alternative " MD recommended it to me.. when I did research I could not

believe he suggested it! It is the MAX of wrong ways to lose weight. I am

sorry to say that I actually toy with the idea from time to time because of my

desperation. But, I know I cannot, or the correct way to achieve my healthy

body weight will never happen. I just want to follow the Intuitive Eating

principles and I know it will happen!

Judy

>

> Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

>

>

> ________________________________

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> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

>

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>  

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

My " alternative " MD recommended it to me.. when I did research I could not

believe he suggested it! It is the MAX of wrong ways to lose weight. I am

sorry to say that I actually toy with the idea from time to time because of my

desperation. But, I know I cannot, or the correct way to achieve my healthy

body weight will never happen. I just want to follow the Intuitive Eating

principles and I know it will happen!

Judy

>

> Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

>

>

>  

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting

does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I

didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not

fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started

to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts

at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing

it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky

for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right.

Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed

here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However

I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted

wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it

gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty

much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a

stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the

material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any

slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can

make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting

does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I

didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not

fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started

to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts

at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing

it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky

for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right.

Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed

here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However

I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted

wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it

gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty

much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a

stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the

material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any

slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can

make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting

does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I

didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not

fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started

to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts

at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing

it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky

for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right.

Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed

here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However

I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted

wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it

gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty

much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a

stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the

material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any

slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can

make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

I find that the diet mentality is very sneaky and shows up in many disguises.  I have made some headway but often see it again and know that this is a journey, a long one too.  I remind myself that I dieted for maybe 40 years with the end result being that I gained even more weight than I ever had.  I had had my " successes " along the way, but they have all been temporary. I am learning to just notice when the diet mentality shows up, identify it and not judge myself or beat myself up over it.  I like this idea of going through the steps. Thanks for the idea. Sandy

 

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right. Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

I find that the diet mentality is very sneaky and shows up in many disguises.  I have made some headway but often see it again and know that this is a journey, a long one too.  I remind myself that I dieted for maybe 40 years with the end result being that I gained even more weight than I ever had.  I had had my " successes " along the way, but they have all been temporary. I am learning to just notice when the diet mentality shows up, identify it and not judge myself or beat myself up over it.  I like this idea of going through the steps. Thanks for the idea. Sandy

 

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right. Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

I find that the diet mentality is very sneaky and shows up in many disguises.  I have made some headway but often see it again and know that this is a journey, a long one too.  I remind myself that I dieted for maybe 40 years with the end result being that I gained even more weight than I ever had.  I had had my " successes " along the way, but they have all been temporary. I am learning to just notice when the diet mentality shows up, identify it and not judge myself or beat myself up over it.  I like this idea of going through the steps. Thanks for the idea. Sandy

 

This has to be the starting point for all of us - finally admitting that dieting does NOT do what it promises and makes us miserable in the process too.

The irony for me was that the only time I dieted (loosely at that) was when I didn't really need to! Heck I was young, in a very good window of weight and not fighting with eating really. Then when I got older (pre-menopause) and started to get those 'strong suggestions' from my dear nurse practitioner, my attempts at loosing some weight ended up . . . . . GAINing in the end! Without realizing it I was allowing myself to be sucked into the vortex of dieting - ugh! Lucky for me I found and read Geneen Roth's books and knew that she was right. Unfortunately her suggestions didn't connect with me. I found what I needed here.

I am an independent person and not usually prone to outside influences. However I have found that even I was deeply effected by all constant and 'accepted wisdom' that the multi-billion/year diet industry rains upon us every chance it gets. It has taken me a surprisingly longer time than I thought it had to pretty much dump any and all dieting thoughts. Sorta reminds me of trying to wash out a stain from a piece of clothing - it fades but short of scrubbing away the material - some small shadow seems to remain. I am happier that now I stop any slip or intrusive thought dead in its tracks and chase it as far away as I can make it go.

Thanks IE for helping me rid my life of diet mentality - at least 90%+ anyway.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

Every time I read about the false hope that diet mentality creates I feel very

sad. I've spent some very dark times blaming myself for not having enough will

power to achieve the weight I thought I had to be in order to feel good enough.

And feeling like a failure and loser when I fell off another diet.

I'll be 67 in December and my life since age 12 has been spent trying to fit

into a cultural norm that was effectively insane.

I guess I need to get mad about that - being sad isn't a strong enough response.

Maybe it's even the response of a victim. I say that only because it wasn't

until years after my divorce that I discovered how angry I was with my

ex-husband. I was always just sad about the relationship. So - this sadness

must actually have some anger behind it somewhere.

Yes, I feel gypped and cheated. Cheated out of living a life that would have

been far more enriching than looking at fashion magazines and wishing I were one

size smaller. Just one size smaller. That, by the way, was a lot of sizes ago.

Sandarah

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

Every time I read about the false hope that diet mentality creates I feel very

sad. I've spent some very dark times blaming myself for not having enough will

power to achieve the weight I thought I had to be in order to feel good enough.

And feeling like a failure and loser when I fell off another diet.

I'll be 67 in December and my life since age 12 has been spent trying to fit

into a cultural norm that was effectively insane.

I guess I need to get mad about that - being sad isn't a strong enough response.

Maybe it's even the response of a victim. I say that only because it wasn't

until years after my divorce that I discovered how angry I was with my

ex-husband. I was always just sad about the relationship. So - this sadness

must actually have some anger behind it somewhere.

Yes, I feel gypped and cheated. Cheated out of living a life that would have

been far more enriching than looking at fashion magazines and wishing I were one

size smaller. Just one size smaller. That, by the way, was a lot of sizes ago.

Sandarah

>

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

>

> (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

>

> Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

>

[Guest guest]

My naturopath recommended HCG to me too. I thought that was so weird. Who

would ever think that 500 calories a day was all right?!

Earlier I posted about a friend from high school who did the HCG diet to look

good for our HS reunion. W

hen she walked up to where we were all gathered, she looked great. I hugged her

and said, " Wow, you look like you just lost twenty pounds! " She said, " Ten! "

emphatically in my ear. Of all of us, she was the most fit looking - and yet -

she mostly stood and posed while the rest of us ate and visited.

She looked self conscious and was undoubtedly disappointed that the entire

reunion didn't stop in its tracks to acknowledge how good she looked. I don't

think anyone but me commented on it, and that was only because I knew she'd been

munching on carrot sticks for a month prior and I knew she'd worked hard to be

thin enough to show up.

In fact several of us went to dinner a few weeks beforehand and she brought

along raw beets to eat while the rest of us ate ribs and burgers. She raved on

and on about how good those beets were and how she'd never noticed before. If I

know anything it's that right now, she is not raving about how good beets are.

She's salivating about Thanksgiving while promising not to eat any dressing,

pie, gravy....

I remember all of the Thanksgivings when my sister ate only a few slices of

turkey and a tablespoon of mashed potatoes. " No pie, thank you. " She died of a

brain tumor. Dieting won't beat death, that's for sure.

Sandarah

> >

> > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

> >

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

> >

> >

> >  

> > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> >

> > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> >

> > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I’ve been thinking a lot about my

past dieting. I am, indeed, rejecting the diet mentality but I have to

say I have learned from it. I have had two major losses and gains.

During the first loss, I learned that I am really good at following directions,

which has its merits, but also found I wasn’t so good at listening to my

body…yes, you guessed it, I gained it all back once I wasn’t

following the directions. My second experience was that I went back to real

food. I’d been eating cardboard dinners because they were easy and

I’d convinced myself they were healthy because they didn’t contain

many calories and/or fat. However, I have found that real food is the key

for me. That includes real dairy, like real sour cream, butter, half

& half in my coffee. When I start saying “you can’t have

that”, I just want it more. Putting half & half in my coffee is

very satisfying and putting a little butter in my steel cut oats is

yummy. This second big loss was very restrictive calorically but it

required real food. So now I am eating real food and am much

happier. I have gained the weight I lost, but that’s just the way

it is for now. My dieting in the past has made me who I am today and has

taught me more about myself that I might not have known. But - No More

Dieting. ~Kate in Spokane

[Guest guest]

It makes me feel mad that I can't just find a diet and stick to it; mad that I

ever thought dieting was the answer in the first place, and sad that I still

wish dieting would quickly get rid of my extra weight.

Alia

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

[Guest guest]

It makes me feel mad that I can't just find a diet and stick to it; mad that I

ever thought dieting was the answer in the first place, and sad that I still

wish dieting would quickly get rid of my extra weight.

Alia

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

[Guest guest]

It makes me feel mad that I can't just find a diet and stick to it; mad that I

ever thought dieting was the answer in the first place, and sad that I still

wish dieting would quickly get rid of my extra weight.

Alia

> Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope

of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that

have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

[Guest guest]

Sandarah,

Your story reminds me of a friend who wants to lose some weight. When I see her,

she often says " You look so great! Did you lose some weight? " I take is as a

compliment even though I can see how it totally fits into the diet mentality. I

get rewarded (admired) for looking thin. My brain now thinks that maybe I would

be even cuter (loved) if I lose some weight! Bizzarly, yes, it somehow boosts me

even though it is not how I want to think.

When I see her now, I started saying those things to her because when I first

said it (and thought she really did lose some weight), her whole face lit up and

she was immediately in a good mood. I am noticing that it really bugs me when I

say such things that are so not IE, but her eagerness to hear a compliment

somehow derails me.

I think I'll stop saying and reinforcing the dieting mentality in this way with

her. Looking at both our stories makes me think that I am less at ease with diet

mentality. More uptight. Or something.

Vera

> > >

> > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > >

> > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > >

> > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sandarah,

Your story reminds me of a friend who wants to lose some weight. When I see her,

she often says " You look so great! Did you lose some weight? " I take is as a

compliment even though I can see how it totally fits into the diet mentality. I

get rewarded (admired) for looking thin. My brain now thinks that maybe I would

be even cuter (loved) if I lose some weight! Bizzarly, yes, it somehow boosts me

even though it is not how I want to think.

When I see her now, I started saying those things to her because when I first

said it (and thought she really did lose some weight), her whole face lit up and

she was immediately in a good mood. I am noticing that it really bugs me when I

say such things that are so not IE, but her eagerness to hear a compliment

somehow derails me.

I think I'll stop saying and reinforcing the dieting mentality in this way with

her. Looking at both our stories makes me think that I am less at ease with diet

mentality. More uptight. Or something.

Vera

> > >

> > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > >

> > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > >

> > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Sandarah,

Your story reminds me of a friend who wants to lose some weight. When I see her,

she often says " You look so great! Did you lose some weight? " I take is as a

compliment even though I can see how it totally fits into the diet mentality. I

get rewarded (admired) for looking thin. My brain now thinks that maybe I would

be even cuter (loved) if I lose some weight! Bizzarly, yes, it somehow boosts me

even though it is not how I want to think.

When I see her now, I started saying those things to her because when I first

said it (and thought she really did lose some weight), her whole face lit up and

she was immediately in a good mood. I am noticing that it really bugs me when I

say such things that are so not IE, but her eagerness to hear a compliment

somehow derails me.

I think I'll stop saying and reinforcing the dieting mentality in this way with

her. Looking at both our stories makes me think that I am less at ease with diet

mentality. More uptight. Or something.

Vera

> > >

> > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh

every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to

lose weight? No thank you!

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet

Mentality

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false

hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies

that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped

working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to

linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will

prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > >

> > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > >

> > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for

you.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You can compliment her on looking great without asking if it is weight loss. You can say how happy she looks, or energetic, younger(although I don't really like that one either).  Sandy

 

Sandarah,

Your story reminds me of a friend who wants to lose some weight. When I see her, she often says " You look so great! Did you lose some weight? " I take is as a compliment even though I can see how it totally fits into the diet mentality. I get rewarded (admired) for looking thin. My brain now thinks that maybe I would be even cuter (loved) if I lose some weight! Bizzarly, yes, it somehow boosts me even though it is not how I want to think.

When I see her now, I started saying those things to her because when I first said it (and thought she really did lose some weight), her whole face lit up and she was immediately in a good mood. I am noticing that it really bugs me when I say such things that are so not IE, but her eagerness to hear a compliment somehow derails me.

I think I'll stop saying and reinforcing the dieting mentality in this way with her. Looking at both our stories makes me think that I am less at ease with diet mentality. More uptight. Or something.

Vera

> > >

> > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > >

> > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > >

> > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

You can compliment her on looking great without asking if it is weight loss. You can say how happy she looks, or energetic, younger(although I don't really like that one either).  Sandy

 

Sandarah,

Your story reminds me of a friend who wants to lose some weight. When I see her, she often says " You look so great! Did you lose some weight? " I take is as a compliment even though I can see how it totally fits into the diet mentality. I get rewarded (admired) for looking thin. My brain now thinks that maybe I would be even cuter (loved) if I lose some weight! Bizzarly, yes, it somehow boosts me even though it is not how I want to think.

When I see her now, I started saying those things to her because when I first said it (and thought she really did lose some weight), her whole face lit up and she was immediately in a good mood. I am noticing that it really bugs me when I say such things that are so not IE, but her eagerness to hear a compliment somehow derails me.

I think I'll stop saying and reinforcing the dieting mentality in this way with her. Looking at both our stories makes me think that I am less at ease with diet mentality. More uptight. Or something.

Vera

> > >

> > > Have you heard the new commercials for HCG weight loss? It makes me laugh every time. So now we have to trick our bodies into thinking we're pregnant to lose weight? No thank you!

> > >

> > >

> > > ________________________________

> > > From: jain_daugh <jain_daugh@>

> > > To: IntuitiveEating_Support

> > > Sent: Saturday, November 19, 2011 11:09 AM

> > > Subject: Principle #1 - Reject the Diet Mentality

> > >

> > >

> > >  

> > > Throw out the diet books and magazine articles that offer you the false hope of losing weight quickly, easily, and permanently. Get angry at the lies that have led you to feel as if you were a failure every time a new diet stopped working and you gained back all of the weight. If you allow even one hope to linger that a new and better diet might be lurking around the corner, it will prevent you from being free to rediscover Intuitive Eating.

> > >

> > > (quoted from Intuitive eating by Tribloe & Resch - St. 's Press)

> > >

> > > Please reply (to this post) with any and all things this brings up for you.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Dieting often reminds me of reaching for a 'brass ring' - as if so minor token

is somehow sooooo important and desirable for my life! Exactly WHAT does a

'brass ring' do for me?!? Its mainly a status symbol to hold up to others

really. Its actual uses in MY life are very limited and frankly why I would want

such a thing evades me.

Sandy it sounds like you are developing a good working response to diet

mentality. Its so prevalent and invasive its that 'constant vigilance' sort of

action that freedom requires. And to take it as you can is great too! Love

sharing this journey with you.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> I find that the diet mentality is very sneaky and shows up in many

> disguises. I have made some headway but often see it again and know that

> this is a journey, a long one too. I remind myself that I dieted for maybe

> 40 years with the end result being that I gained even more weight than I

> ever had. I had had my " successes " along the way, but they have all been

> temporary. I am learning to just notice when the diet mentality shows up,

> identify it and not judge myself or beat myself up over it. I like this

> idea of going through the steps. Thanks for the idea. Sandy

>

[Guest guest]

Dieting often reminds me of reaching for a 'brass ring' - as if so minor token

is somehow sooooo important and desirable for my life! Exactly WHAT does a

'brass ring' do for me?!? Its mainly a status symbol to hold up to others

really. Its actual uses in MY life are very limited and frankly why I would want

such a thing evades me.

Sandy it sounds like you are developing a good working response to diet

mentality. Its so prevalent and invasive its that 'constant vigilance' sort of

action that freedom requires. And to take it as you can is great too! Love

sharing this journey with you.

Katcha

IEing since March 2007

>

> I find that the diet mentality is very sneaky and shows up in many

> disguises. I have made some headway but often see it again and know that

> this is a journey, a long one too. I remind myself that I dieted for maybe

> 40 years with the end result being that I gained even more weight than I

> ever had. I had had my " successes " along the way, but they have all been

> temporary. I am learning to just notice when the diet mentality shows up,

> identify it and not judge myself or beat myself up over it. I like this

> idea of going through the steps. Thanks for the idea. Sandy

>