Re: Further Akron AA lunacy

[Guest guest]

There's a typo here. You might have thought I meant " significant

other " but in fact I meant to say " son. "

He has an IQ of 155 and has flunked out of college twice. He now

makes excellent money as a computer hardware expert at a b2b website

company with some very prestigious clients (like The Limited). He has

always been able to do mechanical stuff. Never needed directions.

Just does it, ever since he was small. Installs intercoms. Programs

VCRs. Everything you can name as to hardware, machines, he can do it,

and doesn't seem to need to learn to do it. It's like science

fiction.

He's a person who requires very little contact with others to be okay,

but when he has to deal with others, whether he knows them or not, he

is pleasant, polite and well-mannered. Even sort of charismatic (but

hey, I'm his mother and you don't need to believe me. Nevertheless,

I've received numerous compliments on what a great kid he is and what

a good job I did. I don't think I did it, I think he did it).

So these are the reasons I thought of him when you mentioned

Asperger's Syndrome. Once he told me that he wished he could get a

job doing what he did best, and I asked him what that was. He said,

" Knowing what episode of Star Trek it is 30 seconds into the show. "

It made me feel guilty about the times when he was 3-6 months old, and

I used to put him in his carrier on the kitchen table and we would

watch Sesame Street and the Electric Company. Right after that they

showed Star Trek reruns, and we would watch them together. I think it

made some sort of imprint on his mind.

> > Christ, you just described my so, except that socially he is very

> > adept.

>

> Not anything anyone would have said about my Dad. According to my

> brothers, the priest at his funeral (not knowing they were there or

> that they even existed) basically said what a complete

pain-in-the-ass

> my Dad had been, as if to kind of damp down any unease folks might

> have had at the sense of relief the congregation had at his passing.

>

> Superficially he appeared affable to tohers, but he had a very dark

> side to him I have written about before. In response to my little

> " Feorge Formby " skit, Mandolin replied as if my stepfather had

raised

> me (he didnt). If he wonders where I get it from, my real father

> and mother are the place to look.

>

> P.

[Guest guest]

As Mona observed, greater male top-end intelligence is well known -

matched by greater lower-end too. The extremes are not necessarily

representative of the average. particularly when only one extreme is

considered.

> > > In a message dated 6/26/01 1:15:31 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

> > > mikdan7@h... writes:

> > >

> > >

> > > >

> > >

> > > This is true. In the aggregate, men are superior in matters

> > concerning

> > > spatial relationships than women are. Of course, this us tells

> > nothing about

> > > the capabilities of any particular man or woman.

> > >

> > > I haven't played Chess in over 20 years, and have no doubt that

most

> > > regular-playing kids could beat me at that game. You probably

could

> > too,

> > > Mikey.

> > >

> > > But I'd have ya screaming for mercy, Mikey, at:

> > >

> > > 1. Trivial Pursuit;

> > > 2. Outburst;

> > > 3. Jeopardy; or

> > > 4. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding.

> > >

> > > --Mona--

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Oh who cares.

> > > In a message dated 6/26/01 1:15:31 AM US Eastern Standard Time,

> > > mikdan7@h... writes:

> > >

> > >

> > > >

> > >

> > > This is true. In the aggregate, men are superior in matters

> > concerning

> > > spatial relationships than women are. Of course, this us tells

> > nothing about

> > > the capabilities of any particular man or woman.

> > >

> > > I haven't played Chess in over 20 years, and have no doubt that

most

> > > regular-playing kids could beat me at that game. You probably

could

> > too,

> > > Mikey.

> > >

> > > But I'd have ya screaming for mercy, Mikey, at:

> > >

> > > 1. Trivial Pursuit;

> > > 2. Outburst;

> > > 3. Jeopardy; or

> > > 4. The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding.

> > >

> > > --Mona--

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

HI Kayleigh

It's so hard to tell with emails but am I right that youre joking

here? Your son's happy and there's no problem, and you know that he

is who he is and that you've been the famous " good enough mother " for

him? If he's a bit too offbeat for college and has some odd talents

but he's happy and well-liked, there's no problem.

P.

> > > Christ, you just described my so, except that socially he is

very

> > > adept.

> >

> > Not anything anyone would have said about my Dad. According to my

> > brothers, the priest at his funeral (not knowing they were there

or

> > that they even existed) basically said what a complete

> pain-in-the-ass

> > my Dad had been, as if to kind of damp down any unease folks might

> > have had at the sense of relief the congregation had at his

passing.

> >

> > Superficially he appeared affable to tohers, but he had a very

dark

> > side to him I have written about before. In response to my little

> > " Feorge Formby " skit, Mandolin replied as if my stepfather had

> raised

> > me (he didnt). If he wonders where I get it from, my real father

> > and mother are the place to look.

> >

> > P.

[Guest guest]

No, I'm not joking, not one bit. What makes you think I am? I hope

you're still on line, this post made me very anxious.

> > > > Christ, you just described my so, except that socially he is

> very

> > > > adept.

> > >

> > > Not anything anyone would have said about my Dad. According to

my

> > > brothers, the priest at his funeral (not knowing they were there

> or

> > > that they even existed) basically said what a complete

> > pain-in-the-ass

> > > my Dad had been, as if to kind of damp down any unease folks

might

> > > have had at the sense of relief the congregation had at his

> passing.

> > >

> > > Superficially he appeared affable to tohers, but he had a very

> dark

> > > side to him I have written about before. In response to my

little

> > > " Feorge Formby " skit, Mandolin replied as if my stepfather had

> > raised

> > > me (he didnt). If he wonders where I get it from, my real

father

> > > and mother are the place to look.

> > >

> > > P.

[Guest guest]

> No, I'm not joking, not one bit. What makes you think I am? I hope

> you're still on line, this post made me very anxious.

Yes I'm still here. I just thought I was getting so heavy maybe I

should lighten up a bit and not assume the worst. How have I made you

worried? Ok your son might have some Aspergerish traits maybe, but is

he happy? Is he really seriously unhappy with his job? Is he ok

with being a bit aloof or does he wish he could get closer to ppl?

[Guest guest]

I guess I got the impression that you thought there was something

wrong with my son. He's very happy with his job, it's the thing

he does best. I'm not worried if he has Aspergerish traits. He seems

fine with other people. I too am someone who does not get close to

others but has no problem interacting with people I meet. I didn't

mean to suggest there was a problem. Naturally I was not happy that

he flunked out of college, but he's doing so well now that I can't

complain.

> > No, I'm not joking, not one bit. What makes you think I am? I

hope

> > you're still on line, this post made me very anxious.

>

> Yes I'm still here. I just thought I was getting so heavy maybe I

> should lighten up a bit and not assume the worst. How have I made

you

> worried? Ok your son might have some Aspergerish traits maybe, but

is

> he happy? Is he really seriously unhappy with his job? Is he ok

> with being a bit aloof or does he wish he could get closer to ppl?

[Guest guest]

> I guess I got the impression that you thought there was something

> wrong with my son.

Heavens no. I dont even know youre son. If he's happy and thrives in

the community, no reason to think anything wrong at all.

P.