Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 It's very interesting how we can all compare notes and find out our mothers were so similar. My mother got involved in court proceedings alllll the time. She was also obsessed with crime on TV. I remember when the story about murdering his wife, Lacey, was all over the news. My mother talked about nothing else. And I remember asking her if we could possibly discuss something more pleasant because for some reason, she was all up into who was murdered, raped, robbed, or tortured in the news. It was really depressing. She went from one news show to the next and back again all hours of the day and night. She would FREAK if her cable went out because of weather or anything. She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all the devastation in the world 24 hours day. In a message dated 4/11/2010 11:23:14 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was go > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 It's very interesting how we can all compare notes and find out our mothers were so similar. My mother got involved in court proceedings alllll the time. She was also obsessed with crime on TV. I remember when the story about murdering his wife, Lacey, was all over the news. My mother talked about nothing else. And I remember asking her if we could possibly discuss something more pleasant because for some reason, she was all up into who was murdered, raped, robbed, or tortured in the news. It was really depressing. She went from one news show to the next and back again all hours of the day and night. She would FREAK if her cable went out because of weather or anything. She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all the devastation in the world 24 hours day. In a message dated 4/11/2010 11:23:14 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was go > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Yep. My mother would call me and talk real nasty about my sister (and do the same about me to my sister) and when I would ask her to stop, she would say, " well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a friend, but I guess not. " Then she'd get pitiful and stare at the ground or trace something real slowly with her finger, acting all rejected. Her comments when I'd say something about her negativity would vary from, " You just live blindly " to " that's not reality " or " Why do you live in la-la land? " I realize looking back that 95% of her conversation had to do with death, dying, crime, sadness, abuse, victims, lawsuits, war, ....crazy!! In a message dated 4/11/2010 12:07:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: How funny, , Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with her for 6 solid hours she would say, " This is what real families do. " My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she loved Bond movies, go figure! > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Yep. My mother would call me and talk real nasty about my sister (and do the same about me to my sister) and when I would ask her to stop, she would say, " well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a friend, but I guess not. " Then she'd get pitiful and stare at the ground or trace something real slowly with her finger, acting all rejected. Her comments when I'd say something about her negativity would vary from, " You just live blindly " to " that's not reality " or " Why do you live in la-la land? " I realize looking back that 95% of her conversation had to do with death, dying, crime, sadness, abuse, victims, lawsuits, war, ....crazy!! In a message dated 4/11/2010 12:07:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: How funny, , Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with her for 6 solid hours she would say, " This is what real families do. " My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she loved Bond movies, go figure! > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Yep. My mother would call me and talk real nasty about my sister (and do the same about me to my sister) and when I would ask her to stop, she would say, " well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a friend, but I guess not. " Then she'd get pitiful and stare at the ground or trace something real slowly with her finger, acting all rejected. Her comments when I'd say something about her negativity would vary from, " You just live blindly " to " that's not reality " or " Why do you live in la-la land? " I realize looking back that 95% of her conversation had to do with death, dying, crime, sadness, abuse, victims, lawsuits, war, ....crazy!! In a message dated 4/11/2010 12:07:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: How funny, , Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with her for 6 solid hours she would say, " This is what real families do. " My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she loved Bond movies, go figure! > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 It really is amazing how alike all of our mothers are when it comes down to the weirdness they had. The details may vary slightly, but the situations are soooo similar. My mother-in-law is a different type of borderline. I'm not exactly where she fits in...she may be more of a narcissist than a borderline, but she is also very, very mean and a compulsive liar. In a message dated 4/11/2010 2:19:07 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, downthebunnyhole64@... writes: OMG - my nada did something *very* similar! Different situation, but she completely created a crisis that didn't exist, got lawyers, the news and even senators involved - could not talk about anything else for months! It was AWFUL! It is amazing to read that someone else has experienced this type of craziness. - --- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_ (mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 It really is amazing how alike all of our mothers are when it comes down to the weirdness they had. The details may vary slightly, but the situations are soooo similar. My mother-in-law is a different type of borderline. I'm not exactly where she fits in...she may be more of a narcissist than a borderline, but she is also very, very mean and a compulsive liar. In a message dated 4/11/2010 2:19:07 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, downthebunnyhole64@... writes: OMG - my nada did something *very* similar! Different situation, but she completely created a crisis that didn't exist, got lawyers, the news and even senators involved - could not talk about anything else for months! It was AWFUL! It is amazing to read that someone else has experienced this type of craziness. - --- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_ (mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 How funny, , Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with her for 6 solid hours she would say, " This is what real families do. " My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she loved Bond movies, go figure! > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Ugh! " You're not living in reality... " " What real families do... " " Well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a friend, but I guess not... " I just read this last entry and all three of these popped out at me. Good Grief... I've been hit with every single one of them - my entire life. The big killer for me has always been #2... " What real families do... " Every time I didn't agree or do what she wanted, I was at fault and wasn't playing by some universal code of conduct. Wow...what a shock it was to me to find out she was full of #$%@#$. She still says that but I just smile and say, " Not my family " and leave it at that. She fumes. LYnnette > > Yep. My mother would call me and talk real nasty about my sister (and do > the same about me to my sister) and when I would ask her to stop, she would > say, " well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a > friend, but I guess not. " Then she'd get pitiful and stare at the ground > or trace something real slowly with her finger, acting all rejected. > > Her comments when I'd say something about her negativity would vary from, > " You just live blindly " to " that's not reality " or " Why do you live in la-la > land? " > > I realize looking back that 95% of her conversation had to do with death, > dying, crime, sadness, abuse, victims, lawsuits, war, ....crazy!! > > > In a message dated 4/11/2010 12:07:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > disasfaeries@... writes: > > > > > How funny, , > > Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with > her for 6 solid hours she would say, > " This is what real families do. " > > My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she > loved Bond movies, go figure! > > > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > > > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about > all > > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Ugh! " You're not living in reality... " " What real families do... " " Well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a friend, but I guess not... " I just read this last entry and all three of these popped out at me. Good Grief... I've been hit with every single one of them - my entire life. The big killer for me has always been #2... " What real families do... " Every time I didn't agree or do what she wanted, I was at fault and wasn't playing by some universal code of conduct. Wow...what a shock it was to me to find out she was full of #$%@#$. She still says that but I just smile and say, " Not my family " and leave it at that. She fumes. LYnnette > > Yep. My mother would call me and talk real nasty about my sister (and do > the same about me to my sister) and when I would ask her to stop, she would > say, " well, I thought since you were an adult now I could talk to you like a > friend, but I guess not. " Then she'd get pitiful and stare at the ground > or trace something real slowly with her finger, acting all rejected. > > Her comments when I'd say something about her negativity would vary from, > " You just live blindly " to " that's not reality " or " Why do you live in la-la > land? " > > I realize looking back that 95% of her conversation had to do with death, > dying, crime, sadness, abuse, victims, lawsuits, war, ....crazy!! > > > In a message dated 4/11/2010 12:07:49 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > disasfaeries@... writes: > > > > > How funny, , > > Mine would say things like that, too. Like if we didn't want to argue with > her for 6 solid hours she would say, > " This is what real families do. " > > My dad said she hated the Brady Bunch because it was unrealistic, but she > loved Bond movies, go figure! > > > She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I > > > liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about > all > > the devastation in the world 24 hours day. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 OMG - my nada did something *very* similar! Different situation, but she completely created a crisis that didn't exist, got lawyers, the news and even senators involved - could not talk about anything else for months! It was AWFUL! It is amazing to read that someone else has experienced this type of craziness. - > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 OMG - my nada did something *very* similar! Different situation, but she completely created a crisis that didn't exist, got lawyers, the news and even senators involved - could not talk about anything else for months! It was AWFUL! It is amazing to read that someone else has experienced this type of craziness. - > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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