Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Hi, First of all, I am a court reporter and a deposition is the discovery process for the attorneys to make a case in order to go to trial for a lawsuit (or other use of the deposition, which could result in settling out of court). I am in America and I see your email as " UK " in the end, but I'll tell you how it would work here... Going to the police station will do nothing. There is no 'deposition' to file and the police wouldn't have anything to do with it because this is a civil issue, not a criminal issue. If your mother wants to sue, she's going to have to find an attorney who will take the case and being that she has no verifiable injuries, that's not likely to happen. I've done all kinds of depositions. The only one I remember similar to this is one where a woman slipped on a strawberry in a grocery store produce aisle. I don't generally know the outcome of the cases because I only do the deposition process, but she was pretty badly hurt with a significant back and leg injury. Soooo, unless your laws are a lot different than ours, I'm doubtful she would get very far. And I agree with you that telling the ER staff that she was BPD wouldn't have helped. I have found most people, even medical professionals, don't know what BPD is. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:25:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, valuklon@... writes: Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was goi At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Hi, First of all, I am a court reporter and a deposition is the discovery process for the attorneys to make a case in order to go to trial for a lawsuit (or other use of the deposition, which could result in settling out of court). I am in America and I see your email as " UK " in the end, but I'll tell you how it would work here... Going to the police station will do nothing. There is no 'deposition' to file and the police wouldn't have anything to do with it because this is a civil issue, not a criminal issue. If your mother wants to sue, she's going to have to find an attorney who will take the case and being that she has no verifiable injuries, that's not likely to happen. I've done all kinds of depositions. The only one I remember similar to this is one where a woman slipped on a strawberry in a grocery store produce aisle. I don't generally know the outcome of the cases because I only do the deposition process, but she was pretty badly hurt with a significant back and leg injury. Soooo, unless your laws are a lot different than ours, I'm doubtful she would get very far. And I agree with you that telling the ER staff that she was BPD wouldn't have helped. I have found most people, even medical professionals, don't know what BPD is. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:25:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, valuklon@... writes: Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was goi At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Hi, First of all, I am a court reporter and a deposition is the discovery process for the attorneys to make a case in order to go to trial for a lawsuit (or other use of the deposition, which could result in settling out of court). I am in America and I see your email as " UK " in the end, but I'll tell you how it would work here... Going to the police station will do nothing. There is no 'deposition' to file and the police wouldn't have anything to do with it because this is a civil issue, not a criminal issue. If your mother wants to sue, she's going to have to find an attorney who will take the case and being that she has no verifiable injuries, that's not likely to happen. I've done all kinds of depositions. The only one I remember similar to this is one where a woman slipped on a strawberry in a grocery store produce aisle. I don't generally know the outcome of the cases because I only do the deposition process, but she was pretty badly hurt with a significant back and leg injury. Soooo, unless your laws are a lot different than ours, I'm doubtful she would get very far. And I agree with you that telling the ER staff that she was BPD wouldn't have helped. I have found most people, even medical professionals, don't know what BPD is. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:25:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, valuklon@... writes: Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was goi At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit trying. She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing else. I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they have. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, sleddog@... writes: she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit trying. She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing else. I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they have. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, sleddog@... writes: she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit trying. She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing else. I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they have. In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, sleddog@... writes: she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Exactly!!! In a message dated 4/10/2010 3:53:34 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, talexander73@... writes: If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - --- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_ (mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everyw<WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Exactly!!! In a message dated 4/10/2010 3:53:34 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, talexander73@... writes: If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - --- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_ (mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everyw<WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Exactly!!! In a message dated 4/10/2010 3:53:34 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, talexander73@... writes: If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - --- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_ (mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everyw<WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! Jackie Hi All, I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Yeah, Nada's suck at follow-thru! ;o) Lynnette > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Yeah, Nada's suck at follow-thru! ;o) Lynnette > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 Yeah, Nada's suck at follow-thru! ;o) Lynnette > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 If you give a statement under oath (which is what a deposition is here in the U.S.), you are sworn to tell the truth. If you tell the story - or answer the attorney's questions - the way you've told us, it should be pretty clear that this is a frivolous suit your Nada is considering. In our civil litigation system, the museum's attorney would cross-examine you and have plenty of opportunity to use your testimony to shoot holes in Nada's account of her grave injury. So the down side is that there will be a written record of what you say (again, assuming the deposition process is like the one here), and Nada may be furious when she reads it. The up side is that you are sworn to be truthful and give the facts as you recall them, so if she keeps pushing for you to do this, you really have no choice but to give the museum exactly the ammunition it needs to get her suit thrown out! - > > I agree about the attention thing. And even if she did start the suing > process, she may never finish it. My mother tried to sue people or get people > into legal trouble several times and she'd get to a point with it and it was > like she forgot why she was so angry and just gave it all up and quit > trying. > > She was on a licensing board for contractors once and a file went missing. > Someone stole it. I can't even remember why and it really doesn't matter I > guess, but she went to the sheriff to defend herself against taking it when > no one ever accused her of taking it. It was crazy and highly embarrassing > because I worked at City Hall at the time. She got a lawyer and was > telling people they accused her of it when she didn't do it. She was on the news > and in the newpaper BECAUSE SHE CALLED THEM. OMG!! It was awful. Not a > single person ever accused her and it later turned up anyway. It was a drama > filled few months where she was obsessed with it and talking about nothing > else. > > I swear, the more people bring up about their BPD parents, the crazier my > mother seems. And all of these things they do by themselves wouldn't seem so > crazy, but put it all together collectively and it's one weird life they > have. > > > > > In a message dated 4/10/2010 1:42:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, > sleddog@... writes: > > > > > she just looking for attention. I owuld not go to the police station, > knowing she was not hurt..unless it was to tell them she was not > injured..she may get mad at you, but you have to live with yourself !! > > Jackie > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and > generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and > fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of > herself, > refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself > ( " everywhere " ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum s > help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was > going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to > persuade > her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point > that > she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained > anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance > orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say > specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused > (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " > but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her > (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to > take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head > even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My > partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid > wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still > have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as > surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she > had > emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we > finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many > places > which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she > admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some > health > problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact > that > she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't > have > anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school > courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't > sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her > options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which > is > 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe > the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any > accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could > easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt > herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste > of > their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of > it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now > wants > to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a > museum > when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a > possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is > extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would > be a blessing in disguise!! > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 No, its not you. Nada played out some decidedly delusional script in her own head that was mortifying at best. As I read your description of nada's behavior, I could see my nada doing the same thing. Wait. She's DONE the bits and pieces of the same thing! I don't know where or when my nada did it, but that " it hurts everywhere " story really sounded familiar. This whole thing is absurd. And you are in a bad trap of 1) do the right thing or 2) pretend her sheer insanity/poor acting job has some basis in reality. No need to rescue anyone here, including the hospital staff or the museum. But you do need to protect yourself and stand true to yourself and stand true to your own (completely correct) sense of right and wrong. No part of her understanding or behavior was based in reality. You are completely sane as you read this situation, and even though it is mortifying, it is real. I keep thinking of the wise words we read on this site a lot: the only way to win the game is not to play. My advice is to avoid playing at all costs. This isn't just about nada this time. This could drag you into some sticky places you just don't want to be a part of. Sorry you had to go through that. I can't count the times I had to sit there, in front of other people, and watch nada do the over-blown childish tantrum-throwing/play-acting based on some crazy scene playing out in her own head. As everyone else got to look at the crazy lady as a stranger, I just got to think to myself: " Yep. This is my mother. I'm actually attached to her. " Groan. I hope this settles down and nada goes onto the next thing before she goes any further with this idea of hers! Blessings, Karla > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 No, its not you. Nada played out some decidedly delusional script in her own head that was mortifying at best. As I read your description of nada's behavior, I could see my nada doing the same thing. Wait. She's DONE the bits and pieces of the same thing! I don't know where or when my nada did it, but that " it hurts everywhere " story really sounded familiar. This whole thing is absurd. And you are in a bad trap of 1) do the right thing or 2) pretend her sheer insanity/poor acting job has some basis in reality. No need to rescue anyone here, including the hospital staff or the museum. But you do need to protect yourself and stand true to yourself and stand true to your own (completely correct) sense of right and wrong. No part of her understanding or behavior was based in reality. You are completely sane as you read this situation, and even though it is mortifying, it is real. I keep thinking of the wise words we read on this site a lot: the only way to win the game is not to play. My advice is to avoid playing at all costs. This isn't just about nada this time. This could drag you into some sticky places you just don't want to be a part of. Sorry you had to go through that. I can't count the times I had to sit there, in front of other people, and watch nada do the over-blown childish tantrum-throwing/play-acting based on some crazy scene playing out in her own head. As everyone else got to look at the crazy lady as a stranger, I just got to think to myself: " Yep. This is my mother. I'm actually attached to her. " Groan. I hope this settles down and nada goes onto the next thing before she goes any further with this idea of hers! Blessings, Karla > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2010 Report Share Posted April 10, 2010 No, its not you. Nada played out some decidedly delusional script in her own head that was mortifying at best. As I read your description of nada's behavior, I could see my nada doing the same thing. Wait. She's DONE the bits and pieces of the same thing! I don't know where or when my nada did it, but that " it hurts everywhere " story really sounded familiar. This whole thing is absurd. And you are in a bad trap of 1) do the right thing or 2) pretend her sheer insanity/poor acting job has some basis in reality. No need to rescue anyone here, including the hospital staff or the museum. But you do need to protect yourself and stand true to yourself and stand true to your own (completely correct) sense of right and wrong. No part of her understanding or behavior was based in reality. You are completely sane as you read this situation, and even though it is mortifying, it is real. I keep thinking of the wise words we read on this site a lot: the only way to win the game is not to play. My advice is to avoid playing at all costs. This isn't just about nada this time. This could drag you into some sticky places you just don't want to be a part of. Sorry you had to go through that. I can't count the times I had to sit there, in front of other people, and watch nada do the over-blown childish tantrum-throwing/play-acting based on some crazy scene playing out in her own head. As everyone else got to look at the crazy lady as a stranger, I just got to think to myself: " Yep. This is my mother. I'm actually attached to her. " Groan. I hope this settles down and nada goes onto the next thing before she goes any further with this idea of hers! Blessings, Karla > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Hi V Well, welcome to the club. A couple of things. First, as someone else pointed out, giving a deposition requires that you are either subpeonaed or agree to go in, usually to an attorny s office, and testify under oath as to facts in a case. You only give a statement to police in a case where a police report is filed, eg, an automobile accident. If she wanted that, and if it were appropriate, she ought to have called police before she went to hospital. Next, my own experiences, with my nada. She was on vacation and had an auto accident. She was uninjured except for seat belt bruises. Her car was damaged, but was repaired before she returned home. She then tried to sue for pain and suffering and medical expenses, by arguing that the therapy and depression she was being treated for was caused by the accident. Odd, since she was on the vacation to deal with her emotional issues by getting away. A classical case of gaslighting. One which, unfortunately caused her attorney to dig and get letters to determine that she had been treated for 7 years for the condition that she was trying to sue for. She told me for years that she hoped to get enough out of it to buy a house. She lived in a senior retirement home. Once she fell on some oil and went to her knees. She complained that accident had bruised her tailbone and caused even more sensitive problems requiring an OB GYN visit. She walked away, didn t go to the hospital or the Dr, but still wanted the manor in which she lived to pay her a settlement for the fall. You see? It is all part of the victim/entitlement mentality they have. NOthing is their fault, everything is others fault, and everyone owes them. Don t play the game with her. Ask yourself this. If you saw a sane total stranger take the same fall, would you rush up to them and say I saw the whole thing and I ll testify when you sue? If the answer as I suspect is of course not, then dont do it. Doug > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Hi V Well, welcome to the club. A couple of things. First, as someone else pointed out, giving a deposition requires that you are either subpeonaed or agree to go in, usually to an attorny s office, and testify under oath as to facts in a case. You only give a statement to police in a case where a police report is filed, eg, an automobile accident. If she wanted that, and if it were appropriate, she ought to have called police before she went to hospital. Next, my own experiences, with my nada. She was on vacation and had an auto accident. She was uninjured except for seat belt bruises. Her car was damaged, but was repaired before she returned home. She then tried to sue for pain and suffering and medical expenses, by arguing that the therapy and depression she was being treated for was caused by the accident. Odd, since she was on the vacation to deal with her emotional issues by getting away. A classical case of gaslighting. One which, unfortunately caused her attorney to dig and get letters to determine that she had been treated for 7 years for the condition that she was trying to sue for. She told me for years that she hoped to get enough out of it to buy a house. She lived in a senior retirement home. Once she fell on some oil and went to her knees. She complained that accident had bruised her tailbone and caused even more sensitive problems requiring an OB GYN visit. She walked away, didn t go to the hospital or the Dr, but still wanted the manor in which she lived to pay her a settlement for the fall. You see? It is all part of the victim/entitlement mentality they have. NOthing is their fault, everything is others fault, and everyone owes them. Don t play the game with her. Ask yourself this. If you saw a sane total stranger take the same fall, would you rush up to them and say I saw the whole thing and I ll testify when you sue? If the answer as I suspect is of course not, then dont do it. Doug > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 Hi V Well, welcome to the club. A couple of things. First, as someone else pointed out, giving a deposition requires that you are either subpeonaed or agree to go in, usually to an attorny s office, and testify under oath as to facts in a case. You only give a statement to police in a case where a police report is filed, eg, an automobile accident. If she wanted that, and if it were appropriate, she ought to have called police before she went to hospital. Next, my own experiences, with my nada. She was on vacation and had an auto accident. She was uninjured except for seat belt bruises. Her car was damaged, but was repaired before she returned home. She then tried to sue for pain and suffering and medical expenses, by arguing that the therapy and depression she was being treated for was caused by the accident. Odd, since she was on the vacation to deal with her emotional issues by getting away. A classical case of gaslighting. One which, unfortunately caused her attorney to dig and get letters to determine that she had been treated for 7 years for the condition that she was trying to sue for. She told me for years that she hoped to get enough out of it to buy a house. She lived in a senior retirement home. Once she fell on some oil and went to her knees. She complained that accident had bruised her tailbone and caused even more sensitive problems requiring an OB GYN visit. She walked away, didn t go to the hospital or the Dr, but still wanted the manor in which she lived to pay her a settlement for the fall. You see? It is all part of the victim/entitlement mentality they have. NOthing is their fault, everything is others fault, and everyone owes them. Don t play the game with her. Ask yourself this. If you saw a sane total stranger take the same fall, would you rush up to them and say I saw the whole thing and I ll testify when you sue? If the answer as I suspect is of course not, then dont do it. Doug > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " , apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was going to try to persuade her to just take a taxi with me home as I was pretty sure at this point that she was faking it but couldn't be 100% sure she had not broken or sprained anything so figured we'd better go to the hospital to be sure). > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2010 Report Share Posted April 11, 2010 It's very interesting how we can all compare notes and find out our mothers were so similar. My mother got involved in court proceedings alllll the time. She was also obsessed with crime on TV. I remember when the story about murdering his wife, Lacey, was all over the news. My mother talked about nothing else. And I remember asking her if we could possibly discuss something more pleasant because for some reason, she was all up into who was murdered, raped, robbed, or tortured in the news. It was really depressing. She went from one news show to the next and back again all hours of the day and night. She would FREAK if her cable went out because of weather or anything. She told me once that I was not 'living in reality' because I told her I liked to focus on more positive things, happy things, and not hear about all the devastation in the world 24 hours day. In a message dated 4/11/2010 11:23:14 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, disasfaeries@... writes: I'd have to agree with some of the other statements here - if the only person who has brought up a deposition is your nada, don't do anything. If the police wanted one, they'd request it. My nada is OBSESSED with court proceedings and legal garbage. An attorney told me that her divorce file was as large as five unabridged dictionaries. She's sued doctors, medical professionals, employers (that she was still working for) taken my teachers, neighbors and boys I thought were cute in for various things including statutory. Horrific things to do to a teenage daughter! One day I hope they are able to track legal instigators via social security number or something. It seems the ones that abuse the system do so chronically. This has nothing to do with you, and if the medical staff saw through her, the police probably will too. > > Hi All, > > I'm sure some of you must have experience with BPD moms trying to sue and generally wasting people's time. Sorry this is a long post. > > Just looking I guess for advice on a decision I'm taking. > > Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " Basically I was with my nada in a museum and she tripped on an exhibit and fell over. She then of course proceeded to make a huge spectacle of herself, refusing to get up, not saying specifically where she had hurt herself ( " everywhere " <WBR>, apparently). She was rude to the museum staff who tried to help get her in a wheelchair and make sure she was ok. She decided she was going to go to the hospital in an ambulance (I was go > > At the hospital, it was so obvious to my partner and I and the ambulance orderlies, nurses and doctors that she was faking. She couldn't say specifically where she was hurt and she was acting all dazed and confused (bad acting). When she was examined she'd wince exaggeratedly and say " ow " but it was so obvious it was put on. Everybody was still super nice to her (I think they are all well used to this kind of thing) and they agreed to take x-rays and even a cat scan (!) as she said she had fallen on her head even though my partner saw her actually fall and said that wasn't so. My partner thought I should tell the hospital I thought she had BPD to avoid wasting everyone's time but I figured it would not help much as they still have to do all the tests in the small case there may be something wrong as surely they don't want to get sued either. I think they all figured she had emotional/mental issues or was a hypochondriac. > > So after wasting many people's time and us waiting for hours with her we finally went home with the all clear. She was of course sore in many places which is normal having fallen. > > It now looks like she is enquiring about suing the museum even though she admits she does not currently have any serious injury - she says some health problem or injury could come up later as a result and there is the fact that she is now confined to her home for a week or so (truth is she doesn't have anywhere else she needs to be) and that she will be missing her school courses next week (which is a lie as she is not going to school). Doesn't sound like much of a basis for suing but I guess she is exploring her options. > > The issue is that she wants me to go to her city's police station (which is 1 hour away) and make a deposition about the incident. While I do believe the museum should have marked off the area around the exhibit to avoid any accidents (I myself almost stumbled into it and any older person could easily also have fallen over it) the fact that she did not actually hurt herself and the absolute drama show she put on at the hospital and waste of their time and mine and partner's really makes me want to stay well out of it and refuse to do any deposition. > > Am I right? She has already wasted valuable hospital resources and now wants to waste legal and police resources too as well as potentially sue a museum when she has actually not really injured herself! There is of course a possibility that a future injury could come of it but I think that is extremely unlikely? > > The upshot is she may refuse to speak to me if I turn her down which would be a blessing in disguise!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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