Re: WHY is she still alive???

[Guest guest]

Let me just say that I feel so much for you because I was in a similar

position, even though my dad was with my mother.

My mother died in 2007 after suffering with emphysema for about 6 years.

The last 2 years were pretty much hell on earth for everyone around her.

The neighbor thing is slightly familiar to me too. My dad took her

appointments and so forth, but she was the waif/hermit borderline who was

forever

calling neighbors to complain her daughters never came to visit her. It was

embarrassing to go to her funeral and face these people because there is no

telling what lies she fed them.

I live 280 miles from her too.

You'll go through a lot of different emotions when she dies, I'm sure, but

for me, I never actually missed MY MOTHER. I was sad over the fact that the

hope she'd ever be normal is now gone and I miss the mother I never got to

have. That's the grieving process I went through.

You know, I think our grieving process when we've been so emotionally

damaged by our parents is a whole different ballgame than for people who had a

normal mother.

In a message dated 2/27/2010 12:45:52 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mozzarella27@... writes:

I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years

ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to

say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I

was sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live

only 3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to

doctor appts and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about

how I need to visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor

about it the other day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my

shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation

and

then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my

problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so

stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much I hate her

and

why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone like

crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter

what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do.

I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of

her crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And

I never know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really

got sick she took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake-

she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always

just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she

feels she has to actually deal with it and is making it sound like this

huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor state she is

unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest things being

made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his sister had

cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't nada

have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation.

Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[Guest guest]

My mother in law faked breast cancer. Then she claimed she went through her

own treatment of herbal pills and was 'cured.' Whatthehellever.

BPD's......ugh!!!!!

In a message dated 2/27/2010 8:52:13 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

elora_jade@... writes:

Going through this right now with my step-nada.

Only she has been dying the last 20. She has been " dying " from a strange

brain disease.

This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in September. First

thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm sure she is

overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention to her now.

I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the family because

apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't shown enough concern

over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent a care package.

Pfft.

[Guest guest]

Going through this right now with my step-nada.

Only she has been dying the last 20. She has been " dying " from a strange brain

disease.

This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in September. First

thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm sure she is

overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention to her now.

I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the family because

apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't shown enough concern

over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent a care package. Pfft.

[Guest guest]

I know how you both feel too..my nada is a witch...nasty nasty nasty....she

first got non hodgekins lymphoma....then 6 years later she got it again !!

nope, she didnt die...then she had a stroke, fully recovered, then a massive

heart attack, fully recovered !! she will outlive us all....no one wants

her, so she cant died, she has no lace to do...

Jackie

Going through this right now with my step-nada.

Only she has been dying the last 20. She has been " dying " from a strange

brain disease.

This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in September. First

thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm sure she is

overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention to her now.

I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the family because

apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't shown enough

concern over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent a care

package. Pfft.

[Guest guest]

Dang--2 years?! I'm reminded of that Public Image Limited song, Rise, with the

repeated lyric: " Anger is an energy, anger is an energy. " BPs seem uniquely

fueled by anger.

I'm so sorry you're in that situation--to say it's a " difficult " situation feels

like an understatement. I totally understand that dissonance of simultaneous

hatred and yet compassion (and obligation). Paying someone sounds like a good

option, if it's possible--are there any other neighbors or people you could

enlist to help her?

Wishing you love in this time of emotional turmoil.

-

>

> I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

>

[Guest guest]

Hello all.

Sorry to intrude. You all don't hear much from me. I'm on another

forum, but view this one from time to time.

I did feel the need to expand on what wrote. Here's why:

I'm currently reading a book by Melodie Beattie - sorry if

misspelled, about codependency. There is a very good chapter that

addresses human emotion and describes it as energy (much to your

comment, .) As described, the human mind and body is supposed to

address emotion and channel it through a " normal " pattern, or

process. Sometimes, bits and parts of this process are longer,

shorter, mix-matched, etc... But, the process is the same. And

should you not allow your emotions to be processed as they should be

- emotion is energy. And it CAN BE a very destructive force, IF you

do not allow your emotions to be processed.

I'd highly recommend the book by Melodie Beattie - " Codependent No

More, " to virtually anyone.

Again, sorry to intrude. It is with good intention.

Take care, and best of luck,

ph

>

> Dang--2 years?! I'm reminded of that Public Image Limited song,

> Rise, with the repeated lyric: " Anger is an energy, anger is an

> energy. " BPs seem uniquely fueled by anger.

>

> I'm so sorry you're in that situation--to say it's a " difficult "

> situation feels like an understatement. I totally understand that

> dissonance of simultaneous hatred and yet compassion (and

> obligation). Paying someone sounds like a good option, if it's

> possible--are there any other neighbors or people you could enlist

> to help her?

>

> Wishing you love in this time of emotional turmoil.

>

> -

>

>

> >

> > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

> " terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months.

> That was TWO years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the

> energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can

> barely hold it together just listening to her talk. She never has

> anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

> spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped

> before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live

> only 3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take

> her to doctor appts and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap

> off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a nice little

> email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

> feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is

> the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

> suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but

> how can I realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed

> right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much I hate

> her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats

> everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because

> you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to be somewhat

> decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

> just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her

> move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there, that would

> crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

> crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation.

> And I never know how sick she is really feeling because even before

> she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh and the latest

> icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

> have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty

> summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

> deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare

> ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor state she is unable

> and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest things

> being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/

> c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never

> woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of

> this long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of

> an already horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does.

> I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me

> vent.

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

I have a classmate from high school who claims to be a two time breast cancer

survivor...but she never went through chemo or had any surgery or had any

radiation, just some " experimental drug " . Two years ago she claimed to have

been diagnosed with 's disease, a rare genetic thing where you can't get

rid of copper...but she never made ANY changes to her lifestyle that people with

that problem are supposed to make and she's fine. Last week, she told everyone

she was dx'd with cervical cancer.

I'm thinking...I'd like to dx her with something and it ain't cancer!

My own nada was dx'd many years ago with a chronic, slow growing leukemia. When

she went to Mayo Clinic (of course she had to go there!) to get a second

opinion, they gave her another 25 years, which puts her at the average lifespan

for women. In the years since she had one 6 month round of chemo that didn't

even make her sick/lose her hair/miss work. But she delights in dramatically

telling people, " I have cancer, you know " She admitted once that she'd always

wished for some horrible sounding illness that wouldn't really make her sick but

would make everyone feel sorry for her. Be careful what you wish for, nada!

I'm the evil daughter that wishes it WOULD make her very ill, so she'd just GO.

Ninera

>

> Subject: Re: Re: WHY is she still alive???

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Saturday, February 27, 2010, 2:09 PM

> My mother in law faked breast cancer.

> Then she claimed she went through her

> own treatment of herbal pills and was 'cured.'

> Whatthehellever. 

> BPD's......ugh!!!!!

>

>

>

>

> In a message dated 2/27/2010 8:52:13 A.M. Eastern Standard

> Time, 

> elora_jade@...

> writes:

>

>

>

>

>

> Going through this right now with my step-nada.

>

> Only she has  been dying the last 20. She has been

> " dying " from a strange

> brain disease. 

>

> This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in

> September.  First

> thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm

> sure she is 

> overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention

> to her  now.

>

> I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the

> family  because

> apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't

> shown enough  concern

> over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent

> a care  package.

> Pfft.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Mozz, I've struggled with replying to this even though I want to. Too close to

home maybe? I'm so sorry you are in this situation first off. If one was a

prisoner of war and this were a torture technique, well I think I'd be telling

them everything they needed to know. What stands out to me most is that you

need some room, some air, some space to breathe. Is there any way to get a

little space from her? Faking laryngitis perhaps? I'm half serious cause I

think lying is okay in a situation like this to preserve your sanity. I

remember one time my doctor thought I had a nodule on my vocal cords - said that

if he had to operate I wouldn't be able to talk for weeks. My first reaction -

which I didn't share with him! - was relief thinking finally I could not have to

talk to my FOO with a reason that wouldn't create a showdown. Unfortunately

(!) there was no nodule. Things have gotten bad when one prays for illness to

get a reprieve. Not saying you should get sick, but maybe a little

" creativity " might not be a bad idea. How often do you have to talk to your

nada?

My nada entered the world of chronic serious illness from which she might die

sooner than later back in 2005. I've found it damn near impossible to get back

the level of distance to her that I had before 05. It's become clear that this

is a marathon not a sprint and I wonder too where I'll find the strength. I

know you were expecting it all to be over within *months* of the diagnosis.

Hiring people as you are already thinking on is probably your best option - as

long as it is neighbors you'll be dealing with their reactions. Still I wonder

how bad off is she if she is still able to live alone? Even with neighbors

helping out? I know it is hard to judge these things when they've exaggerated

in the past for small things.

wishing you some peace,

>

> I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

>

[Guest guest]

As an act of solidarity, I am mentally b****-slapping your nada. And I could

give a crap about her cancer.

She just needs to go away and I don't care how she does it.

You deserve peace.

Blessings,

Karla

>

> I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

>

[Guest guest]

There was a woman in Tennessee who had a whole town convinced she had

cancer, and the school district she worked for. It wasn't until they had a fund

raiser for her and the principal of her school called her doctor to see if

he could participate that they found out she wasn't a patient. They started

investigating and found out she made the whole thing up!!!

She was burning herself with a curling iron to make " radiation " burns,

shaving her head, etc.

Sick...definitely. Sad too. There was also a woman who faked a blog not

long ago and claimed to have a baby that died....people sent her money,

items, etc. It was all a lie.

In a message dated 2/27/2010 6:48:40 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mozzarella27@... writes:

I am still always shocked when I hear about people who fake cancer. I

really think having the ability to fake soemthing like that is it's own class

of mental illness. It's just so SICK.

--- In _WTOAdultChildren1@WTOAdultChilWTO_

(mailto:WTOAdultChildren1 ) , Hummingbird1298@, Humm

>

> My mother in law faked breast cancer. Then she claimed she went through

her

> own treatment of herbal pills and was 'cured.' Whatthehellever.

> BPD's......ugh! BPD's...

>

>

>

>

> In a message dated 2/27/2010 8:52:13 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> elora_jade@. elora_jade@.

>

>

>

>

>

> Going through this right now with my step-nada.

>

> Only she has been dying the last 20. She has been " dying " from a strange

> brain disease.

>

> This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in September.

First

> thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm sure she is

> overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention to her now.

>

> I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the family because

> apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't shown enough

concern

> over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent a care

package.

> Pfft.

>

>

>

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]

>

[Guest guest]

I wish that there was a live-in or even a part-time elder-care-giver that could

be hired to be with your nada most of the time so that you didn't have to be

around her so much. Is that even a possibility? I can totally understand your

anguish and frustration.

-Annie

> >

> > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I am still always shocked when I hear about people who fake cancer. I really

think having the ability to fake soemthing like that is it's own class of mental

illness. It's just so SICK.

>

> My mother in law faked breast cancer. Then she claimed she went through her

> own treatment of herbal pills and was 'cured.' Whatthehellever.

> BPD's......ugh!!!!!

>

>

>

>

> In a message dated 2/27/2010 8:52:13 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> elora_jade@... writes:

>

>

>

>

>

> Going through this right now with my step-nada.

>

> Only she has been dying the last 20. She has been " dying " from a strange

> brain disease.

>

> This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in September. First

> thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm sure she is

> overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention to her now.

>

> I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the family because

> apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't shown enough

concern

> over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent a care package.

> Pfft.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

" I'm thinking...I'd like to dx her with something and it ain't cancer! " LOL!!!

My nada did what yours did too about 20 years ago. She had colon cancer that

they found by msitake. They got it all with a surgery. She never had to have

chemo or radiation. She never got sick. But for years she talked about her

cancer experience like she was some brave survivor who had been very ill.

>

> >

> > Subject: Re: Re: WHY is she still alive???

> > To: WTOAdultChildren1

> > Date: Saturday, February 27, 2010, 2:09 PM

> > My mother in law faked breast cancer.

> > Then she claimed she went through her

> > own treatment of herbal pills and was 'cured.'

> > Whatthehellever. 

> > BPD's......ugh!!!!!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 2/27/2010 8:52:13 A.M. Eastern Standard

> > Time, 

> > elora_jade@...

> > writes:

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Going through this right now with my step-nada.

> >

> > Only she has  been dying the last 20. She has been

> > " dying " from a strange

> > brain disease. 

> >

> > This time around, she was diagnosed with Breast cancer in

> > September.  First

> > thought through my head was, " faking " , then it was that I'm

> > sure she is 

> > overjoyed that people will legitimately be paying attention

> > to her  now.

> >

> > I feel your pain. Right now I'm the black sheep of the

> > family  because

> > apparently I'm her only close female relative that hasn't

> > shown enough  concern

> > over her well being. I live 2000kms away, I called, I sent

> > a care  package.

> > Pfft.

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Thanks Annie. It's kind of an option. There's no money for full time but maybe

we can find someone to run errands and take her to her appts. We actually DID

find someone to move in with her but nada refused and now that option is gone.

In all reality it's probably really not worth my time to find someone b/c you

know she'll reject whoever I find or whatever plan I come up with.

> > >

> > > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

" terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO

years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was

sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only

3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts

and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to

visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor about it the other

day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of

the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but how can I

realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed right now. No one

except other KOs can understand how much I hate her and why. She takes no

responsibility for herself and treats everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be

horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to

be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her move in, that

would crush my family. I can't move there, that would crush me. Hiring someone

is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her crying over everything. She cries

during every single conversation. And I never know how sick she is really

feeling because even before she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh

and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the

trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually deal with it and is making

it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor

state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest

things being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his

sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't

nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation. Anything to

make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for

letting me vent.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much . You are right- I don't have any way of knowing just how

bad she really is because of her constant exaggeration of all things for as long

as I can remember. She does look like total crap though. I am only going to her

house every 4-6 weeks and I don't see how I can stretch it out any more than

that. I was calling her every day but now I call about 5x/week. I hate it and

dread it every day. But this voice in my head keeps telling me it's the least I

can do for a dying woman.

> >

> > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much. I have to say at times I would like to physically b****-slap

her.

> >

> > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a " terminal "

cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO years ago and

she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE HER. I cringe

when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just listening to her talk.

She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say- just the usual poison

spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was sapped before she got

sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only 3-4 hours away. She is

relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts and go shopping for her

etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to visit more. Just got a

nice little email from the neighbor about it the other day. I want to scream! I

feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of the matter is the neighbors

are planning a vacation and then what is nada suppsoed to do? I know you will

all say it is not my problem but how can I realistically let her sit there and

rot? I am so stressed right now. No one except other KOs can understand how much

I hate her and why. She takes no responsibility for herself and treats everyone

like crap. Like it's oK to be horrible to people because you have cancer. No

matter what you should strive to be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of

entitlement is so overwhelming. I just hate her so much. I don't know what to

do. I can't let her move in, that would crush my family. I can't move there,

that would crush me. Hiring someone is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her

crying over everything. She cries during every single conversation. And I never

know how sick she is really feeling because even before she really got sick she

took on the sick role. Oh and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty

summons. For as long as I have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her

jury duty summons in the trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually

deal with it and is making it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has

to do is have her doctor state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so

tired if the simplest things being made crisis situations. This guy came into

work and was sad b/c his sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and

never woke up. Why can't nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this

long drawn out process in which she is making the worst out of an already

horrible situation. Anything to make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel,

I am just so DONE. Thanks for letting me vent.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Something similar happened here as well. There was a woman who

pretended to have have a rare kidney disease and got all sorts

of people to raise thousands of dollars for her supposed

treatment. The newspaper did a nice story on how she was

struggling and needed help and merchants put out jars to collect

donations for her and so on and so forth. At some point, one of

the organizations involved needed to fill out the appropriate

paperwork for giving funds away and contacted the doctor and the

hospital that were supposed to be involved. Oops. Needless to

say, the newspaper did not have kind words to say about her at

that point. I'm sure they felt suckered for having publicized

her fake story. She ended up arrested for fraud.

At 06:53 PM 02/27/2010 Hummingbird1298@... wrote:

>There was a woman in Tennessee who had a whole town convinced

>she had

>cancer, and the school district she worked for. It wasn't until

>they had a fund

>raiser for her and the principal of her school called her

>doctor to see if

>he could participate that they found out she wasn't a patient.

>They started

> investigating and found out she made the whole thing up!!!

>

>She was burning herself with a curling iron to make " radiation "

>burns,

>shaving her head, etc.

>

>Sick...definitely. Sad too. There was also a woman who faked a

>blog not

>long ago and claimed to have a baby that died....people sent

>her money,

>items, etc. It was all a lie.

>

>

--

Katrina

[Guest guest]

That is HER voice, Mozzarella.

Anyone who has had to be bpd all their lives is going to look like crap.  My

mother is in near-perfect health as far as I can tell (from a very safe, far

distance) and she looks a good 10 years older than her real age, if not more. 

Maybe it is the least you can do for a dying woman, but does it seriously help

her for you to talk to her 5x a week?  My experience with bpds is that actually

almost nothing you do for them makes the slightest difference.  They are

bottomless pits.  I don't mean to be heartless, but they seem to suffer deeply

even if you fall all over them.  So, frankly, what's the point of it?

I guess that's my yardstick.  Does it help?  If it doesn't help, stop doing it. 

If it only helps a little, don't kill yourself over it.  Just do it sometimes. 

If it helps a lot, then I guess it makes sense to do it when you can.

Honestly, my mother was a wreck my whole childhood, but a box of chocolates and

a good book helped her feel better just as much as anyone actually caring.  Your

mom may be the same way--if you don't call, she may rage and cry at you for a

while, and then flip on the TV, get out some unhealthy snacks, and tuck in. 

Bpds are often miserable mainly as a performative act.  It's not that they

aren't genuinely miserable, but they do have other ways of dealing with things

aside from torturing you that they can fall back on if they're forced to.

Also, isn't there some saying that the angels look after children and fools? 

It's okay to let the angels take over from time to time (I think bpds fall into

the category of fools).

Best of luck,

Ashana

Oh, and she's probably still alive just to make you suffer a little longer...

The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Yahoo! Homepage.

http://in.yahoo.com/

[Guest guest]

I can't help but feel she is still here for a reason- this sounds crazy but I

almost feel like something between us is supposed to happen before she can go. I

don't know it that is me totally letting go or something she needs to do or

what. It's just a feeling I have. Or maybe she can't die until she accepts the

fact that she has a terminal cancer. But she never will accept it or be at peace

with it so that makes me scared she will live forever.

It's funny that you brought up unhealthy snacks- my mom has been an overeater

her whole life. But the cancer makes her nauseous so she has lost 100lbs. Food

doesn't taste good and now she has a mouth infection so she barely eats. her

best friend and main source of comfort, which has always been food, is gone. I

shudder to think about what she might be doing to comfort herself in its place.

>

> That is HER voice, Mozzarella.

>

> Anyone who has had to be bpd all their lives is going to look like crap.  My

mother is in near-perfect health as far as I can tell (from a very safe, far

distance) and she looks a good 10 years older than her real age, if not more. 

Maybe it is the least you can do for a dying woman, but does it seriously help

her for you to talk to her 5x a week?  My experience with bpds is that actually

almost nothing you do for them makes the slightest difference.  They are

bottomless pits.  I don't mean to be heartless, but they seem to suffer deeply

even if you fall all over them.  So, frankly, what's the point of it?

>

> I guess that's my yardstick.  Does it help?  If it doesn't help, stop doing

it.  If it only helps a little, don't kill yourself over it.  Just do it

sometimes.  If it helps a lot, then I guess it makes sense to do it when you

can.

>

> Honestly, my mother was a wreck my whole childhood, but a box of chocolates

and a good book helped her feel better just as much as anyone actually caring. 

Your mom may be the same way--if you don't call, she may rage and cry at you for

a while, and then flip on the TV, get out some unhealthy snacks, and tuck in. 

Bpds are often miserable mainly as a performative act.  It's not that they

aren't genuinely miserable, but they do have other ways of dealing with things

aside from torturing you that they can fall back on if they're forced to.

>

> Also, isn't there some saying that the angels look after children and fools? 

It's okay to let the angels take over from time to time (I think bpds fall into

the category of fools).

>

> Best of luck,

> Ashana

>

> Oh, and she's probably still alive just to make you suffer a little longer...

>

>

> The INTERNET now has a personality. YOURS! See your Yahoo! Homepage.

http://in.yahoo.com/

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Mozz, those 5x's a week phone calls are what's draining the life out of you,

probably not the in person visits. I talk to my nada about 3-4x's a week ever

since she got kidney failure (going on five years now) and I can't tell you how

hard it's been as compared to once a week. Now it's my bad and my issue for why

I'm doing this, but I just wanted to point out *the cost*. It's real even if

it is over the phone. The strain is cumulative. Would your nada totally flip

out if you switched to calling her every other day?

> > >

> > > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

" terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO

years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was

sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only

3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts

and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to

visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor about it the other

day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of

the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but how can I

realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed right now. No one

except other KOs can understand how much I hate her and why. She takes no

responsibility for herself and treats everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be

horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to

be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her move in, that

would crush my family. I can't move there, that would crush me. Hiring someone

is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her crying over everything. She cries

during every single conversation. And I never know how sick she is really

feeling because even before she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh

and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the

trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually deal with it and is making

it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor

state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest

things being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his

sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't

nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation. Anything to

make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for

letting me vent.

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

I know she would be incredibly " hurt " - at one point she wanted me to call her a

few times a DAY. Argh. I think the daily phone calls are really killing me too.

I should cut back. But I am dreading the FOG that will settle in when I do.

> > > >

> > > > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

" terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO

years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was

sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only

3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts

and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to

visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor about it the other

day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of

the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but how can I

realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed right now. No one

except other KOs can understand how much I hate her and why. She takes no

responsibility for herself and treats everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be

horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to

be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her move in, that

would crush my family. I can't move there, that would crush me. Hiring someone

is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her crying over everything. She cries

during every single conversation. And I never know how sick she is really

feeling because even before she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh

and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the

trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually deal with it and is making

it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor

state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest

things being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his

sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't

nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation. Anything to

make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for

letting me vent.

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yeah...intense debilitating FOG is what holds me back as well. During my nada's

health crises when she was in the hospital and shortly after I made calls to her

and other FOO multiple times a day. I backed that down to once a day, then

snuck in a skipped day here and there which she resented. Then recently I

thought I made a bold move by suggesting she was healthier now so I didn't need

to call as often as there wasn't that much to talk about - this backfired

because she agreed but now works very hard to keep me on the phone double the

time when she does talk to me. If I were to push for what I really want,

calling only once a week she'd flip out and the other FOO would guilt the hell

out of me for leaving her holding the bag because she's still calling every day.

So....I can relate. I wish I had some answer for you or me. The only obvious

one is to take a stand but they have developed ways of making that stand very

costly too. It's one thing if you are wiling to go NC, then taking a hard line

can work because you can call her bluff - I did this one time. But when they

are near the end of life and frail....it's kind of hard to consider cutting them

off or doing something that will lead to that unless they are truly truly awful.

(This isn't meant to judge anyone who has chosen to do this - I know some

nada/KO situations are beyond any enduring)

> > > > >

> > > > > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

" terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO

years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was

sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only

3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts

and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to

visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor about it the other

day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of

the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but how can I

realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed right now. No one

except other KOs can understand how much I hate her and why. She takes no

responsibility for herself and treats everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be

horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to

be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her move in, that

would crush my family. I can't move there, that would crush me. Hiring someone

is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her crying over everything. She cries

during every single conversation. And I never know how sick she is really

feeling because even before she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh

and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the

trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually deal with it and is making

it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor

state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest

things being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his

sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't

nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation. Anything to

make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for

letting me vent.

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yep I think we are in the same boat here- STUCK. I feel like there is no end in

sight, no light at the end of the tunnel when it comes to this. I can't in good

conscience go NC, but staying in frequent contact is draining me dry.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I don't know how much more I can take. Nada was diagnosed with a

" terminal " cancer and she was only supposed to live 3-6 months. That was TWO

years ago and she continues to live on sucking all the energy out of me. I HATE

HER. I cringe when I hear her voice. I can barely hold it together just

listening to her talk. She never has anything relatively nice or postive to say-

just the usual poison spewing out of her mouth. I know she is dying but I was

sapped before she got sick. I only go see her every 4-6 weeks and I live only

3-4 hours away. She is relying heavily on neighbors to take her to doctor appts

and go shopping for her etc. They give me crap off and on about how I need to

visit more. Just got a nice little email from the neighbor about it the other

day. I want to scream! I feel so much weight on my shoulders. And the fact of

the matter is the neighbors are planning a vacation and then what is nada

suppsoed to do? I know you will all say it is not my problem but how can I

realistically let her sit there and rot? I am so stressed right now. No one

except other KOs can understand how much I hate her and why. She takes no

responsibility for herself and treats everyone like crap. Like it's oK to be

horrible to people because you have cancer. No matter what you should strive to

be somewhat decent to people. Her sense of entitlement is so overwhelming. I

just hate her so much. I don't know what to do. I can't let her move in, that

would crush my family. I can't move there, that would crush me. Hiring someone

is an option, I guess. I am so sick of her crying over everything. She cries

during every single conversation. And I never know how sick she is really

feeling because even before she really got sick she took on the sick role. Oh

and the latest icing on the cake- she got a jury duty summons. For as long as I

have been alive nada has always just simply thrown her jury duty summons in the

trash. Well this time she feels she has to actually deal with it and is making

it sound like this huge nightmare ordeal. All she has to do is have her doctor

state she is unable and mail it in. That's it. I am so tired if the simplest

things being made crisis situations. This guy came into work and was sad b/c his

sister had cancer and she laid down to go to sleep and never woke up. Why can't

nada have a peaceful ending like that instead of this long drawn out process in

which she is making the worst out of an already horrible situation. Anything to

make it worse she does. I know I sound so cruel, I am just so DONE. Thanks for

letting me vent.

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

A friend of mine's granddaughter had a rare brain tumor on her brain stem. She

was two years old when they found it, and removed it. She had a ninety percent

chance of a normal life after the surgery to remove the tumor. Surgery went

well, and then a nurse put the NG tube in without following proper protocol for

the procedure, it was in too far, punctured her instestines, and the hospital

tried to cover it up. Thankfully, the mother and grandmother found out the

times on the records were wrong, so they got a lawyer. They put jars out at

restaurants and their places of employment for help, which thankfully the

community was generous. The sad thing is, the father of the child, (the

mother's ex husband) his family put a jar at a restaurant with a picture of her,

misspelled her name, and was asking for money to help her. When my friend found

out about it, she was livid. They got the jar and the number and figured out

what the ex's family had done. I don't know what's worse, faking illness or

taking advantage of someone's illness. Whatever the case, someone has to be

seriously disturbed to do something like that. I still cannot believe that

woman went to all that trouble to fake cancer by burning herself/shaving her

head. Just when I thought nothing could shock me...WOW.

e

> >There was a woman in Tennessee who had a whole town convinced

> >she had

> >cancer, and the school district she worked for. It wasn't until

> >they had a fund

> >raiser for her and the principal of her school called her

> >doctor to see if

> >he could participate that they found out she wasn't a patient.

> >They started

> > investigating and found out she made the whole thing up!!!

> >

> >She was burning herself with a curling iron to make " radiation "

> >burns,

> >shaving her head, etc.

> >

> >Sick...definitely. Sad too. There was also a woman who faked a

> >blog not

> >long ago and claimed to have a baby that died....people sent

> >her money,

> >items, etc. It was all a lie.

> >

> >

>

> --

> Katrina

>

[Guest guest]

So sad. I cannot understand people that do things like that. I read

someone's blog who has child that's had multiple transplants of her organs.

Someone hacked into their email from nigeria and was trying to collect money off

of their daughter. Unbelievable. People are just sick.

Unfortuately, there are a lot of people out in the world who get great joy

from hurting someone else. I just don't understand it at all.

In a message dated 2/28/2010 8:40:24 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,

sahtownsend@... writes:

A friend of mine's granddaughter had a rare brain tumor on her brain stem.

She was two years old when they found it, and removed it. She had a ninety

percent chance of a normal life after the surgery to remove the tumor.

Surgery went well, and then a nurse put the NG tube in without following proper

protocol for the procedure, it was in too far, punctured her instestines,

and the hospital tried to cover it up. Thankfully, the mother and

grandmother found out the times on the records were wrong, so they got a

lawyer.

They put jars out at restaurants and their places of employment for help,

which thankfully the community was generous. The sad thing is, the father of

the child, (the mother's ex husband) his family put a jar at a restaurant

with a picture of her, misspelled her name, and was asking for money to help

her. When my friend found out about it, she was livid. They got the jar and

the number and figured out what the ex's family had done. I don't know

what's worse, faking illness or taking advantage of someone's illness. Whatever

the case, someone has to be seriously disturbed to do something like that.

I still cannot believe that woman went to all that trouble to fake cancer

by burning herself/shaving her head. Just when I thought nothing could

shock me...WOW.

e

>

> Something similar happened here as well. There was a woman who

> pretended to have have a rare kidney disease and got all sorts

> of people to raise thousands of dollars for her supposed

> treatment. The newspaper did a nice story on how she was

> struggling and needed help and merchants put out jars to collect

> donations for her and so on and so forth. At some point, one of

> the organizations involved needed to fill out the appropriate

> paperwork for giving funds away and contacted the doctor and the

> hospital that were supposed to be involved. Oops. Needless to

> say, the newspaper did not have kind words to say about her at

> that point. I'm sure they felt suckered for having publicized

> her fake story. She ended up arrested for fraud.

>

> At 06:53 PM 02/27/2010 Hummingbird1298@ At 06

> >There was a woman in Tennessee who had a whole town convinced

> >she had

> >cancer, and the school district she worked for. It wasn't until

> >they had a fund

> >raiser for her and the principal of her school called her

> >doctor to see if

> >he could participate that they found out she wasn't a patient.

> >They started

> > investigating and found out she made the whole thing up!!!

> >

> >She was burning herself with a curling iron to make " radiation "

> >burns,

> >shaving her head, etc.

> >

> >Sick...definitely. Sad too. There was also a woman who faked a

> >blog not

> >long ago and claimed to have a baby that died....people sent

> >her money,

> >items, etc. It was all a lie.

> >

> >

>

> --

> Katrina

>