Re: [MSers]...Cassy

June 8, 2007

The one thing I've learned is that usually when I expect the worse I

get the best, and vice versa. When I don't want to go out, I have the

best time and when I can't wait to go somewhere it's boring, lol!!!!

I think it's always better never to get your expectations up too much

just so you can be pleasantly surprised when something grand

happens!!!!

Hugs,

Peggy

> > if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age

> doesn't matter

> > to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my

> hubby for

> > 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise

to

> find out

> > he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had

5

> kids.

> > Got married when I was 36 and he was 25. We've been married for

> almost 15

> > years now.

> >

> > a Coon

> > www.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.com

> > farmfresahsoapsandcandles@

> >

> > >

> > > Wow Val! Really? You know im only 26 right? He sounds

incredible

> though

> > and he must be very sweet since he is related to you. Thats a

> big age

> > difference,isnt it? Does he have kids? Ya.my dads being a jerk.

Im

> 26 and

> > they try to tell me what I should do! Gimme a break.There all

drivn

> me

> > nuts! Luv ya, cassy

> > >

> > > Hey Cassy~

> > > How are you feeling? I'm sorry your dad is being so

insensitive.

> And

> > that was a real insensitive suggestion he made to you, not to

> mention what

> > he's done to your mother. Gotta tell ya. It doesn't sound like

> guilt though.

> > > Now, I hope you don't think that I'm being insensitive by

> wanting to

> > find you a really good man. Oh yeah!! I forgot to tell you. I'm

> known as

> > the matchmaker of the family. Yepper! And I do a real good job. I

> have just

> > the man for you. No...really, I mean it.

> > > His name is Mark. He's 46yrs. old. Beautiful smile, with

pretty

> straight

> > teeth. People say he looks a lot like Chamberlin. (When

he

> was

> > younger) He's got blue, blue eyes. A Baritone voice. He's

divorced

> (for

> > many years now). He drives a Miati(sp), red convertible. He's very

> > artistic, has a great sense of humour. He's out-doorsy. Loves

> nature and

> > animals. In fact, he's very in tune to the enviroment around him.

> He takes

> > a drink only on occasion. Not a heavy drinker. Right now, he's

> really into

> > chainsaw art. He makes carvings from old logs and they are

> beautiful.

> > > Now here's what I forgot to mention. He's a hard worker. Makes

> decent

> > money. He likes the finer things in life, but won't spend his

money

> on

> > things he can't afford. And....

>

June 8, 2007

Thats very true Peggy! Thankyou! Lots of luv,cassy

[spazman222@...] wrote:

The one thing I've learned is that usually when I expect the worse I

get the best, and vice versa. When I don't want to go out, I have the

best time and when I can't wait to go somewhere it's boring, lol!!!!

I think it's always better never to get your expectations up too much

just so you can be pleasantly surprised when something grand

happens!!!!

Hugs,

Peggy

> > if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age

> doesn't matter

> > to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my

> hubby for

> > 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise

to

> find out

> > he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had

5

> kids.

> > Got married when I was 36 and he was 25. We've been married for

> almost 15

> > years now.

> >

> > a Coon

> > www.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.com

> > farmfresahsoapsandcandles@

> >

> > >

> > > Wow Val! Really? You know im only 26 right? He sounds

incredible

> though

> > and he must be very sweet since he is related to you. Thats a

> big age

> > difference,isnt it? Does he have kids? Ya.my dads being a jerk.

Im

> 26 and

> > they try to tell me what I should do! Gimme a break.There all

drivn

> me

> > nuts! Luv ya, cassy

> > >

> > > Hey Cassy~

> > > How are you feeling? I'm sorry your dad is being so

insensitive.

> And

> > that was a real insensitive suggestion he made to you, not to

> mention what

> > he's done to your mother. Gotta tell ya. It doesn't sound....

June 8, 2007

LoL! Your too funny!

[cop.girl@...] wrote:

Cassy~

That's right! Mark doesn't wanna get on my bad side. I used to beat the tar

outta him when we were kids. LOL. Well....that was until he got bigger than me.

Then I stopped cuz I figured he needed a break, and I didn't want to wear him

out chasing me around the block. Nope...that's not true. I actually stopped

beating him up when I accidently almost killed him. )

Just jokin'...

Love, Val

Re: ...Cassy

Cassy,

You only go around once, and theres nothing to say that this has to

be a permanent thing. Who knows what could or will happen. Life is so

unpredictable as we know all to well, right? I say take a chance and

meet the guy. If he's a jerk to you he'll have Val to deal with

right, and I'm sure he doesn't want to be on her bad side, lol!!!!

All Dad's think they can always control their kids till the day they

die. I'm 40 and my dad still tries to boss me around. I just say yeah

whatever and leave it at that.

Gotta sping that wheel of chance!!!!

Good luck!!!

Hugs,

Peggy

> if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age

doesn't matter

> to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my

hubby for

> 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to

find out

> he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5

kids.

> Got married when I was 36 and he was 25. We've been married for

almost 15

> years now.

>

> a Coon

> www.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.com

> farmfresahsoapsandcandles@...

>

> >

> > Wow Val! Really? You know im only 26 right? He sounds incredible

though

> and he must be very sweet since he is related to you. Thats a

big age

> difference,isnt it? Does he have kids? Ya.my dads being a jerk. Im

26 and

> they try to tell me what I should do! Gimme a break.There all drivn

me

> nuts! Luv ya, cassy

> >

> > Hey Cassy~

> > How are you feeling? I'm sorry your dad is being so insensitive.

And

> that was a real insensitive suggestion he made to you, not to

mention what

> he's done to your mother. Gotta tell ya. It doesn't sound like

guilt though.

> > Now, I hope you don't think that I'm being insensitive by

wanting to

> find you a really good man. Oh yeah!! I forgot to tell you. I'm

known as

> the matchmaker of the family. Yepper! And I do a real good job. I

have just

> the man for you. No...really, I mean it.

> > His name is Mark. He's 46yrs. old. Beautiful smile, with pretty

straight

> teeth. People say he....

June 8, 2007

a.I agree.If I had to do shots daily or weekly I would teach everyone I

know.lol.So I wouldnt have to do them myself. My fiance (i keep saying fiance I

dont think im ready to say ex I guess) he is pretty much the girls' only dad.My

oldest is 9 and has a different dad but my youngest is his.He is more of a dad

to her then her own dad.He spends time with her buys her the things she needs

and all the dad stuff.Her dad is only a dad when he wants to be.My fiance dosnt

have the best of patience but he does a pretty good job.My dad isnt my

biological but that dosnt matter to me.He was my dad when I didnt have a dad and

from that point on.He can be a bit ridiculous at times but I always know he

loves me.I want that for my girls so I hope it can stay that way.Lots of

luv,cassy

[paulacoon@...] wrote:

when we met, he didn't know his ex was pregnant. He now has a daughter he

didn't havve when we met. My 'baby' was 6 and will be 23 next month. Hubby

is the only 'father figure' he had. My older kids all refer to their

fathers as " The Sperm Donor " (this is my 3rd marriage) and will tell you

that there is a world of difference between being a father and being a dad

and that they have a father but hubby is their Dad. My oldest son is 28 and

says when his father dies he'll " go to the viewing - if only to make sure

the SOB is dead " .

We were married almost 4 years when I was Dx with MS. Told him I would

totally understand if he wanted to leave. Wrong thing to say ..... BIG TIME

wrong thing ! He went on for nearly an hour about how he would never leave

just because I was sick ..... he promised when we got married that he would

be here in sickness and health and he took those vows seriously .... he

knew I would never walk away if he was sick or hurt so why would I think he

would, etc.......

He went to the library and told the desk clerk that his wife was recently

diagnosed with MS and he wanted everything they had on MS - we did a lot of

reading. He didn't like the idea of having to give me a shot every day but

he learned real quick how to do it. Said there ar e lots of things we don't

like in life but something HAVE to be done - like it or not. so suck it up

and do it. Besides, if I can poke myself in the leg and stomach, he can

easily poke me in the arm or hip. Makes all sorts of jokes about how he

'has to stick it to me' and 'rather be the sticker than the stickee', etc

(never said his jokes were good ones). Besides, using the autojet gives me

huge bruises so better that he jab me instead My yougnest used to work

at a kennel so he has experiece giving injections and I've taught 2 of the

grand kids how to do my shot. Figured it won't hurt for them to know to do

it and besides, one of their great grand parents is diabetic so the

knowledge might come in handy

a Coon

www.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.com

farmfresahsoapsandcandles@...

> Ahh. a.Thats a sweet story.Sounds like you have a good hubby.Did he

have kids too? Thats true,age is just a number. 15 yrs. Wow. Thats

awesome.Lots of luv,cassy

>

> [paulacoon@...] wrote:

> if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't

matter

> to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for

> 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find

out

> he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids.

> Got married when I was 36 and he was 25. We've been married for almost 15

> years now.

>

> a Coon

> www.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.com

> farmfresahsoapsandcandles@...

>

> >

> > Wow Val! Really? You know im only 26 right? He sounds incredible though

> and he must be very sweet since he is related to you. Thats a big age

> difference,isnt it? Does he have kids? Ya.my dads being a....

June 8, 2007

Cassy~

How did I miss this email? I hope you are feeling better now. Don't let your ex get to you this way. Take your power back...it doesn't belong to him. If he was the right man for you, he would have behaved in a more considerate manner. He knows what you are going through. But, it doesn't look to me like he even put you in the mix. This is tough, I know. It hurts like H-E-double toothpicks right now, but when the right one comes along, you'll know it. Then, you'll wonder what you ever saw in this guy. Really!

I'll shut up right now before I start giving unwanted advise. You'll ask me when you need it.

God bless and much love...Val

Re: ...Cassy

ROFL! Im so glad it worked out like that for you Akiba.Its good to know and have some hope that things really can work-out that way.My "ex" is making himself look like a fool.I never thought id be dealing with this kind of drama.Im 26(june 24th) but he IS 31! I guess he will never grow up. I just want to beat him.I have never wanted to beat ANYONE,but I just want to hit him and tell him what the hell is wrong with you? Why are you destroying our family?[im crying as I write this I feel so lost.I feel I cannot take any more stress.I miss him,I wish I didnt miss him!OK.ok. You went threw alot of hours in labor.OMG! I was fitted for foot braces today.To sleep with to try and help the atrophy.He wants me to think about having special ones made for my feet.Said my left foot goes in ALOT when I walk and the way it drags in he said he thinks the weakness is more in my left cuz it goes different.So i will have to wear braces and I dont even know whats wrong withme.Ok.im on a pity party.lol.Luv you[akyba@...] wrote:Our 11th anniversary is this month. I am also 11.5 years older. When wemarried I was 41 and he was 30. I got pregnant8 months after we married andhas Robbin at 43. I found out I was pregnant on April fools day when I was42. Never Ever thought I'd be able to carry to term, but I did and had ahealthy beautiful baby, 9.9 on the apgar scale, 21" and 7.7 lbs. C-sec after36 hours labor. Then I "croned" and slammed the door after him ROFL!!HugsAkiba-------Original Message-------From: cassandra workmnDate: 6/6/2007 9:15:41 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: ...CassyAhh. a.Thats a sweet story.Sounds like you have a good hubby.Did he havekids too? Thats true,age is just a number. 15 yrs. Wow. Thats awesome.Lotsof luv,cassy[paulacoonearthlink (DOT) net] wrote:if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matterto me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find outhe was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids. Got married when I was 36 and he was 25. We've been married for almost 15years now. a Coonwww.farmfreshsoapsandcandles.comfarmfresahsoapsandcandlesearthlink (DOT) net>> Wow Val! Really? You know im only 26 right? He sounds incredible thoughand he must be very sweet since he is related to you. Thats a big agedifference,isnt it? Does he have kids? Ya.my dads being a jerk. Im 26 andthey try to tell me what I should do! Gimme a break.There all drivn menuts! Luv ya, cassy>>> Hey Cassy~> How are you feeling? I'm sorry your dad is being so insensitive. Andthat was a real insensitive suggestion he made to you, not to mention whathe's done to your mother. Gotta tell ya. It doesn't sound like guilt though.> Now, I hope you don't think that I'm being insensitive by wanting tofind you a really good man. Oh yeah!! I forgot to tell you. I'm known asthe matchmaker of the family. Yepper! And I do a real good job. I have justthe man for you. No...really, I mean it.> His name is Mark. He's 46yrs. old. Beautiful smile, with pretty straightteeth. People say he looks a lot like Chamberlin. (When he wasyounger) He's got blue, blue eyes. A Baritone voice. He's divorced (formany years now). He drives a Miati(sp), red convertible. He's veryartistic, has a great sense of humour. He's out-doorsy. Loves nature andanimals. In fact, he's very in tune to the enviroment around him. He takesa drink only on occasion. Not a heavy drinker. Right now, he's really intochainsaw art. He makes carvings from old logs and they are beautiful.> Now here's what I forgot to mention. He's a hard worker. Makes decentmoney. He likes the finer things in life, but won't spend his money onthings he can't afford. And this I am quite serious about. If he were notmy brother...I would have sought him out many years ago. He's a....

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June 9, 2007

Thanks Val.You know your advice is always appreciated! I am still young,although

I have lived such a long sometimes tough life,I look up to you and the others

here.You all are wise and know so much about life. I have only been in love

twice,wish it was only once,I jus hope it isnt a hundred times more.lol.I dont

think anyone could get used to a broken heart.If only there was a way to protect

that! Hu? Love ya,cassy

[cop.girl@...] wrote:

Cassy~

How did I miss this email? I hope you are feeling better now. Don't let your ex

get to you this way. Take your power back...it doesn't belong to him. If he was

the right man for you, he would have behaved in a more considerate manner. He

knows what you are going through. But, it doesn't look to me like he even put

you in the mix. This is tough, I know. It hurts like H-E-double toothpicks right

now, but when the right one comes along, you'll know it. Then, you'll wonder

what you ever saw in this guy. Really!

I'll shut up right now before I start giving unwanted advise. You'll ask me

when you need it.

God bless and much love...Val

Re: ...Cassy

Ahh. a.Thats a sweet story.Sounds like you have a good hubby.Did he have

kids too? Thats true,age is just a number. 15 yrs. Wow. Thats awesome.Lots

of luv,cassy

[paulacoon@...] wrote:

if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matter

to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for

3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find out

he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids.

....

June 9, 2007

Cassy...remember you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I didn't meet Rob till just after my 40th birthday! Be patient! Hugs Akiba -- Re: ...Cassy Thanks Val.You know your advice is always appreciated! I am still young,although I have lived such a long sometimes tough life,I look up to you and the others here.You all are wise and know so much about life. I have only been in love twice,wish it was only once,I jus hope it isnt a hundred times more.lol.I dont think anyone could get used to a broken heart.If only there was a way to protect that! Hu? Love ya,cassy[cop.girlearthlink (DOT) net] wrote:Cassy~How did I miss this email? I hope you are feeling better now. Don't let your ex get to you this way. Take your power back...it doesn't belong to him. If he was the right man for you, he would have behaved in a more considerate manner. He knows what you are going through. But, it doesn't look to me like he even put you in the mix. This is tough, I know. It hurts like H-E-double toothpicks right now, but when the right one comes along, you'll know it. Then, you'll wonder what you ever saw in this guy. Really! I'll shut up right now before I start giving unwanted advise. You'll ask me when you need it.God bless and much love...Val Re: ...CassyROFL! Im so glad it worked out like that for you Akiba.Its good to know and have some hope that things really can work-out that way.My "ex" is making himself look like a fool.I never thought id be dealing with this kind of drama.Im 26(june 24th) but he IS 31! I guess he will never grow up. I just want to beat him.I have never wanted to beat ANYONE,but I just want to hit him and tell him what the hell is wrong with you? Why are you destroying our family?[im crying as I write this I feel so lost.I feel I cannot take any more stress.I miss him,I wish I didnt miss him!OK.ok. You went threw alot of hours in labor.OMG! I was fitted for foot braces today.To sleep with to try and help the atrophy.He wants me to think about having special ones made for my feet.Said my left foot goes in ALOT when I walk and the way it drags in he said he thinks the weakness is more in my left cuz it goes different.So i will have to wear braces and I dont even know whats wrong withme.Ok.im on a pity party.lol.Luv you[akyba@...] wrote:Our 11th anniversary is this month. I am also 11.5 years older. When wemarried I was 41 and he was 30. I got pregnant8 months after we married andhas Robbin at 43. I found out I was pregnant on April fools day when I was42. Never Ever thought I'd be able to carry to term, but I did and had ahealthy beautiful baby, 9.9 on the apgar scale, 21" and 7.7 lbs. C-sec after36 hours labor. Then I "croned" and slammed the door after him ROFL!!HugsAkiba-------Original Message-------From: cassandra workmnDate: 6/6/2007 9:15:41 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: ...CassyAhh. a.Thats a sweet story.Sounds like you have a good hubby.Did he havekids too? Thats true,age is just a number. 15 yrs. Wow. Thats awesome.Lotsof luv,cassy[paulacoonearthlink (DOT) net] wrote:if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matterto me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find outhe was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids. ...

June 9, 2007

What a cool story! I love it. So were you born on the same day or just happened to be in the nursery at the same time? Thanks for sharing a good story with us!hugs))Sharon "Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life." -Burton Hills Re: ...Cassy

Then again, it could be the first guy you bump into. Bill and I met the day we were born - staring at each other from our respective bassinets in the hospital nursery. We met up again in kindergarten, and then again in college. We've been married almost 25 years with 4 wonderful kids of our own and many foster kids.Sue> > > > if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matter> > > > to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for> > > > 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find out> > > > he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids. > > > > ...>

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June 9, 2007

Cassy~

How does that song go? True Love Never Dies? Well, I'm a believer in that. True love is everlasting, strong, it endures all things. If a person "falls out of love", then I don't believe they were ever in love. That being said....One person being in love with another, who does not love them, is not a relationship. And in order to have relationship, it requires both parties. You can love someone with all your being, but you can not make someone love you if they don't. And if they don't love you, why would you want to be in that? (Not meaning you. Just in general) I have lived in a one-sided relationship. And I'm living proof that it doesn't work. And even though I thought I was in love, I realize now that it wasn't love. It was the unsurity of being alone. I had allowed that person to take all of me, and I thought I couldn't live without him. I gave and gave and gave, he took and took and took. I finally realized that there was something really lop-sided about this so-called-relationship. That's when I realized that I wasn't in love with him. I just thought I was.

I took time out and reaquainted myself to me. And I learned that I really like me! And I'm great company. I was already playing mommy *and* daddy, so why couldn't I do that without the excess baggage? Today, if my DH was to tell me he no longer loved me and wanted to cut this marriage loose, as much as I love him, I love myself more. I'd let him go. Hopefully, that won't happen any time soon.

Okay....Okay....Let me up! UNCLE! I'll stop!!

Love and blessings...Val @};-

Re: ...CassyROFL! Im so glad it worked out like that for you Akiba.Its good to know and have some hope that things really can work-out that way.My "ex" is making himself look like a fool.I never thought id be dealing with this kind of drama.Im 26(june 24th) but he IS 31! I guess he will never grow up. I just want to beat him.I have never wanted to beat ANYONE,but I just want to hit him and tell him what the hell is wrong with you? Why are you destroying our family?[im crying as I write this I feel so lost.I feel I cannot take any more stress.I miss him,I wish I didnt miss him!OK.ok. You went threw alot of hours in labor.OMG! I was fitted for foot braces today.To sleep with to try and help the atrophy.He wants me to think about having special ones made for my feet.Said my left foot goes in ALOT when I walk and the way it drags in he said he thinks the weakness is more in my left cuz it goes different.So i will have to wear braces and I dont even know whats wrong withme.Ok.im on a pity party.lol.Luv you[akyba@...] wrote:Our 11th anniversary is this month. I am also 11.5 years older. When wemarried I was 41 and he was 30. I got pregnant8 months after we married andhas Robbin at 43. I found out I was pregnant on April fools day when I was42. Never Ever thought I'd be able to carry to term, but I did and had ahealthy beautiful baby, 9.9 on the apgar scale, 21" and 7.7 lbs. C-sec after36 hours labor. Then I "croned" and slammed the door after him ROFL!!HugsAkiba-------Original Message-------From: cassandra workmnDate: 6/6/2007 9:15:41 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: ...CassyAhh. a.Thats a sweet story.Sounds like you have a good hubby.Did he havekids too? Thats true,age is just a number. 15 yrs. Wow. Thats awesome.Lotsof luv,cassy[paulacoonearthlink (DOT) net] wrote:if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matterto me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find outhe was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids. ....

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June 9, 2007

Pretty obvious to me that it was meant to be. I don't think it was a coincidence. (I Don't believe in them).

Love and blessings...

Val @};-

Re: ...Cassy

Then again, it could be the first guy you bump into. Bill and I met the day we were born - staring at each other from our respective bassinets in the hospital nursery. We met up again in kindergarten, and then again in college. We've been married almost 25 years with 4 wonderful kids of our own and many foster kids.Sue> > > > if I wasn't already married, I'd be VERY interested. His age doesn't matter> > > > to me, it's the person I'm interested in, not a number. Dated my hubby for> > > > 3 months before I found out how old he was. A bit of a surprise to find out> > > > he was 11.5 years younger and he knew the night we met that I had 5 kids. > > > > ...>

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June 10, 2007

I see what your sayn Val. I seen something on t.v. The other day that said you

dont fall outa love all the way until you fall back in love.Something like

that.I love that no matter what happens in life that I have the unconditional

love of and for my girls.They are my rocks.When I think I feel like giving up or

how much worse can it get,all I gotta do is look at them.I love me and I love

that no one can change that.With or without a man I will live and live happy.If

what I have or had is not meant to be then one day I will find what is meant to

be.And if its jus me and my girls for the next 18 years I will be just as happy.

Luv ya, cassy

[cop.girl@...] wrote:

Cassy~

How does that song go? True Love Never Dies? Well, I'm a believer in that. True

love is everlasting, strong, it endures all things. If a person " falls out of

love " , then I don't believe they were ever in love. That being said....One

person being in love with another, who does not love them, is not a

relationship. And in order to have relationship, it requires both parties. You

can love someone with all your being, but you can not make someone love you if

they don't. And if they don't love you, why would you want to be in that? (Not

meaning you. Just in general) I have lived in a one-sided relationship. And I'm

living proof that it doesn't work. And even though I thought I was in love, I

realize now that it wasn't love. It was the unsurity of being alone. I had

allowed that person to take all of me, and I thought I couldn't live without

him. I gave and gave and gave, he took and took and took. I finally realized

that there was something really lop-sided about this

so-called-relationship. That's when I realized that I wasn't in love with him.

I just thought I was.

I took time out and reaquainted myself to me. And I learned that I really like

me! And I'm great company. I was already playing mommy *and* daddy, so why

couldn't I do that without the excess baggage? Today, if my DH was to tell me he

no longer loved me and wanted to cut this marriage loose, as much as I love him,

I love myself more. I'd let him go. Hopefully, that won't happen any time soon.

Okay....Okay....Let me up! UNCLE! I'll stop!!

Love and blessings...Val @};-

Re: ...Cassy

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June 10, 2007