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Hi & welcome I too would like to weigh less than I currently am,

but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the

'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not

real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming

Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the

'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to

effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to them.

So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a go

to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself what

benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing

thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too?

Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being

'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can find

and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those

instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc.

ehugs, Katcha

[Guest guest]

Katcha,

This is great. I believe that for many people (not necessarily all), the

excess weight is serving a purpose. I often pose the question, " what

is the weight doing for you? " . It can be tough to answer, but once

you figure it out, it's a huge a-ha moment. Has anyone here figured that

out for themselves?

I think for me part of it was the weight allowed me to find fault with

myself which kept me from really being the best I could be. The weight

was an excuse, but the truth was I had fear in taking that leap to really

put myself out in the world and live my purpose. It's amazing what fear

can do to us!

Thanks!

Gillian

Gillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

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At 07:42 AM 6/20/2007, you wrote:

Hi & welcome I too would

like to weigh less than I currently am,

but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the

'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not

real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming

Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the

'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to

effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to

them.

So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a

go

to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself

what

benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing

thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too?

Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being

'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can

find

and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those

instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc.

ehugs, Katcha

[Guest guest]

Katcha,

This is great. I believe that for many people (not necessarily all), the

excess weight is serving a purpose. I often pose the question, " what

is the weight doing for you? " . It can be tough to answer, but once

you figure it out, it's a huge a-ha moment. Has anyone here figured that

out for themselves?

I think for me part of it was the weight allowed me to find fault with

myself which kept me from really being the best I could be. The weight

was an excuse, but the truth was I had fear in taking that leap to really

put myself out in the world and live my purpose. It's amazing what fear

can do to us!

Thanks!

Gillian

Gillian Hood-son, MS, ACSM

Healthier Outcomes

It's not just about losing weight!

Want to eat your favorite foods without

gaining weight?

Get your copy of our fr*e special report, " 6 Simple Steps to

Guilt Free Eating " by visiting

http://www.healthieroutcomes.com

At 07:42 AM 6/20/2007, you wrote:

Hi & welcome I too would

like to weigh less than I currently am,

but as I have come to apply IE to my eating I am also getting the

'message' more and more that weight is simply the OBVIOUS, but not

real difficulty I must tackle. When I recently finished Overcoming

Overeating I knew that my challenge is to figure out why I am the

'size' I am. If I don't know those reasons, I will never be able to

effectively change how my body is because I will still be subject to

them.

So to short cut a bit here's something that you may want to give a

go

to - Picture yourself growing fatter and fatter and ask yourself

what

benefits you feel if you do that. Also picture yourself growing

thinner and thinner and what does that make you feel like too?

Many people seem to feel more powerful and 'visible' thanks to being

'heavy' while thin scares them for several reasons. So is you can

find

and understand the whys of your size(s), then you can focus on those

instead of fighting the ghost enemy of 'food' and control etc.

ehugs, Katcha

[Guest guest]

Wishing I could pin a GOLD STAR on this post - its excellent alyzu :)

>

> It's not crazy at all. I think we all want to be loved and wanted for

> who we are, not for how we look, how much money we have, how famous we

> are, etc. It's also natural to rebel against family members who make

> their love conditional, and who say one thing but do something else.

> I think we've all experienced that at one time or another, or we

> wouldn't be here,lol!

>

> Because I'm at my heaviest right now, I have a lot of insecurity about

> whether my husband will still think I'm attractive. Especially since

> he's an actor and is often surrounded by young, hot women! ( I used to

> be a young, very thin actress, but those days are no more, lol!) He

> tells me all the time that I am attractive ('cause he's a wonderful

> guy), but it's hard for me to believe. I, too, grew up in a family

> where it was made very clear that I had to look and behave a certain

> way if I wanted to get love and approval. I was told I was loved, but

> only when I was a " good girl. " But anyway, a few days ago I was

> looking at him as he was getting ready for bed, and he's not quite as

> physically defined as he used to be. I thought about it, and, to me,

> he's more handsome than ever, and I love him more than life, and he's

> an amazing father and husband, so what do I care that his 6-pack is a

> 3-pack,lol! And then it FINALLY occurred to me that maybe HE FEELS

> THE EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT ME!!!!

> I also know that when he admires someone, it's not because of how they

> look, but what they accomplish. And he's taught me to do the same, by

> example. His love is NOT conditional, and never has been.

> I guess the key is to find the people in our lives who love us no

> matter what, and put our attention on them instead of the naysayers.

[Guest guest]

Wishing I could pin a GOLD STAR on this post - its excellent alyzu :)

>

> It's not crazy at all. I think we all want to be loved and wanted for

> who we are, not for how we look, how much money we have, how famous we

> are, etc. It's also natural to rebel against family members who make

> their love conditional, and who say one thing but do something else.

> I think we've all experienced that at one time or another, or we

> wouldn't be here,lol!

>

> Because I'm at my heaviest right now, I have a lot of insecurity about

> whether my husband will still think I'm attractive. Especially since

> he's an actor and is often surrounded by young, hot women! ( I used to

> be a young, very thin actress, but those days are no more, lol!) He

> tells me all the time that I am attractive ('cause he's a wonderful

> guy), but it's hard for me to believe. I, too, grew up in a family

> where it was made very clear that I had to look and behave a certain

> way if I wanted to get love and approval. I was told I was loved, but

> only when I was a " good girl. " But anyway, a few days ago I was

> looking at him as he was getting ready for bed, and he's not quite as

> physically defined as he used to be. I thought about it, and, to me,

> he's more handsome than ever, and I love him more than life, and he's

> an amazing father and husband, so what do I care that his 6-pack is a

> 3-pack,lol! And then it FINALLY occurred to me that maybe HE FEELS

> THE EXACT SAME WAY ABOUT ME!!!!

> I also know that when he admires someone, it's not because of how they

> look, but what they accomplish. And he's taught me to do the same, by

> example. His love is NOT conditional, and never has been.

> I guess the key is to find the people in our lives who love us no

> matter what, and put our attention on them instead of the naysayers.

[Guest guest]

Mel, I just found time to run through my mail so I'm sorry for such a late

response to your first post.

 

Your questions were so similiar to mine when I found out about my mother. In my

experience, there was few places that had specifics on what to expect and

nothing to identify " a stage " of LBD. As I understand it, it in un like Alz

because there are specific stages and more easily defined. I really believe that

joining this group and reading posts from other caregivers was the most

beneficial to begin ti have an idea of what was to come. A few weeks ago, my

mother started to stumble a lot, walk with shorter steps, become confused, see

people all around, and was up all night yelling at the people in the house to

get out. She was very hateful to me, which cut to my heart!! But from the

beginning of seeing these changes, I remembered reading a post here about other

LBD patients that had UTI and how that affected them. I immediately requested a

test and we found she had a UTI. They were not able to give her the correct meds

until the culture grew and they

knew exactly how to treat it (wich was over a couple days) but when they gave

her the meds, she was like night and day, a hugh change. During all this, she

also had fallen and broken here wrist in a couple of places;  so we were going

through the questions as to which problem was causing which reaction with her.

But bottom line was that, because of this group and the wonderful support and

advice given here, I was able learn how to identify even the slightest changes

to her and help her through her sickness. The UTIs, as I understand, are common

with LBD, and as my mother because to display slight changes again this week, I

again suspected a UTI, and I was right, she has another UTI. I am sure you will

find this to be a great location to help as you and your family deal with this

awful thing, I know I have.

 

The best of luck to you and your family.

 

Robin

Robin Green

Loving daughter of Bobbie

Diagnosed with LB May 2008

Beavercreek, Ohio

________________________________

To: LBDcaregivers

Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 10:45 AM

Subject: New Member

 

Hi Everyone,

Just a little background - my mom was diagnosed with Lewy Body and with cancer

last year (yes, a double whammy). Not knowing anything about Lewy Body, and the

fact that my mom still acted " normal " mentally, we focused more on the cancer

than the impending dementia.

Unfortunately, we should have prepared ourselves more for what was to come with

the dementia. Hindsight is 20/20, of course, but now that I am learning more

about LBD, I am amazed at how similar others' experiences are, and how

" typically " she has progressed in a disease that has so many variables.

My mom is currently in a skilled nursing facility receiving therapy for a broken

arm. She is only there temporarily and they are already pushing us (her

caregivers - my brother and me) to be ready for her discharge.

We have looked into another long term facility. Mom doesn't want to be in any

facility, but she doesn't understand why we don't feel safe with her at home.

Previously, she lived alone in a small apartment while my brother lived in the

apartment above her. Almost like living with her, but not quite.

Until a few months ago, she was still pretty independent. But now she has

short-term memory loss, a lack of sense of time and place, some hallucinations

and delusions. At least the paranoia seems to have lessened. When we first

hospitalized her, she was so anxious and paranoid that she was barricading her

doors, hiding knives in the apartment, and accusing the neighbors of breaking

in.

To complicate matters, I live 3000 miles away and I am trying as much as I can

to help my brother in her care. He is the on site guy, and I am trying to do

research and financial stuff from afar.

I have been reading here and in another forum, and I recently read a book about

LBD. I have learned A LOT and I am grateful for that, but of course I still have

questions.

I wonder if we got her medications under control, could she ever have a

possibility of living at home again, with help of course? I wonder if not, will

she ever accept living in a memory care facility? I wonder what stage she is in

- early, mid, late?

I wonder if anyone out there can give me advice or resources for neurologists,

facilities, respite or day care options in the California Bay Area?

Anyway, thank you all for reading.

Mel

[Guest guest]

Mel, I just found time to run through my mail so I'm sorry for such a late

response to your first post.

 

Your questions were so similiar to mine when I found out about my mother. In my

experience, there was few places that had specifics on what to expect and

nothing to identify " a stage " of LBD. As I understand it, it in un like Alz

because there are specific stages and more easily defined. I really believe that

joining this group and reading posts from other caregivers was the most

beneficial to begin ti have an idea of what was to come. A few weeks ago, my

mother started to stumble a lot, walk with shorter steps, become confused, see

people all around, and was up all night yelling at the people in the house to

get out. She was very hateful to me, which cut to my heart!! But from the

beginning of seeing these changes, I remembered reading a post here about other

LBD patients that had UTI and how that affected them. I immediately requested a

test and we found she had a UTI. They were not able to give her the correct meds

until the culture grew and they

knew exactly how to treat it (wich was over a couple days) but when they gave

her the meds, she was like night and day, a hugh change. During all this, she

also had fallen and broken here wrist in a couple of places;  so we were going

through the questions as to which problem was causing which reaction with her.

But bottom line was that, because of this group and the wonderful support and

advice given here, I was able learn how to identify even the slightest changes

to her and help her through her sickness. The UTIs, as I understand, are common

with LBD, and as my mother because to display slight changes again this week, I

again suspected a UTI, and I was right, she has another UTI. I am sure you will

find this to be a great location to help as you and your family deal with this

awful thing, I know I have.

 

The best of luck to you and your family.

 

Robin

Robin Green

Loving daughter of Bobbie

Diagnosed with LB May 2008

Beavercreek, Ohio

________________________________

To: LBDcaregivers

Sent: Friday, April 6, 2012 10:45 AM

Subject: New Member

 

Hi Everyone,

Just a little background - my mom was diagnosed with Lewy Body and with cancer

last year (yes, a double whammy). Not knowing anything about Lewy Body, and the

fact that my mom still acted " normal " mentally, we focused more on the cancer

than the impending dementia.

Unfortunately, we should have prepared ourselves more for what was to come with

the dementia. Hindsight is 20/20, of course, but now that I am learning more

about LBD, I am amazed at how similar others' experiences are, and how

" typically " she has progressed in a disease that has so many variables.

My mom is currently in a skilled nursing facility receiving therapy for a broken

arm. She is only there temporarily and they are already pushing us (her

caregivers - my brother and me) to be ready for her discharge.

We have looked into another long term facility. Mom doesn't want to be in any

facility, but she doesn't understand why we don't feel safe with her at home.

Previously, she lived alone in a small apartment while my brother lived in the

apartment above her. Almost like living with her, but not quite.

Until a few months ago, she was still pretty independent. But now she has

short-term memory loss, a lack of sense of time and place, some hallucinations

and delusions. At least the paranoia seems to have lessened. When we first

hospitalized her, she was so anxious and paranoid that she was barricading her

doors, hiding knives in the apartment, and accusing the neighbors of breaking

in.

To complicate matters, I live 3000 miles away and I am trying as much as I can

to help my brother in her care. He is the on site guy, and I am trying to do

research and financial stuff from afar.

I have been reading here and in another forum, and I recently read a book about

LBD. I have learned A LOT and I am grateful for that, but of course I still have

questions.

I wonder if we got her medications under control, could she ever have a

possibility of living at home again, with help of course? I wonder if not, will

she ever accept living in a memory care facility? I wonder what stage she is in

- early, mid, late?

I wonder if anyone out there can give me advice or resources for neurologists,

facilities, respite or day care options in the California Bay Area?

Anyway, thank you all for reading.

Mel

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for letting me join your group. I have already

found an incredible wealth of useful information in your files and

links. I'm a retired RN doing per diem homecare and companionship for

the elderly including Hospice and different types of dementia

including LBD and I have family members who have walked this path. I

have a very dear client now with LBD and your tips and insight will

certainly help me to meet her needs in the best way possible. I will

keep you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. I am looking forward to

reading, listening and observing what you have to offer.