Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, Maybe Normi the Goat was in your dreams, and you got a little mixed up on what YOU ate? Hmmmm....don't know, but sometimes I think our bodies just go into rebel mode and we have to suffer the consequences. Hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, Maybe Normi the Goat was in your dreams, and you got a little mixed up on what YOU ate? Hmmmm....don't know, but sometimes I think our bodies just go into rebel mode and we have to suffer the consequences. Hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, Maybe Normi the Goat was in your dreams, and you got a little mixed up on what YOU ate? Hmmmm....don't know, but sometimes I think our bodies just go into rebel mode and we have to suffer the consequences. Hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, ME? Quiet? NAH! Just trying to get the fall pruning done, Halloween decor up, and taking care of 's case, and trying to keep my sister from setting up a surprise reconciliation between my daughter and me. She still doesn't get it. I guess she thinks I'll " get over it " with time. It's not MY problem, it's my daughter's. Although, my sister did tell me that Karla kicked that bastard out just a month after the baby was born last spring. No one bothered to tell us that. My sons are happy about that, anyway. But, I still can't take the risk that we would run for my sons by visiting with Karla and her kids. Especially, her daughter. I can't trust Karla anymore. I mean, she betrayed my trust many times...most kids do, especially in their teens, but this went beyond the pale. Glad you are trying to eat. H ope things stay down for you, now. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, ME? Quiet? NAH! Just trying to get the fall pruning done, Halloween decor up, and taking care of 's case, and trying to keep my sister from setting up a surprise reconciliation between my daughter and me. She still doesn't get it. I guess she thinks I'll " get over it " with time. It's not MY problem, it's my daughter's. Although, my sister did tell me that Karla kicked that bastard out just a month after the baby was born last spring. No one bothered to tell us that. My sons are happy about that, anyway. But, I still can't take the risk that we would run for my sons by visiting with Karla and her kids. Especially, her daughter. I can't trust Karla anymore. I mean, she betrayed my trust many times...most kids do, especially in their teens, but this went beyond the pale. Glad you are trying to eat. H ope things stay down for you, now. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2002 Report Share Posted September 30, 2002 Brat, ME? Quiet? NAH! Just trying to get the fall pruning done, Halloween decor up, and taking care of 's case, and trying to keep my sister from setting up a surprise reconciliation between my daughter and me. She still doesn't get it. I guess she thinks I'll " get over it " with time. It's not MY problem, it's my daughter's. Although, my sister did tell me that Karla kicked that bastard out just a month after the baby was born last spring. No one bothered to tell us that. My sons are happy about that, anyway. But, I still can't take the risk that we would run for my sons by visiting with Karla and her kids. Especially, her daughter. I can't trust Karla anymore. I mean, she betrayed my trust many times...most kids do, especially in their teens, but this went beyond the pale. Glad you are trying to eat. H ope things stay down for you, now. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 2002 Report Share Posted October 1, 2002 Hi, Donna, Thanks. Well, is ok for the moment, so I can breathe a bit...the rest are fine. I don't see or speak with my daughter, but from what I hear, she is working two jobs, trying to improve her living arrangement, and kicked that bum out just a month after the baby was born. So, it would seem she is moving ahead, again. I am feeling ok after my strange weekend episode. I don't normally vomit, it almost takes an act of Congress to make me do it. So...for it to happen like that is most unusual. Must have been something I ate, I guess. How are you holding up, honey? Think about you and the others who are having such a time right now...every day. Praying and standing by, Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 2002 Report Share Posted October 1, 2002 Hi, Donna, Thanks. Well, is ok for the moment, so I can breathe a bit...the rest are fine. I don't see or speak with my daughter, but from what I hear, she is working two jobs, trying to improve her living arrangement, and kicked that bum out just a month after the baby was born. So, it would seem she is moving ahead, again. I am feeling ok after my strange weekend episode. I don't normally vomit, it almost takes an act of Congress to make me do it. So...for it to happen like that is most unusual. Must have been something I ate, I guess. How are you holding up, honey? Think about you and the others who are having such a time right now...every day. Praying and standing by, Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 2002 Report Share Posted October 1, 2002 Donna, You know what SAINT stands for don't ya? Ain't with an " Ass " in the rear. LOL Thanks for the good words, though. I need that support just like all the rest of you. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 2002 Report Share Posted October 2, 2002 Brat, MY kids didn't even come outside to see what all the noise and yuck was about. They thought some drunk was throwing up on the sidewalk again. Shows you how much our kids care, huh? Speaking of which...my ten year old got in trouble last night for ignoring seven calls to supper. Yup. Seven. Then when he got sent to his room with just a banana and a lecture about respecting other people's efforts, he was so mad, he graffiti'd all over his wall with permanent marker, bad words, and epithets about me. Now he's all upset because I told him this morning when I saw the wall that I was ashamed of him; that It hurt my feelings a lot, and I would not go into that room until it was primed and painted out. He was told he would have to get some after school leaf raking jobs this week to buy the paint and stuff. BOY! You should have seen the ruckus that announcement caused. He was still mumbling about being ill used on his way out the door to school. BIG attitude problem there. I think he is starting into the prepubescent angst earlier than Randy did. Heaven help me! (He already is starting to " smell " on occasion, so the process is starting. My baby is growing up, and being a shit about it, to boot.) How is your tummy now? Better, I hope. Deanna sounds a little better, doesn't she? At least, she is posting part time, and that is hopeful. Take care, Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 2002 Report Share Posted October 2, 2002 MM, The fun begins! When my daughter first began the stage of being a little shit (and yes they all are that at times) I let it be known very quickly that she would be respectful. I told her she was allowe to think anything she wanted about me but it had better never be said where I could hear it! I think you handled your little episode quite appropriately. Too many parents don't make kids responsible for their actions. I bet in the future, he will think twice about defacing property because he's mad! Good for you! Hang in there. It's not easy but later they usually thank you for it. Boy, it does make me glad those years are behind me, though! W Re: Mike Brat, MY kids didn't even come outside to see what all the noise and yuck was about.They thought some drunk was throwing up on the sidewalk again. Shows you how much our kids care, huh? Speaking of which...my ten year old got in trouble last nightfor ignoring seven calls to supper. Yup. Seven. Then when he got sent to his roomwith just a banana and a lecture about respecting other people's efforts, he was somad, he graffiti'd all over his wall with permanent marker, bad words, and epithetsabout me. Now he's all upset because I told him this morning when I saw the wall that I was ashamed of him; that It hurt my feelings a lot, and I would not go into thatroom until it was primed and painted out. He was told he would have to get someafter school leaf raking jobs this week to buy the paint and stuff. BOY! You shouldhave seen the ruckus that announcement caused. He was still mumbling about beingill used on his way out the door to school. BIG attitude problem there. I think heis starting into the prepubescent angst earlier than Randy did. Heaven help me!(He already is starting to "smell" on occasion, so the process is starting. My babyis growing up, and being a shit about it, to boot.)How is your tummy now? Better, I hope. Deanna sounds a little better, doesn't she?At least, she is posting part time, and that is hopeful. Take care, Love, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 2, 2002 Report Share Posted October 2, 2002 , Well, at least this one is my youngest. For that I am grateful. LOL Thanks. MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Hi, Brat. Well, my kids come from a very confused background, and where we live, are exposed daily to other kids who act out a lot. We live very close to a high school and local college, and the kids who pass our house every day use the " F " , " S " , and " B " words as part of normal conversation. I hate it, but short of banning them from the neighborhood, there isn't much I can do about them. What I can and will do is to tell my kids that such behaviors and language will not be tolerated in my house or on my property, unless it is behind closed doors, in their own rooms where I don't have to listen to it. Unfortunately, one of the major symptoms of ADHD is a lack of impulse control. With the aid of teachers and doctors, and light doses of medication, I am teaching my boys to refocus their impulses to inanimate objects...therefore, writing on walls is much better than socking another child, or breaking windows, or whatever more violent action they may want to take. As we work out way down from very violent reactions to semiviolent reactions, each acting out behavior goes by the wayside and another hopefully milder form takes its place. At least, with these two, we know it will eventually work, there are more good days than bad, and they are both coming from a great desire to improve. My eldest son is too insane to care about what he does to others as long as his impulses are not thwarted. Randy and Reesey are so much easier to deal with that I tend to be more forgiving and lenient with them than I should. LOL I have learned, however, not to give more than two chances. In case I wasn't heard the first time I say something, I will repeat it one time. After that, they have to take the consequences of their actions, or inaction. LOL Well, didn't mean to write a volume. How are you feeling today? And, what's with the whining about the pizza talk? Hmmmm? You know you want some. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Hi, Brat. Well, my kids come from a very confused background, and where we live, are exposed daily to other kids who act out a lot. We live very close to a high school and local college, and the kids who pass our house every day use the " F " , " S " , and " B " words as part of normal conversation. I hate it, but short of banning them from the neighborhood, there isn't much I can do about them. What I can and will do is to tell my kids that such behaviors and language will not be tolerated in my house or on my property, unless it is behind closed doors, in their own rooms where I don't have to listen to it. Unfortunately, one of the major symptoms of ADHD is a lack of impulse control. With the aid of teachers and doctors, and light doses of medication, I am teaching my boys to refocus their impulses to inanimate objects...therefore, writing on walls is much better than socking another child, or breaking windows, or whatever more violent action they may want to take. As we work out way down from very violent reactions to semiviolent reactions, each acting out behavior goes by the wayside and another hopefully milder form takes its place. At least, with these two, we know it will eventually work, there are more good days than bad, and they are both coming from a great desire to improve. My eldest son is too insane to care about what he does to others as long as his impulses are not thwarted. Randy and Reesey are so much easier to deal with that I tend to be more forgiving and lenient with them than I should. LOL I have learned, however, not to give more than two chances. In case I wasn't heard the first time I say something, I will repeat it one time. After that, they have to take the consequences of their actions, or inaction. LOL Well, didn't mean to write a volume. How are you feeling today? And, what's with the whining about the pizza talk? Hmmmm? You know you want some. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Hi, Brat. Well, my kids come from a very confused background, and where we live, are exposed daily to other kids who act out a lot. We live very close to a high school and local college, and the kids who pass our house every day use the " F " , " S " , and " B " words as part of normal conversation. I hate it, but short of banning them from the neighborhood, there isn't much I can do about them. What I can and will do is to tell my kids that such behaviors and language will not be tolerated in my house or on my property, unless it is behind closed doors, in their own rooms where I don't have to listen to it. Unfortunately, one of the major symptoms of ADHD is a lack of impulse control. With the aid of teachers and doctors, and light doses of medication, I am teaching my boys to refocus their impulses to inanimate objects...therefore, writing on walls is much better than socking another child, or breaking windows, or whatever more violent action they may want to take. As we work out way down from very violent reactions to semiviolent reactions, each acting out behavior goes by the wayside and another hopefully milder form takes its place. At least, with these two, we know it will eventually work, there are more good days than bad, and they are both coming from a great desire to improve. My eldest son is too insane to care about what he does to others as long as his impulses are not thwarted. Randy and Reesey are so much easier to deal with that I tend to be more forgiving and lenient with them than I should. LOL I have learned, however, not to give more than two chances. In case I wasn't heard the first time I say something, I will repeat it one time. After that, they have to take the consequences of their actions, or inaction. LOL Well, didn't mean to write a volume. How are you feeling today? And, what's with the whining about the pizza talk? Hmmmm? You know you want some. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Now, Brat...I've never spoken to Adam in his life so how could it be a conspiracy? Huh? Huh? The scarecrow is just fine, thank you. He cleaned up good. LOL Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Now, Brat...I've never spoken to Adam in his life so how could it be a conspiracy? Huh? Huh? The scarecrow is just fine, thank you. He cleaned up good. LOL Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 3, 2002 Report Share Posted October 3, 2002 Now, Brat...I've never spoken to Adam in his life so how could it be a conspiracy? Huh? Huh? The scarecrow is just fine, thank you. He cleaned up good. LOL Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 4, 2002 Report Share Posted October 4, 2002 Hey, Brat, that was a long time ago. I'm much better now, I think...hmmm. Maybe I better rethink this? What was I talking about again? I had to meet with all the official officials for 's case this morning, and I had two major brain farts while I was talking to them. Geez...how embarrassing. Maybe Normi can keep me on track. Love, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2002 Report Share Posted October 5, 2002 , Who is going to go out there to post the bail? I will probably be out of commission for awhile, but hey I will go to CA for any good reason! A Limping Aunt Blabbie out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 5, 2002 Report Share Posted October 5, 2002 , Who is going to go out there to post the bail? I will probably be out of commission for awhile, but hey I will go to CA for any good reason! A Limping Aunt Blabbie out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2002 Report Share Posted October 6, 2002 Well, Brat, I don't know when we'll be together. Normi hasn't called to let me know she made it to her folks' place, yet. So, I'm not sure when I'll be seeing her. Also, I thought I was supposed to drive over and get her, but haven't heard when she wants me to do that. So, ????Qien Sabe? MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2002 Report Share Posted October 6, 2002 Well, Brat, I don't know when we'll be together. Normi hasn't called to let me know she made it to her folks' place, yet. So, I'm not sure when I'll be seeing her. Also, I thought I was supposed to drive over and get her, but haven't heard when she wants me to do that. So, ????Qien Sabe? MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2002 Report Share Posted October 6, 2002 Donna, Well, Child Protective Services has divorced themselves from the case since is not a dependent of the court. I was never clear on why they were involved in the first place since their sole purpose seemed to be to sacrifice the interests of my child in favor of those in the Children's Home. Very mixed feelings about all this. The Mental Health rep. and the case manager from Bridges were there, and have agreed to make every effort to get into the child to adult transitional program in Oakland, CA with which Bridges is affiliated. That would be a program that would keep him until age 19, AAP will fund him for it, and it would be far enough away from us that I wouldn't have to worry too much about him showing up on the doorstep if he runs away from the facility there. Keep your fingers crossed that this works out. It would be the answer for at least 18 months, and maybe, with independent living skills training and better supervision he would be able to function in a halfway house type facility. So, that's where that is. On the daughter/grandaughter issues...she kicked the bastard out about a month after the new baby was born, and baby is about 5 months old, now. I still have only seen pictures of him. My younger sister seems to think that with his nibs out of the picture, I should be able to start seeing Karla and her kids again. I keep trying to get it across to my sister that by not telling the truth to the authorities about what was really going on in her home, my daughter's inaction and sins of omission have made a permanent hole in our family that no amount of chagrin or remorse after the fact can rectify. Sis is still trying to manipulate me into a reconciliation which I cannot allow because it puts my other children at risk of more false accusations. It's just a no win situation, that I can't fix, and sis won't let me alone about. And, then, sis has the gall to tell ME not to put HER in the middle! WHO put her in the middle? Not me. All I did was inform my family of what was happening so they would not have to put themselves at risk unknowingly of being accused in a similar manner of inappropriate behavior with my grandaughter. Now, the annual events which the family has always celebrated together are threatened because sis insists on including my daughter and her family, and I cannot be present nor can my boys. So, I don't know what will happen for the holidays, and sis is still agitating for me to come to the annual mother daughter shop 'til you drop day, which, if Karla is there, I can't do. It's just horrible, and breaks my heart, but I can't weaken. Karla cannot be trusted to do the right thing, and until she DOES face the truth and set the record straight, we cannot have any direct contact. I do write, and send gifts at holidays and birthdays. Something I still want and need to do. I just can't SEE them in person. So, I now have very bad, angry red sun patches on my forearms, legs, and a few on my face in spite of sleeves, sunscreen, and all that. Have severe headaches, fatigue, pain, IBS symptoms, and all of it is more or less stress driven with the Lupus as the catalyst. But, you know all about that junk, right. That's life in the Lupus Lane. So, dearie, that's where things are. I haven't heard from Normi as to when she got to her folks' place, or even IF she got there. She is supposed to call me and let me know if I'm to go over and get her next weekend, or if they are bringing her over here. I'll let everyone know when she gets to my place, as I think you deserve fair warning. LOL Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 6, 2002 Report Share Posted October 6, 2002 Donna, Well, Child Protective Services has divorced themselves from the case since is not a dependent of the court. I was never clear on why they were involved in the first place since their sole purpose seemed to be to sacrifice the interests of my child in favor of those in the Children's Home. Very mixed feelings about all this. The Mental Health rep. and the case manager from Bridges were there, and have agreed to make every effort to get into the child to adult transitional program in Oakland, CA with which Bridges is affiliated. That would be a program that would keep him until age 19, AAP will fund him for it, and it would be far enough away from us that I wouldn't have to worry too much about him showing up on the doorstep if he runs away from the facility there. Keep your fingers crossed that this works out. It would be the answer for at least 18 months, and maybe, with independent living skills training and better supervision he would be able to function in a halfway house type facility. So, that's where that is. On the daughter/grandaughter issues...she kicked the bastard out about a month after the new baby was born, and baby is about 5 months old, now. I still have only seen pictures of him. My younger sister seems to think that with his nibs out of the picture, I should be able to start seeing Karla and her kids again. I keep trying to get it across to my sister that by not telling the truth to the authorities about what was really going on in her home, my daughter's inaction and sins of omission have made a permanent hole in our family that no amount of chagrin or remorse after the fact can rectify. Sis is still trying to manipulate me into a reconciliation which I cannot allow because it puts my other children at risk of more false accusations. It's just a no win situation, that I can't fix, and sis won't let me alone about. And, then, sis has the gall to tell ME not to put HER in the middle! WHO put her in the middle? Not me. All I did was inform my family of what was happening so they would not have to put themselves at risk unknowingly of being accused in a similar manner of inappropriate behavior with my grandaughter. Now, the annual events which the family has always celebrated together are threatened because sis insists on including my daughter and her family, and I cannot be present nor can my boys. So, I don't know what will happen for the holidays, and sis is still agitating for me to come to the annual mother daughter shop 'til you drop day, which, if Karla is there, I can't do. It's just horrible, and breaks my heart, but I can't weaken. Karla cannot be trusted to do the right thing, and until she DOES face the truth and set the record straight, we cannot have any direct contact. I do write, and send gifts at holidays and birthdays. Something I still want and need to do. I just can't SEE them in person. So, I now have very bad, angry red sun patches on my forearms, legs, and a few on my face in spite of sleeves, sunscreen, and all that. Have severe headaches, fatigue, pain, IBS symptoms, and all of it is more or less stress driven with the Lupus as the catalyst. But, you know all about that junk, right. That's life in the Lupus Lane. So, dearie, that's where things are. I haven't heard from Normi as to when she got to her folks' place, or even IF she got there. She is supposed to call me and let me know if I'm to go over and get her next weekend, or if they are bringing her over here. I'll let everyone know when she gets to my place, as I think you deserve fair warning. LOL Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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