Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Hi Sondra, I agree with what Ester said. I want to add a bit I'm glad you are safe, and I totally understand why you did this. I have had urges to do that very thing myself. So don't feel you are crazy. I'll be praying that everything works out and you get back home when you are ready safe and sound. Esther wrote: Hi Sondra, Is there a computer at the hotel that you are using, or do you have a laptop or how are you e-mailing? Can you ask the hotel for their address so that you can know where you are? Then use Yahoo maps or google and type in that address for the " Starting from address " and then your address for the " destination " . I am HORRIBLE at driving and directions and that is the only way I can get anywhere, is by the on-line directions. I am proud of you that you were able to drive that far by yourself. I have soooooo many times in my marriage wanted to do that, but I am too horrible at directions and had no money to just get the gas to drive or to get a hotel once I got to wherever. It is sooooo much better Sondra that you did this and just drove away rather than to attempt suicide. I have had the feelings of both and have had many obsticals in my life to overcome, but I am so greatful, that I am still here and never allowed myself to follow through with any of my ideations. I do not think your crazy! Not at all. Some people want to say that you are crazy, so that they don't have to accept or think about their own emotions and how they feel. Many people just feel like running away when they they don't know what to do, or where to turn. The important thing to remember and do though now, is to let your husband or children or Dr. Amigo know that you are ok and that you just needed time to cool off and you will call them later. That is very important, even if you are still upset at them, because you do not want for the Police and other people and loved ones to think you got lost or in an accident or got kidnapped or something and then they start a search for you and then you have to pay for the search and all of that. Everyone has the right to feel the way you did and to get away for a bit, but we do need to at least be responsible enough to let someone know we are ok, so that people don't think you are completely irresponsible and take your rights away from you and say you are endangering yourself and put you in a home or something. Some people don't understand and so they are rude like that. Anyhow Sondra, I think you should be proud of yourself for being able to drive all that way, and if you need help figuring out how to get back, I would be happy to check the directions for you, if you don't have a way to do that. Just let me know. For now though, you should probably e-mail or call your family and your doctor and just let them know that you are safe, and that you are sorry if they are worried, but you needed to do this for you and you know where you are and what you are doing. I am sure that Dr. Amigo will not be angry with you. Councelors are not legally allowed to be angry with you, so if he is rude or angry, then you need to get another councelor, but otherwise I am sure he will be fine. He may be a bit dissapointed, but then you should explain to him, that leaving like you did, was a much better decision than the ones others do today such as hit one another, get a divorce, commit suicide, or leave and never come back or call or anything. Just stay confident and tell him that you needed to do this for you, and that know that you were able to release some of your pent up feelings you are prepared to attempt to handle your situation much better than before. Tell him about your relationship with your husband. Tell him what kind of troubles the two of you are dealing with and ask if he can help your husband to understand where you are coming from. All of us at one point or another wish we could run away from our responsibilies and life and life definately gets too big for me, almost daily. But I realize that running away permanently wouldn't help anything, and that it would just cause it's own new set of problems. Like a divorce. Custody battles, money problems, loneliness, heartache, wishing things were back the way they were, having to get used to a whole new routine and system, feelings your children have about your choice, etc. etc. I have counceled a lot of friends and helped them when they have been in marital struggles and crisis times. One of the main suggestions that I always give them is to write a Pros and Cons list. Take a sheet of paper, Draw a line down the middle, write Pros (the good things about marriage) on the top of one side and Cons (the bad things about marriage). Write the bad things first so that you can vent your frusterations out quickly. Then take a breather, go to the bathroom get something to eat, stretch, say a prayer and try as hard as you can to name all of the posative things in your marriage. Think back about why you fell in love and got married in the first place. Think about all the special times and happy times you can remember with your husband (or wife for men), and then write as many Good things as you can on the pros side. Now take a second sheet of paper and do the same thing, except this time, instead of being the Good and the Bad about marriage, write the good and the bad about divorce and ending your specific relationship. When you are finished look over the papers. If your marriage is worth saving, then there will be at least 5 pros and there will be nothing on the con side that pertains to illegal activity, such as Non pescription Drugs, abuse, affairs, spouse being an alcoholoc, insest of children etc. etc. Then look over these papers and hopefully your list will have more pros than cons on the 1st one about marriage, and more cons than pros on the divorce one. If you still can't figure out what to do about your relationship after that, then feel free to e-mail me off list, or bring your papers to your councelor Dr. Amigo or someone you trust and go over them with that person and see what their advice is. I am sorry that this time is so rough for you!!! But I am glad that you felt able to tell us here at the group, so that we can help you through. Talk to you later. Sincerely, Esther (who very much relates to how you feel right now, and has done crazier things than that, during elevated moments of frusteration --- sondra wrote: > many of the people to know of me much over the years > and know I to be > of much subject to crisis levels and such and > struggle to get through > them. this time the crisis caused of me to have the > strong urge of to > leave and need for to get away as far away as could > and so drove and > drove and now find self all the way to the golf > coast areas of Mobile > Alabama. I to felt could not stop and had to keep > going and the brain > of me would not stop until I to ran out of the > abilty to go any more > south from the route of 65. > > The hsuband and me have been having of much marriage > issues lately > and so it escalted to where i to felt overlaoded by > the issues and > felt the surging of need for much deep pressure and > could not get it > so found self not having an outlet and the need for > calm kept be to > build and build and not having a calm the body > needed to get away. > Not for safety factors as physical abuse is of not > an issues here at > all. I to simply not be of sure if can continue into > adult role of > marriage when inside of me my brain is of not at > adult levels of > functioning and when try hard to do adult > responsiblities it is of so > much expectations it causes these crashes and cant > find a way to get > balanced in life. This is of a time like the book > shared when autism > gets to big and for me it isof when life gets too > big as well as the > autism. I to simply do not have the skills to be of > able to > manipulate and grasp marriage internally. It is of > too big a life > choice for me and yet it is of in true all I to > ever seem to have > known. I to just be of greatly confused and lack how > to sort of the > brain enough to know what I to need in life to be to > feel functional > and whole. When I to cycle to these states it makes > me to feel crazy > inside and those who dont know of me well might > assume the same. It > is of because I to lack the skills to work though > the overloading > things and they cause of me to meltdown in odd ways > such as this > strong need to drive and drive. I to lack when I to > plan to leave to > try to figure out how to get back out of here and > back home, as I to > drived for two days on 65 and just kept taking new > ways in the end > that pointed me south and it took me here. Now that > the impulsive > need for drive is of calm in me because ran out of > road way to go to > the south here. it caused of me to now have a sense > of unsafe because > things are not of familar. But did manage to get of > a hotel off of > the route 10 areas and so got here in the much dark > so not know what > sort of areas I to be in yet. But now too the tears > are of coming for > the emotional states I to left with are now coming > in moe of a clear > ways for me so now flooding me with emotions of > mutiple things and > not sure which emotion is of most prominent but i to > feel both > negative and positive ones so it makes me a > emotionals cyclone if you > will of unbalanced feelings ping ponging back and > forth so have of > tears one minutes and happy the next because proud > of self that I to > accomplished of this drive by self with no one > telling me what to do > or how to do it or laughs for me to do it not their > way and such. I > to just did of it and it builded of my esteem some > that can do some > things on my own. this is of huge for me. I to often > wondered if > could make of this life on my own and I to know > driving alone does > not qaulify one to survive alone in this life, but > it is of a new > begin of thinking internally for self. and yet as > same fearful of > what my future holds. the other good tht is of very > good for me is > that it did not cycle me to the suicide like ways > that often overlaod > does for me when cycling to not good ways. > > I to miss of the routine and the kids and my pets. I > to miss of my > Dr. Amigo but the husband called of him and tattled > to me for this > and now unsure of my abilty to be of emotionally > ever able to go back > to him for fear of major disappoint to me as I to > not ever want of > him to see of me in the negative. I to know he has > not ever to make > me feel bad for self but fearful of this reactions > regardless. > > do any of the others here with spectrum do similar > things of this > when the autism or life gets to big have you done > somethings that is > of to an extreme and been of unable to stop until > the linear action > is of done. I to think it was my strong need for > linear and lining up > the states and following the patterns of driving on > 65 or south. does > this make of sense to anyone but me in this. > Sondra > > __________________________________________________________ Be a better sports nut! Let your teams follow you with Yahoo Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/sports;_ylt=At9_qDKvtAbMuh1G1SQtBI7ntAcJ Crystal B http://www.myspace.com/breger3 http://bethpuzzle.blogspot.com/ http://www.youravon.com/cbreger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 sorry had posted of all of this and not aware it was not a good choice to do this but was of trying to reach out to safe nets for me. much of the words are letting me know i to have of a safe net. for those who askd of our next counsel things is of tuesday morning. he to wants me to come home to go to this with him and i to tel of him no go by you self/ He needs to work on hims own issues I to already have been in the therapy and counseling among the various counselors at Dr. Amigos for much of 6 years and been working on the autism in some sessions and the abuse from family and how to work out life in others. one of the good is all of the staff and such are of strong christian faith beliefs and they reflect this calm about them strongly. I to just want to sit in Dr. Amigos office for the safe feelings and have no words or interactions just sit there for my time when I to go back. I to think it will be of a good ideas to post of my Dr. Amigo to let of him know of my safe.Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 sorry had posted of all of this and not aware it was not a good choice to do this but was of trying to reach out to safe nets for me. much of the words are letting me know i to have of a safe net. for those who askd of our next counsel things is of tuesday morning. he to wants me to come home to go to this with him and i to tel of him no go by you self/ He needs to work on hims own issues I to already have been in the therapy and counseling among the various counselors at Dr. Amigos for much of 6 years and been working on the autism in some sessions and the abuse from family and how to work out life in others. one of the good is all of the staff and such are of strong christian faith beliefs and they reflect this calm about them strongly. I to just want to sit in Dr. Amigos office for the safe feelings and have no words or interactions just sit there for my time when I to go back. I to think it will be of a good ideas to post of my Dr. Amigo to let of him know of my safe.Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we can direct you. I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard of but not just to want to sit with strangers. I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing when I found one) Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and happiness with your sharing. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we can direct you. I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard of but not just to want to sit with strangers. I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing when I found one) Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and happiness with your sharing. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 when I to go back will be of to find a hotel along the 65 north areas and if you give of me a town close by where you are of both at can then post of you when will be of that hotel areas and such. the phone of me is of almost ded because did not understand to grab of the charger things. I to be of plan to stay in tenessee a night on the way back as that is of a mid way place for me. right now the body of me is of not feeling well so will just rest here. I to pushed all the furniture could be to push against of the door here so no one can come in and get of me that isof stranger persons. will lay back down for a time . Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 when I to go back will be of to find a hotel along the 65 north areas and if you give of me a town close by where you are of both at can then post of you when will be of that hotel areas and such. the phone of me is of almost ded because did not understand to grab of the charger things. I to be of plan to stay in tenessee a night on the way back as that is of a mid way place for me. right now the body of me is of not feeling well so will just rest here. I to pushed all the furniture could be to push against of the door here so no one can come in and get of me that isof stranger persons. will lay back down for a time . Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Unfortunately, I65 runs through Nashville and not Knoxville (where we are). I am so sorry that you feel so threatened. You can always put the " Do not disturb " sign on the outside of your door at the motel and they should leave you alone. I am sure that being in a new place has its challenges for you. Just remember, all of us are but an email or phone call away. I amsorry about the phone charger. Maybe you can pick up a temporary one at the Walmart or closest Target. I would hate for you to be on the road and not have a phone close by that is fully charged. If you change your mind and take I59 to Knoxville I40 then let me know and we can meet with you. I75 runs through Knoxville also and it will take you North also. Keep us posted. Shanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Unfortunately, I65 runs through Nashville and not Knoxville (where we are). I am so sorry that you feel so threatened. You can always put the " Do not disturb " sign on the outside of your door at the motel and they should leave you alone. I am sure that being in a new place has its challenges for you. Just remember, all of us are but an email or phone call away. I amsorry about the phone charger. Maybe you can pick up a temporary one at the Walmart or closest Target. I would hate for you to be on the road and not have a phone close by that is fully charged. If you change your mind and take I59 to Knoxville I40 then let me know and we can meet with you. I75 runs through Knoxville also and it will take you North also. Keep us posted. Shanna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Hi Sondra, I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you too. You are so brave. I just wanted to also add that I have wanted to run away from life. It is good that you took a break, with you not being home maybe your husband will see all of the things that you take care of. i know you have a tough thing to do in going home but hopefully your break will give you some strength to deal with the issues you have going on. Best of luck! Re: crisis and odd behaviors Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we can direct you. I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard of but not just to want to sit with strangers. I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing when I found one) Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and happiness with your sharing. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Hi Sondra, I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you too. You are so brave. I just wanted to also add that I have wanted to run away from life. It is good that you took a break, with you not being home maybe your husband will see all of the things that you take care of. i know you have a tough thing to do in going home but hopefully your break will give you some strength to deal with the issues you have going on. Best of luck! Re: crisis and odd behaviors Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we can direct you. I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard of but not just to want to sit with strangers. I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing when I found one) Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and happiness with your sharing. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Sondra- You are a strong woman. Everything you have gone thru in your life and still go thru have not made you weak but made you stronger. From your posts I have learned that anything is possible. You give me hope when I could see none. I want to thank you and let you know that you are wonderful. I think almost everyone goes thru something similar I know that when I am hurt, upset or angry, I want to drive too. I want to drive fast and far. I am not sure if other people want to do that but you and I do. But I you can't run away forever. You will have to go back sooner or later. You might seriously consider going to a Walmart or another store and get a cell phone charger. You may need your cell phone, it is an important item to have when out. If there is anything I can do please feel free to contact me and if it is something I can do I will do it for you. T- > Hi Sondra, > I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you too. You are so brave. > I just wanted to also add that I have wanted to run away from life. It is > good that you took a break, with you not being home maybe your husband will > see all of the things that you take care of. i know you have a tough thing > to do in going home but hopefully your break will give you some strength to > deal with the issues you have going on. Best of luck! > > Re: crisis and odd behaviors > > Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading > this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things > you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you > want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we > can direct you. > I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant > that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard > of but not just to want to sit with strangers. > I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this > summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. > Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing > when I found one) > Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and > happiness with your sharing. > Shanna ('s mom) > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Sondra- You are a strong woman. Everything you have gone thru in your life and still go thru have not made you weak but made you stronger. From your posts I have learned that anything is possible. You give me hope when I could see none. I want to thank you and let you know that you are wonderful. I think almost everyone goes thru something similar I know that when I am hurt, upset or angry, I want to drive too. I want to drive fast and far. I am not sure if other people want to do that but you and I do. But I you can't run away forever. You will have to go back sooner or later. You might seriously consider going to a Walmart or another store and get a cell phone charger. You may need your cell phone, it is an important item to have when out. If there is anything I can do please feel free to contact me and if it is something I can do I will do it for you. T- > Hi Sondra, > I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you too. You are so brave. > I just wanted to also add that I have wanted to run away from life. It is > good that you took a break, with you not being home maybe your husband will > see all of the things that you take care of. i know you have a tough thing > to do in going home but hopefully your break will give you some strength to > deal with the issues you have going on. Best of luck! > > Re: crisis and odd behaviors > > Sondra, Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming! I was reading > this and thanking God for your courage. I have felt many of the things > you are going through. Debi and I live in the Tennessee area. If you > want to stop by and see us, please email off list for our number and we > can direct you. > I do not believe I have ever encountered the problem at the restaurant > that you mentioned. Sharing a table out of necessity maybe I have heard > of but not just to want to sit with strangers. > I love the area you are in now. we actually went on vacation this > summer there. It is beautiful! Plus, I remember how you love the beach. > Look for a sand dollar for me. (I always thought it to be a blessing > when I found one) > Remember, All os us here LOVE YOU! You give us all strength and > happiness with your sharing. > Shanna ('s mom) > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 T - God is of taking care of me much so. today I to stepped of out of the room and the room is not like in a hallway but once you open the door to the room it is in the parking places. Well the cleaning lady was near of my door and asked of me if will be leaving if I to need anythings and I to asked of her if a walmart or target like palce to by a cell phone charger was near, She to say in that very southern as well as black voice ways of this " Honey come on ova herea I have of a box full of chawgas that people leave and neva come back for. so she took of me to this room and there was a box full of them and we found one to fit of my cell phone and it is of now charging. then I to asked ofher where is of a grocery store she to pointed across of the way and say you see of that buildin that is of the winne dixie........ Well God knows how much I to fixate to whinn dixie so that bringed me to a happy state of being because could walk of there if wanted too it was of that close to me. so went and got of some food as the room has of microwave and refrigerator in it which is of good as hate to eat out in unfamilar places and after last night where the older couple wanted to join of me at my table to eat with me that caused me fear of to eat out at a sit down place for now in this areas. I to also found mcdonalds right near the whinn dixie too. Everytime I to worry or think or ger fearful God provides a source of comfort or calm to me in various ways. Soday will stay of in all day and just watch of christmas stories and movies and type words to the husband and work via a great distance to this things. Also if those who to shared of posting of me off line it will not reach of me to my road runner address only my yahoo. so it is of this hfa2@... Well I to have of a migraine of begin again and so will need to take of the pain pills and rest again. the dark rings under the eyes of me are of darker so maybe not getting enough rest. What does be to cause of the dark green/greyish blue look under the eyes. I to ahve it much so but sometiems it is of worse. they scanned of my sinuses and they looked of okay. I to hope my responding to some of the post is of okay and not crossing of a boundary of things should not post. I to lack knowing of how to know whe it is of somethings that is of a bad choice to share and what is not in all things. I to have learned of some but that is of a very small portions of things like politics, how much money one has and forced religious beliefs. Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 T - God is of taking care of me much so. today I to stepped of out of the room and the room is not like in a hallway but once you open the door to the room it is in the parking places. Well the cleaning lady was near of my door and asked of me if will be leaving if I to need anythings and I to asked of her if a walmart or target like palce to by a cell phone charger was near, She to say in that very southern as well as black voice ways of this " Honey come on ova herea I have of a box full of chawgas that people leave and neva come back for. so she took of me to this room and there was a box full of them and we found one to fit of my cell phone and it is of now charging. then I to asked ofher where is of a grocery store she to pointed across of the way and say you see of that buildin that is of the winne dixie........ Well God knows how much I to fixate to whinn dixie so that bringed me to a happy state of being because could walk of there if wanted too it was of that close to me. so went and got of some food as the room has of microwave and refrigerator in it which is of good as hate to eat out in unfamilar places and after last night where the older couple wanted to join of me at my table to eat with me that caused me fear of to eat out at a sit down place for now in this areas. I to also found mcdonalds right near the whinn dixie too. Everytime I to worry or think or ger fearful God provides a source of comfort or calm to me in various ways. Soday will stay of in all day and just watch of christmas stories and movies and type words to the husband and work via a great distance to this things. Also if those who to shared of posting of me off line it will not reach of me to my road runner address only my yahoo. so it is of this hfa2@... Well I to have of a migraine of begin again and so will need to take of the pain pills and rest again. the dark rings under the eyes of me are of darker so maybe not getting enough rest. What does be to cause of the dark green/greyish blue look under the eyes. I to ahve it much so but sometiems it is of worse. they scanned of my sinuses and they looked of okay. I to hope my responding to some of the post is of okay and not crossing of a boundary of things should not post. I to lack knowing of how to know whe it is of somethings that is of a bad choice to share and what is not in all things. I to have learned of some but that is of a very small portions of things like politics, how much money one has and forced religious beliefs. Sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Wow! Someone is definitely looking after you! That is so great that the housekeeping gave you a charger! And there are food places across the street. I say....Rest....There is a time for everything and you definitely will feel much better after you have rested. You are in my prayers. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 Wow! Someone is definitely looking after you! That is so great that the housekeeping gave you a charger! And there are food places across the street. I say....Rest....There is a time for everything and you definitely will feel much better after you have rested. You are in my prayers. Shanna ('s mom) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 > > sorry had posted of all of this and not aware it was not a good choice > to do this but was of trying to reach out to safe nets for me. much of > the words are letting me know i to have of a safe net. i think you are venting to people who know you and love you and that's okay. you need to communicate your needs to people you know will listen and if this is it than that's okay. don't overthink things out i have done so until i was afraid to talk to anybody. although i understand public posts is something to be cautuious about but i have lists where i am knowing that i've for the most part people that love me and cares for me. i known you from a long ago time but lost track of this list being part time of it all. and too active in other lists like unschooling and FC groups to have so many lists of mineself to belong to all at once. but i known of you of long time and read your book heres as it's speaks much mine experiences as well. i be a single mom of the dolphin who has rett syndrome and know how hard things can be or when everyone blames things on mine autism. think well of yourself and keep care of yourself and where be you now? i am of floridaland even further south. by the way this so happened to ourselves when we further north of florida that table crowded and people asked to sit with us. as i thought only people i know will sit with us i thought i must know them and not know their faces. i don't recognize faces just smells and sounds. it took a good 15 minutes until i realized they be strangers sitting with us. we are making a supportive independant community here in florida i'll let you know details. i'm not saying to leave your husband only if that ever becomes an option to know that people are working on making cohousing supportive communities. like where people can live alone or together in a community where every supports one another with a common house and everything. i been a single mom for some time so i know how important it is to have support and the fear of being alone. i have near an army of friends which are like mine made up family not birth family although they are helpful too. mine issue with them is their too helpfullness where they want to do everything for me as well as raise mine own child as well because they not thinking i'm capable of it. i am just needs support and assistance to do so. anyhow i'll post more info because i think it's something that should be built in every state a community of caring people assisting one another. crabtail > > for those who askd of our next counsel things is of tuesday morning. he > to wants me to come home to go to this with him and i to tel of him no > go by you self/ He needs to work on hims own issues I to already have > been in the therapy and counseling among the various counselors at Dr. > Amigos for much of 6 years and been working on the autism in some > sessions and the abuse from family and how to work out life in others. > one of the good is all of the staff and such are of strong christian > faith beliefs and they reflect this calm about them strongly. I to just > want to sit in Dr. Amigos office for the safe feelings and have no > words or interactions just sit there for my time when I to go back. > > I to think it will be of a good ideas to post of my Dr. Amigo to let of > him know of my safe.Sondra > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 > > sorry had posted of all of this and not aware it was not a good choice > to do this but was of trying to reach out to safe nets for me. much of > the words are letting me know i to have of a safe net. i think you are venting to people who know you and love you and that's okay. you need to communicate your needs to people you know will listen and if this is it than that's okay. don't overthink things out i have done so until i was afraid to talk to anybody. although i understand public posts is something to be cautuious about but i have lists where i am knowing that i've for the most part people that love me and cares for me. i known you from a long ago time but lost track of this list being part time of it all. and too active in other lists like unschooling and FC groups to have so many lists of mineself to belong to all at once. but i known of you of long time and read your book heres as it's speaks much mine experiences as well. i be a single mom of the dolphin who has rett syndrome and know how hard things can be or when everyone blames things on mine autism. think well of yourself and keep care of yourself and where be you now? i am of floridaland even further south. by the way this so happened to ourselves when we further north of florida that table crowded and people asked to sit with us. as i thought only people i know will sit with us i thought i must know them and not know their faces. i don't recognize faces just smells and sounds. it took a good 15 minutes until i realized they be strangers sitting with us. we are making a supportive independant community here in florida i'll let you know details. i'm not saying to leave your husband only if that ever becomes an option to know that people are working on making cohousing supportive communities. like where people can live alone or together in a community where every supports one another with a common house and everything. i been a single mom for some time so i know how important it is to have support and the fear of being alone. i have near an army of friends which are like mine made up family not birth family although they are helpful too. mine issue with them is their too helpfullness where they want to do everything for me as well as raise mine own child as well because they not thinking i'm capable of it. i am just needs support and assistance to do so. anyhow i'll post more info because i think it's something that should be built in every state a community of caring people assisting one another. crabtail > > for those who askd of our next counsel things is of tuesday morning. he > to wants me to come home to go to this with him and i to tel of him no > go by you self/ He needs to work on hims own issues I to already have > been in the therapy and counseling among the various counselors at Dr. > Amigos for much of 6 years and been working on the autism in some > sessions and the abuse from family and how to work out life in others. > one of the good is all of the staff and such are of strong christian > faith beliefs and they reflect this calm about them strongly. I to just > want to sit in Dr. Amigos office for the safe feelings and have no > words or interactions just sit there for my time when I to go back. > > I to think it will be of a good ideas to post of my Dr. Amigo to let of > him know of my safe.Sondra > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 I getting away for just a couple of days (longer if possible) about 4 times a year is a great thing if it can be afforded. I know just for me driving down to Nashville to spend the night with my aunt & uncle is great even though we don't see eye-to-eye on a lot. I think being in the same place all the time dulls our senses until we're on autopilot with all our troubles building and building. Driving away for a couple of days gives us new input, new sounds, smells, sights, and helps us leave our troubles. When Craig & I went to the CDC protest a couple of yrs ago we asked each other why we don't make more of an effort to get away. I hate leaving the kids 'cause i know Allie doesn't like staying with mamaw, I hate asking anyone else. But really, it's not that long, and the chance to rest is HUGE! Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 I getting away for just a couple of days (longer if possible) about 4 times a year is a great thing if it can be afforded. I know just for me driving down to Nashville to spend the night with my aunt & uncle is great even though we don't see eye-to-eye on a lot. I think being in the same place all the time dulls our senses until we're on autopilot with all our troubles building and building. Driving away for a couple of days gives us new input, new sounds, smells, sights, and helps us leave our troubles. When Craig & I went to the CDC protest a couple of yrs ago we asked each other why we don't make more of an effort to get away. I hate leaving the kids 'cause i know Allie doesn't like staying with mamaw, I hate asking anyone else. But really, it's not that long, and the chance to rest is HUGE! Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 I don't think you said anything unsafe, Sondra. You didn't disclose anything too personal in my opinion. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 I don't think you said anything unsafe, Sondra. You didn't disclose anything too personal in my opinion. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 We live about 4 hours east of I-65. If you come back on a weekend we could drive to meet you. During the week I may or may not be able to, I have to pick up the kids from school. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2007 Report Share Posted December 2, 2007 We live about 4 hours east of I-65. If you come back on a weekend we could drive to meet you. During the week I may or may not be able to, I have to pick up the kids from school. Debi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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