Guest guest Posted February 6, 2003 Report Share Posted February 6, 2003 In a message dated 2/7/2003 1:13:47 AM Central Standard Time, D22@... writes: > Here you go Tammy! Thank you so very much I have searched and search lol but couldn't find it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 7, 2003 Report Share Posted February 7, 2003 In a message dated 2/6/03 4:25:31 AM Central Standard Time, autism-aspergers writes: obscenity and tells Joe that he's not "that way" Strange! Joe says there are days that he feels that he's lost his wife for good. He does want a best friend in his life but he was hoping I would stay both. I cannot help that I am triggered at night and that the "insiders" come out at night. Just feels like a loose/loose situation most of the time. I just have no "need" of that kind of a relationship now and that's not fair to him. Maybe this is effecting his depression. We go to see his psychiatrist tomorrow afternoon do you see a therapist for this and also have you also had any medications that can help this ( the alters)? I just wondered. in IL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 Would y'all be interested in the opinions of a 16 year old with AS, or is this strictly for parents? :-) I would LOVE to hear what you have to say. My 3 yr old is newly diagnosed and I want to understand his world as best as I can. He is nearly non verbal. Thanks, Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 May I ask a question of you? What is it like to "hear" your diffrent. My 3 yr old son loves to be with other kids now but I see the look on his little face when other kids point out that he's diffrent. For example: "why doesn't he talk" "what's wrong with him" "he's weird". Just to name a few. His smile fades and he looks so hurt. He then shys away and plays with is back to them. Since he is mostly non verbal I can't know for sure what's in his mind but I KNOW he understands and is affected. Angie~mama to Corbin 12.29.99 AS, probably SID and ADHD but not fully diagnosed yet and DA 4.17.02 Haha, that sounds a bit like me, what's everybody else's problem? :-) Actually it was last october my sister was told by my youth pastor's wife(who deals with autistic kids), that I seemed aspie-ish, my sister wrote a paper about the disorder for college because of what she'd been told, told me about it(with a quote from my sister I'll remember for a long time - 'that's you!'), and I looked into it. I'm not 'officially' diagnosed yet, though next week am going to talk to a doctor about it, but he says there's a 'good chance', my parents both agree all the descriptions fit me, my sister thinks so as well, etc. Also me and my mom both filled out a survey thing my youth pastor's wife sent us, and I scored something like 90% likely to have aspergers. Enough assurance for me to talk about it, anyways. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I would love to know. MISSYSAHM of MANY Excuse Me While I Go Raise Tomorrow's Future. Question Would y'all be interested in the opinions of a 16 year old with AS, oris this strictly for parents? :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I'de love to hear your side.-- On Mon, 10 Mar 2003 20:56:14 -0000 " ssaethan " writes: > Would y'all be interested in the opinions of a 16 year old with AS, > or > is this strictly for parents? :-) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I'd love to hear you're opinions!! How old were you when you were told that you had AS? My neighbours teenage son has also got AS. I love his attitude he can't understand what all the fuss is about. "I'm not the one thats different. It's everyone else who has the problem" Is his favourite quote. wrote: I'de love to hear your side.--On Mon, 10 Mar 2003 20:56:14 -0000 "ssaethan" writes:> Would y'all be interested in the opinions of a 16 year old with AS, > or> is this strictly for parents? :-)> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 Back before I heard of Aspergers I guess it hurt quite a bit to be told I was different, but now that I actually know there's other people like me, and that they're going through similar things, it's easier to deal with. I think an important thing is in early grade school I found a good friend that got past my differences, and we're still good friends today. I don't know what I would've done without at least that one friend. You sound like you have a good handle on this. I hope he finds a good friend like you have. Thanks for the insight. I guesse I shouldn't worry too much, both my husband and I were "diffrent" in schoo (stil are) and we both managed to live tgrough it. LOL I'm sure my son will too. Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 Something else I just thought of, hopefully for your son it will be easier than it was for me, I sure would've liked to know about aspergers back when I was in grade school. :-) Just the knowledge that I'm not alone has helped a lot, imagine it would have helped a lot more to know earlier. Oh I agree 100%. My hubby and i both beleive our kids should not be keept in the dark about anything. AS, puberty issue ext. We are very open and forward with them (well as much as you can with a 3 yr old and 10 month old. LOL) we talk about AS infront of Corbin AND with him. When we got the diagnosis he was in the room and you should have seen the look of releife on his face. It was as if a huge weight had been lifted off his shoulders. He KNOWS we understand him now and he is very happy about that. I had to expaline to him just today why he was getting overwhelmed by playing with other kids too long today. Once I explained it to him and had him relax alone for awhile he felt much better. My son alwasy respomds better when I give him a "real" anser not hte typical "becasue I said so" that my mother loves to give me. I think it is cricial to include kids in "real" life and him being AS is real life for him/us. Another question if you don't mind. I feel the need to pick your brain since I can't my sons (yet). LOL. Do you think you would have liked to go to school with other AS/SID kids or are you glad you went to mainstream school? I have always (even before he was born) wanted to home school, but I'm no longer sure that would be best. Seems AS kids may NEED to interact socially more regularly to learn the ropes of interacting with others. What's your perspective on that? Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I'd love to hear!!!!!!!!! Angie Z Question Would y'all be interested in the opinions of a 16 year old with AS, oris this strictly for parents? :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 My 14yr old is still dealing with the fact he is different and doesn't know why. I haven't really talked to him about his AS only because I am just now learning about it. Really. I would think he'd have to know. How do you get him evaluated and treated without him knowing? My 3 yr old knows because he was there when the Doc told us and at eat BRT and Chiro ajustment we reming him why he's there and how the treament wil help him feel better in his skin. Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I will say, public school is one of the most screwed up organizations ever. http://www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html is a good(though long) article to read, happened upon it today. About social stuff - I hear a lot of homeschoolers have sort of 'group' things where homeschooled kids will get together and do stuff, not too sure about it, my mom didn't look into it much because I told her I wouldn't be interested in it. Also if you're religious at all, my church's youth group is a great place I've met some people LOL. I agree, public schools suck. I hated Jr high and high school and faked sick at least 3 times a week, EVERY week. Not sure why other than it SUCKED. Your right about homeschool groups. They are pretty organized and active around here (Texas). Also there are boy scouts, sports, karate (which I love) music, ext ext. My concern about home school comes with jr high and high school comes. School dances, dateing, home comming, student councile, sports teams ext. I wonder if they would like all that even though hubby and I hated it all. Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 Haha, that sounds a bit like me, what's everybody else's problem? :-) Actually it was last october my sister was told by my youth pastor's wife(who deals with autistic kids), that I seemed aspie-ish, my sister wrote a paper about the disorder for college because of what she'd been told, told me about it(with a quote from my sister I'll remember for a long time - 'that's you!'), and I looked into it. I'm not 'officially' diagnosed <i>yet</i>, though next week am going to talk to a doctor about it, but he says there's a 'good chance', my parents both agree all the descriptions fit me, my sister thinks so as well, etc. Also me and my mom both filled out a survey thing my youth pastor's wife sent us, and I scored something like 90% likely to have aspergers. Enough assurance for me to talk about it, anyways. :-) > > I'd love to hear you're opinions!! How old were you when you were told that you had AS? My neighbours teenage son has also got AS. I love his attitude he can't understand what all the fuss is about. " I'm not the one thats different. It's everyone else who has the problem " Is his favourite quote. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2003 Report Share Posted March 10, 2003 I'd really suggest looking at that link I gave, and saving it for your son to read later when he's older. It really shows he's not missing much. :-) People with AS would tend to be in the group it describes. Ya know, you sound like my hubby. He was diagnosed with ADD but I'm starting to think maybe he's AS. He hates groups, thay make him postal, he hates dances, he hates people in general if there are too many (or too loud-like me), he hates to be snuggled or patted on the shoulder or consoled in anyway, very akward with girls (though he's a hottie) luckily I am agressive and sought him out. Can't handle alot of noises, to many questions, to much movement..... WOW, I never really thought of it before now but it all makes since. How do I tell a 25 yr old he may be AS? Sorry, I just started thinking out loud there, you don't have to answer that. LOL. Anyways, I will deffiantly look at that link and save it for Corbin. Thanks, Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 I've almost yelled at people for giving me what they thought of as an encouraging 'pat' or hug, often I've made it fairly obvious I didn't appreciate it much, I think. I should try to stop doing that :-|. Yup thats my hubby. I am a very sypathetic and afectionate person so I overwhelm him alot. When we got Corbins diagnosis I was prepared for it and I handled it well but he broke down in tears, when i tried to hug him he pushed me away and left the office. I am used to it so I just went on with the conversation with the Doc as if it didn't happen. But the Doc looked a bit shocked. He is deffinatly lucky to have an understanding wife. He is hard to love. Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Sounds lucky, indeed. Now, if only I could meet somebody like that someday. :-) you will. just don't look for her, she'll pop outta nowhere. Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Back before I heard of Aspergers I guess it hurt quite a bit to be told I was different, but now that I actually know there's other people like me, and that they're going through similar things, it's easier to deal with. I think an important thing is in early grade school I found a good friend that got past my differences, and we're still good friends today. I don't know what I would've done without at least that one friend. > May I ask a question of you? What is it like to " hear " your diffrent. My 3 > yr old son loves to be with other kids now but I see the look on his little > face when other kids point out that he's diffrent. For example: " why doesn't > he talk " " what's wrong with him " " he's weird " . Just to name a few. His smile > fades and he looks so hurt. He then shys away and plays with is back to them. > Since he is mostly non verbal I can't know for sure what's in his mind but I > KNOW he understands and is affected. > > Angie~mama to > Corbin 12.29.99 AS, probably SID and ADHD but not fully diagnosed yet > and DA 4.17.02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 My 14yr old is still dealing with the fact he is different and doesn't know why. I haven't really talked to him about his AS only because I am just now learning about it. MISSYSAHM of MANY Excuse Me While I Go Raise Tomorrow's Future. Re: Re: Question Back before I heard of Aspergers I guess it hurt quite a bit to betold I was different, but now that I actually know there's otherpeople like me, and that they're going through similar things, it'seasier to deal with. I think an important thing is in early gradeschool I found a good friend that got past my differences, and we'restill good friends today. I don't know what I would've done withoutat least that one friend.You sound like you have a good handle on this. I hope he finds a good friend like you have. Thanks for the insight. I guesse I shouldn't worry too much, both my husband and I were "diffrent" in schoo (stil are) and we both managed to live tgrough it. LOL I'm sure my son will too.Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Something else I just thought of, hopefully for your son it will be easier than it was for me, I sure would've liked to know about aspergers back when I was in grade school. :-) Just the knowledge that I'm not alone has helped a lot, imagine it would have helped a lot more to know earlier. > You sound like you have a good handle on this. I hope he finds a good friend > like you have. Thanks for the insight. I guesse I shouldn't worry too much, > both my husband and I were " diffrent " in schoo (stil are) and we both managed > to live tgrough it. LOL I'm sure my son will too. > > Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 I can say for sure it was a great relief to get an answer to that 'why'... I'd say tell him stuff as you learn it, maybe get him interested to find out stuff about it himself. He have much internet access? Just type 'aspergers' into google.com and all kinds of interesting stuff comes up. > My 14yr old is still dealing with the fact he is different and doesn't know why. I haven't really talked to him about his AS only because I am just now learning about it. > MISSY > SAHM of MANY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Well, if I had *known* about it, I'm not too sure. I know that school was literally hell, for years I actually had a pattern, once a day every other week, I just wouldn't get out of bed. I'd claim some sort of sickness or other(headache and/or stomacheache seemed to work, think my mom caught on though and just let me stay home anyways ;-) I was really creative with my sicknesses, sometimes setting my alarm an hour early just so I could get up and say some ache or other had woken me up early) to stay home. It was much needed rest time, I'd usually sleep the whole day. In the middle of 8th grade I'd had enough, and asked my mom about homeschooling. She convinced me to wait till between semesters, then pulled me out of school. At the time we didn't know what AS was, though. If I had known then, and now that I do know, I'm not so sure. Right now I could actually see myself going back to high school, if it wouldn't be so tough to get all the credits, etc worked out that'd have to be done re-entering public school as a junior. Just doesn't seem logical anymore. That and I'd be going to 2 years of unnecessary school, taking the GED next fall and possibly starting college the following semester. :-) So with the knowledge about AS, it could be very possible to do just fine in public school. I can't say for sure though if it'd be that much better than my experience. I will say, public school is one of the most screwed up organizations ever. http://www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html is a good(though long) article to read, happened upon it today. About social stuff - I hear a lot of homeschoolers have sort of 'group' things where homeschooled kids will get together and do stuff, not too sure about it, my mom didn't look into it much because I told her I wouldn't be interested in it. Also if you're religious at all, my church's youth group is a great place I've met some people. > Oh I agree 100%. My hubby and i both beleive our kids should not be keept in > the dark about anything. AS, puberty issue ext. We are very open and forward > with them (well as much as you can with a 3 yr old and 10 month old. LOL) we > talk about AS infront of Corbin AND with him. When we got the diagnosis he > was in the room and you should have seen the look of releife on his face. It > was as if a huge weight had been lifted off his shoulders. He KNOWS we > understand him now and he is very happy about that. I had to expaline to him > just today why he was getting overwhelmed by playing with other kids too long > today. Once I explained it to him and had him relax alone for awhile he felt > much better. My son alwasy respomds better when I give him a " real " anser not > hte typical " becasue I said so " that my mother loves to give me. I think it > is cricial to include kids in " real " life and him being AS is real life for > him/us. > > Another question if you don't mind. I feel the need to pick your brain since > I can't my sons (yet). LOL. Do you think you would have liked to go to > school with other AS/SID kids or are you glad you went to mainstream school? > I have always (even before he was born) wanted to home school, but I'm no > longer sure that would be best. Seems AS kids may NEED to interact socially > more regularly to learn the ropes of interacting with others. What's your > perspective on that? > > Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Thanks Mike, I'll do that. MISSYSAHM of MANY Excuse Me While I Go Raise Tomorrow's Future. Re: Question I can say for sure it was a great relief to get an answer to that'why'... I'd say tell him stuff as you learn it, maybe get himinterested to find out stuff about it himself. He have much internetaccess? Just type 'aspergers' into google.com and all kinds ofinteresting stuff comes up.> My 14yr old is still dealing with the fact he is different anddoesn't know why. I haven't really talked to him about his AS onlybecause I am just now learning about it.> MISSY> SAHM of MANY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Hehe, lets see.. went to one dance in 7th grade, hated it, went to another with a friend from youth group in 9th grade, also hated it. Didn't feel like I was missing anything there. Actually almost totally broke down at that dance in 9th grade, too many people, too much going on... left really early without telling even the person I had come with, just had to get out of there. Sports, there's lots of private sports things, myself not too interested though I did do karate for a short time. Dating.. uhm, never been on a date. I don't know. I have some definite problems in that area, heh. Working on it. Don't need school to meet girls, though. :-) I'd really suggest looking at that link I gave, and saving it for your son to read later when he's older. It really shows he's not missing much. :-) People with AS would tend to be in the group it describes. > LOL. I agree, public schools suck. I hated Jr high and high school and faked > sick at least 3 times a week, EVERY week. Not sure why other than it SUCKED. > Your right about homeschool groups. They are pretty organized and active > around here (Texas). Also there are boy scouts, sports, karate (which I love) > music, ext ext. My concern about home school comes with jr high and high > school comes. School dances, dateing, home comming, student councile, sports > teams ext. I wonder if they would like all that even though hubby and I hated > it all. > > Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2003 Report Share Posted March 11, 2003 Sounds a lot like me, and I've heard ADD is a common misdiagnosis, there's also a lot of research to show AS is at least partially genetic, and have heard of a lot of adults that've discovered their AS shortly after their child was diagnosed. I post on a forum for aspies-only, quite a few on there didn't know about AS until after their kids were DX'd. Very possible. :-) I've almost yelled at people for giving me what they thought of as an encouraging 'pat' or hug, often I've made it fairly obvious I didn't appreciate it much, I think. I should try to stop doing that :-|. > Ya know, you sound like my hubby. He was diagnosed with ADD but I'm starting > to think maybe he's AS. He hates groups, thay make him postal, he hates > dances, he hates people in general if there are too many (or too loud-like > me), he hates to be snuggled or patted on the shoulder or consoled in anyway, > very akward with girls (though he's a hottie) luckily I am agressive and > sought him out. Can't handle alot of noises, to many questions, to much > movement..... WOW, I never really thought of it before now but it all makes > since. How do I tell a 25 yr old he may be AS? Sorry, I just started thinking > out loud there, you don't have to answer that. LOL. > > Anyways, I will deffiantly look at that link and save it for Corbin. > > Thanks, > > Angie~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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