Re: Movie Tommy

[Guest guest]

I can usually sense if someone doesn't want to be touched or if their

personal space is bigger than what I would normally allow them. I did

know a girl who gave off a friendly vibe and I found myself drawn

toward her until I was standing too close to her and she would back

away. She told me everyone does that, even strangers and strangers

were always touching her and she was really getting tired of it. It

got to the point that she would angrily and frustratedly take a big

step back or brush their hands off. I don't know why she gave off

that vibe, I think it's because she was free-spirit type person.

I go through stages. Sometimes I am touchy-feely but more often I'm

I'm not. If someone touches me when I'm not, it will startle me. If

someone is too touchy-feely with me I'll feel claustrophobic. I do

hug people a lot because I see how good it makes them feel and it is

a good way to make up for my seeming aloofness at times.

> > > " (when I conveniently had a blowout on a slow street in front

of

> a

> > tire emporium) "

> >

> > Maybe they threw tacks into the street in front of their shop!

> >

> > " and I got into a conversation with another man who was waiting

on

> > this very point. In his opinion it was not even an " age " -based

> > behavior but more a sign of the times in which we live. "

> >

> > It's definitely gotten worse but I was watching a movie last

night

> > from 1955 and they were attacking each other pretty well and just

> > accepting it!

> > >

> > > " If I happen to mention such behaviors, the parties will often

> > mention " we were just kidding " and that I am the one being

> offensive. "

> >

> > Yeah, they'll make you think you are stirring up trouble by

> pointing

> > it out or that you are too sensitive or think you're better than

> > everyone. It's so nice to (rarely) hear people say they're sorry

or

> > they didn't know they were doing that or they'll be careful not

to

> do

> > it, thanks for pointing it out.

> > >

> >

> > >

> > > Amy

> > >

> >

>

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" I do hug people a lot because I see how good it makes them feel and

it is a good way to make up for my seeming aloofness at times. "

Ooooooooooo I couldn't do that - I only hug people very rarely (with

the exception of my son - or maybe if I am intimitely involved with

someone). I have very rarely hugged others and only if I felt they

really needed it - as I cannot stand it. Actually the first time a

previous boyfriend hugged me for the first time I just froze and felt

nothing - but once I overcame this I tried the hug again with

feeling :-)

I am described as aloof and stand-offish, but that does not seem to

stop people approaching me and touching me - even complete strangers!

> > > > " (when I conveniently had a blowout on a slow street in front

> of

> > a

> > > tire emporium) "

> > >

> > > Maybe they threw tacks into the street in front of their

shop!

> > >

> > > " and I got into a conversation with another man who was waiting

> on

> > > this very point. In his opinion it was not even an " age " -based

> > > behavior but more a sign of the times in which we live. "

> > >

> > > It's definitely gotten worse but I was watching a movie last

> night

> > > from 1955 and they were attacking each other pretty well and

just

> > > accepting it!

> > > >

> > > > " If I happen to mention such behaviors, the parties will often

> > > mention " we were just kidding " and that I am the one being

> > offensive. "

> > >

> > > Yeah, they'll make you think you are stirring up trouble by

> > pointing

> > > it out or that you are too sensitive or think you're better

than

> > > everyone. It's so nice to (rarely) hear people say they're

sorry

> or

> > > they didn't know they were doing that or they'll be careful not

> to

> > do

> > > it, thanks for pointing it out.

> > > >

> > >

> > > >

> > > > Amy

> > > >

> > >

> >

>