hello!

October 10, 2007

I will have to find out what those other options are. I don't want her to be harassed any more.

Re: ( ) Re: Hello!

It sounds like she is in the wrong kind of classroom. My ds was put in a class of "behavior problems" in middle school. It was the worst experience we've gone through! First, we were told it was an LD class. It took me 3 months to figure out what it really was and to get him removed. But his behavior deteriorated a lot in that class because there were so many problems with all the kids in the class. Once we put him out of there, he suddenly "improved" behavior and did fine. On a funny note, my ds hated his teacher of this class too! Her name was "Mrs. Laneville" and he used to say ominously, "She even has 'evil' in her name!" Well, yep! She did! lol. And after a meeting with her, which went horribly, I agreed with him. lol.

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( ) Re: Hello!

Hi Deb & ,

Welcom to the group.

I have 14 yrs old boy girl twins. Last year in middle school my

aspie son was punched in the mouth by a boy, when he went to his

locker. I got a call at work from the nurse telling me about it. He

was shaken up, and has some miner cuts on his lips, mainly from the

braces. When I went home was OK. He couldn't remember the boys

name. The prinicpal had driven him home from school. The next day

the school called to tell me that that boy had been given a 2 day

suspension. I was happy with the way the school handled it.

My son is non-violent, sometimes likes to talk a lot when he is

around people but a great kid, with the aspie quirks.

His NT twins sister tells me all the silly things he does, but this

year he seems to have matured. I don't know.

Anyway, I just wanted to share our experience. I have been dreading

these years since they were young.

I hope things go better for your daughter. Again , welcome.

(in PA)

>

> I just joined your group!

>

> My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-

5

> years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School)

have

> been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she

> will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high

school,

> but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took

> her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking

> about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at

> them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that

> and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew

those

> boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by

> herself after school when someone threw something at our house.

She

> was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her

> Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I

called

> the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has

got

> to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I

> called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice.

He

> stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off

the

> bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that

she

> had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make

> sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and

> told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911.

>

> The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled

> out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who

> were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and

took

> him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and

I

> are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The

> kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving

> dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it

> now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should

> have saved the messages.

>

> was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior

> to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a

neurologist.

> The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the

kids

> picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class,

> which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no

> longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama

> theater class this year and she loves it!

>

> Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did

you

> do about it?

>

> Thanks!

> Deb &

> NJ

>

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Deb, Glad to hear things are starting to turn toward a better direction! debmetsfan@... wrote: Thank you, ! All the support from everyone really helps! I guess I am lucky that tells me everything. I told her to let me know everything that happens this week so I can call and complain! :-) She said today was pretty

good, except for Steve throwing paper at her and one boy calling her names. He's been talked to by the school counselor but she can't get him to stop. So now I come along. I'll see if the vice principal or the police officer will talk to him. She said no one bothered her in the cafeteria today. So maybe we are making progress! Deb In a message dated 10/9/2007 10:22:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes: Deb, Keep the lines of communication open with . She's received quite a battering and I know from my own experience that it can take a toll. It is so important that she continues to open

up to you. My own daughter went through a serious depression 2 years ago and thankfully our family physician saw signs and she opened up to him. The depression was already there but unfortunately a combination of the wrong meds threw gasoline on it and she was on a downward spiral. We got her in counseling, straightened out the meds situation and now she is probably the most comfortable she has ever been in her life. It is more difficult to be a kid in today's world than it was years ago and when you have a special circumstance that complicates things even further. Hang tough! Continue doing whatever you have to do to protect your sweet girl. I will continue to pray for you both, debmetsfanaol wrote: Thank you, ! We're doing the best that we can! I just feel so bad for her. She used to be so happy and friendly and then, since 5th grade, she was so depressed and withdrawn. She has fun with her friend, Genna, though. I used to be picked on in elementary school because I was so quiet but all of that stopped in high school. I expected the same for and to see it continue is what is getting me mad. She has had enough already and so have I! Deb In a message dated 10/8/2007 2:35:25 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes: Debbie and , I just read your post and my heart breaks for you both. My daughter, who is now a senior in high school, experienced quite a bit of harassment in middle school. The disciplinary dean took care of the situation when a fellow student was badgering my daughter. But in 8th grade a student said obscenities to my daughter everyday, in front of the teacher, and was never reprimanded. My daughter never told me until years later. She didn't tell me in 8th grade for fear that her teacher would hold it against her if I had come in and complained about the situation, (which she knows I would have). I could have died when she told me what she had dealt with for an entire school year in her History class. No one should be verbally abused like that and for the teacher to be a witness and not put an end to it is unexcusable! Thankfully, your daughter is communicating with you about the day to day

circumstances at her school, which is so important. Continue to hold the school accountable! They have an obigation to to provide her with a learning environment where she can feel safe and comfortable! It is tragic that parents have to become a screeching wheel before schools start doing the right thing for our children! I applaud you for what you are doing! Keep up the good work! in FLdebbie <debmetsfanaol> wrote: I just joined your group!My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high

school, but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice. He stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell

me that she had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should have saved the messages. was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. The psychiatrist

suggested that we change schools because of the kids picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama theater class this year and she loves it!Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you do about it?Thanks!Deb & NJ Pinpoint customers who are looking for what you sell. Debbie SalernoMaine Coon RescueBoard MemberEastern Regional DirectorDNA Managerwww.mainecoonrescue.net See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage. Fussy? Opinionated? Impossible to please? Perfect. Join 's user panel and lay it on us. Debbie SalernoMaine Coon RescueBoard MemberEastern Regional DirectorDNA Managerwww.mainecoonrescue.net See what's new at AOL.com and Make AOL Your Homepage.

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Hi. So, when you've suggested an aide, what has been their response? I think it would help a lot,,,,,just someone there. Just in case. Robindebmetsfan@... wrote: I keep suggesting that the last period class get an aid. There are 10 kids in the class (the max allowed for the resource room) and the teacher told me that they are all discipline problems! doesn't like her for some reason, and the teacher gave her

detention tomorrow for calling her a bitch. said a boy called her names and the teacher yelled at him but everyone was laughing and told them all to shut up. The teacher told to leave the class; refused. She finally did but then she called the teacher a bitch. The teacher said growls at her when she passes her in the hallway. is very difficult to deal with and I know that she has made at least one teacher cry in the past. It's really difficult because if it's not the other kids causing trouble, then is getting into her own trouble. Deb In a message dated 10/9/2007 9:14:21 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, jrisjs writes: Man Deb. I really hurt for your daughter and you. This sounds like serious crap. Even if it's not physically harming her...........her having to call you and then her having to tell them that you'll have the cops go to his house is what's gonna make those bastards do it more. Why can't people teach their fricken kids to be nice? Do you have options as to somewhere else to send her? OR - since she probably has an IEP,,,,,,,,,,is there any way you can demand an aide be with her from now on? Not that she has to HELP her,,,,,but to be a presence? Whether your daughter wants it or not............it's just out of control. And the school SHOULDN'T say no to this. Especially if they know about lots of the stuff that's been going on. Legally,,,,you should be able to demand some support for her. Let us know how it's going. We're all sad for you both. Hugs. Robindebmetsfanaol wrote: Thanks, ! It's nice to be able to talk to other people who have the same issues! said there were no problems today except for one boy throwing paper balls at her on the bus. She told him to stop but he wouldn't. She called me from her cell phone. I told her to tell him that I would be sending the police to his house if he doesn't stop. He said, "For what? I didn't do anything!" I asked if anyone saw him throwing the paper balls at her, and she said her friend Genna did. I don't know how much of this is just kid stuff or what is harassment. Throwing something at my house is definitely

not right. Deb ( ) Re: Hello! Hi Deb & ,Welcom to the group.I have 14 yrs old boy girl twins. Last year in middle school my aspie son was punched in the mouth by a boy, when he went to his locker. I got a call at work from the nurse telling me about it. He was shaken up, and has some miner cuts on his lips, mainly from the braces. When I went home was OK. He couldn't remember the boys name. The prinicpal had driven him home from school. The next day the school called to tell me that that boy had been given a 2 day suspension. I

was happy with the way the school handled it. My son is non-violent, sometimes likes to talk a lot when he is around people but a great kid, with the aspie quirks.His NT twins sister tells me all the silly things he does, but this year he seems to have matured. I don't know.Anyway, I just wanted to share our experience. I have been dreading these years since they were young.I hope things go better for your daughter. Again , welcome. (in PA) >> I just joined your group!> > My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 > years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have > been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she

> will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high school, > but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took > her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking > about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at > them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that > and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those > boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by > herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She > was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her > Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called > the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got > to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I > called the police to file a report. The officer

was really nice. He > stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the > bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that she > had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make > sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and > told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. > > The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled > out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who > were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took > him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I > are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The > kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving > dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it > now, not even her best

friend. But the officer said that I should > have saved the messages.> > was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior > to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. > The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the kids > picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, > which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no > longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama > theater class this year and she loves it!> > Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you > do about it?> > Thanks!> Deb & > NJ> Email and AIM finally together. You've

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October 10, 2007

I had a teacher's meeting (IEP case manager's suggestion) on the third day of school. I suggested an aide because 's drama teacher was saying how had an outburst in class. They asked me what my idea of an aide was. I told them someone who monitors the classroom and . When they see getting upset, they can remove her from the situation. Nothing was done about it. They really need one on the bus. I usually fight with them over that every year and I usually win. Probably because starts getting in trouble, too, and they tell me that she will be suspended from the bus. I tell them not until they get an aide on there to alleviate the situation.

Deb

In a message dated 10/10/2007 10:38:23 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, jrisjs@... writes:

Hi.

So, when you've suggested an aide, what has been their response?

I think it would help a lot,,,,,just someone there. Just in case.

Robindebmetsfanaol wrote:

I keep suggesting that the last period class get an aid. There are 10 kids in the class (the max allowed for the resource room) and the teacher told me that they are all discipline problems! doesn't like her for some reason, and the teacher gave her detention tomorrow for calling her a bitch. said a boy called her names and the teacher yelled at him but everyone was laughing and told them all to shut up. The teacher told to leave the class; refused. She finally did but then she called the teacher a bitch. The teacher said growls at her when she passes her in the hallway. is very difficult to deal with and I know that she has made at least one teacher cry in the past. It's really difficult because if it's not the other kids causing trouble, then is getting into her own trouble.

Deb

In a message dated 10/9/2007 9:14:21 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, jrisjs writes:

Man Deb.

I really hurt for your daughter and you.

This sounds like serious crap. Even if it's not physically harming her...........her having to call you and then her having to tell them that you'll have the cops go to his house is what's gonna make those bastards do it more.

Why can't people teach their fricken kids to be nice?

Do you have options as to somewhere else to send her?

OR - since she probably has an IEP,,,,,,,,,,is there any way you can demand an aide be with her from now on? Not that she has to HELP her,,,,,but to be a presence?

Whether your daughter wants it or not............it's just out of control.

And the school SHOULDN'T say no to this. Especially if they know about lots of the stuff that's been going on.

Legally,,,,you should be able to demand some support for her.

Let us know how it's going.

We're all sad for you both.

Hugs.

Robindebmetsfanaol wrote:

Thanks, ! It's nice to be able to talk to other people who have the same issues!

said there were no problems today except for one boy throwing paper balls at her on the bus. She told him to stop but he wouldn't. She called me from her cell phone. I told her to tell him that I would be sending the police to his house if he doesn't stop. He said, "For what? I didn't do anything!" I asked if anyone saw him throwing the paper balls at her, and she said her friend Genna did.

I don't know how much of this is just kid stuff or what is harassment. Throwing something at my house is definitely not right.

Deb

( ) Re: Hello!

Hi Deb & ,Welcom to the group.I have 14 yrs old boy girl twins. Last year in middle school my aspie son was punched in the mouth by a boy, when he went to his locker. I got a call at work from the nurse telling me about it. He was shaken up, and has some miner cuts on his lips, mainly from the braces. When I went home was OK. He couldn't remember the boys name. The prinicpal had driven him home from school. The next day the school called to tell me that that boy had been given a 2 day suspension. I was happy with the way the school handled it. My son is non-violent, sometimes likes to talk a lot when he is around people but a great kid, with the aspie quirks.His NT twins sister tells me all the silly things he does, but this year he seems to have matured. I don't know.Anyway, I just wanted to share our experience. I have been dreading these years since they were young.I hope things go better for your daughter. Again , welcome. (in PA) >> I just joined your group!> > My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 > years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have > been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she > will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high school, > but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took > her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking > about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at > them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that > and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those > boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by > herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She > was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her > Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called > the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got > to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I > called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice. He > stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the > bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that she > had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make > sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and > told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. > > The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled > out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who > were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took > him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I > are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The > kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving > dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it > now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should > have saved the messages.> > was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior > to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. > The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the kids > picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, > which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no > longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama > theater class this year and she loves it!> > Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you > do about it?> > Thanks!> Deb & > NJ>

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October 10, 2007

I guess he doesn't listen! And another boy keeps calling her a b*tch. I don't think the school counselor is doing any good so from now on, it's the VP or the police officer.

Deb

In a message dated 10/10/2007 7:13:13 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, madideas@... writes:

Why can't the school counselor get him to stop?

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Re: ( ) Hello!

Thank you, ! All the support from everyone really helps!

I guess I am lucky that tells me everything. I told her to let me know everything that happens this week so I can call and complain! :-) She said today was pretty good, except for Steve throwing paper at her and one boy calling her names. He's been talked to by the school counselor but she can't get him to stop. So now I come along. I'll see if the vice principal or the police officer will talk to him. She said no one bothered her in the cafeteria today. So maybe we are making progress!

Deb

In a message dated 10/9/2007 10:22:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes:

Deb,

Keep the lines of communication open with . She's received quite a battering and I know from my own experience that it can take a toll. It is so important that she continues to open up to you. My own daughter went through a serious depression 2 years ago and thankfully our family physician saw signs and she opened up to him. The depression was already there but unfortunately a combination of the wrong meds threw gasoline on it and she was on a downward spiral. We got her in counseling, straightened out the meds situation and now she is probably the most comfortable she has ever been in her life. It is more difficult to be a kid in today's world than it was years ago and when you have a special circumstance that complicates things even further. Hang tough! Continue doing whatever you have to do to protect your sweet girl.

I will continue to pray for you both,

debmetsfanaol wrote:

Thank you, ! We're doing the best that we can! I just feel so bad for her. She used to be so happy and friendly and then, since 5th grade, she was so depressed and withdrawn. She has fun with her friend, Genna, though.

I used to be picked on in elementary school because I was so quiet but all of that stopped in high school. I expected the same for and to see it continue is what is getting me mad. She has had enough already and so have I!

Deb

In a message dated 10/8/2007 2:35:25 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes:

Debbie and ,

I just read your post and my heart breaks for you both. My daughter, who is now a senior in high school, experienced quite a bit of harassment in middle school. The disciplinary dean took care of the situation when a fellow student was badgering my daughter. But in 8th grade a student said obscenities to my daughter everyday, in front of the teacher, and was never reprimanded. My daughter never told me until years later. She didn't tell me in 8th grade for fear that her teacher would hold it against her if I had come in and complained about the situation, (which she knows I would have). I could have died when she told me what she had dealt with for an entire school year in her History class. No one should be verbally abused like that and for the teacher to be a witness and not put an end to it is unexcusable!

Thankfully, your daughter is communicating with you about the day to day circumstances at her school, which is so important. Continue to hold the school accountable! They have an obigation to to provide her with a learning environment where she can feel safe and

comfortable!

It is tragic that parents have to become a screeching wheel before schools start doing the right thing for our children! I applaud you for what you are doing! Keep up the good work!

in FLdebbie <debmetsfanaol> wrote:

I just joined your group!My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high school, but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice. He stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that she had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should have saved the messages. was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the kids picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama theater class this year and she loves it!Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you do about it?Thanks!Deb & NJ

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October 11, 2007

Yes, I would definitely by pass her if she isn't helping. I just don't understand why she isn't taking it to the principal herself once the kids didn't listen to her?

RoxannaAutism Happens

Re: ( ) Hello!

Thank you, ! All the support from everyone really helps!

I guess I am lucky that tells me everything. I told her to let me know everything that happens this week so I can call and complain! :-) She said today was pretty good, except for Steve throwing paper at her and one boy calling her names. He's been talked to by the school counselor but she can't get him to stop. So now I come along. I'll see if the vice principal or the police officer will talk to him. She said no one bothered her in the cafeteria today. So maybe we are making progress!

Deb

In a message dated 10/9/2007 10:22:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes:

Deb,

Keep the lines of communication open with . She's received quite a battering and I know from my own experience that it can take a toll. It is so important that she continues to open up to you. My own daughter went through a serious depression 2 years ago and thankfully our family physician saw signs and she opened up to him. The depression was already there but unfortunately a combination of the wrong meds threw gasoline on it and she was on a downward spiral. We got her in counseling, straightened out the meds situation and now she is probably the most comfortable she has ever been in her life. It is more difficult to be a kid in today's world than it was years ago and when you have a special circumstance that complicates things even further. Hang tough! Continue doing whatever you have to do to protect your sweet girl.

I will continue to pray for you both,

debmetsfanaol wrote:

Thank you, ! We're doing the best that we can! I just feel so bad for her. She used to be so happy and friendly and then, since 5th grade, she was so depressed and withdrawn. She has fun with her friend, Genna, though.

I used to be picked on in elementary school because I was so quiet but all of that stopped in high school. I expected the same for and to see it continue is what is getting me mad. She has had enough already and so have I!

Deb

In a message dated 10/8/2007 2:35:25 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, auburntiger87 writes:

Debbie and ,

I just read your post and my heart breaks for you both. My daughter, who is now a senior in high school, experienced quite a bit of harassment in middle school. The disciplinary dean took care of the situation when a fellow student was badgering my daughter. But in 8th grade a student said obscenities to my daughter everyday, in front of the teacher, and was never reprimanded. My daughter never told me until years later. She didn't tell me in 8th grade for fear that her teacher would hold it against her if I had come in and complained about the situation, (which she knows I would have). I could have died when she told me what she had dealt with for an entire school year in her History class. No one should be verbally abused like that and for the teacher to be a witness and not put an end to it is unexcusable!

Thankfully, your daughter is communicating with you about the day to day circumstances at her school, which is so important. Continue to hold the school accountable! They have an obigation to to provide her with a learning environment where she can feel safe and

comfortable!

It is tragic that parents have to become a screeching wheel before schools start doing the right thing for our children! I applaud you for what you are doing! Keep up the good work!

in FLdebbie <debmetsfanaol> wrote:

I just joined your group!My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high school, but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice. He stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that she had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should have saved the messages. was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the kids picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama theater class this year and she loves it!Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you do about it?Thanks!Deb & NJ

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The school can provide more options than that. She can be put in a different kind of classroom and not in a class with the behavior disordered kids. They could give her an aide for regular classes. If they don't have another class that fits her needs, ask them to make a class to fit her needs. They could also tutor from home as well.

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Hi Deb & ,Welcom to the group.I have 14 yrs old boy girl twins. Last year in middle school my aspie son was punched in the mouth by a boy, when he went to his locker. I got a call at work from the nurse telling me about it. He was shaken up, and has some miner cuts on his lips, mainly from the braces. When I went home was OK. He couldn't remember the boys name. The prinicpal had driven him home from school. The next day the school called to tell me that that boy had been given a 2 day suspension. I was happy with the way the school handled it. My son is non-violent, sometimes likes to talk a lot when he is around people but a great kid, with the aspie quirks.His NT twins sister tells me all the silly things he does, but this year he seems to have matured. I don't know.Anyway, I just wanted to share our experience. I have been dreading these years since they were young.I hope things go better for your daughter. Again , welcome. (in PA) >> I just joined your group!> > My daughter is 14 and is a freshman in high school. For the past 4-5 > years, the kids in her school (Elementary School, Middle School) have > been calling her by her dead guinea pig's name. They know that she > will be upset by it. I thought it would be different in high school, > but same old story! Things have really gotten out of hand. I took > her to K-mart the other night, and two boys were in there talking > about her and Penelope (the dead guinea pig's name). I yelled at > them - one boy took off, the other boy said he didn't call her that > and he told the other kids not to. I asked if she knew those > boys, and she said no. A couple of days later, was home by > herself after school when someone threw something at our house. She > was scared to death! Then she heard the boys outside calling her > Penelope! She called me at work to tell me what happened. I called > the Principal and started at yelling at him, I told him this has got > to stop or I will be suing the school and the kids involved. I > called the police to file a report. The officer was really nice. He > stayed outside my house the next day and watched come off the > bus and go into the house. He called me at work to tell me that she > had gotten home safely and he would be staying for a while to make > sure that no one bothers her. said he came to the house and > told her that if she had any problems at all, to call 911. > > The next day, was in the cafeteria and a boy yelled > out, "Penelope!" to her! She turned and looked at two teachers who > were standing near her, and they immediately went to the boy and took > him to the office. So it is now being cracked down on. and I > are just so tired of this and we put up with this long enough. The > kids were also calling her cell phone a few months ago and leaving > dirty messages on it. I had her number changed and no one knows it > now, not even her best friend. But the officer said that I should > have saved the messages.> > was diagnosed with AS in 4th grade by a psychiatrist. Prior > to that, she was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and ODD by a neurologist. > The psychiatrist suggested that we change schools because of the kids > picking on her and put her in a self-contained special-ed class, > which we did. It seemed to be the right move for her. She is no > longer in special ed except for the resource room. She has drama > theater class this year and she loves it!> > Has anyone else experienced this sort of harassment and what did you > do about it?> > Thanks!> Deb & > NJ>

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November 25, 2007

> Hello again Louise. I thought I recognised you. I thought I was

doing

> well with the glandulars, had slowly got up to three a day. But a

> couple of weeks ago I had some sort of an " episode " which scared

me,

>

Hi

Oh dear, so sorry to hear about your frightening " episode " (I'll

have to look through the archives here) - it'll be interesting to

hear what Dr P makes of it. At least you're seeing him soon. Yes,

definitely let us know how it goes.

I am so frustrated to have had my excellent progress on T3 derailed

by this adrenal crash, but perhaps it was a sign I just wasn't on

sufficient adrenal support. It semms I've exhausted my adrenal

reserves. So I'm now on 25mg cortisol (yikes!)and I really do need it

cos I've been all shaky etc with plummeting BP for the last week. So -

I'll keep you posted.

But the thing is that my response to the T3 was so incredible, and

unequivocal, that I KNOW getting the T3 and adrenal suuport right is

the key. So, yes I am in a setback in a certain sense, but at least I

know WHAT the problem is and what I need to do to resolve it (somehow

get adrenal support right...). And that's quite something,

considering it's taken decades to reach this realisation! lol

Take care,

Louise

November 26, 2007

> I am so frustrated to have had my excellent progress on T3

derailed

> by this adrenal crash,

> But the thing is that my response to the T3 was so incredible, and

> unequivocal, that I KNOW getting the T3 and adrenal suuport right

is

> the key.

Hiya Louise

I can sense your excitement at the thought that at last you've found

an answer, once you've sorted and tweaked everything correctly. I'm

genuinely pleased for you.

These adrenals are something else though, arent they? To have to

consider them as past of the equation is truly exasperating on top

of everything else but obviously very essential. In fact they seem

to be a vital component of the puzzle for some of us.

I've read many times how Cytomel can be a absolute life saver for

some people, like switching a light on. So glad it seems to be that

way for you.

Best of luck with treating your adrenals. I know you have had lots

of issues to contend with but it really does sound as though, at

long last, you're on the right road.

It's always encouraging to read of other's successes.

Take care

November 26, 2007

Hi

Aw, thanks for that!

However, for the time being I'm pretty much incapacitated thanks to

my feeble adrenals! No life whatsoever. I am tolerating 35mcg T3 so

it could be worse. But have just had to cancel taking my car in for

an overdue MOT because I'm too weak and faint to even think about

driving today. I just went to the local shops (literally round the

corner) and have gone all weak and shaky again. Came home and BP was

dropping on standing, from 95/64 - to 89/59. As far as I understand

this is not a good sign - low aldosterone too, no doubt. This

postural hypotension had stopped after Dr P put me on adrenal support

in May, but it seems I'm now losing ground again. Sea salt isn't

helping,

either. I've only just raised to 25mg hydrocortisone from 20, but I

clearly need even more, at least 30 I reckon. Sigh. I still get very

nervous about upping the HC.

So, yes, I know the Cytomel works for me which is quite something and

I really do want to hold on that as a beacon of hope. However, it's

now clear that in terms of my adrenal function I'm at virtually

ian levels (which is what Dr Peatfield thought when I first

saw him this May...)

And until the adrenals are right, no more raises in the T3 for me...

But thank goodness I'm tackling this with Dr P (will ring him on Wed)

and not an endo.

Best wishes,

Louise

> Hiya Louise

>

> I can sense your excitement at the thought that at last you've

found

> an answer, once you've sorted and tweaked everything correctly. I'm

> genuinely pleased for you.

>

> These adrenals are something else though, arent they? To have to

> consider them as past of the equation is truly exasperating on top

> of everything else but obviously very essential. In fact they seem

> to be a vital component of the puzzle for some of us.

>

> I've read many times how Cytomel can be a absolute life saver for

> some people, like switching a light on. So glad it seems to be that

> way for you.

>

> Best of luck with treating your adrenals. I know you have had lots

> of issues to contend with but it really does sound as though, at

> long last, you're on the right road.

>

> It's always encouraging to read of other's successes.

>

> Take care

>

November 26, 2007

Hi

What I can't understand is that in most Thyroxine has written in the Patient Leaflet inserted in the boxes information telling the patient to tell the doctor if they have an adrenal problem. Doctors don't pay any attention to this, and we need to ask them why. If the manufacturers say that patients should not take Thyroxine if they have an adrenal problem, there must be a reason. I asked my endocrinologist and he said, this only means if a patient has Cushing's syndrome or 's disease. I asked him where he saw that information, and he didn't respond. Hmmmm!

Luv - Sheila

Hiya LouiseI can sense your excitement at the thought that at last you've found an answer, once you've sorted and tweaked everything correctly. I'm genuinely pleased for you. These adrenals are something else though, arent they? To have to consider them as past of the equation is truly exasperating on top of everything else but obviously very essential. In fact they seem to be a vital component of the puzzle for some of us.I've read many times how Cytomel can be a absolute life saver for some people, like switching a light on. So glad it seems to be that way for you. Best of luck with treating your adrenals. I know you have had lots of issues to contend with but it really does sound as though, at long last, you're on the right road.It's always encouraging to read of other's successes.Take care

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November 26, 2007

Telephone him tonight - your health is too important and he would be the first to agree. You ened to get his recommendation about overcoming this problem

Luv - Sheila

But thank goodness I'm tackling this with Dr P (will ring him on Wed) and not an endo.Best wishes,Louise> Hiya Louise> > I can sense your excitement at the thought that at last you've found > an answer, once you've sorted and tweaked everything correctly. I'm > genuinely pleased for you. > > These adrenals are something else though, arent they? To have to > consider them as past of the equation is truly exasperating on top > of everything else but obviously very essential. In fact they seem > to be a vital component of the puzzle for some of us.> > I've read many times how Cytomel can be a absolute life saver for > some people, like switching a light on. So glad it seems to be that > way for you. > > Best of luck with treating your adrenals. I know you have had lots > of issues to contend with but it really does sound as though, at > long last, you're on the right road.> > It's always encouraging to read of other's successes.> > Take care> > >

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November 26, 2007

>>>What I can't understand is that in most Thyroxine has written in the Patient Leaflet inserted in the boxes information telling the patient to tell the doctor if they have an adrenal problem. <<<<<

Has this world gone mad - when the patient has to tell the doctor what they have.

Lilian

November 27, 2007

Sadly Lilian - patients do have to tell their doctor what's wrong with them because doctors don't know. Why are we all members of this forum - 'cos NHS doctors can't help us?

Luv - Sheila

Has this world gone mad - when the patient has to tell the doctor what they have.

Lilian

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January 2, 2008

Hi Caroline!

I just want to say that I have been having ear issues which I thought were

Labs for over 5 months now. My naturopath suggested I go on this diet as he

thinks it’s sinus related.... sure enough, I think he’s right and I am

finally feeling (a bit) better.

So chances are, the Labs you think you have might indeed be Candida.

Good luck and keep in touch,

From: candidiasis [mailto:candidiasis ] On

Behalf Of carolinerainbowblue

Sent: January-02-08 9:28 AM

candidiasis

Subject: Hello!

Hi everyone! I'm new here and just thought I would say that the stuff

I've been reading so far has been really interesting and helpful.

I've only recently started to tackle Candida. For the last few years

I've had wierd acne, which I didn't suffer from in my teens at all. I

was also diagnosed with IBS. Then a few months ago I started to get

recurring fungal skin infections and then finally I developed eczema.

I'd just about had enough and thought it was time i started

researching to see if i could find an explanation.

That's when I came across Candida as a possible culprit. I've since

started taking anti fungals and have pretty much cut out most sugars

(though at this time of the year it's very difficult to avoid some

wine :-) ) I have been extremely good with avoiding sweet biscuits,

and chocolates though.

Almost immediately I noticed huge improvements in my skin. The fungal

infection and eczema have pretty much gone now and I haven't used the

prescribed creams for ages. The huge red sore red bumps on my chin

have also completely gone. I am only left with a few normal sized

spots that I'm sure will go as I tackle the candida further. My

stomach issues have almost completely gone too. I am soooo happy.

Recently I stopped taking the anti-fungals for a few days as I was

getting very persistent headaches which I could only put down to a

die-off rection. I will probably start again today with them.

I also eat lots of bio yoghurt and take acidophilus.

after reading some people's stories on here I am also now wondering

whether my bouts of what the dr diagnosed as Labyrinthitis, could

have been down to the Candida too.

I just wanted to share my story as most people I talk to have no idea

what Candida is and therefore are not that helpful lol!

Good luck to everyone :-)

Caroline x

January 4, 2008

Hi Caroline:

You're doing all the right things. Labrynthitis is a bit of mystery to doctors

in general. I know a 74 year old lady that has had some severe bouts with this

for most of her life she says and can't seem to pinpoint the cause.

I looked online and found that (for some reason) smoking is a factor, sodium in

the diet as well. I had my first bout when I was 35 and found it was definitely

caused by sodium, VERY DIZZY and Sodium is AFFECTED GREATLY by the hormone

Aldosterone, so you might ask to have that checked.

Bonnie

Hello!