Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 Rick, They are legal RIGHTS. The school district must give parents a copy of their LEGAL RIGHTS at every meeting and when they send notice. Many people want their children included in every aspect of the community and they have a legal RIGHT to be included in their neighborhood school in the least restrictive environment. This has been interpreted by the courts to mean that that inclusion must be tried with proper learning supports and services and if that FAILS, a new environment (more restrictive placement) may then be tried. School districts have one person who knows the law usually. When parents present them with the facts, they will either develop a good inclusive IEP or they will fight them. I believe with my whole heart that parents know what is best for their chidren. I believe that if they think inclusion is best, I should support them. IMHO, you and the others who are so anti-inclusion should support their decision, just like I support yours to not include. I think any parent who chooses self-contained knows what is best. I do think that they should know all their options though. Elaine re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' > It is really easy to get caught up here on the 'rights' of your child or > on a presumption that being with neighborhood kids will be best for your > child or to think that an out of district placement will necessarily be > bad. > > You have to step back and look at the big picture. Are you fighting for > principle or because they are making you mad, or can you consider > alternatives. We generally chose not to fight. Jan's initial placement > in the public school system was the one exception. If someone didn't > want Jan, we wouldn't see that they had her. We after all had our gem > and only shared her with people who wanted her. > > In our case, in-district programs were inappropriate and out of district > programs were much, much better. We had a very wide range of choices > with teachers who got personal reward from Jan's progress and who dealt > with her behaviour problems. When, after some years, the new Girls > Scout leader didn't want Jan, we moved on to other things, then went > back later to a wonderful Girl Scout camp that wanted the diversity of > kids with handicaps. > > Neighborhood peers were sometimes wonderful, but also sometimes > abusive. I remember telling the son of a boy who came over to play with > Janet that if he wasn't nice to her, he could not come back. The long > lasting neighborhood friends are scattered, but they still ask about her > and sometimes she gets an email from them. Their closeness sort of > evaporated post puberty when their interests and activities diverged. > > Sometimes you have to fight for your child's rights, but one has to be > careful not to poison the environment. In the end you have to have your > child educated by a team that you can work with and trust to bring out > the best in your child and provide the environment that you all feel is > best. It is easier to get people to comply than to enthusiastically > take part. In many cases the choices are even more difficult because > the diversity of opportunity we had for educating Jan often isn't there > and you have to figure out how to live with a much smaller set of > opportunities. Education isn't like Girl Scouts. You can't just walk > away from it. > > Rick ..... dad to 29 year old Jan > > > > Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 In a message dated 6/17/2002 8:10:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time, rdill@... writes: > > teachers who feel that they are being forced to do something. > The paradigm is shifting. I am glad to hear that your daughter had a great education. But that was almost 10 years ago, if I have been following your thread correctly. I am saddened that you spent so much time finding places for your daughter where you perceived she was " wanted " . My daughter was not wanted at birth. I did not sign on to be a parent of a child with Down syndrome. But I was educated by trial and error and so can any teacher. I would love to have the power at my job to say " hey, I didn't sign on to perform that duty " . The reality of today's workforce is an ever changing job description. You either embrace it or move on. Why should we expect less from teachers, especially when we pay their salaries? I respect the job teachers do. But I am tired of hearing " I don't want to do that " or " I can't " or " I feel I am being forced " . Get over it. 5 years ago, the law was reauthorized and the schools still think they have an option not to follow the law. Laws are there for a reason. My daughter has a right by law to a free and appropriate education. To ensure this, the first educational placement to be considered is where would she be if she didn't have a disability. All lot of us with younger children are having this placement not offered based on the fact or the face of mental retardation. Is this the most appropriate placment for a child with mental retardation? No parent will ever know unless it is tried with appropriate supports and services. More restrictive options definitely are available later if it does not produce measurable outcomes. But let us have access first. Special education so far for : an example(one of many) for 4 years now, we have had an IEP goal for her to rote count to 10. She still can't do it consistently and gets angry when asked. Ask her to count to 50, and she takes off. She didn't learn counting to 50 in special ed but in regular ed. She is bored with ten and now has a mental block because of the last 4 years spent focusing on something that wasn't as meaningful to her as 50 beans or M & M's or just the pattern of higher numbers. Why did a " special ed " teacher not see this? The reg ed teacher sure did. I can go on. To include or not to include is not the question, but rather " where will your child be educated with high expectations in mind? " Warm regards Becci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 In a message dated 6/17/2002 10:36:33 PM Eastern Daylight Time, Bec4000@... writes: > To include or not to include is not the question, but rather " where will > your > child be educated with high expectations in mind? " > Becci, I love this quote! Thanks for sharing with us! Really, sometimes when people propose that we limit who works with our children to only those who say they want them, it reminds me of the discrimination and civil rights battles that black students went through in the 50s and 60s. Ever wonder what our schools would be like if those students and their families waited for teachers to say they wanted them in their classroom and just stayed in those all black schools with no books and no resources? Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 In a message dated 6/17/2002 7:10:55 PM Central Standard Time, rdill@... writes: > Some days I fail to see the tight connection between 'least restrictive' > and 'best educationally'. They might sometmes go together, but not > always. Heehee Kathy says this is why we now have choices no more one SZ fits all or at least we fight for it lol > environments should > be (and perhaps also all have come to our own > conclusions). Our household is not 'least restrictive' for any of us. > We have some strong principles to live by. Well, my home is, if you compare it to alternative placements like the JC, foster care or institutions. I say my home for all of my kids is the least restrictive environment. Now a change in placement as meant in the IDEA law would mean one of the above alternatives, not the rules/prinicpals that exist in the home. Every classroom has their own set of rules/prinicipals as homes do. Kathy mom to Sara 10........also in my district, different sped classes, different school district, special school are not a matter of choice, you go to your home school or request a transfer but you still have to stay in the district, has always been like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 Elaine writes: Rick, They are legal RIGHTS. The school district must give parents a copy of their LEGAL RIGHTS at every meeting and when they send notice. Many people want their children included in every aspect of the community and they have a legal RIGHT to be included in their neighborhood school in the least restrictive environment. This has been interpreted by the courts to mean that that inclusion must be tried with proper learning supports and services and if that FAILS, a new environment (more restrictive placement) may then be tried. [snip] Rick replies that sometimes getting things right legally doesn't solve the real problem of how best to obtain quality service. The question is whether there is a solution (sped class, different school district, special school, etc) that will do better than a school district and teachers who feel that they are being forced to do something. I see this in spades with Janet. If I try to hurry her to do something against her will, she shuts down and impedes the process all the way, even though she does what I'd requested eventually. If I work with her a little more patiently and get her willingness, then she is super. In dealing with Jan's upbringing, if people didn't want Janet, they didn't get her usually. We found others or other environments that did want Jan. Other than her initial placement in public school (outside of the local district), we had few fights with the system and a cooperative approach to educating our little girl. We never wanted her in the local district because the local programs were ones that combined kids like Jan with others with severe emotional problems and that would have been extremely distracting. Now, the situation anyone else has will be different than what we faced. Still, it might sometimes be worth asking whether the best outcome is to force an issue or to find a solution that will be embraced willingly by all. Such things often don't exist, but it is a question worth thinking about. Some days I fail to see the tight connection between 'least restrictive' and 'best educationally'. They might sometmes go together, but not always. We have all thought about how permissive our household envrionments should be (and perhaps also all have come to our own conclusions). Our household is not 'least restrictive' for any of us. We have some strong principles to live by. Rick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 In a message dated 6/17/2002 12:17:58 PM Central Standard Time, rdill@... writes: > It is really easy to get caught up here on the 'rights' of your child or > on a presumption that being with neighborhood kids will be best for your > child or to think that an out of district placement will necessarily be > bad. > > You have to step back and look at the big picture. Are you fighting for > principle or because they are making you mad, or can you consider > alternatives. HI Rick You don't really think that do you? That we would fight for the principal reason only? I can honestly say especially for this list group that we do our homework, we obviously are concerned parents, educating ourselves with not only the law but statistics and everything else. We meet twice a year, Ive traveled hundreds of miles to just meet folks who are interested about their children like I am........ so with that said no I don't fight for principal alone, I fight for what's best for Sara Last week I ran into a woman at the mall, she greeted Sara by her full name. Sara was behind me so I quickly turned around. This woman was a student teacher in Sara's kindy class (4 yrs ago), she knew Sara when her language was just blooming, when her skills were limited. Anyway she gave me a big hug (this is the South....all hug lol) and told me what a wonderful job I have done with Sara. We chatted forever, well until hubby called my cell phone requesting lunch (he was in another store lol) Point to this story, when Im in doubt the Lord puts folks like this in my path to let me know I am making the right choices for Sara, Sara would never thrive in a self contained class, her sassy personality would wither and die........this is Sara. Truthfully (I might get flamed lol) Sara might never be a rocket scientist, she may never be more then a reader for info, she may never amount to the equivalency of my other child BUT she will be all that she can be and she will be happy I will TRUST her choices now, and her choice now is to be with her typical peers, to learn about TN and the moon. To be the best kickball player.....that's who Sara is Kathy mom to Sara 10 ............folks can be passionate for things that work (and not just the principal of the matter), look at the diet posts, boy I wish we could do that heehee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 You are so right, Rick, about getting too much into the " rights' " of the child. I have a friend who did this quite a few years ago. She has a son with DS and then adopted another just a couple years younger. I think they are in their early 30's now. They were constantly in court and fighting with the schools for many years. Trouble was all the authorities from the State Board of Education on down were so fed up with her that it just made matters worse. She was determined that the boys stay in their local school, in a small town. Fine. But she couldn't make them teach them anything and that didn't really seem to be the goal. They still were not included. One year their classroom was a closet. But as long as it was in court they had to be kept there. I'm not sure they ever learned to read. To show the extremes, they were supposed to go till they were 21, of course. Well, the older boy's birthday was late in Sept. when he would be 21. So when school started 2 or 3 weeks before that, she sent him. The school called the police and he was removed from the building in handcuffs! She sent me the piece from the paper with a picture and article about it. Now that was stupidity on both sides. But they had been adversaries for so long they didn't know how to stop. That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " become more important than education. Jessie, Mom to , 37 and the light of my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 HI Amie Haven't heard from you in a while, glad your back I think the problem is that in Rick's posts they seem to imply that (our) choices are wrong, that because of them some parents go for inclusion for the principals alone sorry but yesterdays were taken that way. We have to have choices to have an Individualized program. And I don't think anyone here has ever said that moving to self-contained is bad. I think on this list we are great at seeing every child for being the individual that they are...........shoot I can only compare a few girls on this to list to Sara and we have 500 on this list lol Please remember when posted that she was changing s placement to the resource room, she got tons of supports heehee and a lot from us that feel choices is a must. I think what gets my goat is to hear negativity on Inclusion when YOU'VE never tried it, to me you are arguing the PRINCIPAL then and not speaking from experience. Im a firm believer in speaking on what you've tried and offering support to the things you haven't. Sara has never done any of the other controversial things that involve DS, I would NEVER speak ill of them unless I tried and fail. To me IMHO some that slam inclusion are slamming the " Principal " of it, and making the parents feel they have to defend what they know is working. What a shame do they ever sit back and imagine that maybe if they had that experience that their lives might be different now? Oh well I guess Im rambling, it just makes me sad that now in 2002 we still have debates on to have our kids included (individually I might add) that we still face confrontation from parents Kathy mom to Sara 10...........hey are you going to the Suaree this weekend? In a message dated 6/18/2002 1:48:27 AM Central Standard Time, AmieBell@... writes: > I may have misread but I did not see where anyone proposed limiting who > works > with our kids for everyone. I go along with Rick, yes graduated a > year ago so is out of school, however, due to my recent work with the > Parent > Training Center in VA and the emails on this list as well as others it is > very obvious that not a lot is changing! Someone commented that it has been > ten years since Jan, Ricks daughter, was in school and things are > different. > Not from what we see here! > > If we truly want the best for our kids, then why even use the word > inclusion? > Where does it fit into anything? It is just one of many choices that are > available if a parent is interested in fighting for it, just as moving your > child to another district (we did many times) is a choice if you want to > fight for it. > > I personally get tired of hearing we all have to choose the " best " for our > kids but then if it is not " total inclusion " it obviously is not as good. > > Excuse the rant! > Rejoice! > Amie > mom to -23 yrs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/18/2002 1:23:50 AM Central Standard Time, JB66111@... writes: > That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " become more > important than education. > > Jessie, Mom to , 37 and the light of my life. Heehee Jessie, its a good thing I was not a young adult in the 60's when protest was a way of life lol it's true, you can be so adversarial that you're cutting off your nose to spite your face BUT I know in my area these cases are very few. I have to take my hat off to the Autistic community here, they are paving the way for me and others, making the school systems stand up and take responsibility in educating ours and all kids. They can be very adversarial but they stand in large numbers, one parent can be compared to a strong wind, the autistic community compares to a Tornado heehee and Im at their heels lol Sara is only 10 and I have such a different educational plan for her for her future HS years, I don't know of any here that has my same long term plan but I will fight for it because Im guessing now that this is what is best for Sara and her MOM lol Kathy mom to Sara 10..........sometimes I compare the woman's movement to rights for the disabled, now as woman we would fight to have choices right? this is why I will always fight for Sara.........in my way and my time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/18/2002 2:48:34 AM Eastern Daylight Time, AmieBell@... writes: > personally get tired of hearing we all have to choose the " best " for our > kids but then if it is not " total inclusion " it obviously is not as good. > > Excuse the rant! > It is not a rant, it is your personal feelings. No one that I can recall has said if your child is not totally included it is " obviously is not as good " . What is being discussed is the law says the first placement to be considered is where your child would be if he or she didn't have a disability. Parents are having a hard time getting this placement " if they want it and feel their child would thrive there " . I have truly enjoyed this thread because is shows all different points of view. In the " 22nd Annual Report to Congress on IDEA " , a study is quoted. This study concluded that those students with disabilities who spent the most time in gen ed had better job employment and higher pay. Why is that? Some more to ponder on a Tuesday Warm regards Becci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 06/18/2002 8:29:44 AM Eastern Daylight Time, Bec4000@... writes: << What is being discussed is the law says the first placement to be considered is where your child would be if he or she didn't have a disability. Parents are having a hard time getting this placement >> Exactly!! This thread is not a statement on what is a best practice, it is on what should be considered according to the law and rights of the student. It is about choice, choice, choice. Another point for everyone to remember, is that as our children mature, placements may need to be changed to accommodate the changes the child goes through. Those options should be available and considered by every team. Parental decision to reject inclusion is as much a right as parental decision to choose inclusion. Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/17/2002 11:23:50 PM US Mountain Standard Time, JB66111@... writes: > That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " become more > important than education. > Yes, I am sure that can happen and does happen. But I don't really see it from the parents on this listserv, do you? What I see are parents who have the opportunity to see and know what is going to be the best learning environment for their children, and then pursuing it. What I see are parents who are educated and not afraid to make waves if needed and are taking the opportunity to educate others about how our kids CAN learn, if they are given the opportunity. I haven't heard one person in this group say, " I will have my child included NO MATTER WHAT! " or " Full Inclusion is the law and it is the ONLY WAY! " If you, as a parent, have educated yourself on what is the law, what your school district has to offer, and what works best for your child and then gone on to find that setting, build that setting, and support that setting, then that's all that needs to be said. Now if someone else thinks I, or any other parent is fighting for inclusion just because we have that right, or just because of a principle.....that's THEIR problem not mine. I don't force my views on others, I share them, but I certainly don't expect others to tell me that I have lost sight of what is best for my child and am just involved in a fight for the fight! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Kathy mom to Sara 10..........sometimes I compare the woman's movement to rights for the disabled, now as woman we would fight to have choices right? this is why I will always fight for Sara.........in my way and my time That is funny you relate the two. For me, I relate advocacy for our children with discrimination against color. Luther King fought for civil rights for ALL...he's become my hero. As the black population has made great strides (and women, too), there is still discrimination going on. One of my favorite coworkers is black and hispanic. She has three master's degrees and has the morals of the pope. She could work just about anywhere and make big bucks, but her heart is with abused and neglected kids. Recently, she went into a store, following a mother and young daughter. The little girl was holding the door open for her when the mother turned and said to her daughter " You don't hold the door for those people " . I know that pain, it's the same when a mother tells her child to get away from . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Hey Amie...are you coming this weekend? Please do come, I've missed talking to you. I have to agree that for some, inclusion is the end all for ALL kids. It may work for some, but not for all. I am so happy to hear about the kids that can be fully included and are doing well in their placement. But there are many kids whose LRE is a resource or self contained room. Amy and Rick did make choices for their children. I think from both of their previous posts from the last 7 years or so, they are both great advocates for their children. But and Jan are two different people, with different needs and strengths. Both have turned out to be fine young women (with a mind of their own!). For , he gets overstimulated (a sensory issue) in a regular classroom. He was not a happy camper this past year. He's much happier being in small groups with the least amount of people in the room. He deserves to go to school and not feel overwhelmed and anxious. He deserves to be happy while learning his academics. I really struggled with this issue for a long time. I did get tons of support from others on the list, mostly from private emails. I think the bottom line is that parents need to start out with the LRE for their children and go from there. We parents have been told no, or we don't do that in our school, that is not best for your child, etc. We get angry. We all want what is best for our kids and for many of them, it's full inclusion. For others, it's a more restrictive setting. Oh yea, and for those parents who go through due process...God love you. FIght the good fight and never get discouraged. It's parents like you who have changed things for other children and educated the educators. Re: re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' HI Amie Haven't heard from you in a while, glad your back I think the problem is that in Rick's posts they seem to imply that (our) choices are wrong, that because of them some parents go for inclusion for the principals alone sorry but yesterdays were taken that way. We have to have choices to have an Individualized program. And I don't think anyone here has ever said that moving to self-contained is bad. I think on this list we are great at seeing every child for being the individual that they are...........shoot I can only compare a few girls on this to list to Sara and we have 500 on this list lol Please remember when posted that she was changing s placement to the resource room, she got tons of supports heehee and a lot from us that feel choices is a must. I think what gets my goat is to hear negativity on Inclusion when YOU'VE never tried it, to me you are arguing the PRINCIPAL then and not speaking from experience. Im a firm believer in speaking on what you've tried and offering support to the things you haven't. Sara has never done any of the other controversial things that involve DS, I would NEVER speak ill of them unless I tried and fail. To me IMHO some that slam inclusion are slamming the " Principal " of it, and making the parents feel they have to defend what they know is working. What a shame do they ever sit back and imagine that maybe if they had that experience that their lives might be different now? Oh well I guess Im rambling, it just makes me sad that now in 2002 we still have debates on to have our kids included (individually I might add) that we still face confrontation from parents Kathy mom to Sara 10...........hey are you going to the Suaree this weekend? In a message dated 6/18/2002 1:48:27 AM Central Standard Time, AmieBell@... writes: > I may have misread but I did not see where anyone proposed limiting who > works > with our kids for everyone. I go along with Rick, yes graduated a > year ago so is out of school, however, due to my recent work with the > Parent > Training Center in VA and the emails on this list as well as others it is > very obvious that not a lot is changing! Someone commented that it has been > ten years since Jan, Ricks daughter, was in school and things are > different. > Not from what we see here! > > If we truly want the best for our kids, then why even use the word > inclusion? > Where does it fit into anything? It is just one of many choices that are > available if a parent is interested in fighting for it, just as moving your > child to another district (we did many times) is a choice if you want to > fight for it. > > I personally get tired of hearing we all have to choose the " best " for our > kids but then if it is not " total inclusion " it obviously is not as good. > > Excuse the rant! > Rejoice! > Amie > mom to -23 yrs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Becci, You go girl!!!! Loree Re: Re: re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' In a message dated 6/17/2002 8:10:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time, rdill@... writes: > > teachers who feel that they are being forced to do something. > The paradigm is shifting. I am glad to hear that your daughter had a great education. But that was almost 10 years ago, if I have been following your thread correctly. I am saddened that you spent so much time finding places for your daughter where you perceived she was " wanted " . My daughter was not wanted at birth. I did not sign on to be a parent of a child with Down syndrome. But I was educated by trial and error and so can any teacher. I would love to have the power at my job to say " hey, I didn't sign on to perform that duty " . The reality of today's workforce is an ever changing job description. You either embrace it or move on. Why should we expect less from teachers, especially when we pay their salaries? I respect the job teachers do. But I am tired of hearing " I don't want to do that " or " I can't " or " I feel I am being forced " . Get over it. 5 years ago, the law was reauthorized and the schools still think they have an option not to follow the law. Laws are there for a reason. My daughter has a right by law to a free and appropriate education. To ensure this, the first educational placement to be considered is where would she be if she didn't have a disability. All lot of us with younger children are having this placement not offered based on the fact or the face of mental retardation. Is this the most appropriate placment for a child with mental retardation? No parent will ever know unless it is tried with appropriate supports and services. More restrictive options definitely are available later if it does not produce measurable outcomes. But let us have access first. Special education so far for : an example(one of many) for 4 years now, we have had an IEP goal for her to rote count to 10. She still can't do it consistently and gets angry when asked. Ask her to count to 50, and she takes off. She didn't learn counting to 50 in special ed but in regular ed. She is bored with ten and now has a mental block because of the last 4 years spent focusing on something that wasn't as meaningful to her as 50 beans or M & M's or just the pattern of higher numbers. Why did a " special ed " teacher not see this? The reg ed teacher sure did. I can go on. To include or not to include is not the question, but rather " where will your child be educated with high expectations in mind? " Warm regards Becci Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 The reality is that this applies to all of our children. Disability or not. This is what I want for all of my girls and is all I should expect from them. To be all that THEY can be. My husband is so focused on Sara being a doctor and Sabaa being an engineer without realizing they may not want that or have what it takes to be that or may not be happy with what HE is chosing for them. I want them to strive to the best of their individual potential. Hana too! Christie *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and Lily the cat!!! On Tue, 18 Jun 2002 00:44:40 EDT b4alltoday@... writes: > Truthfully (I might get flamed lol) Sara might never be a rocket > scientist, she may never be more then a reader for info, she may never amount > to the equivalency of my other child BUT she will be all that she can be > and she will be happy ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Kathy, where are you? Christie *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and Lily the cat!!! On Tue, 18 Jun 2002 07:59:00 EDT b4alltoday@... writes: > I have to take my hat off to the Autistic community here, they are > paving the > way for me and others, making the school systems stand up and take > responsibility in educating ours and all kids. ________________________________________________________________ GET INTERNET ACCESS FROM JUNO! Juno offers FREE or PREMIUM Internet access for less! Join Juno today! For your FREE software, visit: http://dl.www.juno.com/get/web/. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/18/2002 9:18:45 AM Eastern Daylight Time, wildwards@... writes: << Another point for everyone to remember, is that as our children mature, placements may need to be changed to accommodate the changes the child goes through. Those options should be available and considered by every team. Parental decision to reject inclusion is as much a right as parental decision to choose inclusion. >> I probably sparked this discussion by saying I was told I'd have to go to court to get Liam into a neighborhood public school. I think it's important to remember that it's for Kindergarten! He'll have had 2 years of full day preschool, preceeded by 2 years of 1/2 day preschool (yes he started at 17 months) under his belt before he sets foot in K. He's been described as bright and very school savvy. He already knows the basics like colors, shapes, numbers (up to 10) and most of the alphabet. I know he's delayed, better than anyone, but I'll bet he'll be better prepared than most 5 year olds next year. I won't try and get him in because of a 'principle', but administrators better not try and keep him out on principle either. I won't push the envelope because it's nearby or for social reasons, but because it's one of the best schools in Queens. Currently they have have special ed classes, but I'm told they are comprised of children with severe disabilities, many behavioral. Liam doesn't belong in that environment. I'm going to bring up the possibility of his attending a regular kindergarten class tomorrow at the IEP meeting, a year before it becomes an issue to see what response I get from the district. I'm open to other options they might present me. I didn't push for pure inclusion in pre-school this coming year, because of the outstanding teacher he's had this year and will continue to have next year. Kathy, Liam's mom(4) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/18/2002 10:15:06 AM Central Standard Time, FlowerMommi@... writes: > Kathy, where are you? > Christie > *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and > Lily the cat!!! HI Christie I am outside of Memphis, hoping to move to a more progressive part of the country for medical and educational reasons. Its OK here for elem grades but I foresee trouble when Sara hits middle school, for sure in HS. Truthfully Im in an area where parents work 24-7 to pay for their Lexis's, guess who's minding the store with the teens NO ONE. I really want to get out of here before my middle schooler gets to HS, I battled for 4 years with my older kids and don't want to go through it again lol I know areas like these exist every where, BUT I think I want to at least be in a different area lol maybe where there is a BEACH heehee Kathy mom to Sara 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 This is a really sad situation. It is sad to me that these parents had school personnel who didn't respect them or the law or the choices they wanted for their child. Like Kathy said, most of us would NEVER allow anyone to break the law when it concerned our kids, so why should school personnel be allowed to do so. All parents should have education choices and those should be supported. It is a shame that we have to feel as if we need to defend our choices to other parents. I support the choice of parents who have tried other placements and feel the BEST learning environment is self-contained or even a special school. Inclusion only works with proper supports and services. I don't break any laws (except speeding LOL). Civil laws are not taken as seriously as criminal laws. Too bad. Elaine Re: re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' > You are so right, Rick, about getting too much into the " rights' " of > the child. I have a friend who did this quite a few years ago. She has a > son with DS and then adopted another just a couple years younger. I think > they are in their early 30's now. They were constantly in court and fighting > with the schools for many years. Trouble was all the authorities from the > State Board of Education on down were so fed up with her that it just made > matters worse. She was determined that the boys stay in their local school, > in a small town. Fine. But she couldn't make them teach them anything and > that didn't really seem to be the goal. They still were not included. One > year their classroom was a closet. But as long as it was in court they had > to be kept there. I'm not sure they ever learned to read. To show the > extremes, they were supposed to go till they were 21, of course. Well, the > older boy's birthday was late in Sept. when he would be 21. So when school > started 2 or 3 weeks before that, she sent him. The school called the police > and he was removed from the building in handcuffs! She sent me the piece > from the paper with a picture and article about it. Now that was stupidity > on both sides. But they had been adversaries for so long they didn't know > how to stop. > That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " become more > important than education. > > Jessie, Mom to , 37 and the light of my life. > > > Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 In a message dated 6/18/2002 4:22:53 PM Eastern Daylight Time, b4alltoday@... writes: > where there is a BEACH heehee C'mon over! ;-) Cheryl in VA BEACH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Kathy, You are not going to have to go to court for Liam, I guarantee that. No one goes to court to get an appropiate placement for their child. you will be very prepared, very well informed and very determined to get what you want for Liam. You are doing very well now and will continue to know whats best for him. And when " they " know that they are faced with parents who are informed and determined, " they " will usually avoid due process. No one wants to be there. It's NYC, dont forget - LRE up the wassoo (what kind of word is that???). And when it's time, if you need or want help, the list will guide you and I am only a phone call away - and you know I know both sides of the fence - the parent and the teacher side. Keep looking at the schools and decide what you think will be the best for Liam and then present it that way when its time. ~ Mom to 11 DS and Diabetes Type 1 and 8 NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 Unfortunately what is wrong with this thinking is that it is wrong to expect the school district to comply with the law. There should not have to be a " fight " . And to stick two children in a closet and not teach them is down right sinful. A teacher takes on the job of " teaching " , to not do so because they don't want to or because they might have to learn something new says alot about the power that teachers as a whole hold. Why should parents not expect ,no demand, school districts to do their jobs according to the law. Where else in society can you hold a job and not do what the law says, and why should a parent who is fighting for what they believe is best for their child be stone-wallled and called a trouble maker. Isn't that the criminal putting the victim behind bars? If we as parents don't demand our districts to comply with the law, they will not. I don't believe in fighting for fighting sake. I have an extremely good relationship with my school district where my 4 other children have attended and have written many letters of praise to my superintendant on behalf of a number of exceptional teachers in our district. I would expect the same consideration on my behalf when it comes time to sit down to discuss what is best for my child. Yes best, be that included or not either way the option should be mine. After all It's the Law!!!! Just my two cents worth. Loree Re: re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' You are so right, Rick, about getting too much into the " rights' " of the child. I have a friend who did this quite a few years ago. She has a son with DS and then adopted another just a couple years younger. I think they are in their early 30's now. They were constantly in court and fighting with the schools for many years. Trouble was all the authorities from the State Board of Education on down were so fed up with her that it just made matters worse. She was determined that the boys stay in their local school, in a small town. Fine. But she couldn't make them teach them anything and that didn't really seem to be the goal. They still were not included. One year their classroom was a closet. But as long as it was in court they had to be kept there. I'm not sure they ever learned to read. To show the extremes, they were supposed to go till they were 21, of course. Well, the older boy's birthday was late in Sept. when he would be 21. So when school started 2 or 3 weeks before that, she sent him. The school called the police and he was removed from the building in handcuffs! She sent me the piece from the paper with a picture and article about it. Now that was stupidity on both sides. But they had been adversaries for so long they didn't know how to stop. That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " become more important than education. Jessie, Mom to , 37 and the light of my life. Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply for messages to go to the sender of the message. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 LOL! Wow...how nice to have the option of anywhere! Good luck narrowing it down. lol! Christie *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and Lily the cat!!! On Tue, 18 Jun 2002 16:21:34 EDT B4alltoday@... writes: HI Christie I am outside of Memphis, hoping to move to a more progressive part of the country for medical and educational reasons. Its OK here for elem grades but I foresee trouble when Sara hits middle school, for sure in HS. Truthfully Im in an area where parents work 24-7 to pay for their Lexis's, guess who's minding the store with the teens NO ONE. I really want to get out of here before my middle schooler gets to HS, I battled for 4 years with my older kids and don't want to go through it again lol I know areas like these exist every where, BUT I think I want to at least be in a different area lol maybe where there is a BEACH heehee Kathy mom to Sara 10 Christie *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and Lily the cat!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 At a recent DS support group meeting we had a visit from a pediatrician whose son is Autistic. He is fighting our school system and winning from what I understand. He was asking us to help him in his fight (signing a petition) since it would one day be our childrens issues if not addressed and fixed now. Christie *Momi* of Sara 9, Sabaa 6, Alia 5, Hana 3 mos (DS/AV Canal Defect) and Lily the cat!!! On Tue, 18 Jun 2002 16:19:00 -0500 loree <loree5@...> writes: > Unfortunately what is wrong with this thinking is that it is wrong to > expect the school district to comply with the law. There should not > have to be a " fight " . And to stick two children in a closet and not > teach them is down right sinful. A teacher takes on the job of > " teaching " , to not do so because they don't want to or because they > might have to learn something new says alot about the power that > teachers as a whole hold. Why should parents not expect ,no demand, > school districts to do their jobs according to the law. Where else > in society can you hold a job and not do what the law says, and why > should a parent who is fighting for what they believe is best for > their child be stone-wallled and called a trouble maker. Isn't that > the criminal putting the victim behind bars? If we as parents > don't demand our districts to comply with the law, they will not. I > don't believe in fighting for fighting sake. I have an extremely > good relationship with my school district where my 4 other children > have attended and have written many letters of praise to my > superintendant on behalf of a number of exceptional teachers in our > district. I would expect the same consideration on my behalf when > it comes time to sit down to discuss what is best for my child. Yes > best, be that included or not either way the option should be mine. > After all It's the Law!!!! Just my two cents worth. > > Loree > Re: re: inclusion, the law, and 'best for' > > > You are so right, Rick, about getting too much into the > " rights' " of > the child. I have a friend who did this quite a few years ago. > She has a > son with DS and then adopted another just a couple years younger. > I think > they are in their early 30's now. They were constantly in court > and fighting > with the schools for many years. Trouble was all the authorities > from the > State Board of Education on down were so fed up with her that it > just made > matters worse. She was determined that the boys stay in their > local school, > in a small town. Fine. But she couldn't make them teach them > anything and > that didn't really seem to be the goal. They still were not > included. One > year their classroom was a closet. But as long as it was in court > they had > to be kept there. I'm not sure they ever learned to read. To > show the > extremes, they were supposed to go till they were 21, of course. > Well, the > older boy's birthday was late in Sept. when he would be 21. So > when school > started 2 or 3 weeks before that, she sent him. The school called > the police > and he was removed from the building in handcuffs! She sent me > the piece > from the paper with a picture and article about it. Now that was > stupidity > on both sides. But they had been adversaries for so long they > didn't know > how to stop. > That is extreme but it's what can happen when " rights " > become more > important than education. > > Jessie, Mom to , 37 and the light of my life. > > Click reply to all for messages to go to the list. Just hit reply > for messages to go to the sender of the message. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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