Hello!

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/17/2004 10:30:09 AM Pacific Standard Time,

melephant55@... writes:

> A lady at the support group meeting last nite mentioned something about

> collecting disability while I'm out of work, but I need to find out more

> information about that, and maybe someone in the group could steer me in the

> direction I need to go to find out more about this as well.

Hi ,

Welcome to our group! I think you will be happy with your decision down the

road -- it's a hard one, isn't it?

Are you from CA? If you have been working in CA, you will be entitled to

state disability insurance. You will find them online at " State of CA, " or in

the phone book under state offices. You can apply online or by phone, with the

forms coming to your home and you take them to the doctor to finish filling

them out and return them.

Best of luck to you in getting all your arrangements in place.

Hugs and blessings, Ann

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 1/17/2004 10:30:09 AM Pacific Standard Time,

melephant55@... writes:

> A lady at the support group meeting last nite mentioned something about

> collecting disability while I'm out of work, but I need to find out more

> information about that, and maybe someone in the group could steer me in the

> direction I need to go to find out more about this as well.

Hi ,

Welcome to our group! I think you will be happy with your decision down the

road -- it's a hard one, isn't it?

Are you from CA? If you have been working in CA, you will be entitled to

state disability insurance. You will find them online at " State of CA, " or in

the phone book under state offices. You can apply online or by phone, with the

forms coming to your home and you take them to the doctor to finish filling

them out and return them.

Best of luck to you in getting all your arrangements in place.

Hugs and blessings, Ann

[Guest guest]

On Sat, 17 Jan 2004 21:05:49 EST, positivelyann@... wrote:

>You will find them online at " State of CA, " or in

>the phone book under state offices.

Try:

http://www.ca.gov/state/portal/myca_homepage.jsp

When the page comes up, click on Labor and Employment. That page has a link

to disability insurance info.

[Guest guest]

> My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery date

of March 25. My surgery will be open, rather than laprascopic, and

my current weight is approx 275#. I have battled being overweight

my entire life.

>

> I have to share with you that I had a previous surgery date in

December of last year, but got as far as the operating room doors,

and couldn't go through with it. After attending some support group

meetings, and talking with others who have had the surgery, we have

determined that probably what happened was the following:

>

> 1) I have never had surgery before

> 2) I was scheduled for the second surgery of the day, and I was

told to be at the hospital at 7:30 a.m., for an 8 a.m. surgery time,

but laid on the gurney waiting until 10:05 a.m. - a wait of 2 1/2

hours. This obviously gave me WAY too much time to think, since

there was nothing else to do but lay there

> 3) I also have learned, after talking with others, that I probably

wasn't sedated enough/

> long enough. By the time they took me to the doors of the

operating room, I was coming out of my skin, feeling extremely

anxious, and in quite a panic, was extremely emotional (even up to a

week after leaving the hospital facility), and all I wanted to do

was get all the tubes out of my body and get as far away from there

as possible as quickly as I could. I was such a mess that my

support person had to drive us home, because I just plain couldn't

function.

>

> In any event, I've done a lot more research, studying, sharing,

talking with those who have been there, done that, and believe I am

now ready to take the plunge again in March. I will also make sure

that they keep me well sedated, and don't let me come out of it so I

won't start feeling anxious and panicky.

>

> I did learn that there was another lady who went through exactly

the same thing I did, even going so far as to pull the IV's, etc out

herself while she was at the operating room doors. I would very

much like the opportunity to speak to her, and I have a friend who

knows her who gave her my phone number so we could share

experiences. She has since had the surgery, and from what I

understand, she is thrilled she did it, and would do it again.

That's encouraging for me to know/hear.

>

> I am also a single mother, and I have great concerns about being

off work for probably a month (hopefully less), with no income

coming in. I would love to talk with others who have possibly been

in the same situation, and what they did to get though that time

> financially. A lady at the support group meeting last nite

mentioned something about collecting disability while I'm out of

work, but I need to find out more information about that, and maybe

someone in the group could steer me in the direction I need to go to

find out more about this as well.

>

Thankfully for me, at my job, there is a " Leave of Absence

Coordinator " . I just found out about this. My job also has a

benefit called " Disability Reserve " in addition to " Earned Time

Off " . I'm told that California pays up to $620/week for

disability. Considering I make a little over twice that in gross

income, my Disability Reserve will make up the difference between

what the state pays and my normal gross income. I'll actually come

out a little better, since the DR makes up for gross after state

disability and the state money is untaxed. I have enough DR and ETO

to last me a little over 4 months if needed and still make the same

as if I was working. This will allow me to continue paying rent,

utilities and other monthly obligations (i.e. subscriptions to

services like satellite TV and satellite radio). I'm also told that

I have absolutely no risk of losing my job for being gone for an

extended period of time. There is such a HUGE demand for my

qualifications, that my employer doesn't want to lose me. I like

them and they like me.... I'm happy with that for now. Some of my co-

workers have told me to " milk " the system for all I can, but I don't

think I want to. They will be hiring a " traveler " to replace me

while I'm gone, and those contracts are usually for 3 months. I

also have two co-workers that are pregnant and will also be going on

leave just about the time I'm coming back... one may be leaving

about the same time as me due to history of gestational

hypertension.

[Guest guest]

> My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery date

of March 25. My surgery will be open, rather than laprascopic, and

my current weight is approx 275#. I have battled being overweight

my entire life.

>

> I have to share with you that I had a previous surgery date in

December of last year, but got as far as the operating room doors,

and couldn't go through with it. After attending some support group

meetings, and talking with others who have had the surgery, we have

determined that probably what happened was the following:

>

> 1) I have never had surgery before

> 2) I was scheduled for the second surgery of the day, and I was

told to be at the hospital at 7:30 a.m., for an 8 a.m. surgery time,

but laid on the gurney waiting until 10:05 a.m. - a wait of 2 1/2

hours. This obviously gave me WAY too much time to think, since

there was nothing else to do but lay there

> 3) I also have learned, after talking with others, that I probably

wasn't sedated enough/

> long enough. By the time they took me to the doors of the

operating room, I was coming out of my skin, feeling extremely

anxious, and in quite a panic, was extremely emotional (even up to a

week after leaving the hospital facility), and all I wanted to do

was get all the tubes out of my body and get as far away from there

as possible as quickly as I could. I was such a mess that my

support person had to drive us home, because I just plain couldn't

function.

>

> In any event, I've done a lot more research, studying, sharing,

talking with those who have been there, done that, and believe I am

now ready to take the plunge again in March. I will also make sure

that they keep me well sedated, and don't let me come out of it so I

won't start feeling anxious and panicky.

>

> I did learn that there was another lady who went through exactly

the same thing I did, even going so far as to pull the IV's, etc out

herself while she was at the operating room doors. I would very

much like the opportunity to speak to her, and I have a friend who

knows her who gave her my phone number so we could share

experiences. She has since had the surgery, and from what I

understand, she is thrilled she did it, and would do it again.

That's encouraging for me to know/hear.

>

> I am also a single mother, and I have great concerns about being

off work for probably a month (hopefully less), with no income

coming in. I would love to talk with others who have possibly been

in the same situation, and what they did to get though that time

> financially. A lady at the support group meeting last nite

mentioned something about collecting disability while I'm out of

work, but I need to find out more information about that, and maybe

someone in the group could steer me in the direction I need to go to

find out more about this as well.

>

Thankfully for me, at my job, there is a " Leave of Absence

Coordinator " . I just found out about this. My job also has a

benefit called " Disability Reserve " in addition to " Earned Time

Off " . I'm told that California pays up to $620/week for

disability. Considering I make a little over twice that in gross

income, my Disability Reserve will make up the difference between

what the state pays and my normal gross income. I'll actually come

out a little better, since the DR makes up for gross after state

disability and the state money is untaxed. I have enough DR and ETO

to last me a little over 4 months if needed and still make the same

as if I was working. This will allow me to continue paying rent,

utilities and other monthly obligations (i.e. subscriptions to

services like satellite TV and satellite radio). I'm also told that

I have absolutely no risk of losing my job for being gone for an

extended period of time. There is such a HUGE demand for my

qualifications, that my employer doesn't want to lose me. I like

them and they like me.... I'm happy with that for now. Some of my co-

workers have told me to " milk " the system for all I can, but I don't

think I want to. They will be hiring a " traveler " to replace me

while I'm gone, and those contracts are usually for 3 months. I

also have two co-workers that are pregnant and will also be going on

leave just about the time I'm coming back... one may be leaving

about the same time as me due to history of gestational

hypertension.

[Guest guest]

--- In , " bigronwebb " >

Thankfully for me, at my job, there is a " Leave of Absence

> Coordinator " . I just found out about this. My job also has a

> benefit called " Disability Reserve " in addition to " Earned Time

> Off " . I'm told that California pays up to $620/week for

> disability.

I guess I had the " 2 " in the wrong spot, it is $602/week, not

$620/week... an insignificant differnce, but just for accuracy I

decided to make a correction. The amount varies by what your

quarterly income is... $602/week is the max they will pay, which I

qualify for. See http://www.edd.ca.gov/direp/dicfp-wba.pdf for the

chart (for those in California.)

[Guest guest]

Congratulations on your new date, !

I think having weightloss surgery is a major decision for anyone. That you

needed new time to think about it... well, you needed more time!

Be sure to take their pill to relax you... it should help with the anxiety

right there at the end.

And... before you know it... you'll wake up to be a " shrinking " woman!

Elle **

Hello!

> My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery date of

March 25.... I have to share with you that I had a previous surgery date

in December of last year, but got as far as the operating room doors, and

couldn't go through with it.

[Guest guest]

Congratulations on your new date, !

I think having weightloss surgery is a major decision for anyone. That you

needed new time to think about it... well, you needed more time!

Be sure to take their pill to relax you... it should help with the anxiety

right there at the end.

And... before you know it... you'll wake up to be a " shrinking " woman!

Elle **

Hello!

> My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery date of

March 25.... I have to share with you that I had a previous surgery date

in December of last year, but got as far as the operating room doors, and

couldn't go through with it.

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I had Dr. K do my ds on 3/27/02. I also was extrememly nervous right

up to the time I got onto the operating table. The pre op nurses

gave me " happy juice " in my IV. One time wasn't enough, so they gave

me more. I was pretty much loopy after that, which was exactly what

I needed, my family says I was anyway. I had studied the ds for more

than a year before my day. I had everything in place as far as my

kids, after care, etc. and I was still a mess. I'm so glad I was

able to go ahead and do it, but if I didn't that would have been OK

too. It just wasn't the right time for you, and you listened to

yourself. Now you're probably more prepared. It's a very scary

thing to do-walk into a hospital feeling fine, MO, but fine- and

know that you'll be having surgery. But it was so worth it in the

long run. So many things about my everyday life are better.

Remember that you're taking a positive step to better yourself, and

your child. It's not easy, but it works. It gets easier every day

until you're back to your normal everyday life-only better!!

Keep posting and reading. I still read almost everyday. I learn so

much and get so much support here. The people here are caring and

wonderful.

Take Care,

Carol

3/27/02

327 pre op

185 now

Chuck (husband)

11/13/03

335

210

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I had Dr. K do my ds on 3/27/02. I also was extrememly nervous right

up to the time I got onto the operating table. The pre op nurses

gave me " happy juice " in my IV. One time wasn't enough, so they gave

me more. I was pretty much loopy after that, which was exactly what

I needed, my family says I was anyway. I had studied the ds for more

than a year before my day. I had everything in place as far as my

kids, after care, etc. and I was still a mess. I'm so glad I was

able to go ahead and do it, but if I didn't that would have been OK

too. It just wasn't the right time for you, and you listened to

yourself. Now you're probably more prepared. It's a very scary

thing to do-walk into a hospital feeling fine, MO, but fine- and

know that you'll be having surgery. But it was so worth it in the

long run. So many things about my everyday life are better.

Remember that you're taking a positive step to better yourself, and

your child. It's not easy, but it works. It gets easier every day

until you're back to your normal everyday life-only better!!

Keep posting and reading. I still read almost everyday. I learn so

much and get so much support here. The people here are caring and

wonderful.

Take Care,

Carol

3/27/02

327 pre op

185 now

Chuck (husband)

11/13/03

335

210

[Guest guest]

,

I completely understand your fears. I too was second in line for

surgery and the wait got longer and longer - the happy meds wore off

and I nearly walked out of surgery myself. I called my husband to

come get me (he was at the hotel with our two young daughters). I

bargained with God that if he walked in with my clothes I would get

dressed and walk out - and proceed to Mcs! When he walked in he

didn't have my clothes - only the diaper bag. I asked him where my

clothes were - he said " I didn't bring them. " I had surgery. Later I

found out they were in the car - if I had known that I would have had

them run out and get them. So by a simple statement that left off the

word " in " - I had surgery and have had no regrets! WOuld do it again

in a heart beat. At surgery time I was 36 with a 2 year old and

kindergartener - very scary. I weighed 264 - my high being 280-290 in

1999. This morning I weighed 153. I am SO glad I didn't walk out.

Just want you to know I understand your fears and it is ok to be

afraid!! Prayer helped me a lot!

hugs, cindy lee in fort worth texas

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the list ! I'm Melisa too! I'm a post-op, with three

kids, and a wonderful hubby! I've lost almost 150 pounds, my diabetes is

gone as is my high blood pressure. I'm looking forward to my Tummy Tuck

next month!

Welcome!

Melisa Rechenmacher

Independent Pampered Chef Kitchen Consultant # 370710

For more information e-mail me at:

KitchenStore2urdoor@...

or call 661-726-9744

[Guest guest]

Elle,

Thanks for the words of support - I really appreciate it.

I'm really looking forward to the surgery, and there's no way I won't

go through with it this next time!

> Congratulations on your new date, !

>

> I think having weightloss surgery is a major decision for anyone.

That you

> needed new time to think about it... well, you needed more time!

>

> Be sure to take their pill to relax you... it should help with the

anxiety

> right there at the end.

>

> And... before you know it... you'll wake up to be a " shrinking "

woman!

>

> Elle **

>

> Hello!

>

>

> > My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery

date of

> March 25.... I have to share with you that I had a previous

surgery date

> in December of last year, but got as far as the operating room

doors, and

> couldn't go through with it.

[Guest guest]

Elle,

Thanks for the words of support - I really appreciate it.

I'm really looking forward to the surgery, and there's no way I won't

go through with it this next time!

> Congratulations on your new date, !

>

> I think having weightloss surgery is a major decision for anyone.

That you

> needed new time to think about it... well, you needed more time!

>

> Be sure to take their pill to relax you... it should help with the

anxiety

> right there at the end.

>

> And... before you know it... you'll wake up to be a " shrinking "

woman!

>

> Elle **

>

> Hello!

>

>

> > My name is , and I am currently preop, with a surgery

date of

> March 25.... I have to share with you that I had a previous

surgery date

> in December of last year, but got as far as the operating room

doors, and

> couldn't go through with it.

[Guest guest]

> How is everyone? I have not been able to get online for a week!

It may be

> another week or even two before I can get on here again.

> I go for my CDL class A truck driving license on the 30th.

> I have 5 weeks of school left to go in Shafter.

Anne,

You're going to school to be a truck driver? OTR or local? I've

always wanted to do that...well, at least since 1990. But don't

think I ever will cuz I would never go on the road alone, don't have

a significant other, and there are not many single woman truckers.

lol But I looooove the smell of diesel fumes. It gets in your

blood, ya know. (Use to date a trucker for 6 years...long

story...don't ask.)

Hugs,

Laurie

[Guest guest]

Yay!! i know it sounds silly, but I'm glad that you're going to do

it, because you work so damn hard I feel like you NEED a break now

and then. If I was there I'd be shoving plates of BOTH enchilladas

and sushi at you right now. Can you have half of each?

> hope everyone has a great saturday. I am going to indulge in one

> cheat meal today, either sushi or enchiladas.......HAH! Total ends

of

> the spectrum.

>

> Its that soy sauce and wasabi..........or melting cheese......LOL

[Guest guest]

Yay!! i know it sounds silly, but I'm glad that you're going to do

it, because you work so damn hard I feel like you NEED a break now

and then. If I was there I'd be shoving plates of BOTH enchilladas

and sushi at you right now. Can you have half of each?

> hope everyone has a great saturday. I am going to indulge in one

> cheat meal today, either sushi or enchiladas.......HAH! Total ends

of

> the spectrum.

>

> Its that soy sauce and wasabi..........or melting cheese......LOL

[Guest guest]

HEHEHE!

I have to say, I didnt cheat today.

I did have a mocha from starbucks though..........

n , zesprii_75 <no_reply@y...>

wrote:

> Yay!! i know it sounds silly, but I'm glad that you're going to do

> it, because you work so damn hard I feel like you NEED a break now

> and then. If I was there I'd be shoving plates of BOTH enchilladas

> and sushi at you right now. Can you have half of each?

>

>

>

>

> > hope everyone has a great saturday. I am going to indulge in one

> > cheat meal today, either sushi or enchiladas.......HAH! Total

ends

> of

> > the spectrum.

> >

> > Its that soy sauce and wasabi..........or melting cheese......LOL

[Guest guest]

Hi and Welcome!! Is he in a regular classroom and if so does he have/need an aide or shadow? Don't worry you're not alone. What types of things is he lying about?

Also are you doing any bio-medical treatments or therapies there are some that can help greatly.

In a message dated 3/31/2004 11:52:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, robinson@... writes:

Hi:I have a son who was diagnosed with PDD at the age of about 3; he has been on this MAJOR lying spree and it doesn't seem to want to end. His short term memory seems to be getting worse, his effort in school is about nonexistent, and his social skills seem to be getting worse also. He is basically a victim of the other, more "savvy" 3rd graders. Needless to say, I'm pulling my hair out. I was glad to find this forum, since I feel quite alone; I don't know any other moms who are going through this with a special needs child and I'd just like to know I'm not alone. If you have any tips or advise, please feel free to email me! Thanks for listening, and God bless!

[Guest guest]

Hi and Welcome!! Is he in a regular classroom and if so does he have/need an aide or shadow? Don't worry you're not alone. What types of things is he lying about?

Also are you doing any bio-medical treatments or therapies there are some that can help greatly.

In a message dated 3/31/2004 11:52:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, robinson@... writes:

Hi:I have a son who was diagnosed with PDD at the age of about 3; he has been on this MAJOR lying spree and it doesn't seem to want to end. His short term memory seems to be getting worse, his effort in school is about nonexistent, and his social skills seem to be getting worse also. He is basically a victim of the other, more "savvy" 3rd graders. Needless to say, I'm pulling my hair out. I was glad to find this forum, since I feel quite alone; I don't know any other moms who are going through this with a special needs child and I'd just like to know I'm not alone. If you have any tips or advise, please feel free to email me! Thanks for listening, and God bless!

[Guest guest]

How old is he?

Lying is a behavior just like any behavior, and for an autie (in my experience) is more difficult to deal with because of the lack of understanding of actioni/consequence.

My daughter is in 3rd grade also, and I had to have "social skills training" put into her IEP. She attends a social skills group run by the school counselor (which I don't think existed until we had it put in the IEP).

They need to help facilitate his social awareness. Does he receive OT? Speech? These help also, GREATLY!

Penny

~Accept what nature provides and celebrate the differences~

April is Autism Awareness Month

Quoted from a person with Aspergers - "We're fine if you put us into the right environment. But when the person and the environment don't match, we seem disabled" - Newsweek, Sept. 8, 2003

-----Original Message-----From: lqimani [mailto:robinson@...]Sent: Wednesday, March 31, 2004 9:49 AMautism Subject: Hello!Hi:I have a son who was diagnosed with PDD at the age of about 3; he has been on this MAJOR lying spree and it doesn't seem to want to end. His short term memory seems to be getting worse, his effort in school is about nonexistent, and his social skills seem to be getting worse also. He is basically a victim of the other, more "savvy" 3rd graders. Needless to say, I'm pulling my hair out. I was glad to find this forum, since I feel quite alone; I don't know any other moms who are going through this with a special needs child and I'd just like to know I'm not alone. If you have any tips or advise, please feel free to email me! Thanks for listening, and God bless!

[Guest guest]

Welcome, Kory!

This is a great group of knowledgeable, strong women. If you have

any specific questions, I'm sure someone here can help you. But for

general information, the BFL book will be the best source of

information. Good luck with your journey!

Gardner C2W3D1

Tastefully Simple Team Leader

ville, IN ID#4254

When I work, it's a party!

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> Hello everyone, my name is Kory, and I want to start following the

> body for life principles. I thought this group would be a great

way

> to help with ideas, advice, and motivation. If anyone has any

ideas

> for a beginer, please e-mail me!

[Guest guest]

Yeah Nevin - first member LOL

Have you ever tried enzymes? We were able to leave the diet with them, helped with gut bugs (even control it all now) and we saw the biggest gains we have had so far with them - HNI

enzymestuff.com

houstonni.com

here hoping we get some TD-DMPS soon

Mandi in Dorset

My name is Nevin, I live in LOndon.My son is 11 years old.He has been on GF/CF and low sugar diets for many years.He was on anti fungal treatment for 2 years.He made some improvements as a result of these interventions but not greatly!

[Guest guest]

Re: Hello!

Hello Mandi,

Yes, he has been taken enzymes since summer.He is taken AFP peptizyde. But I am not exactly following the right dose which was recommended our nutritionist consultant.Because whenever I give the enzyme to him, after a short time he holds his tummy.My son is very sensitive to react supplements/medicines.I tried to give up Casein Free diet during the summer period.he was great for a couple of weeks, his energy level rocketed, but he started responding slowly on his programmes after the three weeks! Perhaps I didn't use the enzymes correctly, I suppose.

At present I give him ezymes when I give him goat yoghurt/cheese alittle bit.Did you stop gluten free diet, how did you do it?Which grain did you start with and how did your child react?I would like to try but ..My son is very skinny that's why I would like to stop all these diets..

Nevin

[Guest guest]

Hi Nevin

Yes, he has been taken enzymes since summer.He is taken AFP peptizyde. But I am not exactly following the right dose which was recommended our nutritionist consultant.Because whenever I give the enzyme to him, after a short time he holds his tummy.My son is very sensitive to react supplements/medicines.I tried to give up Casein Free diet during the summer period.he was great for a couple of weeks, his energy level rocketed, but he started responding slowly on his programmes after the three weeks! Perhaps I didn't use the enzymes correctly, I suppose.

>>You need to give them with all food, however many times per day that may be. To start with you should do a small amount with one meal per day, settle out, then another meal and so on until he's getting some with each lot of food, then try increasing, take it slowly. AFP and Houston in general, help with yeast and viral issues. I suspect one or the other may have been the issue when you challenged. Alternatively most casein stuff our kids wnat to eat s also high phenol. Do you do Epsom Salts baths?

At present I give him ezymes when I give him goat yoghurt/cheese alittle bit.Did you stop gluten free diet, how did you do it?

>>>Yes we stopped the diet the day the Houston arrived LOL however, that is not how I woudl recommend anybody else do it. Sam was mega hyper until I realised that I was increasing his sugar intake exponentially along with the C & G - DUH! We pulled back hard on the sugar but still had an extended period of hyper which then tunred out to be a chronic yeast die off. We attacked that and then he shined through

We use the enzymes still 3.5 years later, not specially for foodbut we use them for general health benefit, phenols (No fenol) and gut bug defense (Pep and Candex).

Which grain did you start with and how did your child react?I

would like to try but ..My son is very skinny that's why I would like to stop all these diets.

>>I don't blame you ! Many se the enzymes along with the diet so it doesn;t have to be one or the other. Better to get him settled out on enzymes (usually a month) and then try the odd challenge and see how you go. The CFGF doesn;t heal the gut the way its believed to IMHO, enzymes make sure he is able to digest the nurients from his food and heal the gut so they do two jobs in one

If you aren;t already a member the enzymes group is very good (way more than enzymes discussed - and they aren;t anti-diet like the diet groups are about enzymes LOL)

Link for that group and heaps of info on

enzymestuff.com

HTHMandi in Dorset UK