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Report post · October 12, 2005

> coming up with the finished fragrances has been more

> difficult than I envisioned, #1 because I've set my

> standards high,

Kathy,

First of all - welcome to this wonderful forum (I have been away when

you have introduced yourself, and Anya and I had just a conversation

this morning on the phone; I mentioned distilling local plants and she

told me about you!).

As for the high standards challenge - it's a good one to always have,

so don't give up!

Take your time; Perfumes need time - both physically and mentally to

develop. You will never regret waiting until you get the right thing,

as opposed to trying to sell the first thing that you blend...

And of course - the perfumes themselves need the time to mature and

evolve...

This a challenge in our profession - responding quickly to trends but

also maintining a high quality of the final product. Remember that the

good things stay around for a long time - so it's worth the investments...

and #2 because it is more difficult than it

> seems to make something other than a simple 3-5 note EO

> fragrance.

I am sure we can be of help - you will meet many talented perfumers

here with plenty of expereince creating complex and rich compositions

with as many oils as needed.

However, don't forget that simplicity is sometimes that key -

sometimes less is more. Some of my most beautiful creations contain

only 5 essences. It's a matter of knowhing which ones to put together

and the right proportions.

> I want to incorporate unique indigenous plant EO's, thus

> making them truly 'Alaskan', so have been learning the art

> of distilling several select plants in my area, with the

> small distiller sold on ebay. I want each fragrance to

> incorporate at least one indigenous plant. That is the key

> to the success of such a line as mine in a gift-type store.

> I have been searching for a group such as this I could

> learn from, and share with. I've been going through the

> archives a little bit the last two days to get a feel for

> this group, and I must say, I'm both very happy to be a

> part of it, and impressed. I think I may have to sit at the

> feet of the masters here a little bit, which is an

> apprenticeship I've been looking for.

> Kathy

> Flathorn Lake, AK

This is incredible!

I have never been to Alaska, and this is a wonderful idea!

I have just recently met an herbalist (and a former aromatherapist to

who made bespoke perufmes about ten years ago in antoher province in

Canada), who has her own distilery (she can make 1oz at a time for

medicinal purposes). She also makes the most amazing teas... But

that's not the point

I am going to distill local plants with her assitance - she wild

harvests wild roses and many other herbs in the woods and mountainly s

around here, and has plenty of knowledge of their properties.

I want to make some special perfumes that are unique to where I live

(as I spend most of my time trying to create scents of my homeland -

scents that usually cannot grow here, and it makes me sad that I don't

know the plants here as much as I do in Israel).

This can be a powerful bridge for me personally to feel more at home

in my new home (I was born in Canada but raised in Israel, where I

know all the names and scents of the plants... It's hard to accumulate

this kind of knowledge when coming to a new country and living in a

city!).

I would like to hear more from you, Kathy, about your future

distillation projects. You are doing something truly unique and

genuine, and I am also very curious to hear what the plants in Alaska

are like!

Warm regards,

Ayala Sender

Perfumer & Owner

Quinta Essentia Signature Perfumes Inc.

http://www.Quinta-Essentia.ca E-mail: Ayala@...

Signature Perfumes ~ Perfumed Jewelery ~ Fragrance Consultant On-Line

Report post · October 12, 2005

> coming up with the finished fragrances has been more

> difficult than I envisioned, #1 because I've set my

> standards high,

Kathy,

First of all - welcome to this wonderful forum (I have been away when

you have introduced yourself, and Anya and I had just a conversation

this morning on the phone; I mentioned distilling local plants and she

told me about you!).

As for the high standards challenge - it's a good one to always have,

so don't give up!

Take your time; Perfumes need time - both physically and mentally to

develop. You will never regret waiting until you get the right thing,

as opposed to trying to sell the first thing that you blend...

And of course - the perfumes themselves need the time to mature and

evolve...

This a challenge in our profession - responding quickly to trends but

also maintining a high quality of the final product. Remember that the

good things stay around for a long time - so it's worth the investments...

and #2 because it is more difficult than it

> seems to make something other than a simple 3-5 note EO

> fragrance.

I am sure we can be of help - you will meet many talented perfumers

here with plenty of expereince creating complex and rich compositions

with as many oils as needed.

However, don't forget that simplicity is sometimes that key -

sometimes less is more. Some of my most beautiful creations contain

only 5 essences. It's a matter of knowhing which ones to put together

and the right proportions.

> I want to incorporate unique indigenous plant EO's, thus

> making them truly 'Alaskan', so have been learning the art

> of distilling several select plants in my area, with the

> small distiller sold on ebay. I want each fragrance to

> incorporate at least one indigenous plant. That is the key

> to the success of such a line as mine in a gift-type store.

> I have been searching for a group such as this I could

> learn from, and share with. I've been going through the

> archives a little bit the last two days to get a feel for

> this group, and I must say, I'm both very happy to be a

> part of it, and impressed. I think I may have to sit at the

> feet of the masters here a little bit, which is an

> apprenticeship I've been looking for.

> Kathy

> Flathorn Lake, AK

This is incredible!

I have never been to Alaska, and this is a wonderful idea!

I have just recently met an herbalist (and a former aromatherapist to

who made bespoke perufmes about ten years ago in antoher province in

Canada), who has her own distilery (she can make 1oz at a time for

medicinal purposes). She also makes the most amazing teas... But

that's not the point

I am going to distill local plants with her assitance - she wild

harvests wild roses and many other herbs in the woods and mountainly s

around here, and has plenty of knowledge of their properties.

I want to make some special perfumes that are unique to where I live

(as I spend most of my time trying to create scents of my homeland -

scents that usually cannot grow here, and it makes me sad that I don't

know the plants here as much as I do in Israel).

This can be a powerful bridge for me personally to feel more at home

in my new home (I was born in Canada but raised in Israel, where I

know all the names and scents of the plants... It's hard to accumulate

this kind of knowledge when coming to a new country and living in a

city!).

I would like to hear more from you, Kathy, about your future

distillation projects. You are doing something truly unique and

genuine, and I am also very curious to hear what the plants in Alaska

are like!

Warm regards,

Ayala Sender

Perfumer & Owner

Quinta Essentia Signature Perfumes Inc.

http://www.Quinta-Essentia.ca E-mail: Ayala@...

Signature Perfumes ~ Perfumed Jewelery ~ Fragrance Consultant On-Line

Report post · November 17, 2005

This advise was right on target. We have done the same thing and have gotten wonderful results. Welcome !

CB's Granny

Report post · November 17, 2005

“In fact, I have gotten the

message from school that he is too smart to be in

special ed, but his behavior is too bad to go in

regular classes (duh, that's why

he's in special ed).”

Special education classes are not solely

designed for kids who are “not smart enough” for regular

classes. Special education is there when the child needs to learn in a

different environment or with modifications that are not available through

regular education.

”In any case, the problems are, screaming, from frustration,

or from not getting

his way; running away; aggressiveness toward his

22 month old sister; and of

course, toilet training. I would appreciate any

advice or experience on how to

deal with these issues. We have tried most

everything we can think of with no

results. I think a lot of the behavior is do to

either communication problems or

sensory integration problems, but we can't seem to

make any progress in

these areas.”

This sounds very much like what we were

dealing with my five-year-old son who is PDDNOS. We, in fact, did

inpatient psychiatry to adjust medications, which was a big help. But,

now after only 5 weeks of being on the new meds and having a VERY consistent,

structured approach to discipline we have our boy back. He’s happy

most of the time and there is virtually no hitting or screaming or time-outs.

In fact, we went from about 3-4 rages a day to not even having to enforce a

time-out in the past week. Amazing. AND, we’re beginning to

wean off some of the meds and are still seeing positive behavior.

Here’s what we do for

discipline. It sounds horrible for a little kid, but we’re proof

that it works. Lock up ALL his toys, yes even his favorites. We put

a deadbolt on the closet in his room and removed everything off the shelves

leaving just his bed pretty much. We even locked up his outside toys

(bicycle, motorcycle, etc.) and put locks at the tops of all the doors leading

outside so that he couldn’t go outside to play unless he “earned it”.

He has to earn three stickers (or stamps or whatever you choose, just be sure

that it is visual so that he can see his progress) and then he gets to go to

the closet and choose a toy or can choose to ride his bike, etc. Once he

earns something he’s got it for the rest of the day unless he abuses it.

For example, if he is riding his bike and gets mad and jumps off to push the

bike over then the bike goes back in the locked garage and he can earn it again

after three stickers. At the end of the day when he goes to sleep, all

the toys are locked up again and it starts over.

He can earn stickers for just about

anything that resembles positive behavior. Using nice words (please,

thank you), helping sister (we have a 16 month old), closing the door softly,

following directions when asked, really whatever you choose and feel is

important to your family. Just be consistent in rewarding the positive

behavior.

When he displays negative behavior we first

determine if its something that can be ignored and why. For example, he’s

whining and not following directions when asked. This usually happens

after school and I know that he’s worn out so I try not to expect too

much for about 30 minutes or so. If its not something that can be ignored

we do this (and it took about an entire day for him to get it and know that we

were serious): Say, “Tristan, it’s time to go inside.”

He doesn’t come. Wait a few seconds. “Tristan, that’s

one.” He doesn’t come. Wait a few seconds. “Tristan,

that’s two, it’s time to go inside.” He doesn’t

come. Wait a few seconds. “Tristan, if I get to three you’re

going to have to do a sit-out.” He doesn’t come. You go

over and get him, kicking a screaming and take him to a room in the house that

you have designated for him to do sit-outs. We use him room since we’ve

already removed all the toys and there’s nothing in there that he can

mess up. Then put him in the room and tell him that the sit-out is over

when he can be “criss-cross applesauce and quiet as a mouse until he

hears the beep” meaning that he sits with his legs crossed and is

quiet. I stay in the room with my son. It’s very important

that you completely ignore whatever he does to try to get your attention.

My son would kick the door, tee tee on the floor, take off all his clothes,

etc. Don’t make eye contact with him when he does those things and

don’t acknowledge that he’s even done them (after the sit-out is

over you can tell him that he has to clean up the tee tee on the floor). Periodically,

every 2-3 minutes or so, say, “Tristan, I’m waiting to see

criss-cross applesauce, quiet as a mouse.” There shouldn’t be

any extra communication and I’ve found that it helps to say EXACTLY the

same statement. If he starts to be aggressive towards you tell him, “If

you are going to hurt me then I’m going to have to leave the room.”

After I left him in there by himself a few times (I would be standing right

outside the door) all the hitting mom stopped.

My son also has communication

delays and sensory issues and this approach has worked. It’s tough

love and it took about a month to get it down but it worked for us. We’ve

been able to be a little less stringent about removing all the toys.

Right now, if he has a good day at school he gets to play with his outside toys

and swings, and if he doesn’t have a good day then we stay inside and he

can earn those toys.

I hope this helps.

I was very reluctant to try it since it really was a huge pain in the rear to “set

up” as far as locking doors and installing locks and I thought it was

cruel for him not to be able to play with his toys and that not having them was

going to make his behavior even worse. But, it’s made such a

difference for our family. The screaming and yelling and hitting all day

is gone. There was a time (actually, prior to August) that I’d lost

hope of that ever happening.

Let me know if you decide

to try it and if you need more information.

Take care,

Mom to C (5) –

PDDNOS, Mood Disorder NOS, seizures and M (16 months) - NT

Report post · November 17, 2005