Re: Deb M - Canes

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Hola, Nutty!

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear that. I do feel like I

have to fit for my right to PARTY, and to have as full and normal a

life as I can. I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets the " you're too

young to be disabled/need a cane look. " I wish using a cane proved to

co-workers, etc., what I've been saying all along - " I'm in constant

pain that I choose to ignore most of the time " and no I don't want to

talk about it with you or find out about your relative who cured her

back pain or your miracle cure you read about on the internet.

I'm glad you are using a wheelchair if you need it! Listen to me,

encouraging others to get the help they need, but so hard to do it

myself. <sigh>

I did order a nice cane though, so it will feel more like an

accessory. <smile>

Deb

>

> Hola Deb

>

> Sorry for the late reply to your post about canes but I have been

away in

> the UK, I drafted the email while I was away but wasn't able to

send it in

> to you.

>

> I know how you feel hun, I am 29 and I too gave in last week and

bought

> myself a walking stick, I am on holiday at the moment in the UK and

had to

> resort to a wheelchair for the time here because of late I have

been in

> immense pain and not been able to walk anywhere, I just cannot

support

> myself right now.

>

> I have been shocked at the reactions I have been getting from

people as they

> walk by my, can't help but stare at me..............must be

jealous! LOL.

> And I never noticed that the human race was like that towards

disabled or

> part disabled people............it's a disgrace really.

>

> But you know what, sometimes the hardest thing to do is actually

admit to

> yourself that you need that support and help so I totally

understand how you

> feel, getting over that hurdle for me was the biggest fear, always

telling

> myself I am OK and don't need help. I am such a stubborn cow at

times so it

> took a while for me to just go down the shop and buy one and then

use it in

> public, this week in the UK has made that slot into place for me as

I have

> had to use it in public because of all the places we have been

going to and

> the family that we have been visiting.

>

> I am going on a course tomorrow and I am not looking forward to

that, people

> being shocked at my age and having all these aids, when looking at

me you

> wouldn't think anything was wrong..............pride eh! I have

always been

> such a confident and outgoing person and I felt that was slipping

away from

> me and I am desperately clinging onto who I am supposed to be, it

is hard

> but I will NOT lose face and I will still continue to be me with or

without

> my cane.

>

> When I get back to Spain I am going to get a pink one made with a

fluffy

> handle so it is more of an accessory than an aid and that will make

me feel

> better, who knows I will start a trend and everyone will want one

LOL

> Might as well stand out if people wish to stare.

>

> Chin up and don't let it get you down, together we will fight for

the right

> to paaartyyyyyyy!

>

> Hey at least now when someone is rude or needs a slap you have

something

> that can hurt that will save your nails from any damage!

>

> Take care and all the best

>

> Nutty

>