Acceptance

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Dear Willow I moderate two sites tremblinghearts and singledadsforsinglemoms they are both . I worked very hard trying to help the owner which I guess I was having thoughts of grandeur I have been crying for two days now. Apparently I wasn't doing what he wanted although I must have misunderstood him and the attraction which was strong for him I was told he doesn't want me kinda thing. Life is hard and yes I believe everything has its reason I just wish I would stop falling over my feet trying to get to that reason. Lots of love Hugs Willow <writewillow@...> wrote: Dear ,(((hugs))) Some

things I don't think we'll ever makesense of. I am SO sorry for the difficult things youhave gone through. They were, indeed, senseless, evencriminal. I'm at the point where I truly have noregrets about anything that has happened to me becauseit has made me who I am. That has been the only way tomake any sense of some of what has happened. It issmall comfort some days, like when I check my creditreport and realize that I have a lousy rating becauseof bills my husband didn't pay, even though I left him$35,000 to pay everything off with. Life is STILLbetter now, without him, with my small home that isME. My art, my scents, my music - all things that Iwas forbidden for years.; )Willow--- Buergerhoff <forevermylove50 >wrote:> Dear Willow > > Yes it was hell for me the aggression was>

severe and my husband passing on was so hard on me> to begin with. Do I think my family has bi-polar> throughout heck yes. My father used to say watch out> for the moon to change about my mother. He was a> quiet man and very loving. And as my brother used to> say my father had a huge amount of patience. I> didn't need the operation being so messed up and> trying to deal with my son being in the condition he> was in. I sure and heck didn't need my x-fiancee> walking out with my husbands life insurance money.> Or the pastor having everything tossed out because> it was possessed one day I hope to understand it> all. > > > Hugs > > Toni Chester <tonichesterearthlink (DOT) net> wrote:> Willow,> > Thank you for that explanation of Bipolar II. I> had been diagnosed as

bipolar several years ago> after describing to my psych how prozac affected me.> I could never understand how I could be bipolar as> I really truly don't have a "mania" period. This> now explains a lot. This sounds just like me. My> mania is when I appear normal but spend more than I> should. Most of the time I am deeply depressed> though. this makes so much more sense to me. Thank> you.> > Toni> > > Re: Re: acceptance> > > Dear ,> > Sorry that it has taken so long for me to reply to> your post. My dog was really sick (she's fine> now)and> I had never heard of arnold chiara. I wanted to look> it

up. Believe me, you have my sympathies.> > What really made my heart twist was hearing how the> woman came into your home and threw your stuff away> with the pastor's support. The lady that I depend on> for help had a brother-in-law who was paranoid> schizophrenic and self-medcated with alcohol instead> of taking his meds. He did a lot of very weird> things,> was in trouble with the police and about every 6> months he ended up in a psych ward on a 72 hour> hold.> He put their family through hell.> > My friend went to a women's weekend retreat and one> of> the main topics was psychiatric illness. I have> bipolar II with rapid cycling. That's where I have> ended up after having major depression and PTSD all> my> life. Dealing with the abuse I suffered relieved a> LOT> of my psych symptoms. I think Bipolar II is about

as> good as I'm going to get. With Bipolar II you don't> have the huge manic spells that people think of with> bipolar. My 'highs' are other people's normals and> my> depressions are very dark and deep. The only thing I> do when I am manic is spend more money than I should> and I'm very aware of that tendency now so I can nip> it before it gets bad. All in all I am proud of the> work I've done. I feel much better.> > At her weekend seminar, the pastor/teacher was> describing all different forms of mental illness.> They> were pretty much all the work of the devil or> possession of some sort or other. Then he group> paranoid schizophrenia and bipolar together as a> group> that was the devil running rampant through a life.> My> friend spend 6 months trying to convinve me that I> needed to have devils cast out of me, etc. I live

in> a> very rural, conservative, farming area. The> population> is almost all older people hanging on to their> family> farms as long as they can. If the preacher says it,> it> must be so, particularly if they've never talked to> someone who had one of those illnesses.> > I just wanted you to know that I truly relate to> what> you shared. > > Shaking my head at what people do and say,> > Willow> > --- Buergerhoff <forevermylove50 >> wrote:> > > Dear Willow> > > > When I had my first operation for arnold> > chiari I and 5 of the 7 discs in my neck was> screwed> > and rodded they left open the spinal cord and> caught> > all the nerves in my neck. That caused> >

hallucinations since what it did was pool up and> > empty in my brain it got so severe that they> > couldn't use a shunt. This woman from the> protestant> > churh came in and threw out everything saying it> was> > all possessed. It was encouraged by the pastor. I> > went through hell the chiari institute finally got> > > > > > > > > ---------------------------------> Messenger with Voice. Make PC-to-Phone Calls> to the US (and 30+ countries) for 2¢/min or less.

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Nina,

Thank you for your story, your journey. It really helps to know I'm

not alone with this.

Blessings!

Gigi

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Acceptance

Hello Dear Friends

We wish to speak with you today about the powerful healing tool called

acceptance. That's right, acceptance. Many of you think of acceptance

as giving up. You think of it as being passive. That is not what true

acceptance is.

Acceptance is letting go of the

struggle mentality around something. When you struggle about something,

you are exerting a lot of effort that can be better put to use. When

you struggle, you are so busy fighting and pushing away, that you are

unable to see the problem for what it is and find the solution. When

you push something away, you deny its existence and therefore you

cannot heal it. You cannot heal what you do not experience. Many of you

spend years and perhaps lifetimes trying to avoid something, trying to

keep something at arms length because of fear. As a result you are

keeping yourself at arms length too.

The very act of acceptance is in

itself a very loving and compassionate act. When you accept something

happening in your life, you are embracing a part of yourself.

Everything that happens to you, your entire life, is a part of you. If

it is painful or difficult, you can bet there is an orphaned part of

you, that wants nothing more than to come home and be nurtured,

accepted and loved. When you accept, you open the door for yourself,

instead of shutting yourself out.

Allowing yourself to be loved (by

loving yourself), is the most important part of acceptance, and what

makes it a extremely powerful healing tool. Love is the energy that

underlies all of life. Love heals. When you love what is, you find the

healing it contains. You do not have to go searching for answers or

techniques. The pain and anguish of denial and struggle are gone. The

fear of the situation is gone. You are left with the experience of

discovering that there is nothing to fear at all. You may find the

situation changes (it most likely will), or it may not. However, it no

longer matters. When you remove the fear about something, you disarm

it.

Judo teaches how to work with the

"energies" of push and pull. It teaches that when someone pulls you

towards them, instead of resisting and trying to pull away, if you move

in their direction, working with the momentum they have provided, they

have no power over you. Acceptance likewise involves going with the

flow, using the energies present in a situation, regardless of how

adverse it may seem, as a partner in your healing process. Acceptance

means rolling with the changes, the punches. Nowhere does Judo say that

it is about allowing yourself to be punched or harmed. And although

Judo is referred to as self defense, we prefer to think of it as common

sense.

We hope that this writing has added

a little bit of light and insight to the concept of acceptance. We wish

to remind you that the most powerful and wonderful healing tools are

often the ones that are manifest around you in everyday life. This is

because they work! Sometimes it is easy to miss them because they are

not flashy or popular, or because they are misunderstood. Healing does

not have to be a struggle. We wish for it to be a gentle, and easy

pleasure. You deserve it.

Peace,

White Dove and Guidance

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Hi ,

Thanks for your note. I am going to try to go without the Elavil. Last

night I took Benedryl and that worked just fine. My naturopath

actually suggested Marijuana before going to pharmaceuticals. The side

effects of those antidepressants are huge (thanks for pointing that

out, Dede).

, have you considered candida? Bee's website has a lot of info

on adrenals and why they don't function if you have candida. Just a

thought.

Well, I feel better girls. I have been taking the injectable B12 for 5

days. I am also taking B complex and nutritional yeast flakes. I went

to 2 church services this morning and going to another tonight. It's a

good day for me.

And , I also hang by a thread financially. I have been on my own

for so long. I have been denied SSI twice so I work as a nurse in home

care. It is really boring and long days but it is something that I can

do with my fatigue. I thank God that I have been on disability for the

last 2 weeks for the broken wrist. It has given me a chance to

research this nerve thing.

Take care everyone,

Love,

Joanne

God always seems to get me through

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Hi Joanne,

So the benedryl worked to get rid of your burning pain?

I'm so glad you are feeling better with the B12 too!

And I'm really glad you are being brave about everything and choosing

to try to go natural still! I know it's not for everyone, but in my

mind, it's worth every effort you make to stay as drug free as

possible. At least you know you have options Joanne, if and when you

decide you need them.

It's refreshing to hear you say it's been a good day! That's a

delight and so encouraging. I hope you have many more.

God bless,

Patty

>

> Hi ,

>

> Thanks for your note. I am going to try to go without the Elavil. Last

> night I took Benedryl and that worked just fine. My naturopath

> actually suggested Marijuana before going to pharmaceuticals. The side

> effects of those antidepressants are huge (thanks for pointing that

> out, Dede).

>

> , have you considered candida? Bee's website has a lot of info

> on adrenals and why they don't function if you have candida. Just a

> thought.

>

> Well, I feel better girls. I have been taking the injectable B12 for 5

> days. I am also taking B complex and nutritional yeast flakes. I went

> to 2 church services this morning and going to another tonight. It's a

> good day for me.

>

> And , I also hang by a thread financially. I have been on my own

> for so long. I have been denied SSI twice so I work as a nurse in home

> care. It is really boring and long days but it is something that I can

> do with my fatigue. I thank God that I have been on disability for the

> last 2 weeks for the broken wrist. It has given me a chance to

> research this nerve thing.

>

> Take care everyone,

> Love,

> Joanne

>

>

>

> God always seems to get me through

>

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Thanks Patty,

The Benedryl just helped me sleep. It doesn't take away the nerve

pain. Thanks for your comments.

After three church services today I am so humbly reminded that God is

our healer and we need to trust in His word.

Love,

Joanne

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Acceptance is not submission; it is acknowledgment of the facts of a situation.

Then deciding what you're going to do about it.

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I am 27. I accept I have CMT. It is everyone around me that can't seem to accept

it.

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,

People don't enjoy being reminded of their mortality.

Auggie

>

> I am 27. I accept I have CMT. It is everyone around me that can't seem to

accept it.

>

>

>

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,

It's tough to for someone without CMT to put themselves in our shoes. Literally.

It took my friends years to understand and remember that I have CMT. Some would

make fun of my hands shaking, and I had to repeatedly remind them that it's part

of program. It helped me weed out the ones who actually cared. It will come in

time I hope, and to all those who are not close to you...who cares right?

Demian

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,

I know what you mean....I had a friend that noticed I would step back or to the

side to keep my balance when we would be standing and talking. (I call it the

CMT shuffle)  She asked if I had a problem with her being in " my personal space "

because I was always stepping away from her.  I explained about the CMT and how

I am just trying not to fall over.  Then next time it happened she said " see you

are doing it again! "   Did she think CMT was like a cold and a week later I

should be over it?

Cyndi

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Cyndi ~

I tend to step back and find a wall or something to lean against when talking to

people too. I recently went to dinner with four others that had CMT, when

waiting outside the restaurant for the rest of our group after dinner, we all

laughed as we all reached for the Handicapp sign in the parking lot to steady

ourselves. It was a funny CMT moment.

Las Vegas

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I finally learned what acceptance means at age 27, 17 years after I was

diagnosed with CMT. I discovered I had another, lethal disease, and I hung on to

this passage. And now 30 years later, I still hang on to it.

.... " And acceptance is the answer to ALL my problems today. When I am disturbed

it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation - unacceptable to me

- and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place or situation as

being exactly the way it is supposed to be at the moment. Nothing, absolutely

nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism I

could not stay sober; unless I accept life on life's terms I cannot be happy. I

need to not so much concentrate on what needs to be changed in the world, as

what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes...I must keep my magic

magnifying mind on my acceptance and off my expectations for my serenity is

directly proportional to my level of acceptance " .

You can read all of Dr. 's story here at

http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/BigBook/pdf/theystoppedintime16.pdf He

helped so many of us get on the right path to confront challenges head on. He

passed away some years ago, but his words on acceptance resonate around the

world and are practiced by millions.

Gretchen