Autism - In Their Own Words

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Please consider sending this to you family & friends.

*This “In Their Own Words” essay is written by Tonya Procor, a loving mother

of a son with autism.

*I have autism. I hold only a few similarities to the character in “Rain

Man.” When I am out on the playground, never say to my mother, “I would have

never guessed that; he looks so normal” The face of autism is not a defined

one.

I have autism. This does not mean I am deaf, nor does it mean I can’t

understand your words. When cruel things are said, it hurts just like it

would anyone else. Sometimes even more, as I am very sensitive.

I have autism. I am not blind. When you stare at me, point, and whisper – I

don’t like it. I sometimes cannot control my emotions; however, I still can

see you.

I have autism. I am not spoiled, undisciplined, or disrespectful

intentionally. Don’t tell my parents I just need to be smacked, as that

would never work and I smack back! All I know is if I am being hurt I must

defend myself.

I have autism. This does not mean I am mentally delayed. I am very smart. I

may focus on only a few things, but I have become an expert on them.

I have autism. Don’t think I am not capable of love or am emotionally

detached from the world around me. I am very close to my family and

sometimes need to be hugged. I do have the capacity to care. Especially if I

see someone else being hurt or teased.

I have autism. I will line things up on the floor in my room in perfect

order. This may be strange, but to me it is contentment. I can only relax if

things are in sync.

I have autism. Which means I am supersensitive to sounds; I hear all of

them. Even the smallest of sounds. When I get overloaded with too many

sounds at once, It is hard to cope and I must step away and be alone. This

does not mean I can’t handle the world, I just have to have more time to

tune out as I hear more than everyone.

I have autism. I live by schedules. This is one of the ways I have found to

cope with the chaos around me. Knowing what is going to happen at a certain

time each day helps me prepare for transitions. That is why it is difficult

for me to deal with a schedule change. I have to have order to obtain peace.

I have autism. It is very important for people to mean what they say That

is why joking with me is never understood. Things are black and white to me,

like a set schedule. If you say you are going to turn blue in five minutes,

I expect you to do so.

So remember, having autism does not mean I am blind, retarded, unresponsive,

incapable of love, or unable to function in the real world. I am unique and

gifted because I have found a way to coexist within two very separate

worlds. Take a moment to think about how many of us have difficulty within

just the one world we live, now imagine juggling two. This is something I

have learned to do. So forgive me if at times I have trouble separating the

two, again I am only human.

I often hear people say to my mom, “It must be so hard for you” – no one

ever says that to me. In fact, no one expects me to understand or respond

because of the face society has painted autism to be. I do not know all that

autism is, but I know who I am. I am special, and cherished. Almost like a

superhero I was set aside to have these unique abilities. They are not a

disability. They are not something to fear. In a way they are magical. I

have unlocked parts of my brain that others cannot.

When you look at me, don’t look at me with sadness or feel sorry for me.

Look at me with wonderment and I will amaze you every time.

**

Farnaz Rahimi - This best captures why I opened my heart to these children.

www.socalla.com

--

Do what is right because it is right; and leave it alone.

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so beautifully written. each and every word here is so meaningful.

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Sent: Tue, June 1, 2010 6:13:58 AM

Subject: [ ] Autism - In Their Own Words

Please consider sending this to you family & friends.

*This “In Their Own Words†essay is written by Tonya Procor, a loving mother

of a son with autism.

*I have autism. I hold only a few similarities to the character in “Rain

Man.†When I am out on the playground, never say to my mother, “I would have

never guessed that; he looks so normal†The face of autism is not a defined

one.

I have autism. This does not mean I am deaf, nor does it mean I can’t

understand your words. When cruel things are said, it hurts just like it

would anyone else. Sometimes even more, as I am very sensitive.

I have autism. I am not blind. When you stare at me, point, and whisper – I

don’t like it. I sometimes cannot control my emotions; however, I still can

see you.

I have autism. I am not spoiled, undisciplined, or disrespectful

intentionally. Don’t tell my parents I just need to be smacked, as that

would never work and I smack back! All I know is if I am being hurt I must

defend myself.

I have autism. This does not mean I am mentally delayed. I am very smart. I

may focus on only a few things, but I have become an expert on them.

I have autism. Don’t think I am not capable of love or am emotionally

detached from the world around me. I am very close to my family and

sometimes need to be hugged. I do have the capacity to care. Especially if I

see someone else being hurt or teased.

I have autism. I will line things up on the floor in my room in perfect

order. This may be strange, but to me it is contentment. I can only relax if

things are in sync.

I have autism. Which means I am supersensitive to sounds; I hear all of

them. Even the smallest of sounds. When I get overloaded with too many

sounds at once, It is hard to cope and I must step away and be alone. This

does not mean I can’t handle the world, I just have to have more time to

tune out as I hear more than everyone.

I have autism. I live by schedules. This is one of the ways I have found to

cope with the chaos around me. Knowing what is going to happen at a certain

time each day helps me prepare for transitions. That is why it is difficult

for me to deal with a schedule change. I have to have order to obtain peace.

I have autism. It is very important for people to mean what they say That

is why joking with me is never understood. Things are black and white to me,

like a set schedule. If you say you are going to turn blue in five minutes,

I expect you to do so.

So remember, having autism does not mean I am blind, retarded, unresponsive,

incapable of love, or unable to function in the real world. I am unique and

gifted because I have found a way to coexist within two very separate

worlds. Take a moment to think about how many of us have difficulty within

just the one world we live, now imagine juggling two. This is something I

have learned to do. So forgive me if at times I have trouble separating the

two, again I am only human.

I often hear people say to my mom, “It must be so hard for you†– no one

ever says that to me. In fact, no one expects me to understand or respond

because of the face society has painted autism to be. I do not know all that

autism is, but I know who I am. I am special, and cherished. Almost like a

superhero I was set aside to have these unique abilities. They are not a

disability. They are not something to fear. In a way they are magical. I

have unlocked parts of my brain that others cannot.

When you look at me, don’t look at me with sadness or feel sorry for me.

Look at me with wonderment and I will amaze you every time.

**

Farnaz Rahimi - This best captures why I opened my heart to these children.

www.socalla.com

--

Do what is right because it is right; and leave it alone.