Re: New Member-can't believe

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Hi . How terrible to have to watch your loved one go through all that. It must take great strength and faith. What is your daughter going in to IU for? I see she has gone through much already, I assume it is some complication to do with these problems. I will keep you and her and the family in my prayers. Please keep us posted.

Is the ex-husband abusive towards the children? Maybe you could take steps in advance to make sure that in the event your daughter is unable to care for her daughters for any length of time alternative arrangements could be made for them. I don't know if your situation would permit taking temporary custody of them, but perhaps your daughters wishes should be made clear on that. Is there any documentation of his abusive actions? I pray your daughter remains able to care for them and this issue never comes up.

-dz-

-----Original Message-----From: john flowers [mailto:heenry49_99@...]Sent: Wednesday, February 18, 2004 5:54 AM Subject: Re: [ ] New Member-can't believeHi . My name is I am getting ready to takemy daughter to IU today. She is 33 years old. She hashad triple by-pass, lupus, diebetes, high bloodpressure, cancer. She is divorced from a very abusiveso call man who has taken her pain medication and etc.She also has hepC. She has two daughters who are 11and 14 who will have to live with they dad if anythinggoes wrong. I lost my 29 year old son unexpectedchristmas day. So I know how hard it is to losseverything, but with this support group and the prayeryou will be a stronger person. I do not know any ofthe good people in this group, but they will listernand give sound advise.

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Wow, . I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles. We have had many stories of mis-treatment on the part of the medical community and I have had some myself. Having a support system is so important to go through this, but you seem to have the strength to manage it. Keep up the good work. That was a dirty trick dropping you off the insurance. I kept my ex-wife on my insurance for over a year while we were separated. The only reason we waited that long was that neither one of us could afford to get the divorce. I paid her child support all the while. We figured it pretty close and I paid what we agreed on. Actually our divorce is working out much better than the marriage did.. Hang in there, , you deserve better than you've been getting. Take care of whipping this dragon and I imagine that things will just get better and better. Good luck. -dz-

-----Original Message-----From: [mailto:luckyman57@...]Sent: Wednesday, February 18, 2004 2:14 AM Subject: [ ] New Member-can't believeI'm and I have time to tell a little about me.I was married to my wife sept15,2000 She is a R.N. and moved up with her children to be with me and start workd at Parkview hospital.At first I was told I had hep c and needed a liver transplant because my biopsy showed I was third stage cirrrosis(meaning if I go to fourth that is faliure) so we started going thu the transplant program and 9 months later on my visit to indiana university medical clinic dr. Kwo tells me they re checked my biopsy and I am not third stage cirrosis and don't need a transplant, well my wife didn't come with me for the first time and I was in shock, her starts asking me about my meds I'm on and I can't remember and he starts giving me hell for not remembering and tells me to know next time and leaves.I get home and tell the wife and we get to talking about it and her being a R.N. she wants to know more and calls down to IUMC to findout more, well Dr. Kwo's nurse tells her the retest on the biopsy was done in july of the previous year and my wife and I want to know why we wern't told untill feb. 9 months later. Well they don't know why or how it didn't get noticed. So for nine months I think I'm dieing and they have the information telling me I'm not and just don't happen to tell me and don't know why the didn't.Well I've been on the waiting list for peg-intron a long time and I finally get started on it, 4 months into it and I am showing no more hep c, I don't know about anyone else but I also take ribavarin 400mg twice a day with my once a week shot and it is kicking my but, I am on methadone for back pian because it has no other meds in it like ibeprofen or tylonal, they gave me the choice between methadone and oxycotin and we decided to stay away from the oxycotin..but this treatment is kicking my but with pain ans sleeping all the time. 6 months into it and I am still hepc not showing in my viral load test and my wifes 16 year old daughter who never did like me starts treating me like crap again and my wife files for divorce, I told hey why, she says one day at a time, I'm lost, andd she tells me they are comming to look at the house ,the landlords we are buying from so for two weeks I bust my ass cleaning it, after the come and say it looks nice she files for a protection order and throws me out and I go to my mothers place on the lake to stay because she goes to arizona in the winters, my wife talks to me just a few time and the we go to court on the hearing and she want me to sign the divorce papers her atorney drew up basiclly giving her everything and I say no and she lies to the judge and this is a woman lawyer playing judge because none was available and she will not even look at my cell phone records of us talking all this time and says she proved her point and get two years order. So I am up there taking this medicine alone going so depressed I'm very upset, then for xmas she cancels my insurance. well I can't get my paid lawyer to do anything at all and finally I fire him and hire a new one last week for another $1500 down and I'm on disability to begin with making 888 a month,well to make a longer story just long I have 7 weeks left to go but feeling even though I am beating the desease I've lost my life because my life treated me the way you don't treat someone and never even explained why, I never beat her or cheat on her and I just lost my love of my life and my family and everything so each day it is just a struggle to go on.sorry to whine of everybody but I'm to the point I don't care I just am full of hurt and anger.

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It reminds me of the story of the blind man who, the disciples asked if he was blind because of his sin or the sin of his parents. Jesus said, neither, he was blind to show the glory and grace of God and Jesus returned him his sight. Bad things do happen to good people. Hang in there, we're here for you. -dz- <luckyman57@...> wrote:

I would give take it all back and die in 5 years like they said if I could have spent it happy with the wife.I allways wanted kids and her youngest was the closest I ever came and she doesn't allow me to speak to him after raising him from 6-10years old while she worked nights. If you have kids don't forget them or ignore them, my wife told me I did more with her two boys in 10 months them her ex did in 10 years. my wife being a nurse worked with my family doctor, which became hers when she married me and I asked him, is there something wrong with me, my car wreck, my wifes suicide and now Sybrenia ditching me when I need her the most and her just sat down and said you've just had a tragic life, I was there for you accident and the suicide and you been with your wife over 3 years and I know you've done good and there's nothing wrong with you I can tell you that and I don't

know why it has been you.

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That's good to hear, . It sounds like she has enough troubles. My doctor told me the same thing, that most people with hcv will die with the disease and not of it. It often is a very slowly progressing illness. I had it, unknown for about 20 years. -dz-

-----Original Message-----From: john flowers [mailto:heenry49_99@...]Sent: Thursday, February 19, 2004 9:36 PM Subject: RE: [ ] New Member-can't believeThe good news is she will not have to have surgery.She does not have to be on no medication. The Doctorsshe she will not die from hepC. She will die fromnatural causes first. This is the first time in a longtime that we have received good news.