Jayson

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Jayson

I am so sorry. Her loss. It does not seem fair at all especially

with what you have gone thru with her and her cancer.

It may be long term and depressing but it is something many people

live with daily. She should have understood this. I know sometimes

my family gets upset with me. They think I act like I am 80 instead

of 42. I let them do what they want and either bring a book along and

sit or stay home. I try to keep up but they tell me I am too slow.

We may look fine but feel like we are breaking apart inside.

My husband love's to be outside all the time doing something and is

very type " A " in his personality so I know I am a disappointment

to him too.

Sending lot's of hugs and support your way. Hope you find someone

else soon who is more understanding and supportive.

Joy

I haven't posted in a while. My wife has asked me for a divorce. She

says my

limitations physically because of the PA and MS are too much for her (after 9

years of marriage!!!) and that she believes I will never be able to meet

her needs

in terms of being active. I'm absolutely devastated. I believed in my

marriage

vows. Nursed her through Hodgkins disease...aaaaahhhh. She is using the

" we are

both going in 2 different directions " thing on me. She says the PA and MS

are

different than her cancer because the cancer was short-lived and these are

for

life...in terms of whether she can handle it. She's been having an emotional

affair with someone from our cancer support group for 2 years. I didn't

realize

the extent of it until the day after she asked me for the divorce. I'm sure

there's more to all of this. Like she just really wants her

freedom...isn't in

love with me... whatever it is she isn't saying, but it hurts so much to

have her

use my diseases against me.

I

can't control it. I would if I could.

Jayson

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Joy Hoormann

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