Jenn's Garden

[Guest guest]

I think you are wise to " weed your garden " though I know it is not a

pleasant task. You are an artful, sensitive gal with a big heart

which makes it harder. I try to look at all the people in my life as

family...and some will come and some will go. Looking at ALL of them

as family can take the pressure off of you as you weed. One thing

that I've taken note of since PA became such a big part of my life

is that not only have I lost some folks that I THOUGHT were friends,

but I have actually gotten CLOSER to some people who were not what I

thought of as good friends. I think some of this is due to the fact

that we all have different " caring styles " and abilities. Some

people are gifted in caring for those in need. One particular lady,

the aunt of my x husbands brother's wife (my sister in law's aunt),

was always kind to me at Thanksgiving dinner and birthday parties

and graduation bashes and the like. We would talk and laugh and cut

up and share stories but did not keep in touch between parties. It

wasn't that we had no desire to keep in touch. There just wasn't any

NEED to. Then I became needy. And BAM. Aunt Lillian was right there

for me....encouraging cards with poems, sayings and verses on little

pieces of paper for me to keep in my wallet...a little cash now and

then when was in the hospital and she knew I would need gas

money...special emails to see how I was doing....Aunt Lillian is

gifted in caring for those in need. As a result, our bond is tighter

now. There are others like that. I'm sure you have them too if you

think about it. Those are your prized roses. Some of our plants we

grew from seed. Some we just purchased already partially or full

grown. All of these make our garden beautiful and pleasing. Some

plants give us food, some are just for looks...all are good.

Ah...but now and then, one that we once loved gets too big and

starts to choke out the others and it has to be cut back or dug up

and put into the compost pile where it becomes food for the others.

That's how you get to use your hurt and what you've learned to help

others grow. So keep on gardening Honey....you know what to do. Keep

your hands in the dirt and the Son on your face. -Betz