Re: HELP I NEED ADVICE ON KIDS

[Guest guest]

Ya know I really don't know what to say...I have three girls myself and I have

recently been diagnosed with PA and I get frequent migranes also...Mine are 8,7

and my youngest will be 5 next month...I sat them down and told them that mommy

gets days where she hurts really bad in her head and she hurts in areas where it

is hard for her to do things and that mommy gets cranky, but it is because she

hurts, but she loves them and just needs there help more...Don't know if it will

help, but that is what I did... Hope it helps even if a little...Good

luck... Pam

ihvkids@... wrote: Does anyone have any advice on how to explain all

this to a three and

five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy hurts. In

fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!

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Moderator two cents: You might get stickers with different pictures on them and

on days you hurt wear one..either on the hurt place or just in general to let

them know...sort of like stickers for chores in kindergarten classes. PatB:-)

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/16/2001 10:37:34 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

ihvkids@... writes:

<< Does anyone have any advice on how to explain all this to a three and

five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy hurts. In

fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!

>>

Maybe you can tell them it's like when they have the flu (if they've ever had

it) that you just feel cranky and hurt and need extra love from them.

[Guest guest]

--Thanks, that does help. I did explain it to them, but they forget

but they are young. I have to remind my three year old everyday not

to hang on my back because that's where it hurts most besides my

feet. But I guess the only thing to do is keep reminding them and

loving them. thanks a bunch it feels better to have someone

understand and offer advice.

- In @y..., pam northam <strawberripam@y...> wrote:

> Ya know I really don't know what to say...I have three girls myself

and I have recently been diagnosed with PA and I get frequent

migranes also...Mine are 8,7 and my youngest will be 5 next month...I

sat them down and told them that mommy gets days where she hurts

really bad in her head and she hurts in areas where it is hard for

her to do things and that mommy gets cranky, but it is because she

hurts, but she loves them and just needs there help more...Don't know

if it will help, but that is what I did... Hope it helps even if a

little...Good luck... Pam

> ihvkids@y... wrote: Does anyone have any advice on how to explain

all this to a three and

> five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy hurts.

In

> fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!

>

>

> -------

> Moderator two cents: You might get stickers with different pictures

on them and on days you hurt wear one..either on the hurt place or

just in general to let them know...sort of like stickers for chores

in kindergarten classes. PatB:-)

[Guest guest]

Your very welcome...I know it is hard, but after all mommy hurting is not what

is on a childs mind...Them playing or wanting us to play is...Your welcome and I

am here to chat anytime... Pam

ihvkids@... wrote: --Thanks, that does help. I did explain it to them,

but they forget

but they are young. I have to remind my three year old everyday not

to hang on my back because that's where it hurts most besides my

feet. But I guess the only thing to do is keep reminding them and

loving them. thanks a bunch it feels better to have someone

understand and offer advice.

- In @y..., pam northam <strawberripam@y...> wrote:

> Ya know I really don't know what to say...I have three girls myself

and I have recently been diagnosed with PA and I get frequent

migranes also...Mine are 8,7 and my youngest will be 5 next month...I

sat them down and told them that mommy gets days where she hurts

really bad in her head and she hurts in areas where it is hard for

her to do things and that mommy gets cranky, but it is because she

hurts, but she loves them and just needs there help more...Don't know

if it will help, but that is what I did... Hope it helps even if a

little...Good luck... Pam

> ihvkids@y... wrote: Does anyone have any advice on how to explain

all this to a three and

> five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy hurts.

In

> fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!

>

>

> -------

> Moderator two cents: You might get stickers with different pictures

on them and on days you hurt wear one..either on the hurt place or

just in general to let them know...sort of like stickers for chores

in kindergarten classes. PatB:-)

[Guest guest]

I have a three year old, and boy do I know wht you mean. She has a

really hard time understanding and remembering. The thing that

really helped us out was I took her to the Rheumy with me once. In

her mind, going to the doctor means you are really 'sick'. Now my

problem is that she wants to go to the doc with me everytime because

I need her 'help'. Ya gotta love 'em

le

> Does anyone have any advice on how to explain all this to a three

and

> five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy hurts.

In

> fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!

[Guest guest]

---Thanks, I brought my boys, and she had to have them removed from

the room while she did cortisone injections because they wouldn't sit

still or anything so I can't bring them back. I guess Ill just keep

reminding them. thanks to all for the advice.

In @y..., drkerber@e... wrote:

> I have a three year old, and boy do I know wht you mean. She has a

> really hard time understanding and remembering. The thing that

> really helped us out was I took her to the Rheumy with me once. In

> her mind, going to the doctor means you are really 'sick'. Now my

> problem is that she wants to go to the doc with me everytime

because

> I need her 'help'. Ya gotta love 'em

>

> le

>

>

>

>

> > Does anyone have any advice on how to explain all this to a three

> and

> > five year old boys? They just don't understand when mommy

hurts.

> In

> > fact, on my bad days they are worse. HELP!!!!!