Re: Birthday Party

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Did you have a good day - nice to see that they sent you two cards! Hehehe...must mean you are extra special. By the way sweetie... would you be interested in teaching Janalise how to do webpages and graphics? It is all new to her??? (just a thought)

Hope you had a lovely day babe - you deserve it...

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Thanks, and yes it was a gf angel food cake, actually 2. I made a chocolate for

and a strawberry (icing, that is) for .

That is so sweet of you to offer to send something. Actually, he loves

birthday cards. He just turned 10. He's not much into stickers, but loves

strings and ropes of any kind, even ribbon, anything he can tie things up with.

But just the card would tickle him to death. Here's our snail mail address:

921 Stowell Circle

Honolulu, HI 96818

His actual birthday was May 17 (1990), but we were busy all the weekends around

it. His brother's 1st birthday was June 17, so we had a combined party, such

that it was.

Loriann

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happy birthday david, if we lived near you we would of came, nahtan's bday

is in the summer too making it harderfor others to come, we usually only

invite family, and usually evey one comes, im sorry davids friends didnt

make it, i hope his birthday turned out ok, shawna.

>From: " Lori " <hsmyangel@...>

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>Subject: Birthday party

>Date: Sun, 25 Jun 2000 12:04:48 -0000

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>Well, we had a combined birthday party for my 2 boys. handed out

>invitations 2 weeks before the event on Saturday. We got there (at a

>superplayground on the Air Force Base) a few minutes early to set

>everything up, which was just put a table cloth (plastic) on the picnic

>tables, set up the play pen, get all the kool-aid jugs and cake together.

>We waited 30 minutes, then 40 and I was just about to go home, when the

>girl that used to watch ( - the 14 year old) and her family

>(brother who's about 's age) showed up. Shortly after that our Deacon

>and his wife (they don't have kids) came, and then 's therapist, and

>that was it.....we handed out about 18 invitations, and 3 came. I felt so

>bad for , he wanted all his friends there, but I guess, really, they

>were. Only one person said they were sorry today for missing it. What's

>funny, is that the pastor does a mystery bag every Sunday - the child takes

>it home and brings it back with an item of their choice in it for the

>pastor to do a mini sermon on for the kids. had the bag, and he put

>his 2 birthday cards and his ID card in the bag. I think the pastor missed

>the ID card, because it was inside the card. Oh, well. I guess he won't

>be permanently scarred from it. It was something I remember from my

>childhood, and how bad it hurt me - inviting my whole class (of 33) to my

>birthday party and having about 3 show up.

>

>

>Loriann

>Wife to Dewight

>Mom to , 10 years old, DS-ASD, ADHD, ODD

>And , 11 months old

>

>

>

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lori,

hugs to david!~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i feel so bad for him, bless his

heart........... i have an idea though!!!!!!!!!!! send me your address and i

will send him a birthday card with some stickers or somethign to brighten his

day........it will be belated, but i mean it from the heart...........

sometimes it can help to put a smile on a different day, even though its not

his real birthday......... just let me know what he likes, i vast a large

collection of stickers, bubbles, stamps, books, ect..........

slinkies.,whatever......... let me know and i can zip in mail............take

care and my heart is saddened by all the people who missed out on his

day...........leah

ps why dont we start a birthday list for our kids........... you can send

cards online for free!!!!!! that would put some spark into them, us parenst

could tell them " david you have mail " and he and all the other kids could

open their mail........... they might not understand all teh content, but i

believe they recognize their names and what bday candles and cake looks

like.......i will even make the list if everyone will just send me birthdays

and ages........... let me know what you think..........leah------wishing she

could wrap her arms around david......... lori was this a gf cake

too............

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nathan is really into strings too, ribbons, especially shoe strings, so he

uses velcro shoes,lol, he especially likes the bold color shoe strings, cant

be just white, if is white with sparkles thats ok, but plain white takes the

shelf until absolutely needed, even the relativies keep shoestrings for him

on hand for when visiting,hehe, shanwa.

>From: " Lori " <hsmyangel@...>

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>Subject: Re: Birthday party

>Date: Sun, 25 Jun 2000 16:55:13 -0000

>

>Thanks, and yes it was a gf angel food cake, actually 2. I made a

>chocolate for and a strawberry (icing, that is) for .

>

>That is so sweet of you to offer to send something. Actually, he

>loves birthday cards. He just turned 10. He's not much into stickers, but

>loves strings and ropes of any kind, even ribbon, anything he can tie

>things up with. But just the card would tickle him to death. Here's our

>snail mail address:

>

>

>921 Stowell Circle

>Honolulu, HI 96818

>

>His actual birthday was May 17 (1990), but we were busy all the weekends

>around it. His brother's 1st birthday was June 17, so we had a combined

>party, such that it was.

>

>Loriann

>

>

>

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Good for . That IS a good feeling to be included.

Way to go!!!! Let us know how it turns out.

Kathy

birthday party

> Guess what everyone, nathan got invited to his first slumber birthday

party from a regualar ed classmate. We prabably wont have nathan spend the

night with his sleep apnea and cpap stuff, but he gets to go for a good few

hours if he will do it. Im very excited for nathan, everyone please pray

that this will be a fun and happy, experience for . The boy's mom said

he invited all the boys in his class, and nathan was in his class, and that

they will do many activities that even nathan can do. She even asked what

games nathan could play etc, very sweet of her. Its this friday night, our

boys were born within a couple days of eachother, and both named nathan,lol,

we attend many of the same things together since the boys were babes, so it

should go ok. shawna.

>

>

>

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That's wonderful a!

I love hearing these stories and I hope one day Gabs will be able to participate

in a reg ed classroom.

Hope he has fun!!

Sandy

mom to Gabby (5, ds-asd)

and Adam (almost two!)

birthday party

Guess what everyone, nathan got invited to his first slumber birthday party

from a regualar ed classmate. We prabably wont have nathan spend the night with

his sleep apnea and cpap stuff, but he gets to go for a good few hours if he

will do it. Im very excited for nathan, everyone please pray that this will be a

fun and happy, experience for . The boy's mom said he invited all the boys

in his class, and nathan was in his class, and that they will do many activities

that even nathan can do. She even asked what games nathan could play etc, very

sweet of her. Its this friday night, our boys were born within a couple days of

eachother, and both named nathan,lol, we attend many of the same things together

since the boys were babes, so it should go ok. shawna.

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In a message dated 8/6/01 12:58:59 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

greenpak@... writes:

> The boy's mom said he invited all the boys in his class, and nathan was in

> his class, and that they will do many activities that even nathan can do.

> She even asked what games nathan could play etc, very sweet of her.

Oh a!!!!! HOW wonderful!!!! Brings tears to my eyes!! I can't wait

to hear how the bash went!!! Good luck!!

Donna

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Hi a,

I hope has a great time at the party. Zeb was invited to a few bd

parties this year with his classsmates and did great.I was so pleased that he

was included and Zeb felt so good about being invited.The parents told me he

was the most polite child at the parties.I was so proud of him.I wish he

could be like that all the time.

Charlyne

Mom to Zeb DS-?

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well,

I decided to only go to " house " parties (at least until he's older).

I thought since the whole class was invited, he would know mostof the kids (and

they would KNOW him too). it didn't work out that way tho.

Yes, DH (and I use that term loosely) {can you tell I'm still holding a

grudge??hehehe} will not be attending any more parties either. LOL

I guess I had great expectations and it all blew up in my face.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania

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well,

I decided to only go to " house " parties (at least until he's older).

I thought since the whole class was invited, he would know mostof the kids (and

they would KNOW him too). it didn't work out that way tho.

Yes, DH (and I use that term loosely) {can you tell I'm still holding a

grudge??hehehe} will not be attending any more parties either. LOL

I guess I had great expectations and it all blew up in my face.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania

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> Yes, DH (and I use that term loosely) {can you tell I'm still holding a

grudge??hehehe} will not be attending any more parties either. LOL

>

> I guess I had great expectations and it all blew up in my face.

Inquiring minds want to know if you are at least talking to him now?

I don't do birthday partys for because I know he would not get

anything out of it (other than cake, which he loves) and he would be

overwhelmed in an unfamiliar environment with unfamiliar people. He turns 8

on Saturday and for the third year in a row, we will be moving back

to school. At least my dad will be here Friday night for cake and ice cream

with the family.

I have a general rule of thumb, if it won't be good for and I would

end up being stressed (like how you felt), then it's a no go. It took

's DS doctor to point that option out to me. This does not mean that

I keep him secluded, quite the opposite. He does great at the grocery store

and even the clerks will ring up his beanie babies (his transitional aides),

put it in a sack and give it to him. He's in school, daycare, CCD and he's

the tagalong little brother for his siblings sporting events. He's not

missing out on anything.

I am debating whether to get him a bicycle this year for his bday. He's

also starting to play with his remote control truck and could probably use

another one.

[Guest guest]

> Yes, DH (and I use that term loosely) {can you tell I'm still holding a

grudge??hehehe} will not be attending any more parties either. LOL

>

> I guess I had great expectations and it all blew up in my face.

Inquiring minds want to know if you are at least talking to him now?

I don't do birthday partys for because I know he would not get

anything out of it (other than cake, which he loves) and he would be

overwhelmed in an unfamiliar environment with unfamiliar people. He turns 8

on Saturday and for the third year in a row, we will be moving back

to school. At least my dad will be here Friday night for cake and ice cream

with the family.

I have a general rule of thumb, if it won't be good for and I would

end up being stressed (like how you felt), then it's a no go. It took

's DS doctor to point that option out to me. This does not mean that

I keep him secluded, quite the opposite. He does great at the grocery store

and even the clerks will ring up his beanie babies (his transitional aides),

put it in a sack and give it to him. He's in school, daycare, CCD and he's

the tagalong little brother for his siblings sporting events. He's not

missing out on anything.

I am debating whether to get him a bicycle this year for his bday. He's

also starting to play with his remote control truck and could probably use

another one.

[Guest guest]

Di, I think things can get very close to ordinary, this birthday party was

just a blip in the screen. I have had my share of blips and crying after

social get togethers over the years and for the very reasons you mentioned.

Sometimes I just cry because our lives are never going to be completely

ordinary. I'm sorry your husband wasn't there for you emotionally, because I

feel that just being able to talk about it afterwards helps, and although I

get frustrated because things don't seem to effect my husband, Don. like they

do me, I can usually count on him to lend a sympathetic and rational (because

alot of times I tend to blow issues out of proportion!!) ear.

Don't give up. He was invited to this birthday party wasn't he? He was

wanted there. I have found over the years that I get myself stressed and

worried too much about what others may think and you know what?????? They

don't notice things and care as much as we do. I think people, in general,

are more accepting than we realize. I have also learned that if people are

going to be critical and not see our children as children first.......who

needs um! Give it time, and accept that next invitation because it was only

the first time and I believe in second chances!

Jackie, Mom to 13ds, 10, and Bradley 7

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Di, I think things can get very close to ordinary, this birthday party was

just a blip in the screen. I have had my share of blips and crying after

social get togethers over the years and for the very reasons you mentioned.

Sometimes I just cry because our lives are never going to be completely

ordinary. I'm sorry your husband wasn't there for you emotionally, because I

feel that just being able to talk about it afterwards helps, and although I

get frustrated because things don't seem to effect my husband, Don. like they

do me, I can usually count on him to lend a sympathetic and rational (because

alot of times I tend to blow issues out of proportion!!) ear.

Don't give up. He was invited to this birthday party wasn't he? He was

wanted there. I have found over the years that I get myself stressed and

worried too much about what others may think and you know what?????? They

don't notice things and care as much as we do. I think people, in general,

are more accepting than we realize. I have also learned that if people are

going to be critical and not see our children as children first.......who

needs um! Give it time, and accept that next invitation because it was only

the first time and I believe in second chances!

Jackie, Mom to 13ds, 10, and Bradley 7

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HI Di

Know you are not alone I have a great hubby BUT when it comes to the kids

he sucks lolol he's awful with co-parenting lolol especially with the

girls...now Joe he was tough as nails, to the point I had to say BACK OFF lol

Heehee and the silent treatment drives him nuts too lololol

Mike blew me away last spring. WE discussed on our way to Sara's IEP meeting

about us moving. I shared my worries that we might end up in area that would

not support Sara in the Reg class. His comment was " Well, we'll put her in a

private sped school " my mouth dropped open and I said " WHAT!!!!!!!!! " he said

" Well we did the inclusion thing, and I thought you would like her now to be

placed in a sped school " OOOOOhhhhh I almost blew a gasket lol how did my

actions ever give him this idea lol were my words interpreted this way?????

doesn't he listen to me about Sara, Heehee does he even know Sara?? anyway I

set him straight and insisted he be quiet at the meeting...I was scared he'd

blow it for me lolol

I have to say he does give the best hugs and love to the kids. When I'm worn

out and want to shut down, he will step in.

Kathy mom to Sara 9.........heehee no wonder Mike liked you hubby so much

lololol

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HI Di

Know you are not alone I have a great hubby BUT when it comes to the kids

he sucks lolol he's awful with co-parenting lolol especially with the

girls...now Joe he was tough as nails, to the point I had to say BACK OFF lol

Heehee and the silent treatment drives him nuts too lololol

Mike blew me away last spring. WE discussed on our way to Sara's IEP meeting

about us moving. I shared my worries that we might end up in area that would

not support Sara in the Reg class. His comment was " Well, we'll put her in a

private sped school " my mouth dropped open and I said " WHAT!!!!!!!!! " he said

" Well we did the inclusion thing, and I thought you would like her now to be

placed in a sped school " OOOOOhhhhh I almost blew a gasket lol how did my

actions ever give him this idea lol were my words interpreted this way?????

doesn't he listen to me about Sara, Heehee does he even know Sara?? anyway I

set him straight and insisted he be quiet at the meeting...I was scared he'd

blow it for me lolol

I have to say he does give the best hugs and love to the kids. When I'm worn

out and want to shut down, he will step in.

Kathy mom to Sara 9.........heehee no wonder Mike liked you hubby so much

lololol

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In a message dated 8/15/01 8:50:58 AM Central Daylight Time,

gboughton@... writes:

> I had saved your original post and now it is buried back up

> there with about a hundred messages that I think I want to

> respond to! LOL But I do want to tell you my heart is

> with you before I delete this one.

HI Gail

I know how you feel about messages lol sometimes read and save to answer

later but then forget lol

In the past Ive never had to leave somewhere because of Sara's behavior but

Monday night (after 1st day of school) I had to remove her from this Hot Wing

restaurant. She was soooo bratty, mocking me with her sassy tone, not staying

where I told her to etc........ she obviously knew there was nothing I could

do to her. The owners of this place have a son with DS, a teenager so they

just laughed at Sara and commented how much she is like their son. One of

Mikes peer managers came into the restaurant waiting on an order too, I was

so embarrassed they saw her act this way. Sooo I just excused myself and left

Mike to wait on our order (take out)

When we got home Sara ran to her room and locked the bedroom door Heehee she

thought she was going to get it lolol I fed her, bathed her and then sent her

to bed. She knew I was angry (I wasn't talking much to her) so she didn't

push anymore buttons.

I hope this was a fluke, that she was just tired and burned out from the long

day...if it isn't shell be seeing a lot of her bedroom lol

Kathy mom to Sara 9...........lol Mike did ask me " and why didn't we leave

her with ????????? "

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/15/01 8:50:58 AM Central Daylight Time,

gboughton@... writes:

> I had saved your original post and now it is buried back up

> there with about a hundred messages that I think I want to

> respond to! LOL But I do want to tell you my heart is

> with you before I delete this one.

HI Gail

I know how you feel about messages lol sometimes read and save to answer

later but then forget lol

In the past Ive never had to leave somewhere because of Sara's behavior but

Monday night (after 1st day of school) I had to remove her from this Hot Wing

restaurant. She was soooo bratty, mocking me with her sassy tone, not staying

where I told her to etc........ she obviously knew there was nothing I could

do to her. The owners of this place have a son with DS, a teenager so they

just laughed at Sara and commented how much she is like their son. One of

Mikes peer managers came into the restaurant waiting on an order too, I was

so embarrassed they saw her act this way. Sooo I just excused myself and left

Mike to wait on our order (take out)

When we got home Sara ran to her room and locked the bedroom door Heehee she

thought she was going to get it lolol I fed her, bathed her and then sent her

to bed. She knew I was angry (I wasn't talking much to her) so she didn't

push anymore buttons.

I hope this was a fluke, that she was just tired and burned out from the long

day...if it isn't shell be seeing a lot of her bedroom lol

Kathy mom to Sara 9...........lol Mike did ask me " and why didn't we leave

her with ????????? "

[Guest guest]

..<< I had a major let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears

too.

I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania>>

Hi Di,

I had saved your original post and now it is buried back up

there with about a hundred messages that I think I want to

respond to! LOL But I do want to tell you my heart is

with you before I delete this one. I know exactly how you

feel. Ted has only been invited to 3 birthday parties. The

first was a home one and that was the best. Then there

was a bowling ally one and he ran out onto the slippery

lanes and I took off after him. Guess who fell? I hurt myself

so badly we left. Then just this past Saturday he went to

Chuck E. Cheese and I stayed for the first 1/2 hour then

left for a bit to hook back up with my mom who drives us

everywhere since I don't have a car. He was sitting down

eating pizza when I left so I felt okay leaving. I came back

about 40 min later for the last 20 min of the party and he

was up in the climbing tubes and looked so cute. I reached

for my camera and my mom said, don't let him see you. He

was at an end box up high and it looked like a mini jail area...

well I start to take a picture and he gets up and turns and I

can see that his shorts are totally full of poop! OMG I call

to him to come down and go towards the bottom and I can

just smell the horrible smell of hot smelly poop! I am just

dying inside while trying to remain calm. It takes me nearly

half and hour to clean him up in the bathroom. I am mortified.

Oh well, this is how my life is. Will I stop taking him to

parties? My guess is I will continue to take him if I can and

if he continues to be invited.

hugs to all of us! LOL

Gail

[Guest guest]

..<< I had a major let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears

too.

I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania>>

Hi Di,

I had saved your original post and now it is buried back up

there with about a hundred messages that I think I want to

respond to! LOL But I do want to tell you my heart is

with you before I delete this one. I know exactly how you

feel. Ted has only been invited to 3 birthday parties. The

first was a home one and that was the best. Then there

was a bowling ally one and he ran out onto the slippery

lanes and I took off after him. Guess who fell? I hurt myself

so badly we left. Then just this past Saturday he went to

Chuck E. Cheese and I stayed for the first 1/2 hour then

left for a bit to hook back up with my mom who drives us

everywhere since I don't have a car. He was sitting down

eating pizza when I left so I felt okay leaving. I came back

about 40 min later for the last 20 min of the party and he

was up in the climbing tubes and looked so cute. I reached

for my camera and my mom said, don't let him see you. He

was at an end box up high and it looked like a mini jail area...

well I start to take a picture and he gets up and turns and I

can see that his shorts are totally full of poop! OMG I call

to him to come down and go towards the bottom and I can

just smell the horrible smell of hot smelly poop! I am just

dying inside while trying to remain calm. It takes me nearly

half and hour to clean him up in the bathroom. I am mortified.

Oh well, this is how my life is. Will I stop taking him to

parties? My guess is I will continue to take him if I can and

if he continues to be invited.

hugs to all of us! LOL

Gail

[Guest guest]

well, We are speaking but the subject isn't closed as far as I'm concerned. 80)

I told him he really hurt my feelings and he said he knew he did....that was

all...no apology.....then I came to realize, he didn't even know WHY I was

crying. He thinks I was crying because of Nic's behavior but that was just a

minute part of it. Then THAT made me mad because he wasn't even on the same page

as me hehehe so I decided I would wait until I was calm to bring up the subject

again, this way he won't immediately get on the defensive and a big argument

ensue.

Bob said it was our fault the way Nic acts. and get this.....I don't spend

enough time with him!!!!!!! I wanted to smack him! I'm a SHM...that's all I do

is spend time with him.(except for 2 3/4 hrs while he's at school). UGH!!!!!!

He's the one that gives in to him..I try to be very stern, then Nic cries and

Bob's gives in....perfect example...when we got home from the party, I put Nic

in his room to take a nap. He didn't want to and was in there playing, standing

at the door yelling for someone to come get him...cried....guess what Bob

did???????

Goes and gets him and brings him down to watch TV!!! I said right then and

there... " This is why, it's not ME it's YOU " Bob said Nic wasn't ready for a nap

yet...(it's 2pm) Nic was passed time for him nap.

Oh well, I could go on and on but what's the point?

Thanks for the ear...

One other reason I wanted to go was for my benefit too. I wanted to meet some

new parents-parents of Non-sn kids .

I hope I don't offend anyone here but I wanted to be able to talk with someone

about " normal " stuff. No talk of therapy, therapists,developmental levels

etc...just ordinary mom stuff and let the kids just be kids. I had a major

let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears too.

I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania

[Guest guest]

well, We are speaking but the subject isn't closed as far as I'm concerned. 80)

I told him he really hurt my feelings and he said he knew he did....that was

all...no apology.....then I came to realize, he didn't even know WHY I was

crying. He thinks I was crying because of Nic's behavior but that was just a

minute part of it. Then THAT made me mad because he wasn't even on the same page

as me hehehe so I decided I would wait until I was calm to bring up the subject

again, this way he won't immediately get on the defensive and a big argument

ensue.

Bob said it was our fault the way Nic acts. and get this.....I don't spend

enough time with him!!!!!!! I wanted to smack him! I'm a SHM...that's all I do

is spend time with him.(except for 2 3/4 hrs while he's at school). UGH!!!!!!

He's the one that gives in to him..I try to be very stern, then Nic cries and

Bob's gives in....perfect example...when we got home from the party, I put Nic

in his room to take a nap. He didn't want to and was in there playing, standing

at the door yelling for someone to come get him...cried....guess what Bob

did???????

Goes and gets him and brings him down to watch TV!!! I said right then and

there... " This is why, it's not ME it's YOU " Bob said Nic wasn't ready for a nap

yet...(it's 2pm) Nic was passed time for him nap.

Oh well, I could go on and on but what's the point?

Thanks for the ear...

One other reason I wanted to go was for my benefit too. I wanted to meet some

new parents-parents of Non-sn kids .

I hope I don't offend anyone here but I wanted to be able to talk with someone

about " normal " stuff. No talk of therapy, therapists,developmental levels

etc...just ordinary mom stuff and let the kids just be kids. I had a major

let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears too.

I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

Pennsylvania

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In a message dated 8/15/01 8:05:46 AM Central Daylight Time,

drf218@... writes:

> One other reason I wanted to go was for my benefit too. I wanted to meet

> some new parents-parents of Non-sn kids .

> I hope I don't offend anyone here but I wanted to be able to talk with

> someone about " normal " stuff. No talk of therapy, therapists,developmental

> levels etc...just ordinary mom stuff and let the kids just be kids. I had

> a major let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears too.

> I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

>

> Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

>

Yes, it will, Di. You get to a point where your life doesn't revolve

around DS. At least most of us do. Yes, you do need to have other friends

and acquaintances. And your DH just didn' t get it at all, did he? Men are

on a different wave length or something. I told the other day that

being a man, things either go in one ear and out the other or get lost in

that big hole in the middle of the head, that they all have. I'm sorry

you're having this problem. Jessie

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In a message dated 8/15/01 8:05:46 AM Central Daylight Time,

drf218@... writes:

> One other reason I wanted to go was for my benefit too. I wanted to meet

> some new parents-parents of Non-sn kids .

> I hope I don't offend anyone here but I wanted to be able to talk with

> someone about " normal " stuff. No talk of therapy, therapists,developmental

> levels etc...just ordinary mom stuff and let the kids just be kids. I had

> a major let-down and that was partly the reason for the tears too.

> I guess things really won't ever be " ordinary " anymore.

>

> Di, mom to Jake(18,nda) and 4 (DS)

>

Yes, it will, Di. You get to a point where your life doesn't revolve

around DS. At least most of us do. Yes, you do need to have other friends

and acquaintances. And your DH just didn' t get it at all, did he? Men are

on a different wave length or something. I told the other day that

being a man, things either go in one ear and out the other or get lost in

that big hole in the middle of the head, that they all have. I'm sorry

you're having this problem. Jessie