Re: Question 3 - worst sped experience

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Isn't it wonderful that you can speed up or slow down if your child needs to in the curriculum? If my son needs a break then we take a break. We've been schooling at home through a charter school for two and a half years. My son has gained so much from the one on one attention. His reading comprehension and math skills alone have gone up considerably. I am so happy that I am able to do this with my son. It is the best decision concerning his education that we have made. Becky RUTHIE BRYAN DOLEZAL <DOLEZAL123@...> wrote: AMEN! We are soooo enjoying homeschooling our 8th grader; I just hope that one of my other two sons (4 years and 1st grade) will allow me to homeschool them, too, at some point; I love it, and am having so much fun at it. Of course, this is only week 3, but he is sooooo happy; it is just soooo much better! And, what a bonding experience. Ruthie Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible. This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote: following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote: The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna

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Hi Deb

My son Adam who is an aspie got his drivers license at 16 ....today he is 33 and has been a professional driver for abourt 10 yrs.......He is an amazing driver....my husband wayne also an aspie is also a professional driver and he too is an extremely good driver.

I think within the Aspie condition there is a wide range of abilities and differences that make each one unique.

hugs

brenda

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From: debmetsfan@...Date: Wed, 31 Oct 2007 21:53:03 -0400Subject: Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

's birthday is Dec 1 but I don't have big parties for her any more. I'm just going to take her and her friend Genna bowling. But next year is Sweet 16! I may let her have a big party then. Has anyone here had a Sweet 16 for their girls?

What about our AS kids and driving? It's still a ways off for us, but it's scary thinking about behind the wheel! I think she would do fine as long as she takes her medication. She makes poor judgements when she does not.

I know what you mean; I am always super busy, too! I really enjoy this group and reading about what everyone is up to and the different advice. It helps me so much!

Deb

In a message dated 10/31/2007 8:41:38 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes:

Deb,

I get confused with the e-mail posts when we get really busy and I come home, check on some e-mails, and out the door again. (home check e-mail - out, home check e-mail - out)

Did you say s b-day is tomorrow? or December 1st? Did you send out the invitations yet? was that you that your going bowling. Sorry for the confusion. I just been so busy. wish I had a lap top so when I'm waiting for the kids I can read & type. *smile*. On our invitation I always add: RSVP to Rose with # ASAP. That helps keep tract of who's coming and who's not.

debmetsfanaol wrote:

I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them!

Deb

In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes:

I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had.

as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfanaol wrote:

that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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Thanks for the vow of confidence! Our almost 14 year old wants to get his permit when he turns 14, and I can't wait (LOL!!!!). We live about 1/2 mile from a huge community college (Kirkwood Community College---has about 12,000 students this year)----so we will be LEARNING THERE---when school is out-----. And, I think it is important, as I don't want to drive him forever!! And, I am a good driver (pat, pat pat-------) so why wouldn't I want to teach him.......my husband does not want to...but, I am sure NO PARENT is anxious and just jumping for joy about it.....so, glad that my idea to teach him right on time is a good one per another mom....but I won't brag about it to my son....lol

Ruthie

Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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You're very welcome :-)

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Author Ben

From: DOLEZAL123@...Date: Thu, 1 Nov 2007 08:28:29 -0500Subject: Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

Thanks for the vow of confidence! Our almost 14 year old wants to get his permit when he turns 14, and I can't wait (LOL!!!!). We live about 1/2 mile from a huge community college (Kirkwood Community College---has about 12,000 students this year)----so we will be LEARNING THERE---when school is out-----. And, I think it is important, as I don't want to drive him forever!! And, I am a good driver (pat, pat pat-------) so why wouldn't I want to teach him.......my husband does not want to...but, I am sure NO PARENT is anxious and just jumping for joy about it.....so, glad that my idea to teach him right on time is a good one per another mom....but I won't brag about it to my son....lol

Ruthie

Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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Glad to hear other success stories. Becky, our's is drama.....we would hate to do anything because it was our original plan LOL!!! We have another meeting at the school today (to the the four years of waiting for the school to finally test him, etc. to provide services)---our lawyer is going to make them pay for the tutoring, and to keep paying until he is back to grade level---he was ON GRADE LEVEL when we came to this school, and is on the same grade level with reading and math (which he always had special services for) four years later----so we are REALLY having to go back but are on target with the other classes. We WILL have him up by four grade levels in a year though (I know it---I am working hard, and so are his math and reading tutors!!!---they are REALLY teachers, so that is great)....

Homeschooling IS fun though!

Ruthie

Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible.

This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote:

following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote:

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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Rose, if you are thinking about it, you can go to your state's department of education sight, punch in homeschooling, and it will tell you everything you HAVE to do; then, ask us if you have questions, and or send the website--I can help you now, too----in Iowa, it makes it 'seem' a little different than reality (my husband AND I interpretted it a bit differently)----time frames are a little different. You can always just keep the child home SICK, and ask for the work (we claimed MENTAL HEALTH) and tried it----and he has not been back------I love it, and am shocked but I REALLY DO!!!!----and, I can do it and work 60 hours a week (it just works out). It is amazing!!

Ruthie

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Thanks Rose,

We have been schooling at home for two and a half years now through a charter school. I do all the teaching just like other homeschoolers, and I love it. My son has gained so much by our decison.

In the state we live in we had to fill out papers to remove him from our local district. I didn't state in writing why I decided to remove my son, but I did pull him out in the middle of the school year; they knew that I was not happy.

I know there are some good teachers out there. I have two other children that have graduated through the local school district and have met some wonderful teachers.

I wish things had been different for my son with autism, but I just felt that I would rather spend my energy teaching my son at home than constantly having to fight the district for his needs.

Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote:

Dear Becky,

I'm sorry to hear that you experienced a negative teacher like that. This shows that its not just autistic kids that lack empathy. (not saying your does). There are teachers in public schools that care and are doing an awesome job. But when we find the ones like you did. Ouch!!! I'm sorry that things got that bad, that you needed to pull your son out and home school him. I hope you put in writing, the reason why you pulled him out. And let the school know on record that you are homeschooling him so they don't have him marked absent for the year. Best luck to you and your family.

Hugs

Rosepidder88 <pidder88 > wrote:

I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible.

This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote:

following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote:

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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That's good to know, ! Thanks!

Deb

Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

Roxanna

Autism Happens

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You're welcome :-)

Wags! Wags! Wags!

Lowry

"There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face."

Author Ben

From: debmetsfan@...Date: Thu, 1 Nov 2007 12:12:43 -0400Subject: Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

That's good to know, ! Thanks!Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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Deb, I saw on channel 2 news that they now have cameras for the cars, and you can monitor your child's driving on the Internet. Some felt that if the child knows your watching, they won't make silly choices like talking on the cell while driving, etc...Also, its not too soon to let her sit in a drivers safety class room, or let her read the drivers manual from M.V. department. Just a thougt. Rosedebmetsfan@... wrote: 's birthday is Dec 1 but I don't have big parties for her any more. I'm just going to take her and her friend Genna bowling. But next year is Sweet 16! I may let her have a big party then. Has anyone here had a Sweet 16 for their girls? What about our AS kids and driving? It's still a ways off for us, but it's scary thinking about behind the wheel! I think she would do fine as long as she takes her medication. She makes poor judgements when she does not. I know what you mean; I am always super busy, too! I really enjoy this group and reading about what everyone is up to and the different advice. It helps me so much! Deb In a message dated 10/31/2007 8:41:38 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes: Deb, I get confused with the e-mail posts when we get really busy and I come home, check on some e-mails, and out the door again. (home check e-mail - out, home check e-mail - out) Did you say s b-day is tomorrow? or December 1st? Did you send out the invitations yet? was that you that your going bowling. Sorry for the confusion. I just been so busy. wish I had a lap top so when I'm waiting for the kids I can read & type. *smile*. On our invitation I always add: RSVP to Rose with # ASAP. That helps keep tract of who's coming and who's not. debmetsfanaol wrote: I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them! Deb In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes: I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had. as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure

autism.debmetsfanaol wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's

IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped

experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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That's interesting, Rose! Even a fake camera would work! LOL!!

My niece said that should be getting driver's ed next year in school. They get their permits at 16 here in NJ. They get their license at 17.

Time sure goes quickly!

Deb

In a message dated 11/1/2007 2:46:30 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002@... writes:

Deb,

I saw on channel 2 news that they now have cameras for the cars, and you can monitor your child's driving on the Internet. Some felt that if the child knows your watching, they won't make silly choices like talking on the cell while driving, etc...Also, its not too soon to let her sit in a drivers safety class room, or let her read the drivers manual from M.V. department. Just a thougt.

Rosedebmetsfanaol wrote:

's birthday is Dec 1 but I don't have big parties for her any more. I'm just going to take her and her friend Genna bowling. But next year is Sweet 16! I may let her have a big party then. Has anyone here had a Sweet 16 for their girls?

What about our AS kids and driving? It's still a ways off for us, but it's scary thinking about behind the wheel! I think she would do fine as long as she takes her medication. She makes poor judgements when she does not.

I know what you mean; I am always super busy, too! I really enjoy this group and reading about what everyone is up to and the different advice. It helps me so much!

Deb

In a message dated 10/31/2007 8:41:38 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes:

Deb,

I get confused with the e-mail posts when we get really busy and I come home, check on some e-mails, and out the door again. (home check e-mail - out, home check e-mail - out)

Did you say s b-day is tomorrow? or December 1st? Did you send out the invitations yet? was that you that your going bowling. Sorry for the confusion. I just been so busy. wish I had a lap top so when I'm waiting for the kids I can read & type. *smile*. On our invitation I always add: RSVP to Rose with # ASAP. That helps keep tract of who's coming and who's not.

debmetsfanaol wrote:

I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them!

Deb

In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes:

I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had.

as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfanaol wrote:

that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote:

3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

RoxannaAutism Happens

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