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LOL, when they say, I have the same problems as him. its not autism??? When teachers or the guidance councilor try to diagnosis my child. (even though I have several documents from professionals that specialize in autism) I hate when they say: I don't see that - and at the end of the year, they complain to me with THAT problem that I already addressed to them. OH it took you a whole year to see. Hummm! when they say that only happens at home. Not at school. (and I've seen it happen at school). and most worst thing: It's not interfering with his academics, so we don't need to address it, he is passing... *if not corrected now, when going into middle school that gap would get bigger, and it would interfere with his grades* for them, the word prevention is a BAD word. and that dammm school budget!!! The number one worst for me

is: The school saying: """I DON'T SEE IT""" But when they find out I'm right, that pisses them off!!! but by the time they "see it" my son looses out on all that time he could of been learning in resource... another, if the school finds out you have outside help. they do less... Rose Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns,

what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens

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I think last year when my son was moved to a main-stream educational

classroom. I voiced my concerns with this and was blatently told " Take

it or leave it " . After a week of school, and my son getting 5-10

referrals a day for behavior, I refused to send him to school.

When I attempted to setup a meeting with the school principal, the

secretary told me that she would not be available for some time, and

when I tried to explain the case I was hung up on. I repeatedly called

the superintendant until I was able to schedule a meeting to discuss his

needs.

I was talked down to for that meeting, and it didn't take me much to

look around the room, and put everyone on their place - after all, my

taxes were paying their salaries, so as far as I was concerned - me and

my child are the customers and the customer should always be right.

When I finally presented paperwork showing that the school he came from

was ready to have him back, suddenly the tune changed and they decided

to do things my way - and since then, he's been doing marvelously in

school.

Don't let those people tell you what to do - they don't have the right,

and if you have to, call them repeatedly, email them, whatever it takes.

When they won't listen to you, just remember that with everyone you deal

with - school or really any government agency - that they have a boss.

So, if you make it a hassle for the boss, believe me - their boss feels

their subordinates should have to deal with people; not them. It's

amazing how things resolve themselves quickly and the people who won't

help you either change their tune, or are fired by a very frustrated

boss who had to deal with you.

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After making my son sit in a corner for making noises, his band teacher (who we found out after an investigation knew nothing of AS or tourettes) told my son that the band was better off without him. Also,,,,when my son asked him "which noises should I stop making?",,,,,,,the "band teacher" told him, "pretty much anything that comes out of your mouth". In the end,,,,,it was the teachers word against my son. Gee............... ***Also,,,,,when hearing about my sons inability to sit still in the lunchroom from the principal,,, she had to add,,,,,"well,,,,,you know Ian. He can never sit still or be quiet." I hate myself for what I did,,,,,,,but I did nothing. I still didn't have the balls to talk back yet. Enough of this crap and we've since pulled him. He's now happy................so are we. Robin Roxanna

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We don't have to test your child. He doesn't fall in the bottom 25% of the class.LizOn Sep 20, 2007, at 1:39 PM, Roxanna wrote:3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens

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Maybe, not so much said but did. When my son was in special education

classes the teacher would lock him up in a closet and laugh when he

wanted out. I didn't find this out until after I started

homeschooling him. Also, she called the police on him without the

principal even knowing. People like this don't need to have the

privilege of being in special education! Thanks for listening,

Donna

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The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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that is awful!

I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.

I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever.

Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.

Deb

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The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

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3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

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Do you ever wonder why these people go into the special ed field? For

them to compare as they did with your dd, that's awful.

I had a teacher call me, sigh, express her frustration with quite a

tone, and tell me, "Mrs. xx, your son is THE most impulsive, lack of

self-control child I have ever seen." And she was not a young woman.

Yet, she's the one who insisted that there were no problems, I

shouldn't label my son, and he was "fine." It took me flipping through

a pile of notes of incidents, and a bunch of behavior problem reports,

in an IEP, to finally get them to understand the irony of her

ridiculous commentary.

debmetsfan@... wrote:

that is awful! 

I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most

disrespectful child she had ever seen.  I was at the school for

teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her.  She got me

really mad!  I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that

was fine!  She said they were lying to me but she would tell me

the truth.  I was furious!  She even said they would take out of

her math class because she can't get along with anyone.  when I got

home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very

irate message.  He called me back and assured me that was not

being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk

with this guidance counselor.

I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade

that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the

system.  She said no one wanted to help because no one liked

her.  And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want

to go near her.  That was when was faking her showers but i

didn't smell anything.  I was furious at that teacher and no one in the

IEP meeting made any kind of comments.  Right after that, was

diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school.  That

teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy

for her whatsoever. 

Those were our worst experiences.  For the most part, everyone has been

very helpful.

Deb

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following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88@...> wrote: The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself.

Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had. as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfan@... wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really

mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the

IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will

ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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My worst experience happenend just this past September. My ds aspie

is extremely high functioning and has been in a normal class for 2

years. Being fairly new to the school issue, we listened to the

school and they suggested another school that had more special ed

service available. So, we switched. We were informed that he would

be in a normal classroom, and go out for math, and reading. On the

day before school started, we went to familiarize him with the

classrooms and the teachers at that time, I was informed that he

would be in a special ed classroom full time, with children who were

low functioning to not functioning at all. They did not even

consult us on this issue. When we decided to pull him, a comment

was made to me that the school system needed to know because they

were already looking to fill his " spot " . Basically I felt like my

son was a dollar sign to them, since he was put in there to get more

money from the state. Needless to say, we moved him to a private

school, with tuition and all, and he is doing wonderful in a normal

classroom setting. I should also say that my son's social skills

are doing great, and it is just the academic side that he is

struggling with. At his new school, they have decided on the first

week to try alternative methods to help him learn, and these were

not even brought up at the other two schools he was at--they were

suppossed to be the experts.

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anybody know of social skills groups for teens to get together 1xa week or every other week? I live in Central New Jersey, South Plainfield area...My 17 yr, aspie can use a soical group, (even though he doesn't think he wants one)...He's such a loner, would love to get him interested in people) Let me know, thanks Sharon---Mom of Stan debmetsfan@... wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me

that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body

odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly

after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

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Could you contact a Behavioral Health Office.............Public or privact office. That's where we got some great contacts......... Also,,,,,,I've contacted the local Home School Groups. Many parents have their kids out of school because of the lack of supt for them at school and LOTS have issues like our own kids. Hope this helps. Robinsharon mitchell <smitch458@...> wrote: anybody know of social skills groups for teens to get together 1xa week or every other week? I live in Central New Jersey, South Plainfield area...My 17 yr, aspie can use a soical group, (even though he doesn't think he wants one)...He's such a loner, would love to get him interested in people) Let me know, thanks Sharon---Mom of Stan debmetsfanaol wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math

class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her

whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really

should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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I have had many horrible experiences since my son was diagnosed. i have a now 9 y.o Asp. he has many quite strange quirk's. I think the fact that I take it all in stride and not go ballistic bothers most people. I'm African American and my up-bringing called for me to beat it out of "him", I DO NOT HIT MY SON EVER. I divorced my husband for that very reason, my son would crawl under the bed to get away from him. It too until now-he's 9, to find out what was going on with his behavior. This woman, who I thought was a friend, went crazy on me ..We were in Walgreen's and my son saw that she had bags and wanted to see what she bought, she told him she had bought him something and he proceeded to look through her bags, she lost it. I think she was mad I didn't stop him, I saw what he did, but I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I took her home, (she didn't have a car) I drove her everyday to help her MS college aged son up

and dressed for school I took her grocery shopping and lent her money... I over-extended myself more than once. This lady called me and told me she couldn't stand my son and couldn't be my friend, because of his behavior, quarks and forwardness. I'm being nice and re-phrasing it. I just listened to her rant and then she hung up in my face. I was mortified, that an adult, nurse and special ed teacher would say these words. I guess you never really know people. I have recovered and learned to just stay away from toxic people, it's damaging to the spirit. I love my son and no-one will ever tell me that love can not conquer all. Kathy

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Kathy,Some people just don't get it. I have relatives who will ask about every creature in the house, including the dog, but won't ask about my son. It's as if he doesn't exist. I believe that love is very powerful, but we have needed some help to add to it over the years. LOLLizOn Oct 30, 2007, at 10:35 AM, wrote:I have had many horrible experiences since my son was diagnosed. i have a now 9 y.o Asp. he has many quite strange quirk's. I think the fact that I take it all in stride and not go ballistic bothers most people. I'm African American and my up-bringing called for me to beat it out of "him", I DO NOT HIT MY SON EVER. I divorced my husband for that very reason, my son would crawl under the bed to get away from him. It too until now-he's 9, to find out what was going on with his behavior. This woman, who I thought was a friend, went crazy on me ..We were in Walgreen's and my son saw that she had bags and wanted to see what she bought, she told him she had bought him something and he procee ded to look through her bags, she lost it. I think she was mad I didn't stop him, I saw what he did, but I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I took her home, (she didn't have a car) I drove her everyday to help her MS college aged son up and dressed for school I took her grocery shopping and lent her money... I over-extended myself more than once. This lady called me and told me she couldn't stand my son and couldn't be my friend, because of his behavior, quarks and forwardness. I'm being nice and re-phrasing it. I just listened to her rant and then she hung up in my face. I was mortified, that an adult, nurse and special ed teacher would say these words. I guess you never really know people. I have recovered and learned to just stay away from toxic people, it's damaging to the spirit. I love my son and no-one will ever tell me that love can not conquer all.            Kathy

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Isn't that the truth??

I have a couple of friends who never hesitate to email me when their

child wins an award or is sick and needs prayer, but they NEVER EVER

EVER ask about either my child with autism or my child with seizure

disorder. However, they will ask how I'm doing, dh, the other kids,

etc. I have written after a seizure or about a major issue (which is

rare -- I tried to email those two rarely about anything) but get no

response. So, I gave up...not worth being friends with someone that

can't acknowledge my children or my life as well as their own. Same

goes with family -- no interest? That's fine, I don't have time to try

to initiate and be told "too busy," whatever. Too many other fun things

in life!

Liz Bohn wrote:

Kathy,

Some people just don't get it. I have relatives who will ask

about every creature in the house, including the dog, but won't ask

about my son. It's as if he doesn't exist. I believe that love is very

powerful, but we have needed some help to add to it over the years. LOL

Liz

On Oct 30, 2007, at 10:35 AM, wrote:

I

have had many horrible experiences since my son was diagnosed. i have a

now 9 y.o Asp. he has many quite strange quirk's. I think the fact that

I take it all in stride and not go ballistic bothers most people. I'm

African American and my up-bringing called for me to beat it out of

"him", I DO NOT HIT MY SON EVER. I divorced my husband for that very

reason, my son would crawl under the bed to get away from him. It too

until now-he's 9, to find out what was going on with his behavior. This

woman, who I thought was a friend, went crazy on me ..We were in

Walgreen's and my son saw that she had bags and wanted to see what she

bought, she told him she had bought him something and he procee ded to

look through her bags, she lost it. I think she was mad I didn't stop

him, I saw what he did, but I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I

took her home, (she didn't have a car) I drove her everyday to help her

MS college aged son up and dressed for school I took her grocery

shopping and lent her money... I over-extended myself more than once.

This lady called me and told me she couldn't stand my son and couldn't

be my friend, because of his behavior, quarks and forwardness. I'm

being nice and re-phrasing it. I just listened to her rant and then she

hung up in my face. I was mortified, that an adult, nurse and special

ed teacher would say these words. I guess you never really know people.

I have recovered and learned to just stay away from toxic people, it's

damaging to the spirit. I love my son and no-one will ever tell me that

love can not conquer all. Kathy

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I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them!

Deb

In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002@... writes:

I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had.

as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfanaol wrote:

that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

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3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

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Yes, it was very mean! The teachers after her have been good! Some absolutely awesome!

Deb

In a message dated 10/30/2007 10:23:12 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, pidder88@... writes:

Wow, that's heartbreaking Deb, isn't it awful that people in the position to help our children could say something so cold hearted.

Becky debmetsfanaol wrote:

that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

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3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

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I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible. This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote: following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote: The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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Wow, that's heartbreaking Deb, isn't it awful that people in the position to help our children could say something so cold hearted. Becky debmetsfan@... wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen

told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after

that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was

mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________Do You

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Deb, I get confused with the e-mail posts when we get really busy and I come home, check on some e-mails, and out the door again. (home check e-mail - out, home check e-mail - out) Did you say s b-day is tomorrow? or December 1st? Did you send out the invitations yet? was that you that your going bowling. Sorry for the confusion. I just been so busy. wish I had a lap top so when I'm waiting for the kids I can read & type. *smile*. On our invitation I always add: RSVP to Rose with # ASAP. That helps keep tract of who's coming and who's not. debmetsfan@... wrote: I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them! Deb In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes: I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your

the most WORST teacher ever had. as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfanaol wrote: that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured

me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________

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's birthday is Dec 1 but I don't have big parties for her any more. I'm just going to take her and her friend Genna bowling. But next year is Sweet 16! I may let her have a big party then. Has anyone here had a Sweet 16 for their girls?

What about our AS kids and driving? It's still a ways off for us, but it's scary thinking about behind the wheel! I think she would do fine as long as she takes her medication. She makes poor judgements when she does not.

I know what you mean; I am always super busy, too! I really enjoy this group and reading about what everyone is up to and the different advice. It helps me so much!

Deb

In a message dated 10/31/2007 8:41:38 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002@... writes:

Deb,

I get confused with the e-mail posts when we get really busy and I come home, check on some e-mails, and out the door again. (home check e-mail - out, home check e-mail - out)

Did you say s b-day is tomorrow? or December 1st? Did you send out the invitations yet? was that you that your going bowling. Sorry for the confusion. I just been so busy. wish I had a lap top so when I'm waiting for the kids I can read & type. *smile*. On our invitation I always add: RSVP to Rose with # ASAP. That helps keep tract of who's coming and who's not.

debmetsfanaol wrote:

I have a hard time forgiving and forgetting. doesn't have a problem with that at all! Well, with some people, anyway! If it's the boys at school, she obsesses about them and then she is out to get them!

Deb

In a message dated 10/29/2007 6:27:08 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, beachbodytan2002 writes:

I don't think fast enough either, but by the way her conversation went, I would of said and your the most WORST teacher ever had.

as far as guidance counselors go, They are definitely amateur doctors!!! ours thinks she can diagnosis or cure autism.debmetsfanaol wrote:

that is awful! I had a guidance counselor tell me that is the most disrespectful child she had ever seen. I was at the school for teacher's conferences and wanted to stop in to meet her. She got me really mad! I told her all the teachers that I had seen told me that was fine! She said they were lying to me but she would tell me the truth. I was furious! She even said they would take out of her math class because she can't get along with anyone. when I got home, I called our case manager for special ed and left him a very irate message. He called me back and assured me that was not being moved out of any of her classes and that he would have a talk with this guidance counselor.I also had a teacher tell me during 's IEP meeting in 4th grade that there was nothing wrong with ; that she knew how to work the system. She said no one wanted to help because no one liked her. And she told me that had bad body odor and she didn't want to go near her. That was when was faking her showers but i didn't smell anything. I was furious at that teacher and no one in the IEP meeting made any kind of comments. Right after that, was diagnosed with Asperger's and I moved her to a different school. That teacher retired that year and then passed away and I had no sympathy for her whatsoever. Those were our worst experiences. For the most part, everyone has been very helpful.Deb Re: ( ) Question 3 - worst sped experience

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

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AMEN! We are soooo enjoying homeschooling our 8th grader; I just hope that one of my other two sons (4 years and 1st grade) will allow me to homeschool them, too, at some point; I love it, and am having so much fun at it. Of course, this is only week 3, but he is sooooo happy; it is just soooo much better! And, what a bonding experience.

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I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible.

This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote:

following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote:

The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?"

I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people really should think before they speak. <sigh>

Becky

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3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program?

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Thanks Rose, We have been schooling at home for two and a half years now through a charter school. I do all the teaching just like other homeschoolers, and I love it. My son has gained so much by our decison. In the state we live in we had to fill out papers to remove him from our local district. I didn't state in writing why I decided to remove my son, but I did pull him out in the middle of the school year; they knew that I was not happy. I know there are some good teachers out there. I have two other children that have graduated through the local school district and have met some wonderful teachers. I wish things had been different for my son with autism, but I just felt that I would rather spend my energy teaching my son at home than constantly having to fight

the district for his needs. Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002@...> wrote: Dear Becky, I'm sorry to hear that you experienced a negative teacher like that. This shows that its not just autistic kids that lack empathy. (not saying your does). There are teachers in public schools that care and are doing an awesome job. But when we find the ones like you did. Ouch!!! I'm sorry that things got that bad, that you

needed to pull your son out and home school him. I hope you put in writing, the reason why you pulled him out. And let the school know on record that you are homeschooling him so they don't have him marked absent for the year. Best luck to you and your family. Hugs Rosepidder88 <pidder88 > wrote: I like your follow up. At the time I was really hurt by what she said, and I just couldn't believe that anyone that was supposed to be helping my son would say something so horrible. This was the beginning of many things we have gone through with the public school system. Which eventually led to us pulling him out and schooling him at home. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Becky Rose <beachbodytan2002 > wrote: following your great answer, you should of finished with. And Do you really have a license to be a speech teacher?pidder88 <pidder88 > wrote: The worst thing that was said to me was from a speech therapist shortly after my son was diagnosed: she worked with my son on a daily basis in the language class he was in. She asked me, "Do you ever think that he will ever be capable of loving anyone?" I was mortified, and had to turn my back for a moment to compose myself. Then turned and said of course he can he is a very loving child. Geez, people

really should think before they speak. <sigh> Becky Roxanna <madideaszoominternet (DOT) net> wrote: 3. Regarding Special Education concerns, what is the worst thing sped people have said to you while you try to get your child an appropriate special education program? RoxannaAutism Happens __________________________________________________