Re: Alienated from aspergers son

[Guest guest]

I am sorry i don't have any suggestions on resources for you. I just wanted to

say my 7 year old son too is very mild AS & if I was separated or divorced from

his Dad, he would still need to see his father. It would be wrong for me to

deny my son a relationship with his father. A boy can learn things from his Dad

that he cannot from his mother, and mild Aspergers wouldn't make things harder

for the boy. If anything, his Aspergers symptoms such as poor social skills,

may improve with more interaction with his father.

Best of luck to you.

Liz

(feel free to copy my email to show your attorney)

sbarna0 <sbarna0@...> wrote:

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

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[Guest guest]

have you tried a female lawyer. the way the courts work in NC is that

the man pays lots of child support and the women can do what ever they

want. My husband and I have been fighting his ex for support and full

custody for several years. I know that this is different than your case

but, i feel that the courts always take up for the female no matter

what.

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

> Hello group,

>

> I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

> has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2

> years,

> during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

> from my boy.

>

> I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

> that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

> certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

> way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that

> he

> should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

> back and forth between us.

>

> My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

> the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible.

> He

> is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

> affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but

> other

> than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

>

> My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to

> convince

> the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

> as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

> bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

> was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

>

> It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

> and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I

> sure

> hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

> correct

> on this.

>

> I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> Thank you

> Sbarna0

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi.

I am a single mom of 2 boys.one has high functioning autism.I am

divorced from their dad for a year now and separated from their dad for 2

years.I have always encouraged them to have a relationship with their dad

especially my oldest(who is autistic).I do think it is very important for

all sons(and daughters) even with autism/aspergers.especially kids with

autism and aspergers.I believe that it will do good for dads to be involved

with their kids.boys need their dad disabilities or not,severe disabilities

to none.ALL KIDS NEED THEIR DAD!I wish my ex would be more involved and call

more etc.,but he don't call much and he don't see them hardly etc.it affects

my a.s. Son for the worst.he acts out.he closes down.I have told my ex that

he should and needs to be more involved,but he doesn't.and so my a.s son and

my nt son have to suffer.because of their dad....

(feel free to contact me at packerpenguin@... and you can use my

email in court if you think it will help you any.)

Christie

-- ( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

[Guest guest]

To Sbarnao:

You should try to obtain an expert opinion and request

an independent assessment of your son. Your wife is not an expoert to decide

what is best for him in terms of his Aspergers. Each AS has differences and

some of them are huge. The judge must decidde what is in the best interest of

the

child. From your message I get the impression that your presence is very

important for your son future development. It is your duty to try to obtain

meaningful visitation with your son. Get different expert opinons and try to

obtain

an order from the judge to have an independent evaluation of your son.

Have a blessed Christmas.

Ana

[Guest guest]

You might want to check with local support groups and see if there is

an asperger or autism group that you could go to. Maybe someone

there would be able to direct you to a local expert who might be able

to give their opinion at your trial. It is true that consisteny and

stability are important to AS kids, but in today's life many things

change and it is good for them to learn to deal with. Personally, if

I were you...I would ask the courts if you and your ex could be

ordered to see a local counselor who deals with AS. Going to the

counselor would help you both communicate to each other what things

your son does routinely, so that when he is with you he can keep this

consistency going. If you would like to email me your town and

state...then I do a lot of research online and have some links to

help you find local experts/help. I hope everything works out for

the best and I look forward to hearing from you.

Ginger

>

> Hello group,

>

> I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

> has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2

years,

> during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

> from my boy.

>

> I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

> that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

> certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

> way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that

he

> should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

> back and forth between us.

>

> My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

> the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

> is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

> affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

> than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

>

> My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to

convince

> the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

> as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

> bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

> was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

>

> It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

> and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

> hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

correct

> on this.

>

> I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> Thank you

> Sbarna0

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your reply!

I agree with you completely that he needs me even more because of

his aspergers. I am searching for something from a professional who

would say the same thing so that I can use it in court. I have just

begun my search, so I hope to come up with something soon.

I'm sorry you ex is not involved more. It is such a shame and it's

unfortunate that you don't have the extra help and your children

don't have the stability of a father. It's so important!

>

> Hi.

> I am a single mom of 2 boys.one has high functioning autism.I

am

> divorced from their dad for a year now and separated from their

dad for 2

> years.I have always encouraged them to have a relationship with

their dad

> especially my oldest(who is autistic).I do think it is very

important for

> all sons(and daughters) even with autism/aspergers.especially kids

with

> autism and aspergers.I believe that it will do good for dads to be

involved

> with their kids.boys need their dad disabilities or not,severe

disabilities

> to none.ALL KIDS NEED THEIR DAD!I wish my ex would be more

involved and call

> more etc.,but he don't call much and he don't see them hardly

etc.it affects

> my a.s. Son for the worst.he acts out.he closes down.I have told

my ex that

> he should and needs to be more involved,but he doesn't.and so my

a.s son and

> my nt son have to suffer.because of their dad....

> (feel free to contact me at packerpenguin@... and you can use my

> email in court if you think it will help you any.)

>

Christie

>

> -- ( ) Alienated from aspergers son

>

> Hello group,

>

> I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

> has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

> during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

> from my boy.

>

> I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

> that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

> certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

> way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that

he

> should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

> back and forth between us.

>

> My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

> the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

> is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

> affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

> than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

>

> My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to

convince

> the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

> as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

> bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

> was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

>

> It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

> and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

> hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

correct

> on this.

>

> I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> Thank you

> Sbarna0

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I have a pittbull female lawyer. PRobelem is, it's so hard to

get lawyers to take much time with you!

>

> have you tried a female lawyer. the way the courts work in NC is

that

> the man pays lots of child support and the women can do what ever

they

> want. My husband and I have been fighting his ex for support and

full

> custody for several years. I know that this is different than your

case

> but, i feel that the courts always take up for the female no

matter

> what.

>

>

>

> ( ) Alienated from aspergers son

>

>

> > Hello group,

> >

> > I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son

who

> > has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2

> > years,

> > during which time she has done everything under the son to keep

me

> > from my boy.

> >

> > I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now

saying

> > that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

> > certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as

a

> > way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing

that

> > he

> > should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to

go

> > back and forth between us.

> >

> > My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he

is

> > the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible.

> > He

> > is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

> > affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but

> > other

> > than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

> >

> > My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to

> > convince

> > the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is

not

> > as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

> > bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think

he

> > was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

> >

> > It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a

regular

> > and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> > looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I

> > sure

> > hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

> > correct

> > on this.

> >

> > I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> > Thank you

> > Sbarna0

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Have you tried looking for a lawyer who specializes in disability cases?

What about a developmental Pediatricians evaluation?

Just a thought,

Good Luck,

- C.

Mom to Cassie 15 PCOS, Austin 13 ADHD and a 3 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

......

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 12/6/2006 12:24:07 PM Eastern Standard Time,

keeplivingstrong@... writes:

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

> and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

> hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

correct

> on this.

>

> I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> Thank you

> Sbarna0

Hi, I had the same problem. You can even google " custody battel " and

aspergers and find it. One of the last things a child with aspergers really

needs is

their parents in a custody battle and this needs to be your position along with

you getting yourself very educated on aspergers syndrome and your sons

specific areas of difficulty in particular (not all aspi kids have the exact

same

strengths and weakness) . Call the teacher after school and talk to her about

your child and ask her how you can help! this will help both your child and your

involvement. Offer to pay for independent counseling and mediation if your ex

refuses enough times she will look bad well not to everyone, but to the

person whoever eventually will be involved with enough sense to see common sense

(which didn't happen right away in my case btw).

[Guest guest]

For lack of a better idea, there is a web page called meetup.com. You can start

your own group with any focus from high society primstock to dumpster diving.

You can set up meets whenever your group agrees to, and expand to whatever you

want. Diving in high society dumsters, anyone?

Dave

( ) Re: Alienated from aspergers son

You might want to check with local support groups and see if there is

an asperger or autism group that you could go to. Maybe someone

there would be able to direct you to a local expert who might be able

to give their opinion at your trial. It is true that consisteny and

stability are important to AS kids, but in today's life many things

change and it is good for them to learn to deal with. Personally, if

I were you...I would ask the courts if you and your ex could be

ordered to see a local counselor who deals with AS. Going to the

counselor would help you both communicate to each other what things

your son does routinely, so that when he is with you he can keep this

consistency going. If you would like to email me your town and

state...then I do a lot of research online and have some links to

help you find local experts/help. I hope everything works out for

the best and I look forward to hearing from you.

Ginger

>

> Hello group,

>

> I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

> has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2

years,

> during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

> from my boy.

>

> I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

> that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

> certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

> way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that

he

> should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

> back and forth between us.

>

> My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

> the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

> is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

> affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

> than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

>

> My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to

convince

> the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

> as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

> bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

> was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

>

> It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

> and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

> looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

> hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am

correct

> on this.

>

> I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

> Thank you

> Sbarna0

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Dad,

Just my opinion, though I am sure you have had lots.

I think the best you can do is to really understand Asperger Syndrome

and how it relates to your son.

The best thing you can do now, is see if you can at least attempt to

mend the apparent wounds of this divorce. Perhaps find a way to work

things out with your wife. I am not sure this is even anything that is

possible, but I think, for the best interests of your son, if you are

both looking out for the well being of your son, than you both should

have a good relationship and be working together. Regardless on who is

right or wrong, and honestly, none of us can make that judgement

because we haven't heard both sides of your story, the most important

thing in this childs life right now, is to have both parents being

good to each other, and being 'on the same page' when it comes to how

he is being raised.

I don't know if this is possible, but I pray that somehow it can

happen.

If you can work out your issues between the two of you, then perhaps

the other things can finally fall into place.

Have I made any sense? (If not, I apologize:-( but I hope so)

Hope this helps a little.

B

>

> Hello group,

>

> I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

> has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

>

[Guest guest]

I can't imagine why it would be " too hard " to go back and forth between parents.

I'm not divorced but my kids go with their dad as easily as with me. Sounds

like she wants to keep you away from him.

Roxanna

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

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[Guest guest]

My grandson lives with us " the grandparents. " He has lived with us for

10yrs. Just the last 3 his parents decided to get him for their weekends which I

totally wanted from the get go. Jon has had 10 yrs of counseling from all this.

He now goes back & forth every weekend. At first he hated the transition..i mean

he freaked out once he was home (here) but over time he actually likes it,seeing

both mom & dad. He still always wishes he lived with them both all together. He

loves his dad & his mom. His dad has other kids & jon wishes he was the only one

to visit. He often cries that he would like one on one time with just his dad.

Please try to get him as often as you can. Boys need a father.

Take care,Betty

Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote:

I can't imagine why it would be " too hard " to go back and forth

between parents. I'm not divorced but my kids go with their dad as easily as

with me. Sounds like she wants to keep you away from him.

Roxanna

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

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[Guest guest]

My grandson lives with us " the grandparents. " He has lived with us for

10yrs. Just the last 3 his parents decided to get him for their weekends which I

totally wanted from the get go. Jon has had 10 yrs of counseling from all this.

He now goes back & forth every weekend. At first he hated the transition..i mean

he freaked out once he was home (here) but over time he actually likes it,seeing

both mom & dad. He still always wishes he lived with them both all together. He

loves his dad & his mom. His dad has other kids & jon wishes he was the only one

to visit. He often cries that he would like one on one time with just his dad.

Please try to get him as often as you can. Boys need a father.

Take care,Betty

Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote:

I can't imagine why it would be " too hard " to go back and forth

between parents. I'm not divorced but my kids go with their dad as easily as

with me. Sounds like she wants to keep you away from him.

Roxanna

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

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Ok I just picked up on this so I don't know if I might be repeating advice, but

as far as how your ex makes him appear in the courts eyes. Can you get school or

doctor records or statements from them (teachers, principal, doctor etc..)

showing that he is not as bad as she is trying to make him sound. I would even

get statements from family and friends (on both sides if possible) this could

very likely show that she is just simply trying to keep him from you because of

her own resentment. I myself have never understood why a mother would keep a

willing father away from thier child (unless violence was an issue of course)

though I have seen it happen several times. I don't even now where and don't get

to see my niece and nephew because thier mother's are well I'll leave that word

out. I am married now but my oldest son has never seen his real father not

because I kept him from him but because he didn't really care. My son is 10 now

and still if his father were to just show

up one day I would allow him to see him as long as he wasn't still on drugs and

supervised for a while until I felt it was safe. Anyway if I were you I would

gather up as many statements from as many people as possible and hand them to

the judge. I really hope this helps and really hope you can get this turned

around. Good luck and let us know how things are going. --Alisha

Roxanna <madideas@...> wrote: I can't imagine why it would

be " too hard " to go back and forth between parents. I'm not divorced but my kids

go with their dad as easily as with me. Sounds like she wants to keep you away

from him.

Roxanna

( ) Alienated from aspergers son

Hello group,

I am a father who is being denied access to my 6 year old son who

has aspergers syndrome. I have been separated from ex for 2 years,

during which time she has done everything under the son to keep me

from my boy.

I have spent a fortune in court fighting her and she is now saying

that because of sons aspergers syndrome, he needs stability and

certaintly. I agree with this totally but she is using that as a

way to keep him from me in a joint parenting regime...citing that he

should be with her all the time because it would be too hard to go

back and forth between us.

My son has been diagnosed with aspergers but the doctors say he is

the mildest they have ever seen...and it is barely perceptible. He

is at the top of his grade one class and is extremely social and

affectionate. He has some preoccupation with electronics but other

than that, you would never know he had his diagnosis.

My ex is very bitter and vindictive and I don't know how to convince

the courts ( another appearance coming up soon) that my son is not

as bad as she is making him out to be...not even one tiny bit as

bad!.....honestly, the way she describes him, you would think he

was in a straight jacket and drooling all day long!

It is my stance that beacuse of his aspergers, he needs a regular

and consistant relationship with me probably even more! I am

looking for any kind of literature that might support this. I sure

hope there is some....and I believe very sincerely that I am correct

on this.

I would really appreciate any input from anyone..

Thank you

Sbarna0

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In a message dated 12/10/2006 10:49:40 AM Eastern Standard Time,

alishasdt@... writes:

Anyway if I were you I would gather up as many statements from as many people

as possible and hand them to the judge.

Alisha,

Hi, You can't hand statements to a judge the people have to testify (if

the judge allows them and sometimes they aren't allowed either if the other

attorney opposes it and if they are not professionals, and sometimes not even

then! believe it or not) first hand or it is hearsay and not admissible and

their

are also dads who keep their kids away from their moms too for no good

reason. it called being spiteful and It is not good for " normal " kids and it is

certainally not good for our kids. Meg