Re: Major meltdown

[Guest guest]

Hi. You didn't say how old your daughter is. I know that alot of kids on

the spectrum, my two included, struggle greatly at the change of seasons. My

other thought is has she had a growth spurt lately and perhaps needs a med

evaluation? Pam

[Guest guest]

Hi!

Did she have any foods she doesn't usually have or not

have access to something she usually does? Is she like

this now that she's back home? You're probably racking

your brain! I hope you find out a reason, if there is

any.

- Adrienne from Boston

--- Traci <tramar63@...> wrote:

> Hi,

>

> I am hoping this great group will have some

> suggestions for me. I

> aplogize in advance for the length of this message.

>

>

> Recently my family went on a week-long vacation. My

> Husband and son

> also went.

>

> Now, we have been on many, many vacations with our

> kids. We have

> traveled a lot and lived in foreign countries. This

> particular

> vacation was even similar to one we took last year.

> Both kids loved

> the trip last year and were looking forward to it

> for months.

>

> Unfortunately, DD was in meltdown mode most of the

> week. She

> displayed behavior we hadn't seen in 2 years (ie.

> biting, hitting).

> She was clearly miserable a lot of the time and no

> amount of talking

> to her seemed to help. It was as though she had

> regressed to her

> former out-of-hand behavior that was normal for her

> up until a few

> years ago.

> The reason (we believe) that she became easier to

> live with was that

> we put her on a low dose of prozac. On this

> vacation she had her

> usual dose. There was only one hour's time

> difference.

>

> So, what I wonder is why did she suddenly become so

> over-stimuated

> and stressed out? Has anyone else ever experienced

> this?

>

> I could somewhat understand her behavior if this had

> been a new

> experience. It was not. It was to a place we'd been

> before. We

> discussed before hand all the things we were going

> to do. Still she

> lost it. I would really appreciate any insight into

> what went wrong

> AND, most importantly, how to prevent this in the

> future.

>

> TIA for your help.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

She's 10.5. I have 2 older kids so I recognize the signs of puberty -

- which she is showing. I have to think her medication dosage is

okay or else she would show this behavior at other times, too. She

usually can pull herself back when she begins to get out of control.

This time there was no attempt at all, even when we used our tried

and true strategies.

I am really worried now that she will do this again. We are moving

this summer and it will be a fairly big adjustment for her

(different country). We have set up all support she'll need, etc.

But, I fear she'll totally fall apart as we are trying to get

settled.

Anyway, thanks for the thoughts. I am going to make an appointment

w/her dr. to discuss it too.

T

>

> Hi. You didn't say how old your daughter is. I know that alot

of kids on

> the spectrum, my two included, struggle greatly at the change of

seasons. My

> other thought is has she had a growth spurt lately and perhaps

needs a med

> evaluation? Pam

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Did she leave something important to her home during the trip? My son

and daughter have certain 'comfort' items that have to travel with us

or the trip is miserable and they have a hard time sleeping away.

Kathy J.

[Guest guest]

Thanks everyone for you kind words and encouragement.

I go today to my shrink. Maybe he'll have some idea as to what to do until the medicine kicks in. I am still pretty unstable. We didn't have the talk. I thought it better to wait until I am in a better state of mind. Things soo to be ok though. DH is being really supportive, even though the house is a mess. I am concentrating on taking care of me and the kids, if the house doesn't get all the way done so be it. I wnet to my MD yesterday and he put me on BP meds. He has ordered an excercise stress test. He said I am pretty young for heart disease, but mom had had it for years by the time they found out she had it(age 47). So he's being cautious. Maybe the test will show why my heart rate skyrockets while working out and takes forever to recover... Blessed be,

Re: Major meltdown

Buck up Cupcake Get the doc to fix the meds again and think happy thoughts and it'll be ok You should have a talk with hubby couples SHOULD talk indepth once in a while. Clear the air, don't let things fester. I've never been married but if I were I know I'd insist on one night a month minimum that we stop everything sit down and just TALK to each other. I'm lighting a candle for you

<ib_domesticdiva@ sbcglobal. net> wrote:

I am in the middle of a MAJOR meltdwon. Today I was so bad I had to page my shrink(yes on a Sat.). He changed my meds on Mon. It was half the strength of the comparable meds I was on. He took me off due to the sexual side effects and the 50 lb weight gain. Today I was so unstable I thought I'd be heading back to the hosp. I am a little better right now. BUT I have to say this I kissed my husband on the neck(he was on the computer) and I saw the wince. Tonight we have to have a talk. He can't say he enjoys my kisses then wince at them. You just can't have it both ways... Blessed be,

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[Guest guest]

> I go today to my shrink. Maybe he'll have some idea as to what to do until the medicine kicks in.

He's the one to go to for that stuff, right?

> We didn't have the talk. I thought it better to wait until I am in a better state of mind.

I'm sure your doc would agree with you on that one.

>if the house doesn't get all the way done so be it.

It's been like that around here for years now. Will your kids remember how sparkling the toilet tank is or how you sat and read with them when they're grown? It's a matter of priorities.

>I went to my MD yesterday and he put me on BP meds.

It happens. I was on them when I was in my early 30's and over the years got off of them. Diet and exercise and stress relief. My BP still goes up when I'm nervous or aggravated, and Ed says I'm gona die like Rip Van Winkle's wife some day. The story goes that she burst a blood vessel while argueing with a merchant over pennies, or something. I'm the same way - I get so upset over little things.

> Maybe the test will show why my heart rate skyrockets while working out and takes forever to recover...

Let the tester know every drug you're on when you have it done, as the way some of the meds work in the body might prevent the test giving accurate results.

Good luck!

Sue in NJ

[Guest guest]

Sharon said:

I am having a major meltdown. (cut from here on)

..

Sharon,

You have every right to get angry when your Dad does something so stupid. Yes, I said stupid. I know he's very ill and I'm so very sorry for you, but smoking in the same room with oxygen tanks is stupid and he's well aware of that. I lost my Daddy to cancer back in 1993 and even at the end he was careful about his smoking and about taking care of himself. You do need to be able to vent and your getting angry with him isn't wrong. His illness isn't a reason for you to treat him differently, as a matter of fact, you need to continue to treat him as you always have. Keep things as normal as possible for all of you. Not denial, that's not what I'm suggesting, but just as it's always been, you know?

We're all here to listen to each other, no matter what the topic so never feel like you can't say what you need to say, okay?

Gentle Hugs and Blessings,

Starhawk

Today, I claim my freedom. I claim my power.

[Guest guest]

Dear Sharon,

I am so sorry things are so difficult with your father, I am praying for you all. Please feel free to vent anytime.

love,