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I have a friend in Texas who is having a very

difficult time with her daughter. Her daughter was

causing such an upheaval in her household, that she

sent her off to live with her parents, who were

willing to take her and blamed a lot of the daughter's

behaviors on the mom. They blamed the medication for

her behavior as well, and when my friend sent her to

her parent's, she had taken her off the medications.

My friend said that her marriage and family were in

jeopardy with the daughter living there. Well, the

parents have decided they can't handle their

grand-daughter any longer, and are sending her back

home. However, my friend feels that she cannot handle

the daughter whatsoever and her oldest son is already

having major problems with the return of his sister.

My friend is at her wit's end. She wants to place her

in a facility, but claims that they can't afford any.

She said that the place will look at what they make a

year and will say that they can afford the place. So

she is saying that she can't place her anywhere

because of this situation.

Any suggestions on what she can do and if anyone knows

what is available in Texas? Aren't their facilities

that have some kind of financial assistance or a

" sliding fee scale " based on your income vs. your

expenses???

Any help would be appreciated. I just hate to see this

girl end up somewhere that is detrimental to herself.

My friend has already said that her only other choice

is to give her up as a ward of the state in order for

her to receive the treatment she needs.

She also says that her daughter's behavior is not " bad

enough " to warrant treatment because her grades and

behavior at school is fine. She said she is not

aggressive at school like she is at home, etc. But I

do know that she has had issues at school with the

school calling her at home for her daughter's

emotional outbursts. Even the therapist she's seen

has said that the daughter is uncontrollable and

basically has " washed her hands " of her. (This is the

2nd one she's been to that has said that there is

basically no hope for this family if the child is at

home.)

Thanks,

Melinda