Re: Son Refuses to do His Work

February 14, 2006

The school needs to do a Functional Behavior Assessment to find out why he

is refusing. Does he get a sensory diet at school? Has he been evaluated to

rule out any kind of learning disability? Pam

February 15, 2006

Dear Beth,

I had that same problem, now age 8, my AS son is doing very, very well in

math. What exactally is the problem? is it adding? Have you tried a number

ruler, to start? its a visual and he can see the number, add on & do the work

himself. On the computer there is a site puzzlemarker.school.discovery.com its

mostly for reading but if you look at the links, you will find something for

math. another www.multiplication.com they also have links to other math

problems. I also found out that taking away things from my son didn't help at

all, nor meant anything for him. Try rewarding you son even for trying to solve

one math problem. that should motivate him to try the next one. If he

completes the whole sheet, What I did with my son was he can buy anything in

the 99cents store. wow. he loved that & worked well. but, as he gets better at

math, the reward gets harder to get. Then, there are math games we played.

get a ball. the $3.00 ones you see in the supermarket. put

large numbers on it. all over the ball. throw the ball to your son. when he

catches the ball, ask he to see the numbers under his right & left hand. now,

ask him to add the numbers. then he should throw the ball back to you or

brother or/and sister. they add the numbers too. this game is fun. If you

already tried these things don't give up. something will click, and he will

also do fine in math. I also use real money to add coins up to a dollar. this

was fun too. The site we used to add up coins was www.cooldinos.com they have

print outs too. it had math/money/coins/matching coins to the written number.

they will show a nickle and have 5 - 10 - 25 cents. you will draw the line from

the nickle to the 5cents. Good luck - Rose

jellybelly33594 <PT-BethSloan@...> wrote:

Hi all. Well the IEP meeting was great. However, now my son ( AS 6 yrs

> old) refuses to do his work in class. He flat out refuses. It is math

> his weakest subject (which he now has a tutor in school everyday). We

> have done the punishment of taking everything of vaule away from him

> ie; computer, video games, TV, toys, phone, and he still refuses.

WHAT

> do I do? he is going to fail 1st grade if he doesn't do his work.

Does

> anyone have any suggestions....

>

> Beth

February 15, 2006

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-- Re: ( ) Son Refuses to do His Work

Dear Beth,

I had that same problem, now age 8, my AS son is doing very, very well in

math. What exactally is the problem? is it adding? Have you tried a

number ruler, to start? its a visual and he can see the number, add on & do

the work himself. On the computer there is a site puzzlemarker.school

discovery.com its mostly for reading but if you look at the links, you will

find something for math. another www.multiplication.com they also have

links to other math problems. I also found out that taking away things from

my son didn't help at all, nor meant anything for him. Try rewarding you

son even for trying to solve one math problem. that should motivate him

to try the next one. If he completes the whole sheet, What I did with my

son was he can buy anything in the 99cents store. wow. he loved that &

worked well. but, as he gets better at math, the reward gets harder to get.

Then, there are math games we played. get a ball. the $3.00 ones you see

in the supermarket. put

large numbers on it. all over the ball. throw the ball to your son.

when he catches the ball, ask he to see the numbers under his right & left

hand. now, ask him to add the numbers. then he should throw the ball back

to you or brother or/and sister. they add the numbers too. this game is

fun. If you already tried these things don't give up. something will click

and he will also do fine in math. I also use real money to add coins up to

a dollar. this was fun too. The site we used to add up coins was www

cooldinos.com they have print outs too. it had math/money/coins/matching

coins to the written number. they will show a nickle and have 5 - 10 - 25

cents. you will draw the line from the nickle to the 5cents. Good luck -

Rose

jellybelly33594 <PT-BethSloan@...> wrote:

Hi all. Well the IEP meeting was great. However, now my son ( AS 6 yrs

> old) refuses to do his work in class. He flat out refuses. It is math

> his weakest subject (which he now has a tutor in school everyday). We

> have done the punishment of taking everything of vaule away from him

> ie; computer, video games, TV, toys, phone, and he still refuses.

WHAT

> do I do? he is going to fail 1st grade if he doesn't do his work.

Does

> anyone have any suggestions....

>

> Beth

February 15, 2006

My son (now 11) would get 'overwhelmed' by the number of problems he

had to do. He would look at all of them at once and freak out. He

was unable to focus on doing the first problem, then moving on.

Once he got through the first 2 or 3 problems he was fine but doing

those first ones were a struggle. We had him re-write one problem

at a time on a separate sheet of paper so that's the only thing he

focused on. That seemed to help. We also discovered that certain

concepts were especially hard for him to understand. He just can't

estimate! He wants to solve the problem and the whole estimation

thing isn't logical. And that 'show your work' rule is just

stupid. He got the answer right, didn't he? Of course, he thinks

we can see in his brain how he solved the problem. I've had to

reassure him that the teacher cannot see inside his head and needs

to know how he came to his conclusions. Aspies are so interesting!

P.S. One other rule we established; if he didn't do it in school,

he had to do it at home. He evenutally figured out that he wanted

to play at home and not do the school work. That helped although it

was extremely painful for both him and I - lots of tears for a while.

>

> Hi all. Well the IEP meeting was great. However, now my son ( AS 6

yrs

> > old) refuses to do his work in class. He flat out refuses. It is

math

> > his weakest subject (which he now has a tutor in school

everyday). We

> > have done the punishment of taking everything of vaule away from

him

> > ie; computer, video games, TV, toys, phone, and he still

refuses.

> WHAT

> > do I do? he is going to fail 1st grade if he doesn't do his

work.

> Does

> > anyone have any suggestions....

> >

> > Beth

>

February 15, 2006

What is a Sensory Diet? LD's have been ruled out. In the IEP

meeting I requested a FBA which was suppossed to be done last

week..has not happened yet. I am trying behavior charts so that when

he makes a good choice the teacher writes it down and then if he makes

good choices all day he gets a surprise. That started today, Today he

refused to do his work started raging kicking chairs and was removed

from the classroom. The teacher that removed him said that if he

didn't do hisd work she was going to paddle him and he did his work,

but still didn't finish it. I am trying so hard to encourage him with

positive reinforcement, but it is getting really hard. My stress level

at night is so high that I go to bed with chest pains. I needed to

rant thank you...

Beth

>

> The school needs to do a Functional Behavior Assessment to find out

why he

> is refusing. Does he get a sensory diet at school? Has he been

evaluated to

> rule out any kind of learning disability? Pam

>

February 15, 2006

Here is some information about a sensory diet. Let me know what area you

are from and I will get you some information about how to contact your Parent

Information Center.

_SENSORY DIET_ (http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm)

February 16, 2006

_http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm_

(http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm)

You will need to cut and paste in I think.

February 16, 2006

For some reason the 'page can't be found'.

Could you send me the link once again?

Thanks,

ppanda65@... wrote:

Here is some information about a sensory diet. Let me know what area you

are from and I will get you some information about how to contact your Parent

Information Center.

_SENSORY DIET_ (http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm)

February 16, 2006

that happens to me. (message can't be found). try just typing it in the

address bar as: www.bbbautism.com that should work.

marti jamison <marti_jamison@...> wrote: For some reason the 'page can't

be found'.

Could you send me the link once again?

Thanks,

ppanda65@... wrote:

Here is some information about a sensory diet. Let me know what area you

are from and I will get you some information about how to contact your Parent

Information Center.

_SENSORY DIET_ (http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm)

February 16, 2006

Cut & paste worked.

Thank you so much for resending this information. It's greatly appriciated.

Marti

ppanda65@... wrote:

_http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm_

(http://www.bbbautism.com/sensory_diet.htm)

You will need to cut and paste in I think.

February 19, 2006

In a message dated 2/15/2006 5:36:01 PM Eastern Standard Time,

PT-BethSloan@... writes: