Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 I have a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter, both with AS. There aren't nearly as many girls out there with AS, but there are some. rechelle5us <rechelle5@...> wrote: I am absolutely losing my mind today! We're struggling with finding the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up again. So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day and not into the evening. I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " UGH - I guess this is just a vent! Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone who has a daughter with AS? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 In a message dated 2/27/2006 10:39:34 PM Eastern Standard Time, rechelle5@... writes: I am absolutely losing my mind today! We're struggling with finding the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up again. If she has tics, would ritalin be the right med for her? it doesn't sound like this med is working either. If she can't sleep, then what good is it? I have two boys with HFA and they have trouble sleeping and have to take meds for it. You should talk to your med doc or find another one who can help you sort out the problems. You need sleep and so does she! There are a lot of different meds out there. As for the school, tell them you are doing a med change and this can't be helped. Perhaps she needs an aide to help cue her throughout the day? Roxanna ô¿ô Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 I have a 15 yrs. old daughter w/Asperger. It's difficult but it gets better. Ana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 UGH - I guess this is just a vent! Well done! Hope your day gets much better =) Theresa Freezing in MN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 I'm sorry to hear that you have your hands full. but that last paragraph had made me laugh. When you wrote " can't you handle your child " and you felt like saying NO! I can't. Well, I have my son in many interventions since he was an infant. I am very firm raising him & correct his behavior as needed. When a professional said to me, He doesn't have aspergers! I said to that " professional " take him home with you for the weekend. Get him ready for school on Monday and when I see you, Then you can tell me he doesn't have aspergers!. LOL. for some reason, no one wants to do that. People are quick to make a comment, but not as quick to be in your place. I think you did a good thing by letting the school see your child as is. (without medication) maybe they would come up with a better IEP/strategy for your daughter. I do hope you get some sleep tonight! best luck, it gets better. - Rose P.S. you said the medication only last while you daughter is in school. Could you have the doctor write to the school nurse that you daughter needs to take the medication after lunch noon time (or later) so you can have a break at home. Have your daughter (if that is what you like) take the medication at a later time while at school, so its still working when she gets home. If you choose " no medication " , that is so your choice! the school would have to come up with an intervention to help her. Are you giving her medication because? " it helps your daughter " ,or " it's convient for the school " Hmmmm. rechelle5us <rechelle5@...> wrote: I am absolutely losing my mind today! We're struggling with finding the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up again. So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day and not into the evening. I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " UGH - I guess this is just a vent! Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone who has a daughter with AS? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 Hi, Rechelle! I'm new to this group, and thankfully, I saw your message first - I have a daughter with AS. Her name is Olivia, and she is 10 years old. She was officially diagnosed when she was 7 years old; however, we knew long before that that she was special. I'd love to talk to you! > > I am absolutely losing my mind today! We're struggling with finding > the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year > and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't > gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've > lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last > night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the > new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help > her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up > again. > > So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. > I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help > these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to > school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP > testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing > that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset > that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I > chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice > as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they > do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that > classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here > at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day > and not into the evening. > > I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks > over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called > the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though > they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks > like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I > CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " > > UGH - I guess this is just a vent! > > Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone > who has a daughter with AS? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 Sorry you are having such a hard time of it. I am still new to all of this but I have a 3yr old daughter with a AS diagnosis. Tammie rechelle5us <rechelle5@...> wrote: I am absolutely losing my mind today! We're struggling with finding the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up again. So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day and not into the evening. I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " UGH - I guess this is just a vent! Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone who has a daughter with AS? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2006 Report Share Posted February 28, 2006 Wow. Sounds like my son (he does have a TS dx).-- ---- disorderlybehavior <disorderlybehavior@...> wrote: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2006 Report Share Posted March 1, 2006 In a message dated 2/27/2006 7:39:28 PM Pacific Standard Time, rechelle5@... writes: Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone who has a daughter with AS? my 7 year ol daughter has as --------------------------------- yesterday she mooned a bus full of students on a field trip...... her friends put her up to it and made her pinky swear not to tell...... im like what next the school does not tolerate any little bad behavior phone calls disc reports the fun goes on she was on adderall and it stopped working just switched her to strattera praying it works Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2006 Report Share Posted March 2, 2006 Hi, My daughter has AS. Although she was undiagnosed at 7. At 8 she was misdiagnosed as being ADHD. In her case that was totally wrong. Ritalin and Adderal made her harder to work with as she came off of it in the evening and did not improve what she got done at school at all. She is now 18 and just finished high school. Changing schools made a wonderful change for my daughter. She went from failing every subject to passing everything with grades B and above and no meds. Is there any other way to get her to school than by bus? I would really get her away from those " friends " at the very least. If they are asking her to get into trouble to stay friends then they are going to continue to be big trouble. By the way in my daughters case she went from a parochial school to the public school. Apparently my daughter was right the parochial school was a bunch of snobs. But I live in Iowa. I am aware there are differences in other parts of the country. momwithattitude2@... wrote: In a message dated 2/27/2006 7:39:28 PM Pacific Standard Time, rechelle5@... writes: Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone who has a daughter with AS? my 7 year ol daughter has as --------------------------------- yesterday she mooned a bus full of students on a field trip...... her friends put her up to it and made her pinky swear not to tell...... im like what next the school does not tolerate any little bad behavior phone calls disc reports the fun goes on she was on adderall and it stopped working just switched her to strattera praying it works Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 In a message dated 3/1/2006 1:58:27 PM Eastern Standard Time, momwithattitude2@... writes: yesterday she mooned a bus full of students on a field trip...... her friends put her up to it and made her pinky swear not to tell...... im like what next the school does not tolerate any little bad behavior phone calls disc reports the fun goes on Did the school punish the girls who put her up to it? Roxanna ô¿ö Autism Happens Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 In a message dated 3/3/2006 7:05:51 AM Pacific Standard Time, kneeleee@... writes: Did the school punish the girls who put her up to it? Roxanna ô¿ö Autism Happens no...... no proof they say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 In a message dated 3/3/2006 2:04:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, momwithattitude2@... writes: no proof they say I would keep a log of this incident and any others; it may help you prove to the school district she needs a 1:1 assistant. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2006 Report Share Posted March 3, 2006 In a message dated 3/3/2006 2:04:29 PM Eastern Standard Time, momwithattitude2@... writes: no...... no proof they say Of course not. The other kids are socially savvy enough to stay clear of blame or get caught. That's why it will keep working out well for them to do that. Too bad they didn't bother to figure it out. Roxanna ô¿ô Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2006 Report Share Posted March 5, 2006 > > > In a message dated 3/1/2006 1:58:27 PM Eastern Standard Time, > momwithattitude2@... writes: > > yesterday she mooned a bus full of students on a field trip...... > > her friends put her up to it and made her pinky swear not to > tell...... > > im like what next > the school does not tolerate any little bad behavior > phone calls > disc reports > the fun goes on > > > > > Did the school punish the girls who put her up to it? > > > Roxanna ô¿ö > Autism Happens > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 My name is Mel, single parent to a 12 year old daughter with AS. I too am very frustrated with the insistance on medication after medication. Risperidal daily (5ml), Topomax on a trial basis etc. My daughter recently told her doctor and me that " This medication is not working " . The meltdowns or " outbursts " as she describes them, have never stopped completly although I think she is gaining in more mature decisions at times. I have slowly decreased the Rirperidol and the Topomax was upseting her stomach so much the doctor agreed that it was too much. I dont want her to be an experiment or research project, and I dont want the school to be upset with me either. So I too am just venting, being a rare dad with a AS child who happens to be a girl.... >From: PATRICIA MAIN <mainpatr@...> >Reply- > >Subject: Re: ( ) Losing My MIND! >Date: Mon, 27 Feb 2006 18:53:04 -0800 (PST) > >I have a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter, both with AS. There >aren't nearly as many girls out there with AS, but there are some. > >rechelle5us <rechelle5@...> wrote: I am absolutely losing my mind >today! We're struggling with finding >the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year >and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't >gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've >lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last >night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the >new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help >her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up >again. > >So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. >I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help >these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to >school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP >testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing >that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset >that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I >chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice >as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they >do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that >classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here >at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day >and not into the evening. > >I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks >over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called >the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though >they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks >like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I >CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " > >UGH - I guess this is just a vent! > >Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone >who has a daughter with AS? > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 I had to change school systems from private to public, but I took my 12 year old daughter off medications and her grades improved Drastically!! From F's to A's. She was on adderol. It literally made her worse not better. Antidepressants helped my daughter some, yet when she went off them her grades improved also. After my daughter got out of that school and met other kids, she refused to go anywhere where she was likely to run into those kids again. I had to change churches. It was four years before she started having the same level of problems. Sorry, I don't have all the answers. Second thing, don't try leaving her in the same school system. They can bring you up on charges of child neglect, if you stop giving her the medications. It will be your burden to " prove " she doesn't need them. My daughter is 18 and graduated from high school mainstreamed. She has been accepted at a Community College. She didnt have trouble in high school until I started pushing her to get involved in extra-curriculars. She was not diagnosed as Aspergers until after she finished school. Everyone thought she was just shy. If you and your daughter feel that the medication is not doing anything then get her off them. None of these medications are without dangerous side effects. They may actually be part of the problem. M NELSON <musa28@...> wrote: My name is Mel, single parent to a 12 year old daughter with AS. I too am very frustrated with the insistance on medication after medication. Risperidal daily (5ml), Topomax on a trial basis etc. My daughter recently told her doctor and me that " This medication is not working " . The meltdowns or " outbursts " as she describes them, have never stopped completly although I think she is gaining in more mature decisions at times. I have slowly decreased the Rirperidol and the Topomax was upseting her stomach so much the doctor agreed that it was too much. I dont want her to be an experiment or research project, and I dont want the school to be upset with me either. So I too am just venting, being a rare dad with a AS child who happens to be a girl.... >From: PATRICIA MAIN <mainpatr@...> >Reply- > >Subject: Re: ( ) Losing My MIND! >Date: Mon, 27 Feb 2006 18:53:04 -0800 (PST) > >I have a 16 year old son and a 13 year old daughter, both with AS. There >aren't nearly as many girls out there with AS, but there are some. > >rechelle5us <rechelle5@...> wrote: I am absolutely losing my mind >today! We're struggling with finding >the right med for my daughter. She was on dexadrine for over a year >and her behavioral ped said it wasn't working anymore and she hasn't >gained any weight in a year, so we've been switching around. I've >lost so many nights of sleep up with my 6 year old daughter! Last >night I only got about 3 hours because she can't stay asleep on the >new ritalin. I actually have to give her the old dexadrine to help >her sleep but it only puts her out for about 2 hours then shes up >again. > >So today I didn't give her any medication and sent her to school. >I'm just too exhausted and feel terrible for her, she can't help >these side effects. Well the teacher was MAD, she has never been to >school without medication before. We are in the middle of the IEP >testing now and she had testing today. I think its a good thing >that they get a clear picture of her behavior but they were upset >that she wasn't able to " perform " as well for her tests! What if I >chose not to medicate her at all, that would certainly be my choice >as her parent. I can't believe they push medication the way they >do. The teacher said there wasn't one second of peace today in that >classroom. Well no kidding, we don't have one second of peace here >at home either. Usually the medication only lasts through the day >and not into the evening. > >I walked into the school campus and I could hear her verbal ticks >over 500 other students. I'm surprised the neighbors haven't called >the police she is so loud sometimes at home. I still feel as though >they blame us as parents for her behavior. I get these looks >like " can't you control that child " . I want to say " NO I >CAN'T " " if you think its so easy, why don't you give it a try? " > >UGH - I guess this is just a vent! > >Still haven't seen any other girls on this list, am I missing anyone >who has a daughter with AS? > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 In a message dated 3/16/2006 8:11:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, musa28@... writes: My name is Mel, single parent to a 12 year old daughter with AS. I too am very frustrated with the insistance on medication after medication. Risperidal daily (5ml), Topomax on a trial basis etc. My daughter recently told her doctor and me that " This medication is not working " . The meltdowns or " outbursts " as she describes them, have never stopped completly although I think she is gaining in more mature decisions at times. I have slowly decreased the Rirperidol and the Topomax was upseting her stomach so much the doctor agreed that it was too much. I dont want her to be an experiment or research project, and I dont want the school to be upset with me either. So I too am just venting, being a rare dad with a AS child who happens to be a girl.... I would really evaluate why you are using meds before using them. You should never use meds because it will help someone else but because it will help your child. Then you should determine what issues are happening that will require meds. It is sometimes helpful to figure out how often these problems are happening so you can later determine if the med is working or worthwhile. Then you should try meds based on their ability to help the issues that you have determined require it. The school has no business recommending medication. They aren't doctors. If they do this again, ask to see their medical degree. <g> Roxanna ô¿ô Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2006 Report Share Posted March 16, 2006 What was she on Topamax for? It was initially created as an anti-seizure med but is frequently used now for migraines, too. It succeeded in controlling my daughter's migraines, and who knows about her seizures, she began having them after 2 years on the med and the side-effects became just too much. kneeleee@... wrote: > > In a message dated 3/16/2006 8:11:20 AM Eastern Standard Time, > musa28@... writes: > > My name is Mel, single parent to a 12 year old daughter with AS. I too am > very frustrated with the insistance on medication after medication. > Risperidal daily (5ml), Topomax on a trial basis etc. My daughter recently > told her doctor and me that " This medication is not working " . The meltdowns > or " outbursts " as she describes them, have never stopped completly although > I think she is gaining in more mature decisions at times. I have slowly > decreased the Rirperidol and the Topomax was upseting her stomach so much > the doctor agreed that it was too much. I dont want her to be an experiment > or research project, and I dont want the school to be upset with me either. > So I too am just venting, being a rare dad with a AS child who happens to be > a girl.... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2010 Report Share Posted May 2, 2010 First thing, remember to breathe. Then ask your son's psych to write a letter to the court about what they feel is in your son's best interest. Also, get letters from his doctors as to what is in the child's best interest. Then go to the court and submit all the letters from the professionals, any medical records that you have, AND a modification in visitation that supports what the professionals recommend. I am in the process of doing this with my daughter (age 9). I know it is hard to be patient while you are waiting on everyone else. Also, ask the local police department if your son has to go to his dad's house if your son is requesting not to go. I was told here in Idaho that if my daughter does not want to go then she does not have to and to notify the police on the times she does not want to go. I hope this helps. From: <amandabaer76@...>Subject: ( ) Losing my MIND! Date: Sunday, May 2, 2010, 2:29 PM My son's father is making things difficult on me. He is the one that is causing emotional stress on my son (name calling, etc). He now is telling me that OUR son doesn't have ANY problems, that it is all in my head. I informed him that our son's IQ is 80, which is not in my head. He also doesn't think that our son has ADHD or anxiety issues, even though he has been diagnosed since the age of 7 (now he is 12). My son doesn't want to go to his dads - which his father says I am playing into. That our son makes things up. I think there is a lot of psychological abuse going on. I took him to a psychologist - which my ex asked "Whyy did you do that?" The Dr. wanted to see my ex and his other son because of what my son was saying was going on. My ex said no, that he will call him but not go.I have a child support modification going on with him now, and he is saying that the medical bills are gonna all be on me.... he's crazy. He says it's because there is nothing wrong with our son!I'm going CRAZY over this..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 2010 Report Share Posted May 2, 2010 My husband thought it was all my head at first too. He did eventually come around. Hopefully yours will too. Even if he doesn't though it is not a reflection of your worth if he disagrees with you. You are the mom and you have special mommy radar. Trust yourself and do what you need with or without his support. You have mine.From: <amandabaer76@...>Subject: ( ) Losing my MIND! Date: Sunday, May 2, 2010, 8:29 AM My son's father is making things difficult on me. He is the one that is causing emotional stress on my son (name calling, etc). He now is telling me that OUR son doesn't have ANY problems, that it is all in my head. I informed him that our son's IQ is 80, which is not in my head. He also doesn't think that our son has ADHD or anxiety issues, even though he has been diagnosed since the age of 7 (now he is 12). My son doesn't want to go to his dads - which his father says I am playing into. That our son makes things up. I think there is a lot of psychological abuse going on. I took him to a psychologist - which my ex asked "Whyy did you do that?" The Dr. wanted to see my ex and his other son because of what my son was saying was going on. My ex said no, that he will call him but not go. I have a child support modification going on with him now, and he is saying that the medical bills are gonna all be on me.... he's crazy. He says it's because there is nothing wrong with our son! I'm going CRAZY over this..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Hi.. We have a 10-year-old daughter with Asperger's. She was diagnosed at age 7 when I finally took her to Children's Hospital and Clinic in the city, because no one seemed to take things seriously enough. When she was 3 and 4, she seemed to be socially immature and we thought it was because there weren't children in the neighborhood to 'practice' playing with. I took her to children's events, clubs, etc. to try to expose her to other children her age, but it didn't really help. I felt that we must have done something wrong, but the doctor assured us that wasn't the case. Do you have an Autism Specialist at her school? Otherwise, you can talk to her principal and set up an IEP for her. She might be able to get help with speech/communication, friendship groups for more practice dealing with pressures/teasing/bullies at school, adaptive phy ed, etc. There are other resources as well, but I don't know what state you live in so I'm not sure what you have available. You can also call your county Social Services for lists of options available. It's a difficult situation. I understand worrying about leaving your two children home with each other, when there are issues like these. We dealt with that with our older two daughters. I can imagine the teasing your older daughter is dealing with is causing inner turmoil and she doesn't know how to appropriately deal with it...especially with the Asperger's causing more difficulties with understanding/communicating, etc. Sometimes kids can be pushed so hard, the hurt/anger comes out in inappropriate ways. Other kids can be cruel. Our daughter is having a very difficult time at school, yet they are trying to help (some of them anyway). It does become more noticeable as they get older...it can't be explained away as just being socially immature and she'll grow out of it, like her teachers kept on trying to tell me years ago. Good luck to you and your family. You'll be in my prayers! --Kari > > Hi, > > My daughter will be 13 next month and she was just diagnosed with Asperger. She was diagnosed as ADD in 2nd grade and has always been different than her peers. This year the traits have really come out. I am guessing her body is making new hormones causing her personality to change. > > My daughter has forgotten how to have a simple conversation on the phone and you can forget the idea of trying to have a conversation at school with her peers. She either does not respond at all to her classmates, or will answer with one word answers. It is so hard since I teach at her school and see this happen on a daily basis. I have noticed that she loves talking to other teachers and young children. Does anyone else's child/spouse experience this? > > My 12 year old doesn't know how to handle her anger so she is becoming violent. She hit my 10 year old so hard she knocked a tooth out, bites her sister, got a knife and scrapped up my kitchen cabinets and cut her hair (and she has no talent with that)! I am afraid to leave her alone with her sister, but hate to get a babysitter when I haven't needed one in years! > > I asked my daughter's counselor if family counseling would help, but she said right now it would not. I have been to one parent group and will go back next month. I am in need for some ideas! > > My husband and I are arguing more now, and my other daughter who is 10 isn't helping. She is constantly calling my elder daughter a loser and laughs at her. Needless to say I am going insane! > > At school she is the model student, straight A's in all advanced classes. She does not interact with anyone, but is brilliant and with no behavior problems. I just ordered two books on Amazon about girls with Aspergers, but any advice you have learned I would truly appreciate it. My family is so stressed with this behavior I am afraid my marriage will not survive. > > Thank you so much, > Stefanie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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