has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

[Guest guest]

This is just a personal opinion, but do you not hate that? I mean, you can't

eat without electronics to " babysit? " I know that makes me a prude. But it

just seems wrong somehow. Having said that, we are bad enough at letting the

two younger boys carry in their DS's to play at the table. We do make them put

them up for the food. But I still feel like we are taking the easy way out

sometimes.

Roxanna

( ) Re: has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

I did! Of course it was needed anyways with 2 kids and so much stuff!

We went from a car to a van. Now, it much harder to hit and if he

does try to hit, I make my oldest move to the back. You could also

do a 3rd seat SUV - vans are cheaper though!

>

> We are gaving issues with our 4 1/2 yo aspie hitting and taking toys

from our 1 yo. The only

> immediate solution seems to be getting a new car that is wide enough

so DS1 can't reach

> DS2. We are pretty far away, at this point, to a long term behavior

change solution.

>

> I know this sounds crazy, but there are problems everytime we are in

the car. Has anyone

> else had to do this? Does anyone have any non-car buying solutions?

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel for 20-30

minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to rip the door handle off

to get out. That way I can concentrate on driving so that I don't get into an

accident. I also think its best to let him take whatever it is to the table he

wants, because if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking

of his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called surviving.

Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have these distractions, but I

don't look at it as babysitting at all. It keeps him distracted long enough to

get somewhere and to not beat on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if

only for a few....

Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in public when

he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I choose. Do I praise

the family for taking the DVD player to a restaurant? Yes I do. They choose

to give the other patrons in the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How

would you feel if you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting

next to the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on his food?

Can't spank them, might get the cops called on you these days. Threats? Ha,

my kids won't even give those the time of day, as most kids these days. Don't

blame the parents - blame society. When I was younger if I dared to act up in

public I was whooped right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too.

Society changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore those

of us that choose to give one good swat on the butt, no longer can - because we

look like abusers too. So

out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore. Therefore we

resort to electronics to occupy.

Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I seriously

pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can occupy my boy in

situations. It just helps avoid issues that maybe he will never be able to

control himself in for whatever reason.

Amy

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I will do what ever it takes to help my daughter get through a situation that is

hard for her. We try and teach and help her learn but in the end we do whatever

we have to

- C.

A.E.P.

Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

( ) Re: has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

I did! Of course it was needed anyways with 2 kids and so much stuff!

We went from a car to a van. Now, it much harder to hit and if he

does try to hit, I make my oldest move to the back. You could also

do a 3rd seat SUV - vans are cheaper though!

>

> We are gaving issues with our 4 1/2 yo aspie hitting and taking toys

from our 1 yo. The only

> immediate solution seems to be getting a new car that is wide enough

so DS1 can't reach

> DS2. We are pretty far away, at this point, to a long term behavior

change solution.

>

> I know this sounds crazy, but there are problems everytime we are in

the car. Has anyone

> else had to do this? Does anyone have any non-car buying solutions?

>

[Guest guest]

I'm with you on this Amy :-)

- C.

A.E.P.

Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

( ) Re: has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel for 20-30

minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to rip the door handle off

to get out. That way I can concentrate on driving so that I don't get into an

accident. I also think its best to let him take whatever it is to the table he

wants, because if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking

of his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called surviving. Do I

hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have these distractions, but I don't

look at it as babysitting at all. It keeps him distracted long enough to get

somewhere and to not beat on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if only

for a few....

Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in public when

he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I choose. Do I praise the

family for taking the DVD player to a restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give

the other patrons in the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you

feel if you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting next to

the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on his food? Can't

spank them, might get the cops called on you these days. Threats? Ha, my kids

won't even give those the time of day, as most kids these days. Don't blame the

parents - blame society. When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was

whooped right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too. Society

changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore those of us that

choose to give one good swat on the butt, no longer can - because we look like

abusers too. So

out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore. Therefore we

resort to electronics to occupy.

Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I seriously

pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can occupy my boy in

situations. It just helps avoid issues that maybe he will never be able to

control himself in for whatever reason.

Amy

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We do the same, though not with electronics... simply because I use

the electronics as bribes for if she's good while we're out. She

gas two backpacks. A purple one for school and a blue one for when

we go anywhere else, filled with toys and books and snacks and dolls.

Meira

>

> Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel

for 20-30 minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to

rip the door handle off to get out. That way I can concentrate on

driving so that I don't get into an accident. I also think its

best to let him take whatever it is to the table he wants, because

if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking of

his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called

surviving. Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have

these distractions, but I don't look at it as babysitting at all.

It keeps him distracted long enough to get somewhere and to not beat

on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if only for a few....

> Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in

public when he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I

choose. Do I praise the family for taking the DVD player to a

restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give the other patrons in

the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you feel if

you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting next

to the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on

his food? Can't spank them, might get the cops called on you these

days. Threats? Ha, my kids won't even give those the time of day,

as most kids these days. Don't blame the parents - blame society.

When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was whooped

right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too. Society

changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore

those of us that choose to give one good swat on the butt, no

longer can - because we look like abusers too. So

> out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore.

Therefore we resort to electronics to occupy.

> Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I

seriously pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can

occupy my boy in situations. It just helps avoid issues that maybe

he will never be able to control himself in for whatever reason.

>

> Amy

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Love it!!!!

So true - sad or not - so true.

Robin

Amy McCarty <luvmy2arabians@...> wrote:

Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel for

20-30 minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to rip the door

handle off to get out. That way I can concentrate on driving so that I don't get

into an accident. I also think its best to let him take whatever it is to the

table he wants, because if it gives my family a little time to socialize without

talking of his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called

surviving. Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have these

distractions, but I don't look at it as babysitting at all. It keeps him

distracted long enough to get somewhere and to not beat on anyone, and gives us

a sense of normalcy, if only for a few....

Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in public when he

has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I choose. Do I praise the

family for taking the DVD player to a restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give

the other patrons in the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you

feel if you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting next to

the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on his food? Can't

spank them, might get the cops called on you these days. Threats? Ha, my kids

won't even give those the time of day, as most kids these days. Don't blame the

parents - blame society. When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was

whooped right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too. Society

changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore those of us that

choose to give one good swat on the butt, no longer can - because we look like

abusers too. So

out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore. Therefore we

resort to electronics to occupy.

Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I seriously pack

a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can occupy my boy in situations. It

just helps avoid issues that maybe he will never be able to control himself in

for whatever reason.

Amy

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hmmmm....never thought about having a bag ready and packed just for going

out...we have the diaper bag (still)But having a sanity saver bag packed with

stuff just to be used when we go out, or in the car...What a great idea!!!

Thanks Meira...

p.s....how do you say your name? :-)

- C.

A.E.P.

Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

( ) Re: has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

We do the same, though not with electronics... simply because I use

the electronics as bribes for if she's good while we're out. She

gas two backpacks. A purple one for school and a blue one for when

we go anywhere else, filled with toys and books and snacks and dolls.

Meira

>

> Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel

for 20-30 minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to

rip the door handle off to get out. That way I can concentrate on

driving so that I don't get into an accident. I also think its

best to let him take whatever it is to the table he wants, because

if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking of

his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called

surviving. Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have

these distractions, but I don't look at it as babysitting at all.

It keeps him distracted long enough to get somewhere and to not beat

on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if only for a few....

> Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in

public when he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I

choose. Do I praise the family for taking the DVD player to a

restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give the other patrons in

the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you feel if

you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting next

to the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on

his food? Can't spank them, might get the cops called on you these

days. Threats? Ha, my kids won't even give those the time of day,

as most kids these days. Don't blame the parents - blame society.

When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was whooped

right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too. Society

changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore

those of us that choose to give one good swat on the butt, no

longer can - because we look like abusers too. So

> out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore.

Therefore we resort to electronics to occupy.

> Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I

seriously pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can

occupy my boy in situations. It just helps avoid issues that maybe

he will never be able to control himself in for whatever reason.

>

> Amy

>

>

> ---------------------------------

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>

[Guest guest]

You're welcome, . Any time! My name is pronounced " MEE rah " by

Americans. It's a Hebrew name.

I never thought of calling it a sanity saver bag. That's a great idea!

Meira

> >

> > Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually

travel

> for 20-30 minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to

> rip the door handle off to get out. That way I can concentrate on

> driving so that I don't get into an accident. I also think its

> best to let him take whatever it is to the table he wants,

because

> if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking

of

> his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called

> surviving. Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have

> these distractions, but I don't look at it as babysitting at all.

> It keeps him distracted long enough to get somewhere and to not

beat

> on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if only for a few....

> > Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us

in

> public when he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is

what I

> choose. Do I praise the family for taking the DVD player to a

> restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give the other patrons in

> the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you feel if

> you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting

next

> to the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on

> his food? Can't spank them, might get the cops called on you

these

> days. Threats? Ha, my kids won't even give those the time of day,

> as most kids these days. Don't blame the parents - blame society.

> When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was whooped

> right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too.

Society

> changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore

> those of us that choose to give one good swat on the butt, no

> longer can - because we look like abusers too. So

> > out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore.

> Therefore we resort to electronics to occupy.

> > Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because

I

> seriously pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can

> occupy my boy in situations. It just helps avoid issues that

maybe

> he will never be able to control himself in for whatever reason.

> >

> > Amy

> >

> >

> > ---------------------------------

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> flight and hotel bargains.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Absolutely. Our kids are NOT normal, however much we want them to

be. I get stares by new people who attend religious services at our

congregation, because my daughter sits on the sides with me and the

other mom of toddlers and babies with lots of toys. But the regulars

are thrilled that she';s quiet and occupied!

Meira

> >

> > We are gaving issues with our 4 1/2 yo aspie hitting and taking

toys

> from our 1 yo. The only

> > immediate solution seems to be getting a new car that is wide

enough

> so DS1 can't reach

> > DS2. We are pretty far away, at this point, to a long term

behavior

> change solution.

> >

> > I know this sounds crazy, but there are problems everytime we

are in

> the car. Has anyone

> > else had to do this? Does anyone have any non-car buying

solutions?

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the Hebrew lesson :-)

- C.A.E.P.Mom to Cassie 16 PCOS, Austin 14 ADHD and a 3.5 HFA/AS & SPD/SID

( ) Re: has anyone had to buy a bigger car?

You're welcome, . Any time! My name is pronounced "MEE rah" by Americans. It's a Hebrew name. I never thought of calling it a sanity saver bag. That's a great idea!Meira> >> > Yes, I take the easy way out so that my son will actually travel > for 20-30 minutes in the car without kicking my seat or trying to > rip the door handle off to get out. That way I can concentrate on > driving so that I don't get into an accident. I also think its > best to let him take whatever it is to the table he wants, because > if it gives my family a little time to socialize without talking of > his issues, so be it. Its not called babysitting, its called > surviving. Do I hate it? yeah, I wish my boy didn't have to have > these distractions, but I don't look at it as babysitting at all. > It keeps him distracted long enough to get somewhere and to not beat > on anyone, and gives us a sense of normalcy, if only for a few....> > Respite is called babysitting. At least my son can be with us in > public when he has his games/movies/distractions, and that is what I > choose. Do I praise the family for taking the DVD player to a > restaurant? Yes I do. They choose to give the other patrons in > the restaurant a place to relax and enjoy. How would you feel if > you had hired a babysitter for a night out, only to be sitting next > to the table with an out of control child who is bored waiting on > his food? Can't spank them, might get the cops called on you these > days. Threats? Ha, my kids won't even give those the time of day, > as most kids these days. Don't blame the parents - blame society. > When I was younger if I dared to act up in public I was whooped > right there on the spot, as I am sure most of you were too. Society > changed that. Too many kids were truly beaten, and so therefore > those of us that choose to give one good swat on the butt, no > longer can - because we look like abusers too. So> > out of fear of the cops being called, its rarely done anymore. > Therefore we resort to electronics to occupy.> > Eek.... sorry this is so long! I kinda got going on it because I > seriously pack a bag of crap when we go anywhere so that it can > occupy my boy in situations. It just helps avoid issues that maybe > he will never be able to control himself in for whatever reason.> > > > Amy> > > > > > ---------------------------------> > Finding fabulous fares is fun.> > Let FareChase search your favorite travel sites to find > flight and hotel bargains.> > > >