Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 Kari: I am interested in this also. My nephew is 8 years old, not autistic. But he also has meltdowns as you have described. He has been tested in school for ADD and Dyslexia and was left back to 2 grade this past year. My sister knows that they are missing something. I am going to see her tomorrow because I told her of what we are doing and about 's book. I told her I wanted her to read the book and she will see her son. So all out there, I am interested also. Eileen >From: " Kari Trautman " <karitrautman@...> >Reply- >< > >Subject: OT: Meltdowns >Date: Tue, 23 Nov 2004 23:41:41 -0800 > >My 3 yr old is not autistic, yet does definitely have signs of mercury >poisoning to some extent. Which I am looking to address. But when he gets >overtired or perhaps something bothering him, his meltdowns just don't seen >normal. Others' will say it's a stage and he's just tantruming, but I'm >wondering if others have advice as to how to handle them. He simplely >can't regroup. Like a broken record in his head, he can't let something >go. We're trying a little GSE so that could be the case for tonight, but >he got upset because he couldn't put the spaghetti on his own plate and >pitched a fit. That went on, and on, and on. Finally after almost 2 >hours, we gave him what he wanted and he was fine. Fine, but obviously >exhausted after crying for 2 hours! He ate peacefully, and went straight >to bed. Although I did try to hold out thinking it was some sort of battle >of wills, I know in my heart it wasn't that. >I believe it is his neurotransmitters that are like inflamed and he can't >shut off his emotions, but was wondering if others have a way for dealing >with this obsessive type of behavior? In some ways I did exactly what they >say not to do, (don't give in to your child's demands or else you teach >them the trick is to cry for 2 hours and you get your way), yet I didn't >have the stamina to hold out for how ever many hours it would take for him >to finally passout. If that is he every would! >Thanks, >Kari > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 We didn't really start having tantrums until my child was 3. I had three older children so I knew immediately that these tantrums were not like what I'd seen in the past. I don't have any magic answers, but I'd say that it certainly wouldn't hurt to try something like enzymes or other interventions. When my child had these early tantrums we could have held out for days and it wouldn't have made any difference. She just couldn't grasp it and she couldn't let go of whatever was the trigger. Good luck. OT: Meltdowns My 3 yr old is not autistic, yet does definitely have signs of mercury poisoning to some extent. Which I am looking to address. But when he gets overtired or perhaps something bothering him, his meltdowns just don't seen normal. Others' will say it's a stage and he's just tantruming, but I'm wondering if others have advice as to how to handle them. He simplely can't regroup. Like a broken record in his head, he can't let something go. We're trying a little GSE so that could be the case for tonight, but he got upset because he couldn't put the spaghetti on his own plate and pitched a fit. That went on, and on, and on. Finally after almost 2 hours, we gave him what he wanted and he was fine. Fine, but obviously exhausted after crying for 2 hours! He ate peacefully, and went straight to bed. Although I did try to hold out thinking it was some sort of battle of wills, I know in my heart it wasn't that. I believe it is his neurotransmitters that are like inflamed and he can't shut off his emotions, but was wondering if others have a way for dealing with this obsessive type of behavior? In some ways I did exactly what they say not to do, (don't give in to your child's demands or else you teach them the trick is to cry for 2 hours and you get your way), yet I didn't have the stamina to hold out for how ever many hours it would take for him to finally passout. If that is he every would! Thanks, Kari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 With my daughter (she's 4 now) I can definately tell a difference between meltdowns and temper tantrums. Meltdowns I had to give in to whatever and just love her; temper tantrums I hold my ground and she comes around very quickly. So I believe the rules about not giving in don't apply to meltdowns. I've several reasons for meltdowns with my daughter-tired, hungry, virus (OCD will appear causing the meltdown), & yeast (certain things will bother her like a bath but she's unable to tell me this). I'm very insistent on her getting her sleep and meals on time-wow, this was huge when I figured this out, took care of many meltdowns. Glasses and vision therapy also helped along with everything I've learned on this board! I believe that the yeast and bacteria problems are in many kids with no diagnosis. Best Wishes! Becky > My 3 yr old is not autistic, yet does definitely have signs of mercury poisoning to some extent. Which I am looking to address. But when he gets overtired or perhaps something bothering him, his meltdowns just don't seen normal. Others' will say it's a stage and he's just tantruming, but I'm wondering if others have advice as to how to handle them. He simplely can't regroup. Like a broken record in his head, he can't let something go. We're trying a little GSE so that could be the case for tonight, but he got upset because he couldn't put the spaghetti on his own plate and pitched a fit. That went on, and on, and on. Finally after almost 2 hours, we gave him what he wanted and he was fine. Fine, but obviously exhausted after crying for 2 hours! He ate peacefully, and went straight to bed. Although I did try to hold out thinking it was some sort of battle of wills, I know in my heart it wasn't that. > I believe it is his neurotransmitters that are like inflamed and he can't shut off his emotions, but was wondering if others have a way for dealing with this obsessive type of behavior? In some ways I did exactly what they say not to do, (don't give in to your child's demands or else you teach them the trick is to cry for 2 hours and you get your way), yet I didn't have the stamina to hold out for how ever many hours it would take for him to finally passout. If that is he every would! > Thanks, > Kari > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 Thanks to everyone for their responses. Even if we know things in our hearts, it really helps to hear from others. I swear it's like being tapped into these kids makes us (or me...) a little nuts! Everyone's reply did help me keep going. Thanks again, Kari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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